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Prognose:
The truth is that most marriages after a while lack the sexual fire that initiated it. For the sake of this article, we are looking at it from the women's angle as their being the culprit. You hear every day the common slogan married women give to their husbands "sex Na food" as if trying to tell the man he is childish for asking sex from her. Eventually following repeated rejections the man will stop asking his wife for sex.

What a miserable institution.

Prognose:
Not all men that cheat are bad men. Not all men want to cheat. But sex is a necessity in a man's life. Withholding sex from your man, no matter how "good and caring" he once was, will lead to other things. Your intimacy will stop. The closeness and affection will be the next to die. The next thing is you see the man always angry and looking for fault up and down.

Exactly!

Prognose:
And then one day he comes home smiling. He hugs you and there's a big grin on his face. He eats your food with relish and looks more alive than he has looked in years. You're thinking you're a good cook, not knowing the man has finally satisfied his craving elsewhere.

As you can see in this research, these men were still in love with their wives. They didn't claim to be unhappy with their marriage or want to leave. No. All they wanted was sex. Any sex. Any kind of sex at all. And that my dear is the crux of the matter.

He is back to life!

No one should live a deluded life.

MrBrownJay1:
bro.... stop putting words in this discussion that i have not written (or better yet quote me where i did write the above). again, if you have nothing clever to bring to this discussion then bow out bro.

Nigga, cut the crap!

What do you mean by:

MrBrownJay1:
pls allow me to educate you on the differences..hhmm let me see... maybe simply because A) one comes with a signed contract (by both parties) while the other doesnt, or better yet B) because each receive a ring during marriage while in engagement only one does... think about that for a minute, lol!

Professor Emeritus of MrBrownJay1 School of International Law, please edjucate us on the "contracts" only one person signs.

MrBrownJay1:
what are you on about.... i said there are only one RING offered while in marriage there are two, not that there was only one person that abide by these one agreements. DUH!

My friend, you want to twist out of your confusion?

How is there a contract only one person abides by?

MrBrownJay1 School of International Law

MrBrownJay1:
bwaaaah see this man AGAIN talking from both side of his mouth....so now you agree that it is a contract?!

btw funny how you are quick to accept that it is an agreement when it fits your selfish agenda!
ok then here is the catch....it is indeed a verbal agreement/contract THAT IS UNFAIR TO THE MAN (while men gladly go into these one sided agreements)... furthermore, marriage contracts are signed by both parties while engagement are not

So you are saying, according to LLM PhD of MrBrownJay1 School of International Law, there are contracts only one person can sign?

Please answer, Law Prof.

MrBrownJay1:
pls allow me to educate you on the differences..hhmm let me see... maybe simply because A) one comes with a signed contract (by both parties) while the other doesnt, or better yet B) because each receive a ring during marriage while in engagement only one does... think about that for a minute, lol!

Mate, are you confused?

Did you not say an engagement is a contract?

So in the confused MrBrownJay1 School of International Law, there are contracts where only one person signs.

Talk shyt much, mate?

Mindfulness:
@bold

In some countries no fault divorce laws have already been established. I have been discussing it with a colleague (almost 70 yrs old) a few weeks ago who argued that it was wrong to change divorce laws to no fault as it has increased divorce rates.

Anyway. My family will soon be here. Need to fix them a delicious meal. Cheers!

Exactly!

That is my argument too. The courts should focus on financial separation only and that itself should be dependent of contribution and short term needs only.

As for your colleague, my message to him is that: Divorce might not be diserable, but unhappiness is more undesirable.

Enjoy your meal, girl.

baby124:
What Asian woman? Like I said, it would be easier to believe a research done by someone who was not giving the men something they needed. Her article cannot be taken seriously. Numerous men also have erectile dysfunction issues and their women cheat. Most people are selfish and will not work through their partners problems with them.

I am not talking about the OP's article, I am talking about the video I put on.

About real life TV confession by an Asian woman that she loves her husband, they are not fighting but she has just not been interested in sex for a long time.

Are you saying she is lying on TV? And if so, why do you think so? What does she have to gain from her lie?

baby124:
The fact remains people cheat because they are selfish and think they can get away with it. If sex was that important in theid marriage why not get a divorce and sex away?

Sex is important to most people, in and outside marriage, except something is wrong with you.

