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safeLove: You must be the newest definition of dumb! If your miopia is as a result of old age,then I advice you enrol in the nearest old people's home. If not kindly shine your dim eyes and read the post.
The lady said the husband was her first and only intimate partner,doesn't mean the first time they got intimate was after wedding. Besides,I know you are very experienced in STD issues so you should know that sometimes it doesn't need a year to show when it occurs..
I pity people who post their real stories here on NL when we have people like you who are stainless and ready to tear every story to pieces in order to find out if its real or fake.

Kosia!! Mcheeeeeew!!

Safelove has spoken!!

Kobojunkie: You deserve a handshake for taking the time to read and understand before responding . . . skill that is seriously lacking around here.

Sorry to tell you dis, i think that you are just looking for a CHEAP POPULARITY. Even if u ar white, green oo!, red or watever, u are only seeking to be noticed. Imagine ur bottom status : "the few minority should not impose their views on d majority". And now, in every threads, u try to impose ur view on d majority so that people will notice you. Sorry to tell u, u are just contraditing ursf!

Go and get married and come back to tell us dsame old story of urs using ur NOTICE ME OR I DIE (NOD)ideology and see if u will not end up in a jun(g)kle!

Mind u, i dnt hate u but i hate ur attitudes!

[quote author=proudlyafrican][/quote]Its all ur choice to make! But b4 u finally do, employ ur mind and not ur emotions atleast u hav d clearer pix of everything than all of us. U can still seek d services of a qualified counsellors and possibly pray and fast for atleast for 9days for God's direction.

Goodluck in ur choice!

I had 2find ur topic after u briefly discussed abt ur marriage in one thread. I feel ur pains and i quite know that its not easy esp when u loose confidence in ur wife.

For d sake of ur tender kids atleast,i advise that divorce is not an ultimate in marriage. Its brings stigma and prevent u from alot of tins esp in terms of church. You hv taken a vow, for better and for worse. Its ur cross bro. Devise a means of carrying it to soften it for u. So many people out there are in d same shoes with u but d vow they made b4 God keeps them together. U could opt for separation or prolong/ indefinite suspension atleast to get ur children to real adult age. If u shld go for another girl tomorrow, what assurance have u that she will not be worse?

Find a reason to keep urself happy in d marriage and motivate ursf to carry on bro, by that u can hv peace of mind. Close ur ears to all gossips and ignore her, i bet u, one day, God will arrest her for. Think of all d negative aspects of divorce before u make a move.

Goodluck.

proudlyafrican: @OP i have had similar experience which i posted here on NL sometime last year though not with the handle i am using right now.I dealt with the situation by taking the issue to her parents,unfortunately her parents never saw anything wrong in what she did and it almost crashed the marriage because we separated for months.After few months of separation neighbors thought i have been appointed the chairman of the ruling political party as her friends and other well wishers trooped to my house on a daily basis to plead with me to rescind my decision.I had to oblige their request after 6 months because of the welfare and health of the children which at this time was fast deteriorating.In my case even though she refused to admit her mistake;the communication between she and her Ex came to an abrupt end.Right now i have a post in the family section "He is divorcing his wife". where i am seeking for advice on how best to take care of the welfare of the kids.Mine is a failed marriage as far as i am concerned.

Okotorigba!!!! Even after spending 6months suspension. God help us in our marriages!

Ur question should be channelled to Romance session and not here! If u want to experiment on how u came about, go and get married and them come here with ur question and we will b glad to give an answer.


If u must get a reply, take d babe to ur mama and show her how good player u are, then other tins will follow suit!

Congrats!

I have taken time to go tru u guys advises, some are like adding salt to injury, while some posters are better put in d op's position to really feel his pains b4 they come back to comment. Then d last group's comments are quite reccommendable just like dis one

obowunmi: Poster, this issue to me is not an issue of trust but an issue of respect.

Your wife is NOW a married woman. If she cannot leave the ex issues from 8 yrs ago, then there are serious issues. If she respects you, as your wife, ex will not be in the picture.

A normal wife will say, I am married now, pls out of respect for my husband, I don't think this friendship is appropriate. Will you sit and wait before they start to catch feelings for each other again? I mean common.

I'm not married yet and I'm certainly not in touch with any

OAM4J:
Read the bold in the post below. Also there is a theory called "Okafor's theory" which is true to a large extent.

exes from 1 month ago. Rubbish!

