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olaboy1:
I’m sure you know guys like me can get as many sex as we want from many girls as we deem fit. I’ve had sex with multiple women in a day that I couldn’t deal with more because I was tapped out, so sex does not keep men like me.

One of my ex’s attracted me when I saw she was sending money to this poor girl in an orphanage home from the little she was earning. Those little things keep us not some sloppy wet kitten that sometimes personally I resent because of the odour.....no pun intended.

Thank you for the story, I’m enlightened. But you did not answer my question. Please answer it.

bammy777:
safi, this shouldn't even be an argument cus you know to get food you need money, people starve themselves to make money. don't even go there. well, I like the idea of you're broke, I don't do your type cus it's been motivating dudes since OG days but please don't be surprised when the dude isn't broke no more and decides to do only rich babess. And rich also ar in classes, so I hope u ar getting paid.

The physical and mental abilities of men were created to be active in labour. To generate what? Money. Why men have become so lazy and victimised I don’t understand. It’s not even about being a millionaire just a basic provider and you men are shouting claiming you can’t do it, yet that’s your purpose on this earth. Even to provide for yourself, na problem. Just to sit and play video games,smoke weed all day and drink alcohol. All shall be well. That’s the main reason why women are doing better in the coperate world.

UDUJ:
No one doubts that. A girl in a relationship will never spend countless hours online like you see these nairaland ladies do. They will be out on a date with their significant other or spending time doing more productive stuff. Not whiling away their time spewing trash on an online forum. Just reeks of frustration and desperation

Do you go on dates 7 days a week in your world? Do you constantly smother your partner with calls and texts 24 hours. So I cannot live my life again because I have a boyfriend. Wow I’m amazed.

Shugavee:
that's very very wrong ma'am!! Domestic violence is most common in Rich homes n comfortable homes!!! Very rare in poor homes!! Most women married to rich men , are likely not to talk much abt it cause they wont leave the marriage cause of money!!! Poor women talk abt it more cause they feel they got nothing to loose!!

and that’s why it’s important to have your own money, to have the strength to leave. You can’t be 100% dependent and stay in cases like that. That’s not very smart at all.

olaboy1:
Hahahaha Nigerian girls desperately trying to corner the men into permanent provider roles without bringing anything to the table.
Only a low self esteem Nigerian guy would settle for the kind of crap I’m reading here. I consider myself to be 8/10 and I’m very rich and I don’t have a problem dating a dirt poor girl and will NEVER see myself as doing her a favor, but I will go on ghost mode once I sense any sense of entitlement from her.

You are not doing men any sex favor, and you girls need to stop acting like your clitoris don’t pulsate during ovulation, money can’t be the only thing that makes your kitten wet.

Na body go tell you when you get to 35yrs and your sexual market value starts dropping fast like bitcoin.

One question. What else do you want on the table apart from sex? What else Is extremely valuable to you in a relationship apart from sex? Putting emotions aside and companionship.

bammy777:
well food isn't as sensitive has money so it's shouldn't be compared relatively.

why? Money can be made, cooking can be learnt. They’re both very much motherly and fatherly characteristic, no?

makydebbie:
Safiaa, hope you don't think sex is one sided too and it we giving the favor?

Both gain pleasure from sex, (even though it’s harder for women to enjoy it) yes. But who pursues and chases the sex 90% time? Who has the power to say no most times? Who begs to have sex most times? The man. Therefore I’m giving the sex, giving him my body and he is receiving.

bammy777:
common don't do this. didn't u read what u posted, u made priority by connecting everything to returning the favour of supporting FINANCIALLY

does that mean I’m ONLY dating you for your money? Your top priority in a girl can be a cook good. Does that mean you’re only dating her for her food lol?

MetalJigsaw:
parasitic eediot

Means a lot to me Sir.

bammy777:
well since its about getting paid, den I should employ more staffs to improve the labour contribution to my chilling, u shouldn't get mad when I am not emotionally connected since u ar doing it for the money, then u shudnt call me out when I decided to marry someone else after spending so much time with u since I paid for everything I got, babe don't u get it, u can't pay a staff all due payment and get blamed for sacking u when there is need to upgrade in the company since u ar getting paid.

But who said I’m only dating you for the money? Lol you people refuse to comprehend shaaaaa

greiboy:
No I am missing a Loserpool game i really need to watch now,

Next time

later x

donstan18:
After going through the comments herein, I nodded my hhead and laughed.


The bitter truth is, social media appearance is not reality.

These ladies who cry that they love rich men are the ones dating a struggling guy in real.

Nland ladies are the same ladies we see everyday in real, believe me.

Take for instance, how many of us here have seen a feminist in real or a lady claiming to be a feminist in real.

