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IamD18:
In as much as I know that nature did some ladies harm with fish brain, hence their low ability to comprehend a simple shii.

I still won't mind stooping so low to clarify you.




Read and understand.

sharraapp

IamD18:
This is one of the relationship toughest and mind cracking statement i'v seen, and if truth must be told, i'll say most men won't know what to do with a woman who can't be impressed with money, that's why some rich made women rarely last in a marriage.

But I don't think men are to be blamed because most ladies tends to prioritize a man's financial abilities, hence the "Relationship-turn-to-transaction" we are experiencing these days, they hop into a relationship with the mindset of elevating themselves from poverty and obligating themselves to a man, and with this mindset, gives a man the reason to focus and upgrade only on his financial ability to keep the relationship going because that's the only thing ladies want.

I may not use myself a an example,but i think men can handle or show a women love if they decide to erase their money mindset and stop being a liability to a man.

Kindness, compassion, support, understanding, empathy, companionship, friendship, love, inspiration, motivation, vulnerability and intimacy are what men can offer a woman, but the sad and ugly fact is that women prefer money to these things and that's why men overlook what should rightly and affectionately be offered to a woman.

When both partners are poor, then will those aforementioned be seen.

Simple question they asked, you are babbling on about nothing. Smh

gholy292:
I'm 27yrs old I have a wife with 3kids plus a girlfriend with 1kid and also 7months pregnant I'm and earning 30k monthly only God is helping me to take care of them plus I rented a 3bedroom flat of 150k here at Ogun state and school will resume on Monday and I'm to pay their school fees of 28k

Its not easy at all only God is my helper not every man can take care of 2 women with 4kids with a monthly income of 30k and both of the women are not working they stay at home cause no enough money to open shop for them only me house rent school fees feeding and other daily needs

I’m so sorry but after the first child you should’ve realised that you were not capable of taking care of more financially. How could you? You’re only 27 with 4 kids with two different women, why did you purposely strip your youth away. This is the time that you should be focused on yourself and hustling to provide a better life. There’s a time for everything in life, well life is so unpredictable. I just hope that your situation motivates you to do better. Push yourself so your kids will not go through the same life you have now.

TheUpsetGirl1:
it's like you don't understand the meaning of independence..
just read the statement you made some weeks ago and tell me if you're independent.
You said you expect your man to pay for all the dates, your bills and all other expenses .
so what kind of independent lady are you? stop abusing that word please.

lalas247,Shugavee, greiboy,lefulefu you people should come and teach this girl the meaning of "financial independence"

No you need to educate yourself on financial independence. Don’t let me start with you, you will not like yourself, I swear down. Common comprehension is too difficult for you to understand.

TheUpsetGirl1:
you've started with your skewed generalization again.
where was that research conducted??

it's like you've dated all the men in Nigeria to conclude that they don't like independent women ,that's why you're scared of being independent..
such an human being.. smh

I’m very much independent honey. Just stating my truth

Rubbiish:
He spoke nothing but the hidden truth!

okay, but when you log off, you go back to the reality.

I only want one son. Tbh

princfred:
You for put for ladies. You make sense here shah.

For both men and women

She’s very pretty. Fresh fine woman.

Men like women they can impress. When you start showing that you’re too independent they begin to feel useless. They’ll move on to the next woman they can impress, so that could’ve been the problem. Or maybe he just wasn’t that into you in the first place. Well it’s only been two months, so I want to assume you’re not too emotionally invested. So disconnect yourself slowly as God is showing you signs.

greiboy:
hahaha



First of all, what gave the impression that jay z is more intellectually gifted than Beyonce. is it based on awards and achievement in their careers? or the versatility of the pair? I hope it's not solely based on money?

Beyonce has won several awards and accolades in her chosen career, She can sing , act and she writes some of her songs. She has a career spanning over three decades amongst other achievements.

