Mcowubaba:
Racism/Job disparity
Ireland is relatively new to diversity/immigration especially from Africa, I hardly doubt that there are many 2nd generation Irish born individuals with African origin/ethnicity, what I am trying to say is that, like 20 years ago, there was possibly only 5 or no black people in counties like Carlow, Cavan.

Most African/south America/indian/pakistani work as Taxi drivers, Food service assistant (waiter, plate washer, kitchen cleaner), security (black panther) and in shops as cashiers, pizza/kebab shops, cleaners (with Polish people)
Others work as health care assistant, forget the fancy name, nothing fancy about the job, is what Nigerian people call "cleaning/washing dead body" lol
Actually, these are people who work in nursing homes, hospice, mental clinics, they help in taking care of old people, disabled people or special needs individuals

Don't get me wrong, there is dignity in labour, and actually some of these jobs/salaries maybe better than what some of them were used to back in their home countries, and this jobs are stepping stones to greater things, and I have seen wise people who made a good living from these jobs.
Irish companies, agencies rarely hire Africans, I know people will come here to start arguing with me, I am not going to respond!!
I am not an agent or have any special interest in this topic, I am just giving you guys a summary of what Ireland is like for an African Immigrant.

The "favorable" thing about Ireland is their immigration, it's less strict than USA, UK or Canada
Like it is relatively easier to get an Irish citizenship than a UK, USA citizenship, Please I never said getting a Irish citizenship or resident permit is so easy, I am just saying in comparison to USA and UK, it is easier.

Students in a Degree, Masters, PhD program may get 1 to 2 years work permit (Stamp 1G) on graduation, which you can use to work full-time as a dishwasher

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TheUndercover:
If you are a loser and you are on track for this to continue in the future, you should be willing to take risks. You have nothing to lose in the sense that you have a life not worth living.

Continue to execute high risk high reward strategies until you either win, or die. Death is nothing, but to live and be a loser is to die every day.

I feel it, so deep

izito:
*

In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

The two major institutions that
has held civilization for long:
The marriage and Educational
institution. However, as it
seems, either both are dead
or at the precipice, and ready
to get engulfed by the wide
mouth of the ocean.
This is what happens when a
wholly system is pandered to
suit individualism rather than
the collective whole.
Educational curriculum is now
very porous as schools don't
teach what's important to real
life situation, alongside,
useless departments keep
springing up on a daily basis
with degrees of no
importance. Scientists,
Professors, Academia, no
longer carryout research in
search of truthfulness but on
the basis of political peanuts,
favours and positions. They're
now sycophants, they choose
avarice thinking it all ends
there. But no, you can't hide
pollution, when it's time to
spread it does and destroys.
On the other hand, women
were not allowed to graze
many fields in the past, and
we thought the patriarchy was
wicked, uncompassionate,
egoistic, not knowing that they
thoroughly understood female
nature to the brim. Women
were not allowed to graze
these fields because nature
didn't programmed them for
such and culture only allowed
men because men were much
suitable for it. For example,
the corporate world. Also
when both graze same field it
breds contempt, hence, male
and female had their specific
play ground. If that woman in
that story was a housewife, or
her line of business is under
the scrutiny and jurisdiction of
her husband, she wouldn't
have acted in such
unscrupulous manner. As
tough as things was for the
man, he still tried his best in
pushing and leading the family
forward, yet never knew that
a knife of betrayal is about to
pierce his soul, a knife not
from an enemy but an ally: his
lovely precious wife. This's
solipsism at its peak. She
cares only about herself and
has seriously drafted and
aligned various means of
sustenance waiting for the day
her husband will finally slip.
You see, she was very
pragmatic in such a selfish
way. After all, that's what
betrayals do!
As earlier said, the marriage
institution is in a decline
because:
1. Society wants men to take
responsibility over women and
children but without authority.
No, it cannot work. Employees
must be courteous and
obedient towards their bosses.
Ditto for stewards and wives.
2. No incentive for men in
marriage: Men of the
medieval age never bothered
about this, all they wanted
was a submissive woman who
cooks, clean, play her
conjugal duties, and takes
good care of the children.
They were never bothered of
working tenuously because
they know that if they don't
live to reap the benefits of
their labour, their blood line---
children---will. Men wanted
children at all costs because
children is the joy of
fatherhood.
However, the marriage system
has been vitiated by a motley
of pollutants. Since women
are acting full blown on their
solipsistic nature, it is wise
and beneficial for men to
watch over themselves by also
putting themselves first and
foremost.
3. The divorce or family court:
men got no incentives in
marriage and yet idiotic and
unsympathetic judges still
decides to strip men of the
little they've garnered before,
during and after marriage.
You don't expect such a
contract to hold. It's a zero
sum game with blood spillage
everywhere.
4. Aside reproduction and
coitus, men don't need women
for anything. In fact, women
need men a billion times than
men need women. Even the
chores women boast of are
now carried out perfectly by
men in the complete absence
of women e.g cooking,
cleaning, fashion designing
etc. So, the marriage
institution is no longer a
means to these things for
men.
5. Society will rather blame
men for women's trouble
rather than hold both to equal
standard of justice. Women
exploit men in marriage
psychologically, emotionally,
financially, physically and yet
receives pardon when she
misbehaves while her husband
gets punished.
6. Since everyone is now
entitled to their particular
opinion, the gap between
degeneracy and discipline is
becoming oblivious as both is
almost intertwining. Everyone
is free to do whatever he or
she deems fit without
accountability, competency,
discipline, criticism, shaming,
reproofs.
7. The degenerates after
wasting their lives will enter
marriage, which of course will
be a destructive affair.
Marriage cannot hold when
both or one partner is a
degenerate! If any lacks
virtue, knowledge and
discipline, that union will
definitely suffer. Now, men of
today will not marry in order
not to jeopardize their worth
and inner peace through
Marriage.
Marriage of today for the man
is high risk and no benefits!
And totally vice versa for
women.
If marriage will continue to
last, men must be given
complete authority, women
must be held accountable for
every of their foibles, the
family law must be reviewed
to favour both husbands and
wives and men given
incentives. But simps will
never let this happen, they
will rather metamorphose to
feminine demands, thereby
bolstering women's
entitlement mentality, support
their misdemeanors and watch
the decline of civilization as
they wait in hordes for some
p^ssy juice.
Marriage is no small thing for
a man, however, a single man
is greater than a married
man!
Authority: Men must develop
an abundance mindset and put
themselves first. They must be
aware that a woman can flake
at anytime, respond to
emotions and does things
based on sentiments. They
must prepare for the journey
ahead should they choose to
engage with women.