In addition to d good advises, i will ask u to find out ur wife's ex's wife too and confront her, warning her to tell her husband to leave ur wife and family alone. With that,d wife will suffer wat u ar going tru too.

Mayb u initiate a frndship wit his wife if they dnt stop atleast, u will get WIN WIN or LOOSE LOOSE as for there u ar still LOOSE WIN!

For d safety of ur home,dnt try d last paragragh @ home because players are liable to have broken homes!Goodluck

safeLove: @ safeact,thanks for officially welcoming me to NL. I "pledge" to guard the name with my thumb.

Ma eyes is on u henceforth! Enjoy.

safeLove: @safeact,yes I am seeing it.
Maybe they are one and the same person....lols.

Hmmm, u just registered just last july and mine has bn since 2009! U ought to pay for using ma name na. Anyway, u ar welcome on board but ensure d safety of that name!

SAFElove: Thank you @ debrief. I wish I new the lady personally,I'd print out your comment and ask her to read it like the bible every morning. Maybe she'll grow a little sense.

@kobojunkie,obowunmi,SAFEact,blank..thanks for the matured comments.

SAFEact(m)»SAFElove(f).... Are u guys seeing wat am seeing?

There are 2ways to dis: Either that d husband expects d wife to wash his stuff but d wife being a lazzy type pushes it to d mother and since d mum already knew her daughter's phobia towards clothes decides to humble herself to b doing for her to maintain peace!

I tell you, no sensible husband will have his clothes washed by her mother in law , i guess d man in question doesnt know abt it unless if sometin fishy is going on!

Kobojunkie: Let's discuss this here. How many of the millions of women who have so far run into church to help them solve their marriage problems have had those problems solved? In most every church you attend, especially in Nigeria, there are bound to be a population of women who attend church, Sunday after Sunday, in hopes that somehow their marriage problems will be miraculously solved. Many of these same women become mentors for younger women who come in with the same hopes, and so on. As this continues, the number of women stuck in abandoned marriages continue to rise. Is this practice working at all?

True talk! She should devise a means of making herself happy. Mayb reading novels or any book that can motivate her and pray to her God!

Okotorigba!!!!! He must have been pushed to the wall. The next to go will b Ngozi Okonjo Iweala.... Lets wait and see.

There is something missing here, part of the reasons that our girls go for a 2nd, 3rd or even 4th wives is due to age not being on their sides. Instead of remaining @ home, they will hav no option naw. Another one are girls that have a child or children out of wedluck!

Just like they have earlier stated, if u had dated ur wife, u would hv probably seen that nagging but u chose to ignore it because u let ur emotions to control u rather than ur mind. Now u ar crying foul!

Its always advised that u start to treat ur partner the way u would treat him\her in d next 20yrs to come to avoid a situation whereby the other feels not been loved as before. @ OP, ur partner might not really understand she is nagging u because u might have not caution her @ d appropriate time.


My advise to you is to learn to live with it, taking solace in her other good qualities.Or neglect her when ever she nags @ least for hours esp if she needs ur attension and use body language to tell her @ all tyme and that u are more matured than her. Trust me, when you do it a couple of times, she will advise herself and u hav ur peace back! Good luck.

Okotorigba...The hunter is now bn hunted!!!

Okotorigba!!! Shits happen shaa.

One month pregnacy is still very small. It is still blood and so any strong malaria drug can wash it off but am not advising u to commit murder oh cos d blood will not in ma hands! In any ways, you are faced with two face sharp sword and you much choose one! A difficult decision to make. Pray to God for d spirit of decernment.good luck.

I just wonder why /how some guys, i suppose, are busy sending me emails asking for d girl's no! Pls, if u are one of them,stop now cos am not gonna do that.

The moderator has done well to change d topic of d thread,so go in line with it!

The girl in question has supported so many guys that hav been into her life. The last one was married and hid it from her for close to a year. Just recently, she found out but d guy had already smiled home wit a mercedes car and a commuter hias bus that ply for him in one of d transport companies.
She has made her money. She is building a storey building and has about four trucks registered in her name.she is very humbly, good looking and a christian. People think am going out with her but am not.i feel for her!

There has been lots of stories where men are been humiliated by their wives as a result of being d bread winner of d house. Girls who are bouyant enough to buy themselves one some times are scared as they think they might scare their suitors away and men on the other way,might be in love with one of such ladies but will always withdraw when marriage is mentioned.

