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@Op, sorry, i couldnt hold ma anger on you atleast to go tru other peoples comment! How can u tell me that ur brother in law has bn bashing ur exp car and yet he doesnt make attempt on his own tto fix it or even fuel it and u come here to plead for an advise. Mayb its ur wife or her family that is marrying u and not u marrying her? Amuo nwoke yaburu nwoke, Be a man and take charge of ur family.,

Very touching! Women dey try wella. What a woman can do, a man can not do even half an not complain, though domestically!

Efemena_xy: What a load of crap!

The lure of the green card wouldn't stop the average naija girl from thinking twice about wrecking another woman's marriage (be it her sister or aunt).

The guy in question sounds like an immature twerp. Come to think of it, he and the so-called-innocent-niece are both at fault and match each other seamlessly.

Nollywood scripting in action here sha.

ARE YOU VERY SURE? Pls do read it well again!

My Dad's youngest sister is 39. she just got married last year to a guy she met on an online dating site. They got married here in Nigeria, so she has to be in Nigeria for 2 years before gets her green card to join him.

The guy has been to Nigeria a couple of times, but I haven't met him. He sent me a friend request on facebook, and earlier in the year, he asked my Aunty to give him my bb pin. We started chatting innocently. I call him uncle, and he calls me 'my sexy niece' he always try to chat me up every other day. After a while the communication stopped. We didn't chat for 2 months, but I could care less. Yesterday, he went on full toasting mode. Telling me his marriage between my Aunty and him is over, and how he's always been in love with me and want's to marry me. I was trying to see reasons with him (more out of respect than anything else) why the liaison would never work, because his wife in question is my Aunt, plus I have a boyfriend I love.

He went on to say "Bleep tradition! Bleep family!!! I want you to be here in new york city with me before the end of the year. We'll get married here and bla bla bla" It was shocking and traumatising. I'll never be foolish enough to fall for that crap. But I may just teach him a few lessons never to mess with a naija girl.

I really don't know whether or not to tell my Aunt about this and make it a family issue.



Before some of us start crucifying me, i curlled d topic from net and i feel that it will be of great lesson for all of us if we do justice to it with our diffrent God's given wisdoms.

My Dad's youngest sister is 39. she just got married last year to a guy she met on an online dating site. They got married here in Nigeria, so she has to be in Nigeria for 2 years before gets her green card to join him.

The guy has been to Nigeria a couple of times, but I haven't met him. He sent me a friend request on facebook, and earlier in the year, he asked my Aunty to give him my bb pin. We started chatting innocently. I call him uncle, and he calls me 'my sexy niece' he always try to chat me up every other day. After a while the communication stopped. We didn't chat for 2 months, but I could care less. Yesterday, he went on full toasting mode. Telling me his marriage between my Aunty and him is over, and how he's always been in love with me and want's to marry me. I was trying to see reasons with him (more out of respect than anything else) why the liaison would never work, because his wife in question is my Aunt, plus I have a boyfriend I love.

He went on to say "Bleep tradition! Bleep family!!! I want you to be here in new york city with me before the end of the year. We'll get married here and bla bla bla" It was shocking and traumatising. I'll never be foolish enough to fall for that crap. But I may just teach him a few lessons never to mess with a naija girl.

I really don't know whether or not to tell my Aunt about this and make it a family issue.



Before some of us start crucifying me, i curlled d topic from net and i feel that it will be of great lesson for all of us if we do justice to it with our diffrent God's given wisdoms.

Crucify him! crucify him!! crucify him!!! I want to authoritatively tell us that d op is an emotional type and she could get easily irritated when she is in d emotional state. I blv d hubby understands her wify more than everyone of us, therefore, i will profer that she calms down and (stop assuming that d hubby will always read her mind and react perfectly to her)pet him as she makes him understand everthing. I assure her that she will get all d pets she needs in return!
The man might hav been pissed off in one way or d other and d woman is still measuring shoulders with him. Men always want to b on top.so let him feel that he is still on top and u will see d difference.
Am not makin excuses for d man infact, i feel like slappin d hell out of d man but we should know d best genuine help that she could get is from d hubby,afterall, if he didnt love d woman, he wouldnt have married her! Best of luck ma dear fantababy!