MrBrownJay1:
what are you on about?!?!? there is a huge difference between MARRYING someone and giving someone an ENGAGEMENT ring.... aka the law is different in those 2 instances. stop trying to deviate from the issue at hand.

but, let us all be clear, ANY person who knowingly goes on to marry an abusive person should certainly expect exactly that. why should marry stop a person from being themselves?! and that has absolutely NOTHING to do with the law, its called COMMON SENSE!

What nonsense!

Another thing you pulled from your arse?

Tell us why the law is different in both cases?

I want to learn from the MrBrownJay1 School of International Law.

bukatyne:
Yes o!

Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you!

Jehovah? Not Sango?

You are sure?

Mindfulness:
We are not only driven by our s.exual desires which differ from human to human and change with age. This theory is so yesterday. And if we were, we should think that men should value their freedom to "spread their seed" above the comforts that a family can provide and yet these men decide to marry, millions of them, all around the world.

Of course we are not only driven by sexual desires.

But sexual desires plays a fcking huge part in our well being and happiness. More so for men, but also hugely important for women.

Men value their freedom to spread their seed more than marriage hence why so much of them cheat in marriage. But at the same time, smart men try to balance both.

Men deciding to marry can come from many different drivers:

1) A woman they like desires or demands it, otherwise they aint getting the honey they worked so hard for. Remember: It is still men that have to work for sex. Be it in wooing or working to pay for it.

2) They feel that is what is done and have to be done. We all know there are not many people with their own mind and freewill, many conform to norms and are followers. Thank God I have never been like that, I create my own rules. Not many men are like me. https://www.nairaland.com/4424559/what-made-popular-secondary-school/4#66280219

3) And some are need of it to feel whole. These are not normally the alpha males women want though. They have less masculine traits and are not the type to rise to the top (nothing wrong with that, it is just what it is).

4) They meet a woman they like and connect with, and can actually see themselves living the rest of their lives with this person. That is very very very rare, and most that claim this to the world are pure liars that are living a lie. The chances of that happening is as close to the odds of lightning striking someone.

Personally, I am not for marriage, but that does not mean it is not possible I would engage in it. If I do, it would be because of (a), it is important to the woman I like and I think she deserves it and I would like to make her happy. Definitely not because it is demanded 'otherwise she would leave'.

Mindfulness:
What you consider wasteful is what others willingly afford and enjoy. To each their own.

True!

I can't argue against that.

That said, the wedding is normally great and phenomenal, but the marriage is an anti-climax and miserable.

Fck me, if I start regaling the amount of marriages I have seen in the last 10 years and which are now in misery or ended miserably. Single mothers abound.

Recently experienced a fabulous wedding in Nigeria where shitloads was spent on it, and within a week after the marriage, the "happy" husband was back living with his upset side chic for about two weeks. No need to say the marriage did not last a year. Many blokes at the wedding were saying "I really don't know why they are doing this", but fck it, niggas would still chop their rice and ofada stew with panla fish sha.

That is just an interesting and funny life story o. Not a claim of the norm, so no need to argue along that line.

Mindfulness:
So?

So it means marriage would be tough for them too and most men would struggle, and will not be equipped, to make them happy, hence a miserable institution emerges.

Then they end up in counselling.

Mindfulness:
You said that you do not want courts to [b]get involved at all [/b]so court marriage should be from the table for you. Pretty simple.

Am afraid that is not what I said. You must have misread it.

What I said was that the courts should stay out of determining fault in marriages.

Sagamite:
This is why I always say courts should stay the fck out of marriage and not try to attribute fault on breakdown as no judge can ever be equipped with the ability to figure out the emotional and relationship dynamics between the two people in a relationship.

You would still need courts in determining:

a) Sharing of assets

b) Determing and enforcing child or spousal maintenace (where logical needs be)

Not everyone that marries would know how those would work or would adhere to the logical principles.

bukatyne:
@Sagamite:

Marriage is not man-made.

I would say having less sexual partners, being creative/considerate, willingness to improve at it, open communication and truly desiring your spouse will improve sex in marriage.

Who made marriage?

Jehovah lorun? (Jehovah in heaven?)

Mindfulness:
It is not miserable for everyone. Life has its up and downs so does the marriage institution. If one enters the marriage institution believing in fairy tales, s/he will be disappointed but beside all religious reasons and romantic notions/misconceptions, there is some pragmatic value to it, especially when children are involved. I am not trying to convince you of marriage. I am very liberal and believe everyone should choose the life style that makes them happy but a good marriage is a beautiful thing.

