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When I tell you people that cretins are a big problem to our society, una go say Sagamite is harsh.

This fool is not a blatant racist, he got into this mess because he is a person that made up assumptions in his arse and got into a situation he should not have got into.

Listening to his 999 calls and the statements he made shows he is more of a person than a racist.

I hate cretins with a passion.

dasparrow: ..........And she will find another man. Marraige is to be enjoyed and not endured. I don't know why Nigerians are such wicked people. How are we sure the man she is married to is whom God wanted her to marry? Why are Nigerians such sadists? You want her to raise kids in an unhappy home? what rubbish!

Like the thousands of divorce women with kids looking for another man willing to commit to them?

Chrisbenogor: Speak for yourself brother.

Not only is he describing himself, he is also a cretin for this part:

Divorce, is the way of fools. IT IS NOT AN OPTION.
You took an oath, a covenant, a swear, a promise that it is TILL DEATH.

Chrisbenogor: Sometimes I wonder if this is rocket science to understand.

No na, they understand, they just think that "real men" would not be attracted to a woman based on her looks

A "real man" should ignore their biological set up and marry a women that has a good personality and can select nice handbags, sunglasses and shoes.

jennykadry: What is normal? Define normal? You are trying to tell us here that it is normal for a man to make his wife look and feel unattractive, undesirable and unwanted? You people are forking kidding me. Why would a man be so "look" conscious like that? Fire is burning in his house and instead of getting the fire extinguisher to quench the fire, he is busy talking about his wife's clothes and shoes.

If her clothes are decent enough, that man needs a psych attention ASAP

Because men's attraction is based on looks.

His approach suggest one of 2 things to me:

1) She herself picked an arse to marry.

2) Or she has had a vile attitude to the point he is insensitive to or careless about her emotions.

Bawss1: There is no man alive with red blood in his veins that will not consider the looks of his wife as very important. So many men have indeed based the choice of their life partners on this quality alone, a fact, though not recommended, that suggests the very high pedestal that this quality is placed. Anybody who says a woman's looks is secondary is being hypocritical. I say this not to encourage the trend of superficiality that results from an exaggerated consideration of physical beauty but I feel it is very necessary that girls and ladies owe it to themselves to maintain a sense of beauty ALWAYS.

This will probably sit with some as being chauvinistic but that's a risk I'm prepared to take.

No min jenny.

She thinks life is about "real men", that say meaningless, brainwashed things to please women.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]You sound quite bitter [/quote]Why does that sound bitter?

Why does it not sound like an eye-opener of what he wants in life?

Or is that just another senseless use of words to force him to be a "real man", the type that lives his life to make women happy while he gets little in return?

Sounds bitter. Be responsible and marry. Stop being selfish and share your life. All stewpid words to satisfy your female wish. Anuofia!

queensmith: I'm only here because my POV is different, you might benefit a little more than hearing most of the posters (with the same mentality) repeat the same thing over and over again. The general song i'm hearing is 'stay in the marriage it's actually not that bad'

I have alot of respect for you because unlike most of the women that come here for help (most of whom their husbands have put them through 10x more torture than yours) you seem to hold yourself in high esteem.
You know what you want, you know you're not getting it, you want the misery of a marriage you're in to end.

The only problem is you havent told us whether your husband feels the same, we don't know if he also wants things to work, or if he's having an affair, if he's being bullied somewhere and bringing the bad attitude home.

You and your husband need to have the pre divorce talk, both of you need to decide whether you want to continue and if you are going to seek counselling to make it work. Unlike what most women here have assumed, It takes more than a desperate women doing everything to please her distant husband to make a marriage work. He may feel exactly the same as you but not want to say, he may be sending you a message through his attitude. It's not normal for a marriage to be devoid of trust.

You need to send the kids somewhere for the weekend and have a lengthy conversation with your husband about the marriage. Tell him how you're feeling, that you're thinking of divorce. That may even force him to straighten up knowing his wife wants to walk. Let him know you still love him and want to make it work but not at the expense of the happiness you once had.
good luck

Look, I am a very, very smart guy. I am extremely intelligent and have a ridiculous level of prescience.

Trust me when I say: You are really going to have a miserable futurein terms relationship.

That is not an insult or provocation, that is a pure fact from the pesonality you exude.

Go and write it down in your diary that that Sagamite told you this on the 12th of April 2012, so you can refer to it when it downs on you in middle age and the future looks dim and non-existent.