[quote author=chaircover) Dont you know that a simple search in google of your pin number will bring up this thread. How do you think I was able to track down and retrieve my stolen blackberry? All I did was to wait a few weeks and then google the pin number. The twerp who had the phone had put it in his facebook profile and from there he was very easy to locate. [/quote

Pls CC, i want to know more on how to track down and locate d position of a stolen BB!

ese-maro:
Ok am out.NL just ended for me cos no one would ever take me seriously on dis forum.Tanks for d earlier advice anyway.it helped.

coogar: [quote author=ese-maro]Anyway lemme just reply d ladies.I ve 2 I'd 's so I logged d first one out because my hubby might check my phone anytime which is normal.I didn't want him 2 knw wat I posted on NL,because he keeps wanting 2 knw if I dnt post any topic @ all.so I logged in d other one of which I registered a long time ago buh neva use it.am not wat u guys tink.am dropping my BBpin for d ladies only so u can add me shw u my pix so u knw am not d Jss3 drop out u re talkn abt.its very degrading 2me nah,my househelp is d one in JSS3.am a medical student in my finals,University of Nigeria.290AD3DA.

Speechless! Still thinking.......my instint tells me that you are here FOR FUN.Family session has bn one of d coolest place to be and its meant for matured minds! Quit playing wit peoples' emotions.

woman especially the one that wants to be a charge and bail lawyer should stay with her hubby because of distractions that might impede her annointed performance. Moreso, after graduation, she must move farther away from the family so as to have an excellent career devoid of family distractions. You know, to be a 'learned fellow' and a successful one at that; we don't need distractions especially from family[/quote]

warrior01: Exactly! No sensible married woman especially the one that wants to be a charge and bail lawyer should stay with her hubby because of distractions that might impede her annointed performance. Moreso, after graduation, she must move farther away from the family so as to have an excellent career devoid of family distractions. You know, to be a 'learned fellow' and a successful one at
Exactly! No sensible married woman especially the one that wants to be a charge and bail lawyer should stay with her hubby because of distractions that might impede her annointed performance. Moreso, after graduation, she must move farther away from the family so as to have an excellent career devoid of family distractions. You know, to be a 'learned fellow' and a successful one at that; we don't need distractions especially from family

Na waoh, so many lawyers in d house! But wait oh, why all these so called lawyers claim their decisions are always final? Small thing they will try to back it up with one thing or d other! You guys are not always real or even check situation of things on ground esp when it has to do with family but u bring in legal mentality into show! Am a safety engineer but there should always b a line to things of d family! Nowadays, men are becomin scared of marrying them!

Sabaugo: No need of breaking it bc even if u do, it will not deprive her from contacting those people if she want. Do u know that i have ten contacts in my head but i didnt save them in my phone. So forget bc gals know more u know in that aspect

Breaking d sim is not about d girl but putting a stop to numerous calls and shirkers she had before you met her! Its right to change her old line to avoid distraction in ur family!

gegee: Na wa u could almost taste the hate and bitterness against jonathan in bakare's tone

I tire oh. I dnt think that he is still with his right senses again. Mayb Buhari has given him some pill inform of a kola!He needs deliverance!

There was this argument among some friends, one of them has his wife preparing for law to Abuja when she can do it in Enugu where they reside but she insisted on going outside d state.The friends were not in support of the idea, as d girl might be up to something. We all know what happens in NYSC camp, I want to know ur idea on this.

Omo Alata: Evil parental control. Enough said

Pls stop laying abuses on someone's parents. They only want wat they think is good for their daughter, it would have left for d gal to say no @ d initial state.Babe, just take it easy and gradually disentangle ursf from ur parents wealth and plan for ur new family! All d best ma dear.

ese-maro:
I get wat u re saying but am not the type dat dies in silence.me and my hubby re very good friends,we talk abt almost everytin,so I ve told him a number of times 2 spice tins up,he promised 2 change,infact changes for like 2days and stops.wen I met him I neva lied 2him dat I was close 2 a virgin or pretend during sex,just dat wen he started sleeping wit me initially I was having bruises afta sex but dat stopped like a year ago.Lemme blieve he will change wit time.Tanks

From wat u just said here, one of ur probs is sex life wit ur hubby! Do u get to climax in d act or just d style that is ur prob? Just listen to me, it took years to perfect in dis act, i was in ur shoes though as a man! I will give d key to d question wen u must answered ma qtn. Now, apart from sex life. These ar some of ur reasons for trying to go back to ur ex..... (1)u didnt go tru d rudiments of marriage course very well. Where are d transformation of marriage consciousness? (2) u ar still emotionally attached to ur ex, dis COULD b as a result of ur joblessness, some of ur friends still discuss him wit u awakening ur memories wit him; u still have his contacts - pictures, facebook access, bb, 2go etc (3) u bonded with him long enough and u ar now comparing him in some of hubby's deficiencies. (4) U dnt have respect for ur God, d ten commandments, dnt commit adultery.
Way out is to work on urself cos u ar d cost of ur prob.Its common wit human ma dear. Ibos use to say "Ifu oji odigi ka odi ocha".who told u that if u had married him, u wouldnt hv been wanting to go back to ur hubby supposing he was d one that is ur ex? Satan will always try to give us reason why we shld go astray! Marriage is for better or for worse, for better sex or for worse sex. Commitment holds u there for life. As i said, work on ur faith and ur self! All d best.

ifyalways: If you can type "buh" what really stops you from typing the right word seeing it's same 3 letter words
I'm not trying to correct your grammar(who born me) but rather your sentence structure and writing style.