I can bet you that most Nland ladies are single and ready to accept any man that comes their way, it's a psychological observation.


In reality, you won't see a lady calling men 'Scum', you won't see a lady claiming a feminist, you won't see a lady hating struggling guys, all these formings and claims are exhibited on internet by them.


Safiaa is not dating a wealthy guy, but an average guy if atall she's dating.

Highpriestess is single and searching.

Thegeneralqueen is single .

Safiaa is an emotional lady who claims tough on media, one thing i like about her is that she's psychologically good in reading and controlling men who aren't smart to decode her motives, she's psychologically playing with you all here, she pulling your legs and you all are falling for it, her comments only revolves around transaction in relationship. I asked a favour from her, but her instinct saved her from my prepared wrath.

Highpriestess is a social media slayqueen who don't believe in love, she's single and ready to transact with a man for money-fvck . She's yet to face life.

Thegeneralqueen is a single lady, but looks like a funny woman in real, she's just an attention seeker with her money obsessed provocative comments.


If you are psychologically active, you'll understand me.

Brethren, do well to disregard what you see women claim on social media, they are just he ladies we see every day.

Nothing special.

ahn ahn all this for me. Well my dude is above average, not a millionaire but good enough lol. I’m only saying what people think in their heads but are scared to say. I also used to belive in only love when I was 15 but I grew up and realised there’s more to love. Love is not enough

chukzyfcbb:
If you don't want to spend on your lady, fine.

if you want to empty your purse on a lady fine.

My dad didn't give my mom monthly stipends, but he Spoils her silly with gifts and money to shop when she or request.

There are some marriages where the husband pay some sort of monthly stipend to the wife for her upkeep.

Relationships differ. All I know is You cannot claim to Love without Giving.

.Even God GAVE us his ONLY SON, because of the LOVE he had for us

Thanks. Finally!

greiboy:
I think the marriage discussions should be for another thread.

nope. It’s all in correlation to this thread.

greiboy:
The thread is about dating and you made a remark on the first page which I helped you translate to the simplest form, perhaps you need to go over our discussions again.

I was careful to avoid the use of marriage in our discussions.

You used the term ‘“life patner” and other words which insuiated marriage. Anyways whatever innit.

bammy777:
lol, like I don't have my own emotions, biological clock, lyk she isn't getting my own body, like I don't have my own prime, c am not saying spening on a lady is bad but don't make me feel like am obliged to spend on her, the only thing am obliged to spend money on are whatever makes me more money . c babe, if I don't spend on my babe, I wud just hate myself, but don't tag it like you're doing me a favour, like I can't get better trills with another babe, God I can't wait to go outta this country and experience real relationship. Yee babe's mentality is Bleep*d up

Nope you don’t have a biological clock. You can reproduce at any age and get married at 65. Your sexual market increases as you age. You don’t run on emotions like women do, we are completely different. Stop comparing, it doesn’t work like that. Men have a much larger time scale in comparison to women, thats the truth. Men seek for the sex 90% of the time, therefore women give the sex whilst the men receive it, so I’m giving you my body. Men don’t have a “mileage” like women do. Well it’s all up to you at the end of the day.

greiboy:
Many ladies will still remain single for eternity because of this strange mentality.

This mentality has claimed many victims.

You could be the next victim

Watch out

Nope. I’ve seen so many women who want to play madam to men, and it never ends well. Women who don’t date up or at worst their equal, and always end up regretting in the long run. It’s not about marrying a millionaire or billionaire that can be unrealistic. Just a financial dominant provider, it’s not too much to ask for greyboiy, honestly.

greiboy:
Kk can you do me a favor and point to where I used marriage to counter your analogy ?

I was initially talking about marriage, and looking for a long term partner. I was saying how a woman with money will still prioritise a man with money. Then you said no, then I used the cooking analogy, you countered it, and I argued back, then you said we’re not talking about marriage but dating. But we’ve been talking about marriage/ life partners since the beginning of this argument, so I don’t understand why you said that.

greiboy:
You have managed to confused yourself. Where did I use marriage to counter your analogy in my previous post.

btw all those words mean literally similar thing

yeah I’m genuinely confused.

greiboy:
Where did I counter your analogy with marriage, perhaps my use of the world "future partner" might have confused you

future partner? Abi na boyfriend and girlfriend you want to remain in the future? Like I don’t understand you guy.

BiggyB242:
Exactly, get your self a provider and I get my self a supporter/independent lady. We all got our spec, but trying to make the other party see your option as the best option is wrong.

Happy weekend.

Why is it wrong? Isn’t that what arguments are about? To see your option as the best? Anyways I was being sarcastic, but you didn’t get it.