GodWrites:
I thought I was reading a Nollywood script. This is so bad, and I commend you for being wise too. You handled the situation as a man, and you deserve much better.

At least, she didn't cheat with another man to get the money, so don't divorce. Now that she has been exposed, she's going to work round the clock to earn your trust back.

With time, you'll finally forgive her, even enjoy her money as long as you're not jobless yourself.

Problems only starts when she's the only one earning, and gladly that's not the situation. For the sake of the kids, stick around and watch her try to please you in every way for her betrayal.

I am with you, thats the best i can do.

McSquishi:
So what’s at issue here, really? All I can imagine is the secrecy... if he knew his wife’s salary does that mean he would not want to pay for rent, school fees, clothing? Why did he lost them as if it isn’t his duty to pay for those things?

The only reason a woman will not disclose to her husband how much money she makes or has is if he’s proven to be financially irresponsible.

Some men might see the wife making money and decide he doesn’t want to work so hard to support his family. He will become lazy. Once the wife notices this she might form a habit of not disclosing

Some men once they learn the wife has money will suddenly be wanting to invest in this or that money wasting project and she will learn not to disclose because of that.

Some men learn the wife has money and will want to borrow without ever returning the money to her...

As far as purchasing land and property, do men buy land and property always with the wife’s knowledge? Maybe she would surprise him later but he was too busy snooping through her messages and ruined the surprise...

The story seems very fake in that no mother is going to allow her kids to suffer in poverty when she has money.

Madness!! We are not as fools as you women think, we are not as fools as those oyinbo, that you are watching them on movies, how they worship their wowen. Wich at the tale-end lead them into, cheating,more dirvoce,adultery, and much more.? Stop that lady, you sound so selfish in a relationship.

I am really sorry bro, i feel it. Please have a time to follow this fellow,@Ubunja and follow all his topic like. https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know may you have the courage to endure it. Our loves one are the one who cheated us, the most. And push us into the REDPILL, and in redfill you can find your true self.

NO, I can have it for you for just N5 Million

i smell poverty here: https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

just use that your fu?king car by being an uber driver, thats your solution.

@Ubunja, i dont have the word to thank your for creating such a topic. But i will say that !may God give u all the thing you want. AMEEN. You help a brother here, i kow nothing about the REDFILL, i was just on my spiritual journey. Then i come across this topic, thank GOD that i am nt a simp, since childhood.

CaveAdullam:


DAY 69, REDPILL 2021

Truth is like zephyr that runs through every facets and corners. It doesn't plead, negotiate or reason with anyone or thing. It is what it is! Though, TRP is going mainstream but never for once has it commune with any woman. The only women that communes with it are those that are curious and in dire inquisitiveness to know what it entails---redpillwomen, alphawomen, traditional women etc.

