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Oyindidi:
Wow! Thank God you're okay. A neighbor of mine married a lady that had problem with his friend. The lady is always coming to their office to fight with his friend and he was their then counsellor (according to him). He eventually fell in love with her (daughter of Jezebel) and they wedded. Exactly one year after their marriage, she had a baby girl for him. He was like a houseboy and we the neighbors do make fun of him. There was day he ran out of the house bleeding, she broke his head. Though he is a Playboy, he ran into the arm of another lady from his marriage.
This lady was hot tempered but he snatched her from his friend not knowing he is taking away his burden.

Gbeborun! (Snitch)

Why are you telling everyone the story of my life?

GoodBoi1:
Beware of toxic people. Don't wait till you marry one, the moment you notice any red flag cut the person off without looking back. Toxic people can make one lose focus of other important areas of your life. God forbid, I will never end up with wrong woman, why should a man be tensed up when he's approaching his house. I can never be in a relationship with nagging woman. Why will a woman frustrate my life? I know how troublesome women can be. [s]That's why it's good to pray for God''s leading.[/s]

Your head is very correct, nigga.

I find it such an easy thing and easy choice.

Mznaett:
Eyah!


It's a pity the whole signs were there but you choose to ignore with the hope that "love" covers all...

It's good you're trying to bounce back to life... But this time, ensure you do it with caution.

Abi o.

Lorfu!

Fck that! I am out of it straight up.

Fck love in that situation.

honesttruth:
.....but also had an unhealthy dose of bitterness, easily offended, never forgives, extremely mouthy & hot headed when trying to pass a point.
.......

Fast forward to marriage, my wife now lives in bitterness, extreme resentment towards I, my family & even spilling to a few church brethren. The once committed lady immediately after marriage now constantly uses any opportunity to stiffly oppose & rub shoulders even if it means going dirty; now expresses disregard & sarcasm constantly towards the union. She will take any spoken word (even if it's a compliment) out of context magnifying it to dangerous interpretations just to justify her bitterness/resentment; broadcasts to every available ear with the sole aim of seeking approvals, once you don't see things the way she does especially after hearing from me you automatically turn to an enemy no matter your good intentions. This has made her withdrawn & indifferent to almost every one around us. Correction is repulsive to her as life in that angle is a competition of being blamed or not. ...........

You got yourself a catch there, mate.

Please where can I find one like this too to marry?

greiboy:
okay I am your boy

What is your substantial counter? besides questions

This has turned into an interview session, rather than a constructive discussion.

Cut the crap and show me your evidence for your reetarded assertion.

You pull "facts" from your arse and the hope you can deflect from your stupidity when challenged by putting burden of proof on the other person?

greiboy:
I have defended my "lame arguments" from the third page of this thread and the beginning of this discussion.

All you have done is to question my arguments without providing any substantial counter whatsoever.

I am no longer interested in running around with you, if you are not ready to contribute meaningfully to the arguments

You call crap and nonsense "defending"?

I should not question your crap and nonsense?

Run, boy. If you had more sense you would have done that much earlier instead of thinking you are smart enough to pull the wool over my eyes in an argument.

100 of you can't!

Next time don't be talking crap you cannot defend, especially when I am on the thread. That would be fcking smart!

greiboy:
Well, I have shown more than one, even of you don't accept the research approach. it is normal in academics

Now! Show me yours to prove having more than one sex partner is a good thing and not alternative reality

You have shown nonsense!

Show me your "scientific research and facts" that shows having multiple sex partners would lead to people taking drugs, alcohol and develop psychological problem.

You can't deflect arguments from me, boy.

greiboy:
Why don't you lecture me

It seems you are only good at asking unrelated questions

Defend your lame arguments.

I should defend them for you?

You don't know your own arguments before you made it?

That proves my point: "You say things you don't for a second believe nor that reflects you or your true beliefs; just things to get female affirmation. You are a Simp!"

greiboy:
Do you read the fucking report at all?

They highlighted that as a reason for taking other related metal problems into account to solve any potential issues correlation could bring into the research

Correlation shows a statistical relationship between two variables but it doesn't necessarily mean one of the events actually led to another event . The scientists took metal health problems out of possible equation (what could have brought about the relationship) to improve the results and the correlation was still there.

That was the whole point of the research

Why should I read the whole report?