Secondly, I gave examples of popular successful and married women and you claimed they are all exceptions without giving any substantial counter claim, like you have always done


Thirdly, your only proof is a thread you created last year to complain about the same thing you have been complaining about through out this thread. I am sure you didn't notice that I also contributed to that topic and I countered you there, just like I am doing here right now in fact, majority of the male remarks on that thread countered your view


Finally, I asked you an important question and you claimed it made no sense to you, perhaps you need to go over the meaning of independent ladies and why domineering men prefer the non independent ladies to understand that question properly.

ok

When you log off the internet and face reality all of this goes down the drain it’s all a fallacy. Wish you all a happy married life in the future

greiboy:
emboldened

Another very wrong assumption where you deliberately ignored available evidence

Dr Nogzi Iwela

late Dora

Former president of Liberia

Beyonce and so on are/were all successful women with successful marriages


Frankly, the aforementioned error which seems to be the main body of Your write up have just confirmed upset Girl's suspicions that you type a lot information without any proper evidence.


Finally, why is men different from women in this context? I need a proper explanation

Finally, aren't you the one once claiming that you can't date anyone not ready to take charge of your financial responsibilities some forth night ago. I.e. anyone not willing to spend for you. Isn't this the mindset that encourages the "take charge attitude" In men

ps
Slow response due to network issue

They’re always exceptions to every argument. I always say this. Not putting it into consideration that Jay z is richer/more successful/ intellectually above Beyoncé. Look at the everyday people around you, and not these famous people who fit into the minor exceptions. Women who are more successful/ intellectually above average find it difficult to meet men. Intimidation is the main reason. You can go through my thread to understand better
https://www.nairaland.com/4256290/nigerian-men-confused

Ps. Your last question doesn’t make sense to me x

greiboy:
I thought you are I'm the field of social science

I remembered you once made a remark about the course you were/are studying

I’m everything in the book.

greiboy:
Normally everyone is more comfortable with a person they can dominate. However, not everyone enjoys being in their comfort zone all the time.

Some people will rather prefer to be challenged because they understand the old saying that if "it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you"

Now! Upset girl just challenged your statement by asking you to submit a concrete evidence to back your statement, but you dodged the challenge by painting a picture of your experience that cannot be independently verified.

Thus, should I also assume that you will rather be comfortable with a man that will not challenge you intellectually?

Men and women are different. So asking me the last question is completely pointless, as it’s not related to what I’m saying.

The “challenge” that you talk of is understanding the dynamic of his conversation and putting your 2cents every now and then. But being his intellectual competitor is not what men like. You men don’t like to compete with women in any way, you like complete dominance, it’s your nature. You know deep down that’s true, they’ll always be minor exceptions. But when I speak on an argument it’s always the general thing. Why do you think women in high positions, women with phds and leadership roles are always single or normally just settle for anyone that comes their way? Whilst women who are receptionist, nusery teachers and not as much qualifications have men swirling around them? Intelligent women are intimidating to you.

greiboy:
@emboldened

Are you a man or psychologists?

You always claim to be more knowledgeable about men, probably than your own gender.

psychologists.

TheUpsetGirl1:
where was this research conducted?
I hate it when you comment on my threads this days.

Its what I know darling. Watch their actions don’t listen to what they say I’m not saying you have to be ditsy and just stupid, but being very intelligent is intimidating to them. It’s challenges their ego they’ll rather be with someone they can intellectually dominate. I know what I’m saying.

revontuli:
He says he's tired of buying weaves, white women don't use weaves. Obviously the guy is exclusively dating broke African ladies living in the UK. Maybe he should date successful Nigerian/African ladies like doctors, engineers, lawyers who make good money and buy their own stuff. If you date only for beauty and not pay attention to intelligence, education, career and personality, you get leeches and gold diggers.

men don’t like intelligent women, it’s intimidating and too challenging to their ego. When they say intelligent they mean a woman who can understand the dynamic of a conversation, but not a woman who knows it all. They don’t like women who are more intelligent than them. Men will always be fascinated with beauty more than anything else, it’s just their nature. Never listen to what they say, watch their actions.