Many celebrities, politicians and game players know about TRP, but you'll hardly or never see them proclaiming it to anyone, women most especially. They play along feigning ignorance of TRP, because they verily know that truth is an enemy to the populace and the populace are friends to those that trick them, tell them lies and satiate their confirmation bias. For this reason, politicians are good demagogues.

You don't meet a woman and start talking "bullshits" about TRP. They're not intelligent to comprehend its details. Women don't even know about their nature not to even talk of understanding it. Though they're lacking in this knowledge yet do they play the game consciously or unconsciously. They're ready to rive anything that will subverts the benefits they earn from their Machiavellian tactics. So, standing at the forefront hoisting a flag of war which will shortchange their proceeds will definitely unleash their inner demons and chaos.

For women, subtlety is natural as is but an art for men. Hence, women play the games of life correctly to their solipsistic nature. A woman don't care about the nature of a man, what she cares about is what she can gain from that man whether he's ugly, handsome, poor, rich, tall, short. The friendzone is her natural way of benefiting from these men without any form of emotional attachment or mutualism.

Also, women are friends and main allies of simps; and as you must know, simps makes up more than 80% of the male population. If you understand (human) woman nature, you will play according to the waves of their fantasy so that you can at least gain leverage as per their connections with their simps who occupies the upper echelons of every society. Can you see the different ways young ladies and women display their "hard earned money" on social media? Become like an actor and you can fit well into any character. After all fame and money are what actors are concerned about.

How then do will now speak truth? Know this: women aren't as logical and pragmatic as Men. They're vapid and by their solipsistic nature, they only conform to what will benefit them, even the "truth" they will bear if it has great gains. If you decide to enter into any intellectual discourse with a woman, you will end up becoming tiresome. What they want is an emotional rollercoaster, unwavering in different scenes of adventures and enigma. In this emotional show, you can subtly attach some hard truths and let them absorb it on their own by an act of will and not by negotiation or coercion. If you go flat with the truth with any woman, you will never have any around because they will see you as boring regardless of every gems of truth you dish out.

In this present day we live, truth is poison to the majority who has chosen to live a lie. You must speak undiluted truth anonymously or better act it except you've got nothing to lose. Regardlessly, evil men kill men of truth, you must be careful on how you relate truth to anybody. Learn to protect your head before speaking the truth. It is better fools come to the knowledge of the truth on their own rather than negotiating it with them or by coercing them. Remember: truth is like zephyr, anyone who locks his doors against it will gradually debilitate.

Authority: Truth is for the courageous. So, to get along greatly with people, you must play accordingly to their fantasy.

Cc. Scofield114

You help a brother here!!

davillian:
It's easy for BH to take down small units of army spread in different villlages.....

Pick a D day and throw everything at BH.....
If 50k(NAF,NN,NA) plus cjtf enter sambisa with gun trucks , APC, tanks , etc with support from the airforce...
This war won't last more than 2weeks...

You make sense, bro! You know nothing about that, you just say your mine. Because your never work with any UN ORG here in maiduguri.

CaveAdullam:
DAY 45, REDPILL 2021(VALENTINE SPECIAL)

Along the way to self development and improvement; jostling with every impediments that stand your way; walking patiently and eagerly; hoping for the light at the end of the tunnel; seeking for a day to claim your crown and resplendent in glory; to be finally seen as one invaluable and worthy; on this very journey, YOU DON'T NEED A WOMAN!

Introduction of a woman will not make you wrestle with this darkness mano a mano, thereby limiting your warrior energy. You will be scared to lose her, you will want to be there for her, her seduction is too seductive, and you will not like to miss any part of it. But the truth of the matter is, if you don't confront darkness, darkness will forever be your nightmare.

And by the way, no woman will go with you along the way as you fight your demons, no, never! You only see them in avalanche at the end of the tunnel. They can't stay with a man in a low state because of their emotional, and myopic nature. They judge a man based on his raw nature, and will never see him as he become valuable as gold as he passes through the furnace of darkness.

To achieve your dreams, you must jettison women or never take them seriously, just like the way a mother never become overly restless by the whining of her child.

Your purpose comes first. Never sacrifice your purpose, integrity, reputation on the altar of multifarious p^ssys. You only want a woman, and she's neither a need nor a life saver.

Authority: You, Yourself and Your.

THIS THING HAS TO BE WRITTEN WITH GOLDEN INK.

cynthia9:
How much was the first salary you ever earned ?

its a Remote work job as a DevOps engineer $125k

SoPaid:


http://saharareporters.com/2021/02/05/flashback-i-have-what-i-can-use-fight-boko-haram-without-government-support-—-igboho


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=794LcUUv54E

foolish, you know nothing about boko haram.