Show me your "scientific research and facts" that shows having multiple sex partners would lead to people taking drugs, alcohol and develop psychological problem.

I am not the type you can obfuscate.

greiboy:
Bro be humble and stop talking trash

A quick search on google should do the trick

Stop chatting crap!

Do you know the meaning and origins of morals?

Where is your ethic "globally accepted"?

greiboy:
Your use of vulgar language in a constructive argument shows who is the retarded here

Nope I am going that route with you. .


An amazing large percentage (96%) remained available for testing over that 30-year period. At ages 21, 26, and 32, they were given individual assessments on their mental health status in the areas of anxiety, depression, and substance (cannabis and/or alcohol) dependence. They were asked to report on the number of sex partners at each interval as well, allowing the researchers to compute the number of partners per year. With these data in hand, Ramrakha and team were able to calculate the odds of a participant developing a psychological disorder while controlling for earlier mental health problems at each test occasion.

For both men and women, taking into account prior psychological disorders, the odds of developing substance dependence increased virtually linearly with the number of sex partners

Hope that is clear enough

Did you not learn in school that correlation is not the same thing as causation?

greiboy:
if you know how to use Google

That is the first definition that pops up.

Why don't you give me definition with a source to counter it

You said your ethics was "globally accepted"?

So you are now saying you did not get this affirmation from the UN Security Council?

You are full of shyt!

I know this, that was why I picked on you.

You say things you don't for a second believe nor that reflects you or your true beliefs; just things to get female affirmation. You are a Simp!

When you are challenged, you try to engage in subtle flattery, ingratiation and obfuscation. That wouldn't work with me, nigga.

greiboy:
Bro do you read at all

The introduced of a research is quite different from the conclusion; D


Don't you know that? the conclusion still affirms my observations

No you are the clown taking word out of context

Word out of context?

Biiatch, are you reeatarded?

You can't defend you simping junk.

Show me the "FACTS" that shows how having multiple sex partners lead to problems like

- Excessive use of drugs and alcohol to increase sexual prowess by male and female

- Exposure to unnecessary stress that could lead to illness and psychological disorders?

greiboy:
ethics is a set of moral principles, especially ones relating to or affirming a specified group, field, or form of conduct.

You said it was "globally accepted"?

Was that "fact" too?

Do you know whe meaning and origins of morals?

greiboy:
you are one funny dude

So first of all you read the beginning of a research and take words out of context to discredit the research

Don't you understand that every research point to flaws in previous research as a way to justify new research approach to solve the same problem.

Do you know how empirical studies work at all?


Here is conclusion of the study for better understanding

For both men and women, taking into account prior psychological disorders, the odds of developing substance dependence increased virtually linearly with the number of sex partners. The relationship was particularly pronounced,

What a joke!

So why did you bring "research" then to back up your lame points if you know research is not factual?

Who said this?

greiboy:
I stated my opinion based on globally acceptable definitions of ethics, I even referenced other definitions such as cheap sluts and promiscuous to clarify my claims

I gave you links to back my health danger assertion.

on the other hand, you have dismissed all my arguments based on your perceptions (alternative reality) without providing much evidence to back up your claims

So who is arguing without facts btw me and you.

Was the research YOU provided and are now discrediting, your "facts"?

Stop talking simping crap, mate!

greiboy:
I stated my opinion based on globally acceptable definitions of ethics, I even referenced other definitions such as cheap sluts and promiscuous to clarify my claims

I gave you links to back my health danger assertion.

on the other hand, you have dismissed all my arguments based on your perceptions (alternative reality) without providing much evidence to back up your claims

So who is arguing without facts btw me and you.

Where did you get the "globally acceptable definitions of ethics"?

Please give me your source.

greiboy:
https://m.ranker.com/list/multiple-sexual-partners-diseases-with-this-risk-factor/reference

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/multiple-sex-partners-greater-risk-cervical-cancer-0

Have you ever heard of condoms?

I thought you claimed you understood risk mitigations and management?

greiboy:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201304/the-lingering-psychological-effects-multiple-sex-partners

And to compound the complete nonsense you are trying to back up, you decided to provide proof that actually argues against your lame assertions and does not even attempt to back up most of your assertions.