Same to you.

lwanga1993:
to slap this safiaa girl dey hungry me...... see mentality........ doing me a favour my foot....
relationship is supposed to be on mutual grounds.. no one is doing anybody a favour here............

Subconsciously she is doing you a favour.

greiboy:
@ embolden

We are still on romantic relationships and dating not marriages

Not every woman is motherly in nature and not every relationship will end in marriage

Marriage should a totally different subject for another thread.

yeah but dating leads to marriage and you tried to counter my analogy which was based on marriage. What are you saying ? Lol I think you’re confused.

KevinDein:
Birds of a feather flock together. The fact that you and your friends have that mentality doesn't make it the norm or reality. Even on this thread a lady vehemently disagreed with you. I also know ladies who will feel insulted by your posts.

Your opinion is not reality.

Lool. Alrighty I’m not forcing my ‘opinion’ down anyone’s throat. Just stating it, as well as you’re stating yours. We can agree to disagree.

greiboy:
@Embodened

You have messed up another analogy

A guy that cook very well wouldn't have cooking as his top priority when searching for a life partner, same way as an independent lady shouldn't be bothered about the money and financial prowess of her future boyfriend.

Notwithstanding, not making a future partner's financial prowess a main concern in relationship doesn't mean a lady will rather settle for a broke and unambitious man. it simply means that his money and how he spends it is not her top priority in the relationship.

Clearly, that seems to be your major priority, but it is cool.

We don't need to have similar principles about life.

Yes a man who can cook will still prioritize a woman who can cook as a partner. It goes deeper than just preparing a meal but feeding and nurturing his children. It’s a motherly characteristic that shows she’ll be able take care of his family and probably extended. A woman with money will also want a man with money, it will definitely be a priority for her. Whether you accept it or not is your own.

BiggyB242:
Lol, you should say " I want a provider" don't women. Secondly, get yourself a sugar daddy, he will provide for you.

As for the young men, we want a symbiotic relationship not a saprophytic one- someone who we can plan together and achieve our goal not leaches.

Sign out.

A.k.A a woman who can accept me for who I am, but I will not accept her if she doesn’t have the criterias I want in a wife. My brother, I understand completely. Have a fantastic day.

KevinDein:
Your opinion is not reality. Don't mistake the two.

To you, but to me is is. I see it all around me

lefulefu:
a girl can actually date 30 guys at d same time and the so called boyfriend might not be any wiser. The day a lady starts complaining that her boyfriend is not taking care of her financial needs seriously then that's d day d boyfriend if he's wise should know dats she's seeing other men that she's sleeping with in exchange for money. She's just comparing these men to her boyfriend.

Theres no way you can be with someone and you won’t see signs she’s seeing multiple other people. Unless you’re blinded by love, very slow or just naive. Women are good at cheating, but they’ll always be signs. Trust me.

BiggyB242:
My dear, happy family they got. As I speak they're planning relocating out of the country. My dear, you and those in your circle are the ones with that mindset. They might have issue but is never "money"

My current gf don't ask me a dime she is doing well for herself. I do give her some trips and she reciprocate.

Cooperation and understanding is the key. It doesn't matter who has to take care of who.

You dont know what goes on in their family, like i said you can only assume. Generally women want providers as hubands, men want nurturers as wives. It’s that simple.

greiboy:
Your statements is full of contradictions

@ highlighted red

You believed it's important for women to be independent in a relationship, which is to suggest you can take good care of yourself without a man

@ highlighted blue

You are advocating for dependence immediately after your relationship status changes

Why should a man contribute to your financial situation? is the man going to bring other financial burden into your life that requires additional financial support?

Aren't going to be the same safia before and during a relationship?

Are you suggesting in any way that you will start living above your means because of a new boyfriend? That is not far from a gold digger mentality you know

How is that a contridiction? So because you can cook for yourself does that mean you shouldnt look for a wife that can cook? Listen, there must be a purpose when somebody comes into your life. A woman having her own money doesnt mean she should lower her standards and date a man without money. A woman should always aim higher, thats how the dynamic of a relationship should be. Anyways you dont have to understand, but those who do, will do.

Intrepid01:
omo that Safiaa girl mistook this discussion for that of a prostitute. Even a fellow lady tried correcting her, yet she refused..I pray and I pray for myself not to meet your type of lady for relationship in life....Amen.

lool. Nothing to do with prostitution lol, its just the reality.

BiggyB242:
Lol, my dear. Before my cuz got married his wife receives twice his salary. If she had thought she wouldn't have gotten married. I just they laugh you. Reason you average looking girls getting married everyday why those beautiful slay queen are still single in their late 30's. Well I rest my case. I non get strength to argue with you.

Do you know what happens in their home? Do you know what goes on in her mind? Listen, the truth will always remain the truth, take it or leave it. Women want men who can provide, period.