KennyID17:


Babes, tell them, women just want to eat their cakes and still have it. U b beta pikin btw

Bumbae1:
Op youmade some good points
But

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These ladies need to work ! Work ! Work work work work
Yet they be singing Rihanna up n down

Please a lady too should have something to offer besides V jay jay
Personally if the lady doesnt work she should not even talk . 21st century we cry out for equal opportunity yet we expect guys to provide
Why can't we provide ? And then less financial stress on the guy

KennyID17:


Once again...

Omo ire bii custard, u are not a bastard

Amarabae:
NONSENSE. .
"Broke" is temporary, that he is broke today, does not mean He can't make it tomorrow.

Bumbae1:


Lol trust me Kenny .. na power couple be dat
Retire early enjoy your marriage and children .. its the ones who look at hubby for everything that end up
Then one marykay side bae go just the woman hubby

A womans worth !

Safiaa:
Yeah. Make your own money, of course. But that doesnt take away from the fact that women like to be taken care of. We can provide, but you'll need someone who can compliment that significantly. Trust me, it will cause problems in the run.

Bumbae1:

KennyID17:


Btw, u have become like Diamönd of late.

Bumbae1:

Yes of course its give and take
When your man knows you work hard ! And also look after the home . Children . He will do more and more without you asking .


Its like a friend of mine her hubby always talks to her anyhow .. like a piece of sh!t some of my friends said just leave the guy , blah blah blah . But the guy is a good guy really as he wasnt like that before .. in this country tax fit ki person so he was taking it out on her

You know the moment this lady got a job at a local chemist just weekends to help out .. things has changed now its me going to her to complain about guys but the guy didnt want to tell her due to his pride and ego .. as we speak they in spain on holiday ..

KennyID17:


That could be us, but........

Bumbae1:

Na wrk o even me don tire seff
Mynd44 come n bless this thread

KennyID17:


I undastand, just dey whine u nii

Bumbae1:

U wey lazy

Bumbae1:

Kontinue deyplay with tin wey go u

KennyID17:


Being reserved and reclusive don't translate to being lazy my dear!

Bumbae1:

See big big english

Bumbae1:
Op youmade some good points
But

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These ladies need to work ! Work ! Work work work work
Yet they be singing Rihanna up n down

Please a lady too should have something to offer besides V jay jay
Personally if the lady doesnt work she should not even talk . 21st century we cry out for equal opportunity yet we expect guys to provide
Why can't we provide ? And then less financial stress on the guy

[/quote][quote author=Safiaa post=55585676]I know most men will be triggered by the title of this thread, without reading what i have to say. I really couldn't care less lol. This thread is directed to the ladies !!!


Now ladies, i'm not encouraging you to be lazy gold diggers with no ambition. I'm not encouraging you to use a man entirely for his money. Get your education, work hard and make something of yourself. Strive to be successful. HOWEVER....

Don't be lured into what we call 'ride or die'. A lot of men are deluded by their unrealistic dreams and goals, and believe they can sell you that dream. They'll tell you that they want to do this and that, but they never work towards achieving their goals. I call them empty vessels. Its really sad, because I've seen so many women waste their youth on men who sold them a dream, and end up suffering for the rest of their lives. There's a difference between a broke man with a vision, and a broke man with a fantasy. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO. This is not Bonnie and Clyde, this is the real world, and if you can clearly see that this man is destined to be broke, RUNN!

As a woman, you need to use your YOUTH and BEAUTY to attract the best man who is financially stable as possible. This is not gold digging this is being SMART. Think about your children, think about your future. You don't want to be in your 30's wishing that you spent your younger years with another man. Money is very IMPORTANT in a relationship, and you need to be with someone who will compliment your finances.

Stop making excuses for men, who clearly don't have plans. Stop trying to be the ride or die chick, because you will die in poverty. Yes, we know that women can be the breadwinners of the house, But i can assure you that most women want to be taken care of. If you want to struggle with him now, open your eyes and be sure that you will NOT struggle with him FOREVER.

LADIES BE SMART, YOU'RE ONLY YOUNG ONCE! USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.

And then I ask myself.