"The mental health consequences of having multiple sex partners were long thought to include greater rates of anxiety and depression. At the same time, high rates of alcohol and substance abuse were thought to increase the chances of young adults engaging in unsafe sex with multiple partners. New research from a longitudinal study of over 1,000 New Zealanders shows that, surprisingly, neither of these assertions is true."

I don't know how anyone can say having multiple partners would lead to drink, drugs and whatever other nonsense.

To anyone with a brain, it is the character and health issues that can lead to those.

Correlation is not causation.

greiboy:
You are the one running around with the topic

I have stated the reasons I don't support it from beginning and it's based on ethics and other dangers related to it i.e. possible health problems and social problems

The links I posted in my last comments are online sources of the health challenges related to it.

You stated nonsense, mate.

You have not stated why it is wrong, you just stated your supposed principles (which are wrong).

And even refuse to answer a question that probably would expose you. That is, would you sleep with multiple women.

And you just added more nonsense you cannot defend, ala drugs and alcohol and psychoological total BS!

The problem with you, which I have observed in the last few weeks (and why I specifically choose to challenge you) is that you love to say what you think would be amiable with the women folk. Things I don't for a second believe reflects you or your true beliefs. It is called "Simping"!

greiboy:
lol

All I can deduct from what you have scribbled together

>You have simplified love to just sex because any other thing will mean you are too holy, or too religious

>You can never trust any woman


>You build your relationships based on lies because it is a golden rule available on reddit (your reference)

Well it is not entirely hard to understand all your relationship choices based on the summary of the points you raised and why you are not willing to consider my option

>You also think I make comments to please women because I don't necessarily attack them the way you do, even though 90% of my comments on this very thread is a constructive criticism of women
in relation to sex which is contradictory to your assertion

These are what informed my decision to stick with one partner

> Trust

it is very important in any relationship because a person that doesn't trust others, can't trust his/ her self.. you can see why we may differ on the issue of sleeping around with ladies. I trust my self not sleep around

> I have not simplified love to sex because love is more than sex. I want to able to settle down with someone like mama peace or Aisha Buhari that will inspire me to greater heights not a common hooker on the street side because of her body or sexual abilities.

Plus if i don't have trust anyone how can i build such relationships?

> I don't want a relationship based on lies because anything based on lies will surely crash, Lies is a faulty foundation for any successful endeavor. Any partnership based on lies and deception often end in a bad way.

For instance, Take a look at the current crisis in the ruling and opposition parties in Nigeria. it is as result of deceit

So I tend to be more patient observing the characters and traits of the lady I want to settle down with..

Hope you understand why we are not the same because of these fundamental differences.

Oh! the junks I posted is the opinion of many experts based on facts not just fallacy

Do well to post the dangers of monogamous relationships

https://m.ranker.com/list/multiple-sexual-partners-diseases-with-this-risk-factor/reference

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/multiple-sex-partners-greater-risk-cervical-cancer-0

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201304/the-lingering-psychological-effects-multiple-sex-partners

Honestly, you are just using all this conjectures as distraction from your challenged point.

I will come back to this.

Let me first drag you back to "why it is wrong to sleep with strangers".

Back to that, how does having multiple sex partners lead to problems like

- Excessive use of drugs and alcohol to increase sexual prowess by male and female

- Exposure to unnecessary stress that could lead to illness and psychological disorders?

greiboy:
So in other words, you are more interested in the body of a girl than her personality and other value added attributes of the girl like character

Of course! WTF?

What the fck did you think?

I want to marry or spend the rest of my life with any woman I engage with?

Is that what you would claim when you approach women? You are approaching her for her character?

greiboy:
So you don't usually have plans for these ladies you take from the clubs to your room to screw out of their minds? if that isn't true , then do you realize we spend more time together in any reasonable relationship than the few minutes we spend on sexing each other?

What kind of fcking question is this for fck sake?

No ooo!

I want to save them ni. I want to introduce them to Jesus Christ so they can enter the kingdom of God.

I really don't get that silly real man logic you espoused above. I spend more time on my own than with any woman.

greiboy:
So judging by your write up, you might abandon those ladies after realizing their characters is not compatible and leave it as just a "one night stand"

Cut this 'real man' crap, mate.

Abandon?

Na me born dem. You want me to adopt? Where is the adoption agency?

All this silly "real man" terminologies and use of words. It is their right I should be with them because I slept with them irrespective of their personality or my desires? It is them that matter? I just have a "duty"? They are my "victims"?

