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Nice one!

Benita27:
You travelled?.

No, I am very much around. Thinking of going to Old GRA axis.

Benita27:
Love now has eyes. If you feel blinded in yours, ask a trusted friend if it's worth it 'cause they're your eyes in such situations.

As I don't have friends is that why these girls have been breaking my tiny heart? No wonder!

Benita27:
I'm at work. No fried rice here.

Abeg where is that your office again? I want to enter town.

Benita27:
I'm not hurting. Moved on long ago, there's a limit to what I would do in any bf/gf relationship. That was the lesson I learnt from that one and have lived up to it.

Relationships these days are tiring. People are taking cautions and precautions everyday. People don't give it their all again. How can it work?

We want good relationships yet we can't put extra efforts.
We have too many reservations to keep yet we want it close to perfect.

Which way abeg!

Meself tire pass.

Benita27:
Now that you don't seem to be "Commanding" me, I could explain what I meant.

"Being a good girl doesn't pay, men would disrespect you"...here, I was making reference to doormat girlfriends. What do I mean?. A guy would cheat on you, you'll be the one begging him and trying to get his attention even after being put in such emotional stress, no one's life revolve around the other. He wrongs you, you apologise even when he knows he was wrong but holding back the 'Sorry' word which seem too heavy to come out of his lips. He thinks too highly of himself, and less of you but you're there showing him love and hoping he'd change. Whenever he calls, you're at his service, never saying 'No' just to satisfy him. These are things "Good girls" do to keep their man/relationship but it usually backfires 'cause men want strong-willed women. Women who would say 'No' to certain things and stand by it.

Let me shine my teeth again 'cause I'm having a good day.

I want to come and eat rice at your place.

Benita27:
Not at all. Speaking from my first experience.

Lol, I dated this guy years back. I was naive, too kind, always doing the calls, buying gifts to show I cared, as a matter of fact; I would do whatever he says, even to the point of picking my choice of University 'cause he asked me to which my parents weren't aware of. He was my first bf. Broke up with me without a concrete reason for the breakup. All he was blabbing was that some people want him dead 'cause of me. Lol, I felt he joined a cult in school, and he didn't say 'Yes' nor 'No' to my assumptions. On the same day he was breaking up with me I realized he was too attached to his phone. He dropped it and went to use the toilet. I checked the phone and found out all we were discussing was being sent to a particular girl while she replied that if she comes and sees me she's pour acid on me. No be person tell me to find my square root. I have always felt it was my fault or the problem was from me but still I moved on 'cause he was an ass to me. 5yrs later, last month to be precise he contacted me and told me he left me 'cause the relationship was redundant, and he didn't want to lead me on. My questions where; why didn't he tell me before cheating on me. He denied cheating but when I mentioned the acid threat text the girl sent him, he said she didn't mean it, and he was sorry he cheated. So now what can I do for him?, he wants us to be friends...like I care about that.

In a nutshell, I can't be that good to any guy. I learn from my mistakes. Lol, that's the only relationship have felt disrespected and played. Now, once I notice any fowl play, I end it before they say jack.

Lol @finding your square root.

Your last paragraph though. "I can't be that good to a guy"; you are still heart broken and there is this fear you don't want it to happen again. I have this feeling that you still good to your current bf.

"Once I noticed any fowl play"..... you be baba ijebu? Lol

MsRoe:
I know she has good intentions, sis. If she had simply said "Oh, you brought me to an eatery? I'm not hungry, but I wouldn't mind a drink" she would have spared his money (if that's her goal) and it would have been different from saying "I don't need these things for now, my hair is more important"

The guy would think you feel he doesn't know what he's doing. It can come off as controlling, even if that's not her intention.

But that's just my opinion on the matter. People will have differing views which will help the Op make her decision.

I love you already Ms. Roe with this comment.

This is the perfect way to turn his offer and present her own bills.

Note: Men have Ego. Women always try to scratch these ego. If you must scratch it, apply wisdom and see yourself having your way in that man's life. It is not magic!