Obviously not.

But for a vast majority it is.

The whole marriage institution is man-made dictact, not a natural phenomenom or setting. Human beings are not built to be in it in the way social engineering dictates.

Both sexes are polygamous, men more than women on average.

Men are naturally built to want to spread their seed. Women are naturally built to want to accept seed from the most beneficial man but also need the support of the warmest man to raise the kids, finding that mix is very difficult for them as (a) such men who possess both are few and far between and (b) many of such men are in high demand and are naturally built to want to spread their seed especially when so many women want them.

Mindfulness:
Even for single women there are times when s.ex is the last thing on their mind for various reasons, this is not necessarily the outcome of being married. Stress, unhealthy life-style, worries can lead to a decrease in libido in both women and men. For women, the menstrual cycle, child birth and menopause are additional factor influencing their libido. Fortunately, we live in times where talking about s.ex is no longer a taboo so it is easier to find solutions to these problems and I believe that the author of the article has come with some constructive suggestions.

Obviously! I am not saying it is strictly the domain of married women. Having a signed paper and wasteful ceremony does not change one as a person. I am saying it is the domain of humanity.

What women want changes over time and at different stages of their life, attraction is not a choice, it is involuntary. It is reality of life.

Mindfulness:
If you want the court to stay out, do not have court marriage, problem fixed. For many of us, we are happy that the law is involved and regulates unforeseen life circumstances like orphan's allowance, widow's annuity, property rights, patient's provision etc.

The argument is never to say "Well, stay out of court marriages".

The argument is always "Is the way the court set up right".

When it comes to human/social set up, I am not of the school of "That is just the way it is", I am of the school of "this is the optimal way it should be".

baby124:
I will only believe an article like this when the subjects of the experiment have nothing got gain. This is not an article to be taken seriously.

What do you think an Asian woman plans to gain by coming on national TV to say she has not been interested in having sex with her husband for a number of years?

GoodKay:
Hello all. Pls I wasn't sure where to ask this question. I'm about to pay for a house and I noticed there's a graveyard inside d compound and close to our side of d house (its just 2 flat bungalow. Someone else is already occupying d back flat). We asked and they said d mother of d owner of d house was buried there. At first I didn't even mind at all but I just thought it wise to ask questions before we pay. Is there anything wrong moving into a house where someone u do not know was buried? Also I have 2 small boys and expecting a 3rd child and my boys play a lot and I have no doubt that one day they may play to that grave as its at our front yard. What are ur advice's please? Does it mean? Can we go ahead and stay there? Anything wrong in staying at a house where someone was buried? I'm not afraid I just want to be sure that there's no spiritual consequences or anything of sort

Yes, something is wrong o.

The ghost of the person buried there would rise in the dark and be making scary noises.

The ghosts also eat children (especially new-born babies) if you don't spray holy water on the children every night before they go to bed and ensure there is one bible each above their head, below their feet and at either sides of the hand.

So please don't move in except you can cope with that.










Anuofia!

baby124:
How is she so sure than her well acted out research is not false? Human beings are selfish so they cheat. The men who are carrying out affairs behind their wives may be lying about their reasons to get sex from her. They just want sex with someone else. She will be shocked that their wives are starved of sex by these men or even giving them different styles every week. The one that claims his wife gave him permission, did she ever meet the wife? . This article is hogwash and cannot help, especially when it involves seedy and secret affairs. They are full of terrible lies and deception

Start believing such articles as there are shitloads of such confessions on the net like I put above.

MrBrownJay1:
who gives a damn?! stick to the damn issue... aka any donkey who enters an unfair agreement, where only him begins this agreement out of pocket, CANNOT/SHOULDNT expect a fair outcome if/when he does indeed fukcs up. but hey, if you think he should, then take it up with the law, and advise donkeys not to enter these one sided dumb agreements.

So any woman who enters a marriage with a violent partner deserves and should expect domestic violence according to MrBrownJay1's legal logic?

Mindfulness:
Before I met each man I would ask: “Why are you doing this?” I wanted assurance that all he desired was sex.

What surprised me was that these husbands weren’t looking to have more sex. They were looking to have any sex.

I met one man whose wife had implicitly consented to her husband having a lover because she was no longer interested in sex, at all. They both, to some degree, got what they needed without having to give up what they wanted. But the other husbands I met would have preferred to be having sex with their wives. For whatever reason, that wasn’t happening.