Why do you have to be with a man at all?

Why can't you hustle hard and make your own money and remain comfortable the way you want so you can attract even richer men?

A wealthy woman will always have broke men running away from her while she attracts her kind.

Leave the guys alone. Whether they have vision or not, it's not your life it's theirs. On a general level no human wants to be poor so everybody knows they have to make that money.

Please it's not a do or die affair. Everybody should focus on their own hustle. While your man is working to achieve his vision what are you doing for yourself?

Waiting for him to make it so you can tag yourself the "wife that waited". I laugh in hispanic!

I say to you girls, it's not about being with the man. If you both are working hard to better yourselves this lame mentality won't even come to your head. If you're also full with vision you won't bother about your man and you can easily move ahead if you discover that he's not serious but by then you've built your own life.

But what do we have today? Girls who would rather jump from man to man citing examples as "he's visionless" while they themselves have not carried out any serious plans for their own lives.

A girl who is waiting on her man should also be doing something because even if you waited and he finally makes it you'd still be a liability to him.

Don't just sit down and wait for your man. Wait and hustle for yourself too. Who says a girl can't have visions?

Pffft!

Bumbae1:

Una no well o

Chai wetin i go do Op
N i like her o
Bet she got the wrong idea yes women should be smart but .. they should also be financially stable too

naijaboiy:


And then I ask myself.

Why do you have to be with a man at all?

Why can't you hustle hard and make your own money and remain comfortable the way you want so you can attract even richer men?

A wealthy woman will always have broke men running away from her while she attracts her kind.

Leave the guys alone. Whether they have vision or not, it's not your life it's theirs. On a general level no human wants to be poor so everybody knows they have to make that money.

Please it's not a do or die affair. Everybody should focus on their own hustle. While your man is working to achieve his vision what are you doing for yourself?

Waiting for him to make it so you can tag yourself the "wife that waited". I laugh in hispanic!

I say to you girls, it's not about being with the man. If you both are working hard to better yourselves this lame mentality won't even come to your head. If you're also full with vision you won't bother about your man and you can easily move ahead if you discover that he's not serious but by then you've built your own life.

But what do we have today? Girls who would rather jump from man to man citing examples as "he's visionless" while they themselves have not carried out any serious plans for their own lives.

A girl who is waiting on her man should also be doing something because even if you waited and he finally makes it you'd still be a liability to him.

Don't just sit down and wait for your man. Wait and hustle for yourself too. Who says a girl can't have visions?

Pffft!

naijaboiy:


And then I ask myself.

Why do you have to be with a man at all?

Why can't you hustle hard and make your own money and remain comfortable the way you want so you can attract even richer men?

A wealthy woman will always have broke men running away from her while she attracts her kind.

Leave the guys alone. Whether they have vision or not, it's not your life it's theirs. On a general level no human wants to be poor so everybody knows they have to make that money.

Please it's not a do or die affair. Everybody should focus on their own hustle. While your man is working to achieve his vision what are you doing for yourself?

Waiting for him to make it so you can tag yourself the "wife that waited". I laugh in hispanic!

I say to you girls, it's not about being with the man. If you both are working hard to better yourselves this lame mentality won't even come to your head. If you're also full with vision you won't bother about your man and you can easily move ahead if you discover that he's not serious but by then you've built your own life.

But what do we have today? Girls who would rather jump from man to man citing examples as "he's visionless" while they themselves have not carried out any serious plans for their own lives.

A girl who is waiting on her man should also be doing something because even if you waited and he finally makes it you'd still be a liability to him.

Don't just sit down and wait for your man. Wait and hustle for yourself too. Who says a girl can't have visions?

Pffft!

naijaboiy:


And then I ask myself.

Why do you have to be with a man at all?

Why can't you hustle hard and make your own money and remain comfortable the way you want so you can attract even richer men?

A wealthy woman will always have broke men running away from her while she attracts her kind.

Leave the guys alone. Whether they have vision or not, it's not your life it's theirs. On a general level no human wants to be poor so everybody knows they have to make that money.

Please it's not a do or die affair. Everybody should focus on their own hustle. While your man is working to achieve his vision what are you doing for yourself?