You see why I always question you. I can smell that real man crap you say to appear nice to women when I read your posts.

So you are going to take a risk that could "end your life for a few minutes of pleasurable experience"?

greiboy:
So you don't know the methods to test women's character

1) Always ask her about her previous relationships. See how well she speaks of her boyfriends and friends in general. This will give you a clue on how she might treat you when things go wrong

2) Ask her the same question like three times and act like you don't remember the last time she answered the question

3) Randomly ask her about her sex life and sex in general, always play the devils advocate. I.e. always pretend to the worst and most loose nigga and see her fall easily for your trick

4) Always play dumb when asking this questions, people often feel comfortable with those they think they are smarter than.

NB: These are my methods and they have worked for me time without number.

What utter amateurish rubbish!

How many girls that want to be with a guy on the long term would answer truthfully to such?

Would there be any that has slept with more than "only 4 guys" at very worst?

Would there be many that has had a one night stand before?

Would there be any that would confess she was caught cheating in the relationship instead of claiming that is was his fault the relationship ended?

Pretend to be the worst and most loose nigga and any girl with long term intention will play pious and even pretend to be offended/disgusted by your actions while she has spent the last 10 years going to sleep with her finer friends' boyfriends every Sunday after church.

Mate, cut this naive crap.

I NEVER ask a girlfriend about her previous escapades because she would only tell me what she thinks it is best I should hear. And I would never be able to verify it. IT IS A USELESS EXERCISE.

If they volunteer information without me asking, fine!

Nigga, go and start learning about women better. They a proficient in lying to manage any relationship. They see nothing wrong with it. They see it as hlepful and even convince themselves that they are doing it in your own best interest. And they will do it so much they would even start believing and living their own lies.

They also expect you to lie to them too. You can not have a healthy and long-term relationship with a woman without lying to her. Her only rules about it it is that the lie should make her feel good.

"Am I fat in this dress" ......................"No, obese motherfcker, you look like a catwalk model".

"If you were not dating me, would you sleep with her" ..................."Who? Which one? That one? That girl with the big tiiits, phat arse, curvy hips and a face like Kelly Rowland? ...Hell No! I can only sleep with girls that look like you. She looks disgusting. She is not in proportion like you".

"Did you like being in the delivery room with me" .................."Yes, baby. It was the most beatiful experience of my lifetime. Watching all that disgusting junk covering my baby while you were screaming in agony just made me connect more with you"

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3cv1nk/why_do_women_lie/

greiboy:
Nonetheless, I have been able to deduct from your answers so far that you share the same moral standards with those ladies banging any random person, even though you didn't necessarily admit it might put you at greater risk than people who don't Bleep around.

My moral standard is focused on enjoying my life on THIS earth.

I am not waiting for no Jannah or Heaven where I would have that "glorious" privilege of worshipping a psycho God everyday for the rest of my life.

greiboy:
Some of the problems associated with multiple sex partners includes

Excessive use of drugs and alcohol to increase sexual prowess by male and female

Exposure to unnecessary stress that could lead to illness and psychological disorders

in summary, I honestly don't think my advice is meant for you, since you obviously don't care about the implications

WTF is this JUNK?

donstan18:
Buttress an answer in a simple short sighted way, you needn't revolve in a versatile way to hit the nail.

I really didn't get your gist here.

The point flew over my head.

donstan18:
If i'm to decipher and understand your scribblings, am I to believe and concur that secure men don't need a long-term companionship from a woman?, if YES, highlight your reasons for opinionating so.

I never said that.

donstan18:
Further more , How can a long-term companionship from women help a man adapt to social norms?,

There are this idiotic men who think you are not a "real man" until you have a wife and kids.

I have seen one idiot make that argument on NL years back in a debate. And I have seen many men marry just because they think it is what they have to do by a certain age.

And I have seen men that stay in shyt relationships because they don't want people to think "he used her".

donstan18:
if atall it helps, how about men that aren't insecure and doesn't give a damn about a woman's long-term relationship, how then do they intend adapting to social norms?

Why would they have to adapt to social norms?

Baaastards!

Chikita66:
Don't even mention money, how much can a man give kwanu?

Just answer the question.