I know what it feels like to go off sex, and I know what it’s like to want more than my partner. It’s also a tall order to have sex with the same person for more years than our ancestors ever hoped to live. Then, at menopause, a woman’s hormones suddenly drop and her desire can wane.

At 49, I was just about there myself, and terrified of losing my desire for sex. Men don’t have this drastic change. So we have an imbalance, an elephant-size problem, so burdensome and shameful we can scarcely muster the strength to talk about it.

Maybe the reason some wives aren’t having sex with their husbands is because, as women age, we long for a different kind of sex. I know I did, which is what led me down this path of illicit encounters. After all, nearly as many women are initiating affairs as men.

Yet, you will see people outside the marriage saying "Oh, they are happily married". Just because they have been married for X long years.

Yeah, right. What nonsense!

The miserable institution of marriage.

This is actually related to a thread I was thinking of opening about what this woman said:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_oiaDXrxs7Q

https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/life/671990/sex-drive-women-speak-after-Saira-Khans-Loose-Women-admission

This is why I always say courts should stay the fck out of marriage and not try to attribute fault on breakdown as no judge can ever be equipped with the ability to figure out the emotional and relationship dynamics between the two people in a relationship.

MrBrownJay1:
bro the law is based on favouring the person who stuck to the engagement AGAINST the one who decided to break it off. stop throwing the above GIBBERISH as an attempt to smokescreen the issue, and instead stand on FACTS! what the law decides to do on matter other than ENGAGEMENT rings is irrelevant!

again, any donkey who enter an unfair agreement, where only him begins this agreement out of pocket, CANNOT/SHOULDNT expect a fair outcome if/when he does indeed fukcs up. but hey, if you think he should, then take it up with the law, and advise donkeys not to enter these one sided dumb agreements.

Again answer the gaddam questions!

Don't tell me what the law is or would do, tell me what the law should be based on sense!

One could foolishly also say "Well, the law in Saudi Arabia (then) was that women should not drive (because it damaged their wombs )", that does not mean one cannot say what the law should be and be based on.

Or you are free to agree it is spiritual baked beans so we can come to a conclusion that you feel arguments should come from the arse and stuck defiantly to.

joespiceman:
your mums way was cool

I wouldn't say so completely.

Kids need boundaries, rules and personal developmental challenges that are enforced, not just love and affection.

My mother would discuss and plead with you to do things without any consequences except her disappointment. My father ensured you gaddam did it, no stories.

MrBrownJay1:
as i said, if you have nothing sensible to say, then why continue this discussion.... your issue is with the law, nothing else. the LAW will always favour the person who stuck to the engagement against the person who BROKE UP the engagement. if the lady breaks the engagement then she should simply return the ring, if the man breaks the engagement (due to his ill actions) then the man has no entitlement to the ring that may have ended in the dustbin. deal with it instead of trying to smokescreen the bloody issue at hand!

Answer the gaddam questions!

Don't tell me what the law is or would do, tell me what the law should be based on sense!

Or you are free to agree it is spiritual baked beans so we can come to a conclusion that you feel arguments should come from the arse and stuck defiantly to.

Again, the questions:

Do you give such "gift" to your neighbour, mother, brother, sister, cousin or visitor?

Then back it up by telling us:

1) What other "gift" you can give one of those listed but which you cannot give any other type of person in that list.

2) What other "gift" you can give one of those listed that is "contractual".

3) What other "gift" you can give for ONE singular event.

4) Would your arse also say when a woman goes to court because she faced domestic violence in her marriage that the judge is entitled to say "Well, since she knew the man was an abuser before marriage and still married him then she deserves what she is getting. If she does not want to get beaten, she should not have married a domestic abuser"?

joespiceman:
Remember back in the days when our mothers has this special weapon she uses to reset our brains anytime we go AWOL or out of order. Immediately you do something wrong just have in mind that you would be receiving it hard from her. Though those trainings had really shaped us to being a better person in the society.

So my question this day is, which was your mums favorite weapon.
Mine was broom ooo.
#Happy Mothering Sunday.
#I_Love_U_Mum.

Honestly my mum could not control me as she is way too mild.

She is the complete opposite of me. She does not argue, does not raise her voice, does not like confrontation, is not very vocal and has never smacked me (seriously) in her life.