Girl9999:
I created this account to hide my identity. I'm in a very emotional condition at the moment. I've been crying since morning. I've not left my house, not even for church. I've lost the will to live, all because of what happened yesterday evening.

I've been dating this guy for two months. I thought he was a great guy. He was always nice to me, smart and hard-working. I lost my virginity at the age of 18 in University and it was to someone that just wanted to have sex with me. He lied about loving me. All he wanted was sex and when he had his way he abandoned me and dated another girl in my department. Since then I've had a fear of relationships, most importantly of sex. I vowed to only have sex with someone I was going to marry; someone I was certain loved me.

When I met my boyfriend, I thought he was the one. We vibed well and we were both in the same field of work. Everything seemed to click. I opened up to him about my experience and my decision to have sex only when I was ready. He agreed and said he was going to respect my wishes.

Yesterday he visited me at my apartment. This wasn't the first time he was visiting me. We paid each other visits all the time. This time he brought a bottle of wine with him. I prepared food, we both eat and he served us some wine. The last thing I remember is taking few sips and then everything else is blurry.

Next thing I am waking up by 8am this morning with a severe headache, cramped legs and a sore feeling around my vagina. There was something that looked like dried semen on my left thigh and some around my breast. I could also perceive the scent of his perfume on my body. He raped me. The man that claimed to love me raped me. I haven't spoken to anyone since morning, all I've been doing is crying. My phone has been on silent all day.

I want to report him to the police but first I want to look at his face and ask why he would do this to me. I already planned on having sex with him soon. Why couldn't he wait? I want to involve my parents and his parents as well but I don't want this news to spread and take a hit on my reputation. I'm confused about what to do.

Why are men like this? I feel defiled and violated. My mind has been constantly flooded with suicidal thoughts all day. If I make it through this, I'm done with relationships forever.

thats the reason we men always say women are all the same.

sapphiere:
Men, you must take responsibilities of the child even if the DNA confirms that the baby is not yours - Barr. Vivian

Nigerian Barrister took to her Twitter handle to advice men not to neglect the baby even if DNA confirms the baby isn't theirs.


She wrote:


https://mobile.twitter.com/VivianRora/status/1345146460514504707

Does she think that everyone is a simp? I will end the relationship self, not to talk about taking care of the son, throughout everyones life, no one will cheat on you more than that. I swear i will file a case against her as a defamation of character.

sabbi:
Make a list of romantic words such as: everlasting, enduring, cherish, adore, beloved, passion, etc. and write her beautiful love letters.

· Find out what she likes and take her dancing, even if it’s salsa.

· Sing or serenade her with a musical instrument.

· Learn how to cook her favorite dish and keep making it even after the wedding.

· Walk her dog without being asked.

· Buy her a bike and make sure you spend quality time biking together.

· Take walks at night, especially after a heavy meal.

· If you don’t like romantic movies, tell her. She will appreciate your honesty and be fine watching these with her girlfriends.

· Treat her mother and sister to lunch or send them flowers on their birthdays. (This is such an important and loving gesture it should be number one.)

· Look for new things happening in your community: plays, programs, musicals, festivals, and museum exhibits. Even after you are married, seek out new entertainment that will keep you both stimulated and the relationship thriving.

· Find special ways to include her family in your wedding decision-making. Ask her brother for advice on renting limousines or her father on travel arrangements. Make sure your own parents reach out to hers to guarantee one big happy future.

· Make sure she knows about how and when to have her car serviced. Teach her how to change a flat tire.

· Ask her about her day and really listen. If she’s having trouble with co-workers, she may just need to vent.

· When she’s looking her worst, look her in the eyes and tell her how beautiful she is.

· When she starts to cry, you don’t need to say anything. Just hold her close in your loving embrace.

simps of the century, just because of sex

can you please reach me up, my signature. I will try

YES, we can try because we all give the love we think we deserve to get it back

mariahAngel:


Don't mind him.

Polygamy will lead you to an early grave because of sex. No go do pass yourself o!

too much s?x will not lead you to death, i guess. You cant escape death, thats the law of nature, not to much sex

here is what i quote from the commenters, you dont need any religion teaching here, you can find one of the best international group For people like you on facebook (SPIRITUAL THOUGH) Welcome to the family mate,
its one of the best journey mate,
Focus on loving yourself and the
people around you.
Work to earn a legitimate pay.
(self love)
Be charitable and
compassionate. (Love) stop all evils esp
backbiting,gossiping, maligning
cease fornication/ adultery, in
fact don't even come close to
doing it avoid black magic n
sorcery

spora:


Idiot. Grow up. I am a programmer. That was what my client requests of.

Why not develop it yourself, since you are a pro-bragger, not programmer. Infact show us your Github repo link

mr yahoo yahoo, why are afraid of the otp, if u are the owner of the card?

Do