Now, i have a girl friend who confided in me that she cant buy herself a befitting car. According to her, men will b scared of approaching her cos they will think her status is higher than theirs! For record purposes, d girl in question controls about 30million and above but prefers to be jumping bikes.

I tried to convince some of my male friends to go marry d chick after all, she is still in her twenties but they all said NO that they cant marry any girl who is richer than them because they will be sturbon to them later on in d marriage.

My friend needs an advise on what to do in order to enjoy her wealth and still get her hubby. As i talk to you, she has been duped by some men claiming to be in love with her!

This is really tactical. If u buy d phone, she might be exposed to negative aspects of internet lives, and in d other way round, if u dnt buy it, she might feel disappointed thus Weighing her emotions down! Mayb, we shld put it to a vote. If u ar in support u click like and see how many likes we will get atleast if we can get up to 20likes, it means they should buy else, dnt buy!

jhydebaba: So this was your plan all along? Can you just imagine my unfaithful wife, the people you want to eject from "your home" do you know their individual contribution in building the place you now refer to as "your home"? I remembered how my family stood by me when I was building the house even offering assistance in the process. My dear wife, where were you then? You are nothing but an ungrateful gold digging housewife, thank goodness you confessed that my family is not giving you problems.
So, what exactly did you want? Get me to send my family parking, kill me and inherit my properties?
If you know what is good for you, don't bother to come home this night, open another thread and ask NLDers to apologize on your behalf.

I dnt understand! Why is op using male name and now, dis one is posing as d husband yet with female Id. I wonder who is deceiving who here?

This thread is still disturbing me! Iam boiling inside for dis stupid gold digger that calls herself a wife. Imagine, d husband must be so gentle to have kept quite @ you. U can go and rent an apartment else where, there, u can have some space. I pity ur husband.

John311: I married my husband in December 2010 and moved into a four bedroom duplex he owns but shares with other members of his family. My husband's mother, sister and brother lives with us. They've been living with him long before I married him but after I moved in he promised me he would eventually get them their own place. It's been over one year and a half now and they are all still living with us. It is not like they give me any problems but I want my own space, my own home. I've tried to get my husband to ask them to leave but he hasn't done anything about it. He's too attached to them and it's making married life very difficult for me. How do I get my in-laws to leave my house? Should I confront them since my husband has refused to do himself? Please help!

http://lindaikeji..com/2012/08/dear-lib-readers-how-do-i-get-my-in.html

They are not giving u probs and yet u want them out of d house that they have been before they married you!!!!If u so much need some space, y dont u build ur own house? Am sorry to say dis, ur type are the ones that cant afford even a mud thatched house @ ur family house! I feel lik slapping d hell out of ur brain.

I pray it will never happen to me. Woe to that woman that brings in another man's offspring into her matrimonial home!

My dear, dnt worry. U can still overcome ur temptations, but i MUST warn u to cut down some of ur unneccessary expenses. Dnt do anything to please anybody again or do sth because odas are doing in d name of hostin people @ a slightest thing. Another thing is that u have to face only d expenses of ur immediate family and leave ur inlaw with their own after all, they have been surviving before you came.Humble ursf and accept d fact that things are no longer the way they used to be. I promise God will see u tru if u trust Him.m

This is a serious case that needs serious advises. There is dis boy of 19yrs old who has completed his secondary edu, he used to be intelligent when he was a kid but things changed when he entered secondary school. From assessment, he doesnt devote his time to his books that much as he result, he had to repeat classes b4 he was able to finish his ssce even though not without other vices!

Now, due to his sturboness, he was told that d only way for his attending university is if only he gets admission int Caritas or madonna university. He has stayed up to 2yrs @ home without puttin much effort to his studies and yet he still insists on going to university. He has been suggested to go into biz but he said no. Now, he mingles with some some girls and boys that were his secondary mates from his 2 previous schools. Most times, he ends up sleeping outside. He drives cars without permission and has master key to all d cars! If they flog him, they will feel d pain instead him to feel d pain.No amount of cain penetrates him.

Last nyt, he didnt sleep @ their house and this is giving d parents alot of worry and their high blood preasure is rising by d day! Pls what ways do u suggest that they should handle d boy before dis goes out of hand!
Chaircover and others, ur advise is appreciated...i

OmG, wats d time now? 2pm! This must b luncher story! Waiting for supper story in d nite! Singing............ Dis is luncher storRrrrrry...

May God help us! D prob is that all those lastma guys ar mostly touts without useful training on d safety of their lives while enforcing their law! We could still count more if care is not taken.