NNEKA2015: Have been married for 6 years to a pilot and we have have three kids my marriage isn't working anymore , there is no love or trust in the marriage again, my husband gets angry at the slightest thing i do and then goes out drinking and and doesn't come back to sleep in the house until i have gone to work. He only says he loves me when he wants to sleep with me , he complains about everything from my , shoes ,dress to my hair , my food and now that i am not improving in making love. he showers me with gift once in a while but claims i don't make him happy, i have tried and tried but he is never pleased, I don't want my kids to grow without their father because they are just getting to know him but at the same time i can't take it anymore and neither can he as well. please married or divorced women advice me on what to do i can't concentrate at work , i know he loves me and i feel something for him but i can't continue like this. please i need sincere advice on what to do.

Sit him down and ask him (non-aggressively) to tell you 5 things in life and/or you can do that would make him happy.

Don't go into the conversation with an air of entitlement or a heart of selfishness ["what I want"].

I am not saying what is happening is your fault, I can't know, but one fault I note in most modern women is this attitude of trying to state what a man should want rather than find out what he wants.

Even sitting him down to find out might be endearing enough for him to rekindle adoration of you.

Then see if what he wants is what you can and are willing to give.

Also if he is reasonable and still interested, he might reciprocate the question.

Goldieluks: The woman is WRONG because,

1. she did it without her husband's consent.
2. she even hid it from her husband,allowing him to find out by himself.
3. she actually drew it in her most private body parts. Gosh!!
4. she disregarded her husband's view and dislike for tattoos,and still went ahead to surprise him with it.

I think she is a ho(sorry OP). No married woman in her right state of mind would go ahead to
disrespect her husband by doing what her husband detest most, now ladies don't give me that
21st century bull.shitt, if you cannot respect your spouse, then don't even think of getting married
in the first place.

You missed out the WORST ONE!

5. She ignored him when he complained and asked her.

She gave his views and objection a big fat middle finger. She ignored him like "see this mumu".

Jasmine Jetz: Hello! excuse me guys welcme to d 21st century where women married or nt got d rite to do wat they want wit their OWN BODY.so gve us a break!

Well, hello! This is the same 21st century where your arse can be dumped!

Who said their should be a law banning her from doing whatever she wants to do?

oradee: whats moronic about it? if she had drawn a cute lovely rose at the base of her back wld he be out her on NL spilling shii...?

and for ur bloody info, tattoo has been a cultural thing long before you,the poster and his wife were born (or is it because its now takes defined shapes and colours)...ask ur granny why she has tribal marks?

What is the link with this junk you wrote and explaining the moronic analogy you made?

1) What has she getting a tattoo of a "cute lovely rose at the base of her back" or a "cute lovely onion at the temple of her forehead" got to do with the moronic analogy of getting a tattoo and putting on weight?

2) Which part of your body do you use to think? What makes you think the OP would be delighted with a tattoo of "cute lovely rose at the base of her back"? What makes you think he is into tattoo on his wife at all?

3) And what if tattoo is a cultural thing? That means he should like it? So she can even take their kids without his permission and go an give them tribal marks because it is cultural and he should like it? What even makes you sure his tribe/people are one of those that do tattoo?

Do you struggle with reasoning and comprehension?

D sage: Evil Brain& Sagamite,you guys must be either stupid or lack reasoning.

The fact that,we've been colonized both physically and mentally by the white,shouldnt make you condemmed every aspect of your God's givn culture/tradition.If at all you dont know what African culture means,at least none of your grand fathers/mothers being cremated before.

And that is why we may never develop as a country cos most of you,as result of external influence, always thought that everytin alien were the best to subtitute our way of life&inheritance culture.You guys said someone was not educated/illiterate&that why he didnt realised the important of cremation etc.Hmmmm,i laff in chinese,although education is good&enlighten us in one way or other but belief me,it's causing more evil than good to African people.For instance,since the western education being introduced to our country,how many of ur professors,phd holders/educated elite has invented or do sometin that tend to change the living standard of the people?

Unless we realised the important of our God's givn culture and stop copy copy from the white,the development in Nigeria/Africa is not certain.

You are a cretin!

Which culture/tradition did God give you?

You are a mooron!

So education is the reason why most people suffer?

What a proper, unadulterated person!

ALL OF YOU, when I tell you that I can spot a cretin from just one post, do you guys still doubt it?