Waiting for him to make it so you can tag yourself the "wife that waited". I laugh in hispanic!

I say to you girls, it's not about being with the man. If you both are working hard to better yourselves this lame mentality won't even come to your head. If you're also full with vision you won't bother about your man and you can easily move ahead if you discover that he's not serious but by then you've built your own life.

But what do we have today? Girls who would rather jump from man to man citing examples as "he's visionless" while they themselves have not carried out any serious plans for their own lives.

A girl who is waiting on her man should also be doing something because even if you waited and he finally makes it you'd still be a liability to him.

Don't just sit down and wait for your man. Wait and hustle for yourself too. Who says a girl can't have visions?

Pffft!

lefulefu:

Bumbae1:


We don land o

lefulefu:

kennyID17 say make i give u popcorn

Safiaa:
I'm really finding it hard to understand what you've just said. As a women, especially in your prime you will attract men. It's inevitable. and unless you're a robot, you will entertain some of these men. My thread is trying to tell girls to be smart whilst entertaining these men. Nobody is disputing the fact that women should hustle hard. But realistically , if you're in a relationship with someone, or you're looking to settle down with a person, you cant say 'its their life not mine' You're building a life with someone together and what they choose to do will affect your life significantly. You don't build your life/ hustle to only please yourself. Yes, be successful on your own, but ensure that you be with a man who will compliment that, not a man who will bring you down.

Safiaa:
I'm really finding it hard to understand what you've just said. As a women, especially in your prime you will attract men. It's inevitable. and unless you're a robot, you will entertain some of these men. My thread is trying to tell girls to be smart whilst entertaining these men. Nobody is disputing the fact that women should hustle hard. But realistically , if you're in a relationship with someone, or you're looking to settle down with a person, you cant say 'its their life not mine' You're building a life with someone together and what they choose to do will affect your life significantly. You don't build your life/ hustle to only please yourself. Yes, be successful on your own, but ensure that you be with a man who will compliment that, not a man who will bring you down.

As a woman you'll attract men but it depends on the kind/type/class of woman you are.

If you're a wealthy woman you'll hardly find a poor man who wants to go into a serious relationship come to you except you approach him yourself.

Your thread is not telling these girls to be smart while entertaining these men. Your thread is advising your fellow girls to use their feminine touch to attract the rich and already made men and avoid the broke ones. That's what your thread is saying and even a dumb reader will deduce that fact.

Yes women should hustle hard and make their money because there is a very high probability for them to attract another rich guy. If you want to marry a rich guy then also try to be financially capable yourself and not using your beauty to entertain the men.

Your post is filled with sentiments and wrong advise to your fellow girls and I'll only laugh and shake my head in pity at the dumb ones who wouldn't be able to be subjective about what you wrote.

Now you're saying you're encouraging fellow girls to hustle. That's right. But you also said you women want to be treated like queens.

Does a queen work? Does a queen fight battles or hustle? No!

The moment you girls want to begin to feel like queens when you've not done anything that warrants a man to treat you like that then you're getting it all wrong.

You're a lady and you know your girls better than we guys. Ask yourself these questions...

How many girls in your circle are really looking forward to hustle hard to make it without thinking of using a man to get there?

How many ladies TRULY want to work hard at all?

How many girls want to go through the real stress of working hard and coming out successful?

We both know the answer to my questions.

So tell your girls to fulfill their lives first before coming to look for any guy at all. We are also Getting wiser.

The lazy ones we side chick them, the hard working ones we wife them.

Alesandese:
Exactly! If men are not ready to marry liabilities why should women do? No one should be a parasite in a relationship/ marriage.

alexis007:
I hate it when a guy argues with a lady...especially over something not too important. It's a WASTE of VALUABLE TIME and ENERGY...something I have noticed that most ladies relish.

As for me and my type....We'd keep balling...for our selves' sakes. And if we finally hit it big and a gold-digger from the side think she has seen a cow ready for milking, no problem. We at the same time would view her as a potential prey for money rituals. Her head must enter calabash.

My time for nonsense is up. Lemme go back to my hustle. God in his infinite mercy would bless it for me.