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Doraty1:
https://www.tvcnews.tv/just-in-troops-repel-iswaps-return-to-askira-uba/

Mickiebrownkie:
EndSARS PANEL: SANWO-OLU SETS UP FOUR-MEMBER COMMITTEE FOR WHITE PAPER REPORT

•Committee to submit Report in Two weeks

•Okuwobi: Panel treated 235 petitions, awarded a total of N410 million to 70 victims

https://www.google.com/amp/s/thenationonlineng.net/sanwo-olu-sets-up-white-paper-committee-on-endsars-report/amp/

etokhana:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/495534-futo-ASUU-rejects-own-committee-report-confirming-ministers-professorship.html
Lalasticlala
Mynd44

aribisala0:
That was not the point

The point is is it worth sending children to expensive secondary schools?

Of course the analysis of that should be about average performance of the whole school not just the best candidates overall

aribisala0:
So what happened to all those expensive private schools

Penflame:
Good day!

I am a graduate who just passed out of service last month, I got a Graphic/Web Designer job with an airline ticketing agency in my state of deployment while still in service. According to my employer, the company is just coming up (I saw "Established in 1992" outside the office) and so he pleaded to be paying me ₦20,000 per month. I agreed, because I wasn't done with service and also because I need an extra source of income.

Fast forward to month end, the man paid me ₦15,000 without remorse, he only said the company is not generating much income yet. He paid the same amount the following month, and I complained to the Admin Manager, I don't know if she informed him.

On the third month, he paid ₦17,000 and was even expecting me to come and thank him for the extra ₦2,000.

This is a company that I have laboured so much for just within the 3 months of working there. I designed a website for the company, even though the Director refused to fund the domain, I made sure the company is visible and accessible in social media networks, I put the company's location up in Google map.

He was even giving me tasks that doesn't relate to my role to do, tasks like switching on the generator, typing correspondences and documents, etc.

Just early this month, I worked up to the Director in his office and requested for an offer letter (at least, that will show he really employed me and I will be able to see my job role and how much he will be paying me), he promised to work on it and he has not done anything about it up till now.

Now, I am done with service and the whole thing is becoming worse in the office, but still he will be saying he wants me and my skills.

Please what should I do? Because I am really getting fed up.

TundeWX:
the girl is becoming fresh in detention oo...if na guy they for don mould him face

treesun:
https://punchng.com/endsars-i-dont-know-what-happened-to-camera-i-recovered-at-lekki-tollgate-fashola/

nairalandankrah:
https://gazettengr.com/bandits-require-money-land-compensation-to-stop-killings-sheikh-gumi/

tobechi20:
Bring kids into the picture, and often, one’s sex drive takes a nose dive. Especially for mothers.

Low libido is a very common issue for new mothers as they are healing from childbirth, grappling with fluctuating hormones and extreme sleep deprivation.

While we know adjusting to a new baby can profoundly impact a couple’s life (including sexual intimacy), we, as a society, act like it shouldn’t. We act like there’s something wrong with a new mother needing a timeout from sex.

New mothers who admit to having less sex drive are often met with people urging, “Just do it anyway,” and “You’ll get in the mood.”

But what if you don’t get in the mood, even when you take this advice? What then?

Why aren’t the feelings of the woman valid? Shouldn’t she be listening to her body? Her mind?

I’m not sure where we got this idea that a husband owns his wife’s vagina. Or that he is entitled to intercourse, MouthAction, handling, or groping. I’m pretty sure I didn’t see that covenant in the paperwork. But I have an inkling that this entitlement is very much based in misogyny and male privilege.

Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. Even when their wives are not “in the mood.” Because sex is the way he feels intimate. Sex is the way he connects. Because putting your husband’s sexual desires first is supposedly the best way to avoid divorce.

These antiquated and sexist designs for marriage are damaging to women.

When a married mom doesn’t put out, she’s called “cold” and “selfish” and the dreaded “bitch.” She’s told she must have “something else going on” mentally. Outsiders to the marriage, and maybe even therapists, will question if the wife was ever sexually assaulted. Does she have a history of trauma? They’ll try to make connections that aren’t there. Because how could a wife possibly not want to have sex with her husband?

It is sickening and horrific to think of a woman having sex against her will, married or not. It’s disgusting that we automatically assume something must be “wrong” with a woman who is having a gap in her groove. Beyond all that, it’s dangerous.

Suggesting that married women and mothers should just “do it anyway” is sexual bullying and coercion. If a husband acts on the “just do it anyway” cliché and forces it — that’s called rape.

When we attack married mothers for not putting out, we’re reaffirming once again what’s important in this society.

A man’s needs, not a woman’s. A man’s voice, not a woman’s voice.

Promzy99:
How Do I Stop This Habit? Help Needed Pls....