Left to her on her own, she would have struggled to control and manage me. All she knows is affection. Woman was way too soft.

Mr Sagamite Snr on the other hand would beat the flying fck out of me when I did wrong. He would beat the fcking ADHD out of you, no need for all these oyinbo medication.

Good thing about it was that he would beat the shyt out of you but within days (even sometimes hours) we are joking again and having serious repartees. I can take the piss out of him as much as I wanted.

Okwyla:
The Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC), said it is collaborating with the Nigerian Liquefied Natural Gas (NLNG) Limited for the provision of science and laboratories in six universities spread across all the geopolitical zones in the country at a whooping cost of $4Mn . They said each of the agency is committing two million dollars for the projects. Also, the NNPC said it is set to collaborate with the Nigerian academy of Engineers to raise the standard of Engineering and Technology in the country. Group managing diirector of the NNPC, Dr. Maikanti Baru, who disclosed this while receiving members of the Nigerian Academy of Engineers who paid him a courtesy visit in Abuja noted that the corporation had a record of supporting the development of engineering and technology in the country through its various corporate social responsibility programmes like the annual national quiz competition for science students in the country. Speaking earlier, president of the Academy, who was also a former member of NNPC Board, Engr. (Mrs) Olu Maduka, said the standard of engineering in the country was falling and the trend must be arrested, saying only an organization like the NNPC with its track record of support to the development of science and Engineering technology could spearhead its revival. Also speaking at the event, former vice chancellor, Federal University of Technology, Yola, and a member of the Academy, Professor Salihu Mustapha, said there was an urgent need to link research, academic and industry, while expressing optimizing that NNPC remains one of the corporate bodies that could provide the needed support in that regard. The Nigerian Academy Of science was established in 1997 and membership is open to professionals who are sixty years and above. Meanwhile, Dr. Baru has restated his commitment to the growth of Liquefied Petroleum Gas (LPG) market in Nigeria. Speaking while receiving members of the Liquefied Petroleum Gas Association in his office, Dr. Baru said he was looking forward to seeing that all domestic cooking in Nigeria were carried out using LPG. He tasked the association on public enlightenment of Nigerians on the advantages of switching to LPG in all their domestic cooking. Earlier the president of the association, Alhaji Nuhu Yakubu, commended the GMD on his vision and support, assuring that his association would help raise awareness on the advantages of using LPG over other means of cooking.

http://www.akelicious.net/2018/04/nnpc-nlng-earmark-4mn-for-establishment.html

This is nonsense!

As a publicly owned company, you don't use public money for charitable donations or budget supplementation.

Funding for government owned universities should come from the central government or private sector donations.

MDs of government agencies arbitrarily electing how to utilise public funds outside their remit is criminal and an avenue for corruption. Not even for nonsense claim of CSR!

Bloody crooks! Who is to tell us that once the money is distributed it would not lead to a kick back?

otino:
#25mil for just 30 days, papa God pick my call

Those who make such money did not call any God, they called on their brains and integrity.

Your Nigerian/African baboon referees are calling on God every day to pick their call while at the same time they have no brain and shamelessly take bribes left, right and centre.

It is not about God, nigga. Fck your God! Use your brain!

Is this a AK47? Or what kind of retarded news is this.

www.nairaland.com/attachments/6944470_sidn2_jpeg6e86f3863be2f518adee98bb99c89382

MrBrownJay1:
what is this one mumbling about?! bro, just say you have nothing intelligent more to say, and we are done here. no biggie!

some dude enter an unfair deal called ENGAGEMENT, and when all goes to shiiit you want both of them to be treated fairly?!?!? it CANT be done!

sadly, you are so bitter about women who may get an unfair advantage against men, that you are focussing on the wrong issue while disregarding the fact that it is these same donkeys (aka men) who willfully gave these women an unfair advantage here. you may hate the fact that women lose nothing in this issue (how can they lose anything if they have given NOTHING but a positive reply?!), but thats what happen when donkeys put women in such biased position. here is a clue: if you dont want to get an inequitable deal, DONT GET ENGAGED/MARRIED, et voila!

if you want the law to be changed then, by all means, make a petition for it, but until then accept the fact that the problem here is with all the donkeys who hand over expensive rings to women, without getting anything in return, just so that they can be engaged, without having a prior agreement as to what should be done with the ring if that donkey breaks off the engagement due to his own ill actions (aka if that donkey fukcs up). sadly, in the absence of a prior agreement, the gal can do what she bloody pleases with the ring, and no court would fault her.

is it RIGHT? probably not, but thats the direct consequence of donkeys entering such one sided nonsense called engagement ring.