Shouldn’t you be reaching menopause at 50? I’m confused.

20s.

Our best years, most selfish years, most physically active years, our most physically attractive years, most sociable years. Prime years, the years where the most opportunities will come.

Our most pressurised years, our most disappointing years. The years that determine our future, the years that make the biggest impact, the years that we learn the most about ourselves.

At the end of the day, make the best of your 20s. We may not accomplish all our goals or achieve everything we want, but do the most you can, live your life and most importantly make yourself happy. Comparison is a thief of joy, stay focused. Good luck to everyone in their 20s and hustling.

MistadeRegal:

Yea sure...Every woman stops aging once makeup is involved. She stopped aging due to makeup assistance. Not new.

makeup actually ages you. Generally it does. No amount of makeup can cover your age especially in your 50s and 40s. So this woman genuinely looks younger than her age.

Android better than iOS. Any day. Going back to android by the end ofthis year.

This millennium generation, I don’t understand. English? Comprehension? This picture was taken in 1913 what do you expect them to wear? This was the high class fashion back then.

It’s killing them that sex is the only thing they value. They don’t want to accept it, it’s not my fault. Change your mindset, change your type.

IamD18:
Your epistle can't save you from this mistake you made by indulging yourself in an argment witth me.

You aren't smart to play me.

Now, lets clear ourselves.

Below is my comment you quoted!



What then is holding you from answering the question in the comment?

Why embarrassing yourself just to sound smart?

Did I ask what women want from men?

My question was clear! What can you offer a rich man?

The question haaaarrrrrrdddd ooooooo

This is the same question that all Nigerian men ask, it’s almost like a rhetorical question because you don’t even know what you want yourself. Confused beings, as if you’ll be going up to women asking what they offer. Is it not common sense to know what you want in a woman and seek for those things? Done quoting you, as this convo is not going anywhere. You’ve proved my point, you’re just the typical silly little naija pikin who’s confused and lost, just like the rest of them. Have a nice evening sir

IamD18:
There's a thin line between "What can you offer" and "What do you want"

You quoted my comment where I asked "What can you offer a man?" and not "What do you want?"

I didn't ask you what you want from a man, I asked what can you offer?

Stop derailing from the point, you aren't smart enough to succeed with that to me.

Answer the comment you quoted.

What can you offer a rich man?

People are viewing, don't let them down, don't derail, be brave.

Question not answered. Simple question, with a simple answer. Ask them what they want, they derail. We only offer one thing, but what else do you value? What you seek is what you shall find. Women always make it clear to men what they want, we want providers. I don’t go up to men asking them what they offer, I know what I want and if they don’t have it, on to the next one. The truth is that you sincerely don’t know what you want, you value the so called borehole in between a woman’s legs more than anything else in your life. What do women offer? What do women offer? If a woman starts giving you money now, she’s intimidating and she’s emasculating you. If a woman provides sex she is useless and that’s all she offers. If a woman is there to support you emotionally and she’s alway there she is overbearing. Confused beings.

IamD18:
Whenever a lady is asked what she can offer a man, she'll twist back the question and ask what a man wants.



C'omon! Will you answer my question and stop disgracing yourself.

What can you offer a rich man that can provide?

loool if you ask me what I want from a man, I will tell you point blank period. I know what I want I’m a woman.

As a man, sincerely I don’t know what you guys want. So please tell me, what do you value in a relationship that a woman cannot easily give to me? Answer it, simple.

IamD18:
What can you offer a rich man?

Absolutely nothing!

question: what does the rich man or any man in general value in a relationship, that a woman cannot easily give? Answer that.

Women value men who can provide, and it’s clearly a problem for y’all. Smh.

UKmigrant:
25 degrees on flick baby

tribalmall:
Ugliness make people look older, that is why everyone think your cuz is older than her age.

Ordinarily I wouldn’t tell you this but for your ranting against everyone that thinks she’s older than 22 like you claim. To me she looks 32 n above. Someone who already had two children as well.

That is what ugly does to a soul.

this is not nice, seriously.