.....again, I love you Ms. Roe.

Dear Mr Man,

No woman is good and perfect. If you wait and think you can have that good perfect woman you are on a long thing.

You should ask yourself these questions. What are the ways to manage her bad side so that there would be peace? Can I really take or manage her bad sides? The good part of her can it make me happier than her bad sides? When answering these questions please get a pen and book to write your answers down. Read what you have jotted down for 1week I'm sure you will still do some adjustment to it so as to get your final decision.

Note that not everybody has head to go to school. Being a graduate is not a yardstick for being a better person. We have seen very educated people who are a disgrace and not useful at all. Op, maybe..... I'm just saying maybe her head cannot carry all the books. Have you asked her what she can do aside this school stuffs? She can learn a handwork or even trade. We have seen people do very well without attending the walls of any university.

Also again find out why she has attended three Schools without graduating.

If she does want to do anything then you know what to do, I can't tell you that.

Note: Don't try to cohabit with her.

Regards.

Benita27:
Good.

Benita, I need to get your contact you know.

Benita27:
Who would reject something good?. I dey craze to say No?.

Typical Nigerian Girl.

I must confirm if you are really selling oil...... lol

Some girls can scam for life sha!

Well, if you don't open today you will definitely open tomorrow!

shewa88:
I started dating my husband when he was broke as shit, when he had just few washed out shirts and 2 jeans but I stood by him, became his pillar and by God's grace today we have our own house and cars and we're expecting our first child. so there are still women out there that will love a man sincerely even if he's broke.
oh and by the way am female lol

Congratulations Madam!

Then he can still get you little... little things right?

Peppirina:
Hmmmm..
Love is enduring..
If it's not gonna be peaceful..
Then that's not love in the first place!!!!!

My dear, how long are you gonna keep enduring? Let's be realistic.... one day you get to that elastic limit when you can take somethings again; then where is the peace?

Keeping a relationship is hard these days talk less of a broke married Man.

shewa88:
So not true!!!

You don't love yourself as you are broke and you expect one girl to tell you and deceive you that she loves your broke life? My brother no way! That love isn't faithful! It can NEVER.... I repeat NEVER stand when the wind starts blowing.

Any girl that tells you that she loves you even when you are broke, nigga borrow a V12 Mecerdes car and run as fast as you can like the Formula 1 race. She's a liar!

No love for a broke nigga!

It can never be peaceful!

citas:
its true na, even most of the guys dat av sent me PM don't av their pix as dp

Even me that have DP nobody (Girls) will send me PM. Issorit!

kenonze:
Is he married?

Women et success.

citas:
I don't believe dat we all are ghosts bro.
and how many percent of d guys av their pix as dp??:
u guys shldnt blame d ladies, it shld be a 50/50 tin.
let the men also put their pix on

Hmm

It seems everyone on this thread has hooked up? Just remaining only me..... this is bad!

cruchenuti:
Lmao, so all your praise and kudos is going to only 4%

Yeah.

Safiaa:
I agree with you 90%. But what you need to understand is that most students in western countries have the opportunity to work part time. The economy is set up for people 16+ to earn their own income. Nigeria unfortunately is not set up that way, and i'm not trying to blame it on anything, but you need to be logical. Nigeria is far below the standard of western countries. So its doesn't make sense comparing the two. We're in two different leagues completly. Do you understand?

Hey, Im not comparing the civilization or economy but the mentality of the women. If you carry out sampled opinion you would found out that most Nigerian women are VERY (note the Very)lazy to work. If you enter some offices too they will heap work for you.

Let me not talk about students now (I have seen people who work and go to school at the same time but mostly guys) but the graduates. Some of the women graduates don't use their certificates and I keep asking what's the whole essence of going to school if I can't utilize the knowledge gained to put food on my table. They might even get low paying jobs and refuse to work because they know they can easily get some stuffs from guys and all but a guy will manage just to make sure he has little change in his pocket and that's laziness from them. What happens to building it ground up huh?