My friend answer the gaddam questions and explain.

Abi you agree you are wrong and it is spiritual baked beans?

You think you can pull moronic claims out your arse and then stick defiantly by it?

Would your arse also say when a woman goes to court because she faced domestic violence in her marriage that the judge is entitled to say "Well, since she knew the man was an abuser before marriage and still married him then she deserves what she is getting. If she does not want to get beaten, she should not have married a domestic abuser"?

The law courts of MrBrownJay1's arse!

How dumb does that sound to you?

vivaciousvivi:
A da fun mi by the special grace of God.
A he-goat, feminist - fearing kini like u ain't got what it takes to bring me down.
And YES, I am a lady. Sue me!
Like I said, pls keep up with the err...what did u call it? "Humiliation"? Yes, that was it.
Makes good entertainment for me after a rather fantastic outing.
By no means should u stop! I am enjoying myself immensely!
Time to make dinner.
Can't wait for ur response - I am shaking in my boots fool!
Ciao!

Ani ko le da fun, kadara ni yen! (Look your life can never be good, that is your destiny)

Ma gbiyanju oshi lati yi kadara e! (Don't waste your time trying to change your destiny)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nc5v8r0rNk0&t=0s

MrBrownJay1:
what do you call it if not a gift then?! a man willfully goes to buy an expensive ring and hand it to a woman simply because she has accepted his proposal (and as you said earlier, would keep the ring if she refuses). i am sorry to say, that is the definition of a damn GIFT!

and beware, because if you dare saying that there are strings attached to that gift, then it becomes a binding contract/agreement, lol!

What do I call it then?

I call it a spiritual baked beans.

What? You don't agree it is baked beans? I can't label it anything I pull out of me fine, black arse that I cannot back up?

Okay, let me call it a 'contractual gift' as you called it.

So now, my friend, answer the question:

Do you give such "gift" to your neighbour, mother, brother, sister, cousin or visitor?

Then back it up by telling us:

1) What other "gift" you can give one of those listed but which you cannot give any other type of person in that list.

2) What other "gift" you can give one of those listed that is "contractual".

3) What other "gift" you can give for ONE singular event.

Mr "Contractual Gift"!

Shebi you want to conveniently chat shyt? I will love drilling your shyt with destructive questions. Logic is power.

vivaciousvivi:
Humiliating me in front of NL peeps? Hahahahahahaha
Says the grown as.s "man" bantering words with a lady for weeks n
If only u knew just how many so called NL peeps have PM-emed me yabbing you!
Hahahahaha, oh my lawd!
Ur yabs don't bite one teeny bit, why cos I know ur type - frothing at the mouth online without a single bite in every day life, insecure, childish buffon.
It's really exciting tbh, I almost thought such a breed of "men" had evolved. Unfortunately I was wrong.
Keep being u daddy-yo!
It makes for short bouts of excitement to some of us!
Back to enjoying my time at this wedding reception.
#Cheers

A WHAT?? ?? ??

A KINI?? ?? ?? ??



Koni da fun e!

It never ceases to amaze me when ghetto hos, hoodrats and dirty skanks try to call themselves "a lady".

Anuofia, slutt!

Go make an offer and get ya data.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lTYdtfM13LE

MrBrownJay1:
simply because you dont go around giving GIFTS to people, in the guise to impress them into marrying you, and then expect to get that gift back when that said man breaks off the engagement by cheating (or worse).

How is it a gaddam gift?

Do you give such to your neighbour, mother, brother, sister, cousin or visitor?

Explain to me how it is a gift?

lebesgue:
Happy married life, my brother. Eje ki ama dupe ni owo Olodumare fun igbeyawo yin. Idunnu ati ire yi maa kari.

Mo ma fun ladura naa. (I will give you my prayer)

Ire ba yi ama kari gbogbo ebi ati iran e loruko Jesu Kristi. (May this kind of goodness be bestowed on your family and future generation in the name of Jesus our Lord)

Akere lo ma ma bi. (It is Akeres [from Fadeyi Oloro movies] una go they give birth to)

Ogo, ogo, ogo, folorun. (Praise, praise, praise, to God)

Oloshi, oloriburuku!