I didn't insinuate anything from the question, it was completely open-ended. But you seem to have self-volunteered indirectly what you see as desirable from them.

greiboy:
@No sex before marriage
I have always made my intention clear on this forum and in real life that I don't support that ideology because many people often indulge in sexual acts secretly. Sex before marriage is also an important way to understand the sexual capacities of your partner before marriage. i.e. you can understand if the level of sex drive of your partner is compatible with yours and so on.

Good!

At least you take some risk.

greiboy:
@No sex before committed relationship. I support this idea with all my heart. I believe it is the right approach for any sane mind.

I understand that not all committed relationships lead to marriages and not all partners are faithful in a committed relationship, but I reckon it is safer than having sexual intercourse with any random person.

What utter nonsense!

You mean I would hit a club and some girl that looks like Michelle Keegan, Amber Rose, Carla Gugino, Veronica Valle or Makosi would want to go back to my place and have a good time and I would say "Sorry, babes, but I can't stick me elongated diick in you because we are not in a committed relationship"?

And that is a sane mind to you?

I would fck her like her father owes me money and is refusing to pay up.

In a wider perpective, it is likely guys like you that eventually have problems with girls. While you are engaging in this "sane principles", the same girrl you are waiting to woo and be in a committed relationship is giving it up to some other guy who dictates what he wants.

Another thing that you need to learn about women is that when you are interacting with a woman, the woman before you have sex with her is different from the woman after you have sex with her.

Most behave anyhow they want before you have sex with them because they know all the investment is from you, they can walk away at anytime without having invested shyt but yet take away all the profits and dividends, no loss. Because you would have paid for dates, bought presents, showered her with attention and boosted her ego. She has gotten much of what she wanted WITHOUT investment, so no problem in ending it. The only loss in the arrangement it yours, so she behaves anyhow she wants.

But when you have gotten in, you usually get a better behaved woman. More considerate, more convivial, no more "If you are not careful, I will block you".

You need to learn more about women and how to enjoy your life instead of letting silly restrictions inhibit you.

greiboy:
@certificate to demonstrate freedom from diseases before any sexual intercourse; Funny enough, that is a norm in the country I had my bachelors degree. The country once had a HIV epidemic and it is normal for ladies to show you the results of their hiv status before sexual intercourse.

in Nigeria, that maybe hard to accomplish, So you are left with your own intuition, you have to observe your partners character carefully

So you are going to take a risk that could "end your life for a few minutes of pleasurable experience"?

greiboy:
I.e. is she loose
her general character
her reaction about certain things
You test her without her knowledge. NB; some ladies might pretend, so it is better you observe her for her long time
......................................................................

No, I don't believe in religious girls and you may have to define rigid in this context to get me full answer

I believe the aforementioned points have taken care of Your last question

This is opaque.

What things?

How would you know if she is loose or of generally good character?

I want to know what things you would do to let you assess your risk appetite so you "don't die of disease".

And you did not answer if you would sleep with multiple women at a time.

Oya, answer.

greiboy:
Now my questions

1) Will you marry/date a woman that sleeps with random men? why?

How would I know?

greiboy:
2) Will you recommend every woman or man to sleep around?if so, why?

Yep.

Sleep with whoever you feel you would have good sex with.

You have only one life. You can't rewind and you better fcking enjoy it.

greiboy:
3) Will you associate yourself with such a person, particularly the female i.e. how will you feel if the lady is your sister or family member, and why?

Why not?

greiboy:
4) Do you genuinely believe people who sleep around are not at risk of any danger more than people who don't ? if so, Why?

Who said they were not? Why are you asking me such a question?

Summarise it brilliantly.

The World has caught on to this junk movement I have been highlighting for years.

www.nairaland.com/attachments/6768445_20140323thetheftofmoralauthority3_jpeg5f04a5afe509aeace6fecab68fde7fc6

If I ever become President of Nigeria, I would make this action a crime under the fraud codes.

Fraud code 429: "The use of make-up to achieve unrealistic beauty that can deceive a man completely to think you are 10 times more attractive than you are".

It is a fcking crime!

Neyoor:
Either offer sex or make sex, this is only peculiar to sex outside marriage. When you are married, you make love and don't offer sex. Making love is mutualistic hence the reason for the uniqueness of its contextual and literal meaning. in my mother's tongue, they called it "Ibalopo" which is the art of making love.