So,have you done your ex already? How did it go? Any videos?

Post that u and ur boyfrnd first. Little brain @ifyalways

Still counting! A child is born, we want to name him or her,we call for a naming ceremony, if we want to take her to church, we call for a child dedication ceremony etc Now, we are not thinkin that that d child need money to give him or her sound and quality upbringing - good school, clothings, food, etc. When its time for responsibilities, we cry foul yet we keep spending unneccessary! Save ur family d stress of undergoing undue hardships. U can do without callin for cerebrations or spendin d little salary in ur pocket. Later, u blame it on government or ur village kindred. BEHAVE LIKE WHITES AND SAVE UR COSTS
Still counting.....

Great people of Nairalands,i greet u all! Its quite certain that i will b attacked by some people here but d truth is that we are d architects of our problems.
If a whiteman wants to wed, he will just walk up to d alter with d wife with d presence of few people,and d marriage is sealed. The next is 5 to 10 pix for documentary that will b taken. In Nigeria, the elders in the villa will demand for traditional rites, this is accompanied by lots of expenses ranging from introduction, paying of bride price, igba nkwu, festives for umuada,etc. They are mostly compulsory,else u will tasked and fined in one way or d other. U know village thing!
When u think that u are settled, d church will come up with theirs. Now, the only compulsory thing is clearance in d church and d ring but most people have blown d celebration out of proportionality. You can tell better!
Still counting.... Reasons why our ladies have remain unmarrierd, difficulties in d nation as a result of "enjoy today, poverish tommorow syndrone" in d land.
Wait, am coming, let me attend a naming ceremony, i will b back!"

ronkebp: Hmmmmm!!! akiika!!! now i know where the problem lies........SHE HAS FALLEN COMPLETELY OUT OF LOVE. The husband has lost on that one. there is no way you will treat someone like trash and expect them to love you in return. She has no cure for that one, unless he changes and turns a new leaf...if he doesn't he has lost his wife emotionally, mentally and psychologically... she is no longer his wife perse, only on the signed lines of their marraige certificate.

It is going to be a matter of time before she really sleeps with the person she is emotionally attached to and treats her well and when that happens, it is a big 'BYE-BYE' to the current union. she has not opened -up to you yet on how and what she is truely doing with her "real" feelings.

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take a break from d state! Mayb all arm robbers and kidnappers shld move to d state, they shld hv a stat e of their own with ibb and oka henry as governors and vice.

i hop our television stations would air d incident ! Atleast it wil help to boast d morale of our youths in other states. We shld take d bull by d horn and drive away d hoodlums out of govt. We shld take over our posessions NOW*

ibos una too much! Bba 4 naija. 3 to 5. Lets use an hausa man nxt year. Hop they wouldnt fail us.

:oD i like munya bt uti is my country man.

@beaf, got u bt then we shld undrstand d different between starting a fact and politically motivated fact to tarnish ones image and reputation! The 2nd is wat is applicable in d post! I wldnt be soundin high if i retort back!

@poster, guess u read d post that said many wil hang themselves if jonathan wins again? I fink u ar among d groups that wil nt see d light of d day if he wins cos of envy and hatred towards d family! Funny enuf, d more propaganda u carry against his presidency, the more u draw more crowd to him! Shameless and baseless post.

Let them start hanging themselves now esp farari or watever he calls himselve! I chopas not

Hey, ignorance is a diesease of d mind! How on earth would our people keep wallowing in ignorance? Akwei damua!

na waoh! Wonders shall never cease to happen! I just hop that im d father of my children! Guys, u can never be sure until u go for DNA test with ur children. A family with 3 dif fathers. It is always said that it is only d wife that knows who d father of d child is! Ewe!

Experience will teach u to b cautious. See dis ur trying days as if u ar bn prepared 4 d great day to come! Money has no permanent home and wil stil b back to u when u hv learnt d tricks on its manipulations. Relax and calm ur nerves down and get inspirations 4rm us and move on. Rem what God told u that he is there 4 u at al times even if d whole world abandon and reject u, he wil not,just cal him with ur mind and he wil answer u. D same thing i tell u here,we ar 4u here and wil never leave u. Find solace in d lord. Bless u.