I started notcing this recently, each time I want to pray that thought or scene will just pop up and interrup. Immediately I begin to sing" Holy spirit activate" �� funny enough it doesnt works �... Someone should please help me oo..

mariodko190:
This country Nawa o, everyday things dey go up, imagine one bag of pure water is now 300 naira, one satchet pure Water is 20naira, naija which one, so 10naira nor get value again, every day things just they increase, yet nobody is saying anything

Omicron007:
Fellows,

A quick one
One of my friends celebrated her birthday recently.
I was lost in thoughts over what to buy for her.
So I surfed the internet and I saw a lot of suggestions.

I ended up getting a flower for her. I ordered the flower on an online flower shop and it was delivered to me.

On her birthday, I took the flower and went to her place. I presented it to her during the little birthday bash she organised.

To my utmost surprise, she and her friends looked at me with contempt. She was not happy I got the flower. It was glaring on her face.

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I have seen a lot of movies where flowers are presented to girls and they are very happy.

Why is it that some Nigerian girls don't value the gift of flowers?

I spent NGN 7,500 to get the flower!

Nwaokija:
Viral Video of a curvy lady dancing in church.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1B0qBdJR2o

Stormtrooper11:
An Igbo Nigerian wedding expenses list, was posted online on Twitter. It was trailed with different comments from different people. While some saw it as an appropriate list, others saw it as unnecessarily expensive.

What are your opinions Nairalanders?

1st Pic: The actual marriage, Bride price list
2nd & 3rd Pics: File photos for illustrations

Mylordmygod1:
Not that i'm stingy o, but there is this my friend that anytime i tell him to join me when i'm eating, he dosn't waste time to wash his hand or pick spoon to help me finish my food with me.. even if the food is very small, he won't consider it..

If the food is not enough, i will not mind.. But he dosn't care whether the food small or not..

And i'm not that type that will bring out food and won't ask you to join, even though i don't mean it..

E be like say i go dey stop to ask him to join me oo..

I'm not saying you are stingy o, but should incase you don't want someone to join you when you're about eating, what will you do?

Acekoncepts27:
I started having pains in my left eye since on Thursday, at first I didn't take it serious, the pain persisted yesterday and I woke up to see one side of my eye in this state.

Mods please move this to front page please, I need urgent help.

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

Islie:
…Scandalous Police monthly pay

•Police Recruit N10,115

•Police Constable II N42,000;

•Constable I,N43,998;

•Corporal N45,737;

•Sergeant, N50,534;

•Sergeant Major,N63,992;

•Inspector II/cadet Inspector, N87,000

•Inspector, N130,171.

•Cadet ASP N130,000

•ASP II, N139,171;

•Asst Superintendent of Police I, N153,989;

•DSP N168,820;

•Superintendent of Police, N179,813;

•Chief Superintendent of Police N220,160



https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/11/shocker-buharis-directive-on-police-flouted-3-times/

dre11:
https://www.thecable.ng/zainab-ahmed-fg-will-pay-nigerians-transport-allowance-after-fuel-subsidy-removal

lalasticlala:
Here is a throwback video of the owner of the collapsed Ikoyi building, Femi Osibona, dancing and catching fun with his 3 daughters.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_pabQAfDFA

Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.

Islie:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/11/why-millions-of-nigerian-graduates-are-unemployed-fg/


Lalasticlala

leksite120:
Nigeria , the sleeping giant

Tokotaya:
Ghanaian gospel singer, Celestine Donkor has explained why she uses a “veil to cover up her seriously favoured backside”.

Reacting to someone’s observation that she always uses a back veil, she said it is because she does not want to distract men.

She noted that she has been aware of how God has favoured and blessed her with a “huge backside” since she was young.

Now as a gospel singer, she said she decided to wear dresses that cover this ‘asset’ so people can concentrate on her voice and songs.

She wrote on Facebook:



https://www.facebook.com/130934833612356/posts/4762760967096363/

Celestine Donkor has been married to Mr Donkor with kids for 15 years.

DonCrack:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=44yNao57gAI



http://saharareporters.com/2021/11/10/don%E2%80%99t-give-your-phones-policemen-checkpoints-search-%E2%80%93-police-boss-cautions-nigerians

I live with my girlfriend. She has been staying with me for a year and 8 months now. Sex was perfect 3 to 4 times a week.

But ever since she started working sex has become a problem. She will make excuses that she is tired that her back is hurting or headaches. For 3 weeks no sex. She doesn't care at all and we are living like roommates and yesterday was worse.

I was in the mood for it and she bluntly refused so I had to force her. I ripped her pant but she didn't give up she scratches me on my face. I slapped her so hard out of anger. I didn't mean to and I left the house for a few hours. I apologised for forcing her and I told her I am not going to leave with her anymore if she will not give me sex. I asked her to leave so my next babe can move in she said she is leaving in 2 weeks.

Note I don't have any other babe except from her and I have never cheated on her before. I love her a lot she is my life but I just don't like her new attitude.

What do you think I should do for her to be happy with me and give me sex without a fight because I don't want what had happened yesterday to ever happen again in the future.

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind