₦airaland Forum

chenzen:
are u better than them?

oga, that’s not the point.

Arguing with them is like talking to a brick wall. Their ego can never accept right from wrong. Goodnight.

Ebuka2016:


i cant accept it and move on. Final!

Being 48 and single is very advantagious to a man if he get the following: money, sex, kids.

As for the criticism that would come from parents, friends and well wishers, the man would simply travel to another country and only come back once in a year. Simple and short! Trust me, as a man, i really enjoy being single. I love it like women love money.

noted.

AstroG:
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Forget All these things your Blabbing abt
There is A Man in my Hood,he is past 40,upon all the pressures from everywhere to marry,he is yet to marry,but still very very happy. And another amazing fact is that he is Lawyer (SAN for that matter)

Not Everyone gives into pressures from people to go and marry
Like me,I don plan am say na two Babymamas I go get,no time to waste on these Nigerian Girls Op Aforementioned

noted

SonsOfLiverpool:
my dear am in my late 20s and I don't remember anyone telling me to go marry. Got a good paying job and I have lots of girls I can woo if I wish. Lots but no pressure.

some of my colleagues who are 5 years younger and many who are older and much much older are already in panick mode and am just using them to play always

ok

ndubueze92:
I haven't. I believe they're more loyal and open minded .

keep believing based off assumptions. Smh

SonsOfLiverpool:
the pressure on a 40years old man is equivalent to that on a 28years old girl and when a girl gets to 40 she is literally expired. As a man I can marry even at 60. Don't deceive yourself.

40 is too old sef. Just hit 29 and see the pressure. You people need to face the reality, when you log off NL you know what’s good in your hood. You can marry at 60 but is that ideal? When your children are 12 you’ll be on your death bed. Commot jare.

ndubueze92:
Believe me, apart from my mum.... I don't think there are any good women in Nigeria.
If perhaps I get a chance! I will marry a non Nigerian woman. kai! even Small Juliet is visiting Uncles and friends in Abakaliki, Owerri, Ebonyi, Abaj, Lag etc. The worst is they lie a lot and form nonsense.

have you ever dated a non Nigerian woman?

Ebuka2016:
sorry to say but if not for social conditioning, this is what a man really wants:

1. Money
2. Steady supply of sex
3. Kids (his own fresh and blood)

a woman comes with her own set of wahala and responsibilities. The responsibility woman dey carry dey come eeh, e no be here.

Men dont really need a woman to live with them for the rest of their lives, they rather need that which only a woman supplies- sex and kids

If for say men can impregnate themselves and give birth, no single man go ever marry.

Theres some truth to this. Won’t lie.

Ebuka2016:
there is no real one out there if you wanna go that route. How many women will marry a man without money? Its like a guy marrying a woman who is ugly. We fall for what we see. If it means our love aint real then it ok. No one is real out there.

And remember that men age like wine, not like women (una dey age like milk)

you are not exempt from pressure, final. Being 48 and single is not an advantage to you. Accept it and move on.

Saviour22:
and how did u know that, I have not date outside Nigerian? am right 80percent I mean 99percent of Nigeria women depends on Nigeria men too much, and they still want this men to them wit respect, while they are a burden. no one wants a burden in this time and age.

ok

Ebuka2016:
if a man is 48 and has money, he will easily get married (emphasis on easily).

Nope, not true and you know it. It’s even harder for a man with money. Sorry to burst your bubble. You have more options to choose from, yeah...but harder to see the real ones. At 48, you’re very old to a lot of younger women, they’ll take you for their sugar daddy.

Saviour22:
wen I mean ugly am not talking about appearance ,am talking about character, they nag too much, depends on men too much, anyway u are right

And how is this a Nigerian woman quality? Have you dated outside of Nigeria, I highly doubt.

pcguru1:
As in, that and plus the thought that 40 is just around the corner, i used to see 40 as my grandfather's age. chai indeed it is well

aww. Too bad, as long as you’re still open to it and not dehumanising Nigerian ladies I’m sure you’ll find someone soon enough.

Revolva:
this is because so many naija women are not worth it...they are fake..

have you ever dated a non Nigerian woman to confirm this?

BadBradley:
Women will always feel more pressured to marry than men will ever be.

i never disputed that homie. I just said men also receive pressure too especially in their 30s, so you’re not completely exempt from it.

pcguru1:
lol 38.....am massively feeling it at 32

It is well.

cruchenutii:
No. 38 is too long. I am 28 & my Pastor, Family friends are already reminding me of my age and introducing me to women in the church that i know nothing about. My friend who is also 28 is getting married this Saturday to a girl who is 25. I am sad and happy at the same time.

The pressure is getting to me. I'm a guy & not even a lady.

I always say the truth. Not favourable to all, but the truth nevertheless

BadBradley:
the only stat you need to know is that over 150,000 girls turn 18 in Nigeria daily.

And?

BadBradley:
7 billion? That's the entire human population of both sexes!

you get my point.

Uguruzik:
How does that affect the marriage you are planning? Having a child is never a bad thing. And the woman is not in his life anymore, na waao! You can complain over every little thing. I just hope you won't tell him to kill his child as we read here last week. Go on and marry him if you both are ready and willing.

just listen to your self. Pitiful.

Ugosample:
not always true

A lot of men at 38 sef don't feel it much, especially when his mates gist him about the horrors they go through in their own marriages

The truth is that marriage to a large extent not worth it to the man here .
the wahala is too much

yeah yeah yeah, story story.. next...

Grayjoy:
Ur points are so pointless that they don't need to be disaproved. B4 nailing the Nigerian ladies, it is adviceable to make research on non Nigerian ladies.

They think non Nigerian ladies are special specimens that were created from gold dust. It will shock you!!!!! Some of my non naija friends are devils in disguise Loool. They are probably worse, they will suck you dry, but their brains are conditioned to belive anything from their country is less than others. I don’t blame them anyway.

skywalker240:
If am correct, thats the same age range your present guy is.
Kai i can imagine gthe pressure from his family. He is maybe yet to learn the hard way abi? and who told you toks2008 is single?.. Woman,
if u have noting reasonable to argue jst zip it up.r

Am starting tprechbills might be right when he called you double standard.

Yes thats the same age, and he’s made it very clear that he’s ready to settle down. He spent his younger life playing around like most of you do, so what is your argument here? If toks2008 is not single, that’s great. But from what I know, he is single.

Fadiga24:
Why didn't she come with her umbrella

excuse me?

CSTR1003:
That is indeed a lot of things to love about someone.

Many people got married to their partners for much less.

Lmao. Funny but true.

MrBrownJay1:
but the problem here is...
A) the man does NOT want to get married, and that should be the end of the discussion
B) it can NEVER be the end of discussion because this is not about men, but it is solely about WOMEN (and their body clock) who are the ones desperate to find a mate (at any cost) and who would therefore see men unwilling to get married as an abomination (but hey, who will marry them single babes if baby mamas are willing to settle with men unmarried?!?)
C) you are trying to scare this man by telling him about what "may" happen in a few yrs.....while we all know that this aint true.
D) but even if it was true, the way women are desperate to get married these days, ANY man of ANY age, with the right economic status (aka a good job/house/and pocket money), can find 10 women to marry, on ANY given day of the week, in Nigeria.

so the important question would be: why the rush for marriage

women are getting married every Saturday, like I said it’s not my problem. He is one man out of 7 billion, and he’ll probably still get married anyway. Social media is an avenue for people to express their thoughts that they’ll never act on anyways most of the time. I could care less, just stating the obvious.

Your D point, honey it’s not that easy. It’s even harder for men to settle down because there’s a lot that comes with it. They have a lot to lose and like you insinuated, there’s not a lot of ‘good women’ out there. So face the reality

CSTR1003:
Are you in love already?

Whenever I hear "there is something about you, I can't put a finger on it ", it only means one thing.

In love with his style and charisma, yeah.

DonPiiko:
He is happily married

So?

There’s something about ebuka . I can’t put a finger on it, but he wears the clothes, not the other way round.

MrBrownJay1:
...and at the rate at which young women are desperate to marry, he would easily find one (25 or younger) if he desires to do so at 35, 45 or even 70 (ask Oshiomole). but the fact that you would expect him to do so, right now, even though he clearly doesnt want to, is where the issue lies.

let each and everyone live their lives the way they see fit. those that one to get married, let them get married...and the ones that dont, equally shouldnt get married and be happy

Easily? With all this paranoia and fear he has about marriage, what makes you think he’ll easily get married at 38? Getting married is not just a snap on the finger, especially with his mindset. Each to their own, not forcing him at all. Just stating what is bound to happen in a few years. If he wants to be single forever, then so be it.

KOPT33:
Are you depressed? You sound like you have a great sorrow somewhere in the recesses of your mind dripping into your consciousness like a tap half-closed. Where you are coming from, is where I have been, but resolutely dug myself out of.

I come from an extremely poor home. We weren't always poor, that is, we were doing fine until my father became sick, and he being the breadwinner of the family couldn't provide for us anymore. He was bedridden for sixteen years and finally departed some eleven years ago when I was just 15 years old. My mom is the one who carried us, fed us, bathed us, fathered, and mothered us. Today, at the age of forty-nine, she looks a decade older on account of the stress and suffering she saw with whilst raising us.

All of these things make me sad when I reflect upon them. For one, my education would have been smoother, my life would have been a vertical plane of one achievement piled atop another, but it isn't; things turned out the way they did--for this, I am both thankful and dismayed. But it's fine, material well-being is not a given in our society and if we dwell too much on our lack, we forget the most important thing we have: our heart, our sensibilities, the gift of breath and the daily bread: regardless of how strong or small it is; we are still living, and for this we should be thankful.

If you desire the good things of life, don't stay back, don't be constrained by your environment. In my next post, I will share with you what my mentor advised me to do some six years ago when I was in your shoes; but till then, keep dreaming, keep smiling, keep aspiring, and enjoying life.

very nice message