I can spot a fooooooooooooool instantly.

dabrake: Omo, I no dey stop any girl for road oh. Make dem dey their own make I dey. Most of them get very poor mentality. Na so during our freshers induction, I take eyes look our new born babies. Like some months later, my lecturer come tell me say make I go invigilate/supervise csc111 for am sey him get meeting. Na so I gather them, we enter one class then I come share script tell them make them start. Soon, I go downstairs make I go piss when I see this girl for bursary wey be like one of our babies but I no sure. Me say make I ask am na so I meet am com ask am if she dey matstats.com, yr1. She come like "yes and how is that your concern? *long hiss*". I just vex comot piss my piss finish. Less than 40mins after, she come ask me if na tru sey na me hold test script. She begin dey beg me sey she miss the test but me no send am. She carry her friends come beg me. See power nah. I come later pity the eediot un2 sey if she no get CA, na automatic carry over be dat and na 4 credit unit and the thing go affect am reach yr3. After that episode, she collect my number, make me her friend, dey call me regularly. Who cares?

Dumb arse typical Naija girl!

If not that the pain for missing the test is very long lasting and damaging, I for say you for no forgive am.

Henry40: Do I sound like I'm justifying it? "Hello, excuse me," what's that? Don't use "hello" or "hi" to ask a girl for directions, that's just too informal. If you're an honest stranger, then you should address her as a stranger as well; "excuse me, I'm looking for....................." that's what I do, and none have ever snubbed me. If you use "hello" for a girl whose only exposure to the world beyond her immediate community comes via Nigerian "movies" she'd probably treat you as she thinks.

So you are saying someone saying "Hello, excuse me," warrants being rude to them?

Fck me Lawd!

PeeBee: Rubbish like "what's your name" or "i like you" or "let me have your number" even when you're obviously in a hurry or pissed or not just interested in having a conversation. Rubbish like acting as if they are God's perfect gift to women or expecting her to stand on the road listening to him speak about how he felt on seeing her, or when he doesn't know when to shut it and say bye or even assuming that every girl is interested in his purse or car.
Not forgetting the fraudsters that have one business proposal or the other.

It wasn't nice for the girl to treat the op like that but "hello, excuse me" does sound like how they start their story.

So it is rubbish if a man says "what's your name" or "i like you" and warrants you to be rude?

Then you would want to be respected and treated like a lady? You deserve it?

Then you want to be taken to the altar and have some false encomiuims shouted about your qualities and have a man commit his life to you? You really think you are worth it?

An if you are unlucky not to be taken to the altar fast enough, you would be wondering why men don't want to settle down with you? Why they abuse their power when the boot is now on the other feet and you have less to offer now?

You think that is when they have time for your "rubbish"? [s]assuming that every girl is interested in his purse or car[/s] Assuming that every man is interested in your desires or happiness because they are God's perfect gift to women you are God's gift to their life [s]expecting her to stand on the road listening to him speak about how he felt on seeing her[/s] expecting them to not live thier lives the way they want because it would make you unhappy?

2buff: Why so pissed?

Low-class, most-likely-stank-crotched women are not worth the emotion or bother. If they do the snob your response should just be a jovial, happy "Oh I'm sorry. I wasn't aware you were socially and mentally r[i]e[/i]tarded. My apologies " in your janded voice and move on laughing . I say something similar to this whenever I encounter one of these primitive characters. It always has a satisfying result as the fool just stands there mortified and ashamed of her bush self.

You got it right!

I put them in their place straight up!

But nowadays I try and avoid contact with most black girls as much as possible if there is no need to interact and they are young (especially Nigerians). If I go to a party, I even avoid chatting with them or even having any eye contact that will give them the misguided perception that I am interested. If I find out they are Southern African, then I soften my position quickly. I usually only interact with the Nigerian girls if they are a friend of a friend or they say hi first. The experience of interacting with them is usually hardly ever worth your time to be going and saying "hi".

They think they are justified to be rude when being approached (and some wuss will defend them). Are they the only women in the world that are approached? How come girls from other countries have more class?

It reminds me of some years back in university. Met this Nigerian girl and tried to hook up with her. As usual they will give you their number and then start behaving childishly, like not picking up the phone, being rude during the few interactions and even see you outside and walk past you. So I just busted that side after no progress.

There was a house party by one of the uni guys a YEAR later, so I went there with some Ethiopian chic I was hooking up with. Come and see the steeeeewpid Naija girls being jealous and bitching about. They gave the poor chic attitude. They even hated it more because the chic was exotic looking and did not need Brazilian weeve.

That is when this same foool that was misbehaving saw me in the kitchen where she was chilling with her friends and started trying to be friendly and chatting enthusiastically/flirtily with me. This is the same person that had spent a year walking past me most times not saying hi except I said it first. At that time I was still reasonably a nice guy so I was cordial and hence started chatting with her and her friends. After a while she now asked me "So did you have to go that far to date a girl". The way it was asked (out of the blue and at tangent to discussions), it seem that was the ultimate question she was itching to ask and I can see all of them waiting expectantly for some justification. At that point, I just stared at her for about 2 seconds, smirked mockingly and said "That was my preferred taste", then calmly walked out of the kitchen. I spent the rest of the party dancing flirtly and affectionately with the Ethiopian girl (kissing her face lovingly) like she was the only girl in the world.