They go as far as saying "make I do marry better rich guy so that my husband can take care of me" and that's the end of working or looking for something to do. Our economy and environment can not be an excuse. Die hard ladies still make it here.

I still repeat, 96% of Nigerian women areally VERY lazy!..... kudos to the very few women out there hustling lIke a real G. I respect you!

Tolexander:
what is now the responsibility of the ladies in a relationship or better put, what do ladies have to offer in a relationship in return to the guys financial spending?

What they have to offer is only sex....... Boring sex and nothing more!

Alot of them go about opening their dirty legs to every Tom & D!ck because the dude can buy them 60% of what they want. If the guy dumps their lazy silly A$$ they complain all men are the same. Yes, we will dump you and you will cry and look for the next n!gga that will continue to drill the stinking hole.

Sometimes I wonder if there are still moral values. Most of You all make yourself so cheap that you no longer have value in the eyes of a man.

I will say this and I repeat it loudly...... 96% of Nigerian women are very lazy! Out there in the western world women work tirelessly for their money. This Nigerian mentality factor is really an issue.

Most women here need to change their mindset and orientation.

It is not wise to give a guy your money but you want the guy to give you his money and take care of you? Not even wife, girlfriend! With this mindset your foundation is faulty and every reasonable man will always flee (not run because run is even good) from you.

CHANGE THIS MINDSET!

Toks2008:
Happy Sunday to the Christian singles...

Mr Toks calm down.

Happy Sunday to you.

Why evuls?......

Compare this Boobs to Oganigwe back then!

SPEEDEPITOME:
A while back, I saw a guy on here that I thought I could be friends with because from his posts he stays in an area I just moved to. I sent him a PM, his reply was 'I don't do Nairaland girls'. I told him I just wanted to be friends. He asked how I got to know he stayed around that area, I told him I read his posts.
Guess what he said next? 'Quit stalking me, idiot'. I've never been more embarrassed my whole life.
so don't blame me if I don't send any guy PM on here or any platform for that matter.

Lol! Badt Guy!

funmisticqueen:
dettol ke, your ignorance is the icing on the cake that is this post. I am sure you want her to use dettol because of the foul gonorrhea discharge coming from your priick that you call semen. Let me educate so you dont repeat this blunder, dettol will burn the vagina and upset the pH thereby leading to infection. General overseer of chop and clean mouth ministries, dont worry, your 'clean and hardworking' wife will push your ministry foward. Ewu

Chai! this girl has bad mouth o.

Toks2008:
Introducing the Nairaland Elitesingles a platform where single professionals from various fields come together to interact.

So Are you a single guy of 30 and above or a single lady of 25 and above? are you smart?,intelligent?,bold?,and a goal getter?, then get on board and let's have a purposeful interaction geared towards achieving great things.

If interested simply send a message to 09052214369 and I will add you.

Thanks and GOD BLESS YOU ALL

Olatokunbo.

Hehehe..... This guy has no chill!

Indirectly you are making these Nl guys weak as per asking a girl out.

I envisage something ahead and let it no be what I am thinking please. Don't ask me what I am thinking.

So I have been on this thread since morning to see and find potential would be friendship. The funny part is the girls silently love the topic but the guys are the happiest. Lol.

At this point I know what I want is true friendship and not just girlfriend. Some girlfriends cannot give you the joy PES 2017 which I bought 19,800 from Konga gives. Imagine giving your girlfriend that money and after 1month you ain't even happy with her. Which gbese big pass that one?

Oga Toks2008 well done for this thread. I think something positive MIGHT come out from it and I hope so. As for me, I like chasing what I see physically not the online thingy guy but however, prospective friendship can be welcomed.

I can attest that we have good girls with brains out there but how to find them in this 21st century is kinda hard because they are scared and they hide.

Finally, guys chase girls don't be scared. Don't front your d!ck first build friendship.

funmisticqueen:
alright

Can I know you Queen?

funmisticqueen:
how are you responsible

Hey Ms, take a chill pill. No one is here to cast stones or judge but for the way forward.

Titugirl:
Happy Easter to you all.

We hail you too back.