However, sex outside wedlock could be regarded as anything, according to why and what people indulging in it are getting from it. Ladies offer sex same as men, for the financial reason, pleasure and other personal beliefs.

Nonsense!

You can make love outside marriage.

greiboy:
The reward is only pleasurable experience that will last for some seconds or minutes

The risk are diseases, physical assault and emotional trauma and the ultimate price of death that could last for a life time

It is quite obvious the risk isn't worth the reward

Before I respond to this, please first tell me how you apply this your own risk appetite.

In regards to sex.

No sex?

No sex before marriage?

No sex unless in a committed relationship (whatever the fck that means)?

No sex until I see a health certificate?

No sex unless a girl demonstrates to me that she is religious and frigid?

No sex with multiple women at a time?

Please highlight for me.

greiboy:
The higher the risk the higher the reward, but do you also understand we have different risk apatite to begin with, especially if the risk isn't really worth the stress

Will I risk my life for pleasurable experience, hell no

It is like my analogy of drinking and driving or answering a phone call while driving. it has massive reward because you will completing two task at the same time, but if it goes wrong, death could be the ultimate price


Same analogy applies to sex, Good pleasure but death could be the ultimate price


2) This culture and tradition is not illogical especially when the risk is obviously not worth the risk.

So you have got a bit of grasp on risk management.

Now tell me why you think the risk is not worth it and what you think should be the risk appetite?

Safiaaa:
Its very rare to find men who can’t be manipulated with sex. That’s every mans weak point, and women know this and that’s why they use it to their advantage. If more men could halve self control, then women will not be able to use their pussy to get what they want from you. But unfortunately, that will never happen. Women will continue to take adantage of your weakness. And men will continue to shout that’s all they offer when indirectly that’s all you value. It’s a cycle

Fcking true!

That applies even to the best of us.

1) Women are hot!

2) We want sex frequently and badly.

3) We have to work to smell getting it, talk less of even getting it.

When you work for something, you have made an investment, be it an emotional, reputational, financial or labour type.

When you make an investment, you expect and want a return.

And women do know you have made this investment because they would not let you smell it except their is some investment.

And as long as they know you are waiting for the return of your investment, they can manipulate.

The length, breadth and depth of their manipulation in exchange for a man's investment maturing depends on the man's experience, self-valuation, confidence, attractiveness, societal conformity, wooing training, level of alternative choices, recent famine and his give-a-fcks!

This goes back to my advise above about self-training.

greiboy:
1) People are more at risk of sexually transmitted diseases when they have sex with random partners than when they don't have sex with a person, I believe this a scientific proven facts

Of course, there are other reasons for sexually transmitted diseases. which must all equally be avoided if possible

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/sexually-transmitted-diseases-stds/symptoms-causes/syc-20351240

More at risk! Good!

So you know there is risk with a single person too?

Now what do you understand about:

a) Risk mitigation?

b) Risk-reward balance?

You realise you can have zero-risk of sexually transmitted disease if you don't engage in sex?

greiboy:
2) Ethics is a set of moral principles, especially ones relating to or affirming a specified group, field, or form of conduct.

I maid mentioned of searching for the definition of cheap, slut and promiscuous to clarify how sleeping around can be considered as unethical

So are culture, religion and tradition.

And many of such are full of illogical, inconsistent, moronic shyt.

Do you know where such can kiss in my wonderful anatomy?

If I wanna fck, am gonna fck.

greiboy:
3) Every thing we do in life is putting us at potential risk of something, but some of our actions might increase the risk and chances of something bad happening

For example, Driving on the road is potentially dangerous activity that could lead to death, no matter how careful we may claim to be, but drinking and driving increases the risk of an accident.

Same analogy can be applied to sex..

This goes back to the question in (1).

greiboy:
Exactly bro

nice points

It is just slightly hard for most guys to reach that high position you speak of in your post.

But I get your point.

It takes mental and emotional training and re-inforcement.

It takes the ability to put up the middle finger to social norms and expectations.

It takes the capability to be comfortable with condemnation of your position by society.

Don't ever put women on a pedestal.

If you decide to put one woman on a pedestal, make sure it is because her attitude and content of character is worth it and has been repeatedly genuinely demonstrated, not because she is a woman and "that is what a reaaaaal man doooooooes".

Fck that shyt, nigga!