Henry40: 1. Every local girl knows that that's the 'pick up' line for every guy interested in them, and only a guy who is usually interested in such girls actually would use that as a pick up line on them. Only a guy loose with the female folk {especially the not very exposed ones} will use such an introduction. If you're as innocent as you make yourself look, such an introduction would probably not even be in your vocabulary.
2. Ladies are far more sensitive than men - they listen to every other language before the orally communicated one. If they snub you, that's probably because your body language says "Shaddy!"

You are justifying their classless behaviours?

This is an example of the kind of warped men that encourage the shytheads.

Ganys: Eeeyah....Forgive me, im too busy to read where you said you are based in London. how are the White Corpses (oku funfun) that you wash for a living there...Hmmm., now, i can see that the weather there freez your brain while typing this reply. By the way, how is life in london today? how are your collegue at senior Home. Hope the old papas and mamas are not misbehaving there.Oh...dont let me tie you down here, You better go and tie their napkin before they sleep or else you will be jobless tommorow..Oponu ayirada...Mosquito brain

Look at this person.

Is it only moronic conjectures you got out of your education?

Cretin, it is spelt "Colleagues".

D sage: Cremation is alien to our culture and religions belief,i dnt think its a right tin for any govt to make it legal since its against our traditions.

Cremation to those that started it,was not as a result of lack/inadequate land to buried their dead but culture/tradition.

What an utterly moronic post from the first "C" to the last "n".

Our failed education system does not sharpen thinking abilities nor does it encourage facts verification.

This is the product!

cogsej06: I guess it depends on d manner of approach n appearance.......well I can NEVER b snubbed by a lady nt in dis world no matter what. I trust in d abilities n potential God hv given me.

What abilities and potential?

PeeBee: Its not right for a lady to be rude to anyone but what do you expect when 9.5 out of 10 men who stop her have nothing but r.ubbish to say.

Rubbish like what?

Ganys: thank God that you are not oga seun, u for dey perform wonders here. Do u think im a newbie here.i just change my user name for personal purpose. ive been on nairaland way back before you.I have made money and will continue to make legitimate money here on nairaland. i dont come here to unleash terror on people and shut them up like you. You better get a life and stop messing arround on nairaland. Etisalat( Etisara) don make life easy with people like you. soon, your 15MB will be exhusted and u will wait till u get another 200naira before you reply...sorry.... But if u dare talk anyhow here, i will send bokoharam to detonate bomb on that your coconut head wey you put for ya profile...yeyenatu....

Look at this person!

Spare part selling cretins would think once they make money it makes them intelligent. So he keeps on maintaining his right to vomit his moronic palm wine joint opinions.

FOOOOOOL!

You are so dumb and an illiterate that despite being on NL for years as you claim, you still struggle to read the part that says I am based in London.

Cretin! Is a Etisalat a service provider in the UK?

dasparrow: When you Nigerian bred males stop beating, verbally insulting and r/a.ping your women, they in turn will learn to have more faith in you. I am not saying that what the lady in question did was right, but when one takes a closer look at all the evil stories permeating from Nigeria in regards to the way the men over there treat the ladies, I cannot blame them (ladies) for being distrustful of you and not wanting to talk to you. Next time, cut out the pleasantries and go straight to the point. Just say "I am looking for......Do you by any chance know where that is please?" End of.

Cut this BS excuses!

The reason they are rude is because they think being overtly and publicly unapproachable is a sign of chastity and high moral values.

Cut the bollocks excuses!

They do it because they feel cool when turning man down. They do it because our nation has failed in raising a generation of girls with attractive qualities.

They are just dumb and classless. And the dumbfucks would be moaning when Naija men start dating from different geographies.

KarmenK: I'm about finishing a degree this year. Ive only dated two guys one of two years and the other I ended last night after 4 months.
Both who are in there 30's were just wasting my time with no goal or plans for the future.
Their own concern or goal was to make money and wear the latest garms ( clothes).
I find guys in London are immature too much on a hype. The I dated for 2 years ( a ghanian ) told me he wanted to settle down at 40.( I mean come on)
All my mates are married with kids or have a kid and on to their second. I can't even mingle with these girls to say I'm scouting for potential bf

I dnt have a problem getting a guys it's keeping then long enough to like me more then my physical shape. I thought by now I would be in a serious relationship, pregnant or planning a wedding.
I'm I rushing it. My Nigerian name is Okemute = there's a time for everything. I know Patience is a Virtue. But I'm to damn inpatient my attitude is if I want something I'm must have.
I feel at 25 as a female I'm too old. Im also the eldest in my family I dnt to be 30 and single still with no kids let alone no husband. I've even considered moving to Nigeria in search of a bf potential husband.


So NL is Gods Time the Best shall I learn to be more patience. My mum keeps telling.
Or shall I get on the case and do fast.

In terms of the bolded, that should not be a problem.

Awon boys wa to le deal pelu situation yen to make it fruitful. Gba be!

Goldieluks: Lmao @ bolded. Thank goodness you are gradually desisting from your usual phrase 'cretin'. what a relief.

The use of cretin is like the famous Arnold Scwarzenegger phrase:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1ypn0y32Ac

Dahmum: @ sagamite wetim b ur own self, u don take tis tin personal abi u wan make d Poster go carri AK 47 met him wife.Na only d negative side u dey ccc, y not d positive side like me naa

In my world, there are no relevant positive sides to rude and disrespectful women.

If a woman does not, and is not willing to, make you happy, my advice is to always dump her and find your happiness.

Goldieluks: Mr 'Cretin' how far?

I dey like dele!

Still moderating morons on NL with a dedicated passion!

I continue to give free education to the needy on the art of "thinking" and "reasoning"!

I am waiting for my long-awaited Nobel Prize and GCFR award for my contribution to human development.

oradee: is the problem the fact that she drew a tattoo or the hideousness of the tattoo...?

and to those who say she shld have taken permission and all before she alters her body, does he take permission/put her into consideration when he grows a pot-belly?

What a moronic analogy!

991: I have noticed this incorrect social behaviour of young women towards men. When you stop a girl to ask her maybe the name of a street or the house No. you are looking for, she would first look at you from head to toe then walk away snobbishly, and some of them wouldn’t even give you attention. Just yesterday I was lost in a strange location and I tried asking passers-by to give me direction to my destination, I got the worst snub of my life-time just for asking for help.
The first person I saw was a girl in her late 20s I said ‘hello excuse me’ she just glanced at me and walked away, so embarrassing and I wonder why they have this rude behaviour towards men?

Yeah!

Most times it is black women with special emphasis on shythead Nigerian and Jamo girls (with very few exceptions).

Utter shytheads!

Rude and they will be giving lame excuses for their dysfunctional, classless personalities. They irrrrrrrritate me!

Seriously!

Exceptions when I say black women:
- Southern African women
- Bahamian/Babardian/Trinidadian/Guadeloupean women
- Eastern African women

Usually those ones are pure class. Lovely angels.

[quote author=mygsmnaira.com]If this is passed as law, it gives legal backing to those who want to voluntarily cremate their dead (though I'm wondering if it was previously illegal, ie no enabling law). This law should be supported with the coroner's law which would make post-mortem investigation mandatory. (So that someone doesn't murder a loved one, and quickly cremate the body to hide evidence)[/quote]Now this is an intelligent point and opinion.

donmugu, get out your notebook and start taking notes.

donguutti: a lot of reactionary dumbos on the thread, instead of stating ur reasons for supporting
cremation, ur more interested in calling names. maybe its the gay slant that is tipping u guys overboard.
i do not for any reason support cremation ,i dont oppose it for those who like it, but saying "Voluntary"
cremation for unclaimed corpses sounds like gibberish to me

You are a cretin!

So you think saying it is against our religion and customs is the intelligent "stating ur reasons".

Foool! You got the apt response to your stewpid comments.

Gaybriel: Never! She is being tossed here and there by the world body. You can make it in the world but Nigeria is another world. World bank and UN are tool of antichrist. They want the world to have one voice and later one currency. Endtime!

This one na psyche patient o!

warrior101: Dude has a dominatrix as his wife. Hiding it from him is only the denial trick so that he will want or like it when he finally gets it

You no serious.

Darui: People like you are Nigeria's problem.
And yes,Lagos have no more space for mass burial. If corpses are left unclaimed, one of two things should be done; medical research or cremation.
Please stop with the religious and cultural bullsh.t.

GBAM!

mkmyers45: You are an he-doit.....what is wrong in cremating bodies? why don't you offer your backyard for the bodies to be dumped in? The level of religious and cultural naivety in Nigeria is alarming

GBOSA!

stillme: See wayo in display! I believe all things work together for those who love God.

And for those who do not love God? Things don't "work together" for them?