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chika98:
What exactly does this bit mean in plain terms? You've got a good career and she's gonna sit at home whilst you work and pay her bills without the woman contributing a dime? She goes to the bank to rob you?

Personally, to me that has never been a problem. I have never minded a housewife. There benefits to such structure.

What I would have a problem with is some court allocating my success to it.

No be housewife make me know maths.

chika98:
I wonder the same. It is almost always about my money, what I have to offer her etc. One would think we've got a bunch of millionaires here.

Naijaboys are hard workers and professionals.

That is why they are the premium catch to blackmen loving women.

armyofone:
puzzle me too. i don't know where they got the impression that ladies are automatically milker. we can make our own money too.
even uneducated ladies in niger do trade and make money.

i won't sign any pre nuptial, no way.

a man with head on his shoulder is what we pray for abeg . one who can bring in huge bacon without crying of some pennies you took from his wallet  
Saga, cheers  

It is not a secret and it is definitely not offensive or out of order to say most Nigerian girls are attracted to guys with money. Love is second.

It is not to say they are not capable of working for their own money, it is just to say they should not take a man's if things don't work out.

Personally, there is no way I can marry anyone in this day and age without prenup. Even the slightest whiff of annoyance/upset/refusal/disappointment in being asked to sign prenup will make me end the relationship/engagement and move on. I was not born with you, you were not born with me, we no have to be together. Marriage no be by force and not a necessity, we can both move on.

As I always say, when I am the one bearing the immense consequence of the risk: Fck your concept of romance. Fck your fairytale.  

So, abeg, post back my $20K engagement ring.

y me:
Its a tough world out there no doubt, I'm a woman myself and most times I feel irritated with the way most of these girls parade themselves around
The attitude is vile, the personality is classless, etc (I'm not saying i am a saint tho )

Thank you.

It is not like if it is rich pickings.

It is just the few gems out their that keep the hope alive.

When you see the arrogance and the rudeness of most young black girls especially when she was in her early 20s and good looking, you will think is this the person I should be putting and deserves to be put on a pedestal in later years.

I still see these girls till this day and shake my head. Some of them, because they never learnt manners in their youth and got away with it because of looks, take it into marriage, and can't keep the marriage because they are not used to being respectful and considerate.

chika98:
I think you and I will both agree that good men/women are hard to find. Often times, people don't exactly know what it is they're looking for in a mate. Sure everyone likes a good looking woman/ man but not when there isn't a balance. If she's lazy then you can most certainly tell after hanging around her. I strongly believe that people can NEVER hide who they truly are for a long time. Intuition is there for a reason.

People see the warning signs early on but they choose to ignore it. Most importantly, if you truly know within your heart what will make you happy and what is essential in a prospective partner then you certainly are on the right path.

This is also why i believe mental compatibility is a must. You have be with someone who shares the same core values as yourself. You've worked hard to better yourself and so has she. Put that together and things will always come good. This way you raise responsible adults in the future( assuming you want children)
and live a peaceful happy life (ups and downs included)

Honestly, how can you know who you want to spend the res of your life with in the 2 years on average people date before marriage. And listen to Naija girls, they would mostly say, if he does not ask you to marry in 2 years then end the relationship.

If I start pouring stories of cheating married women on here that I know of, una go tell Naija senate to remove marriage from the constitution.

Guys finding out they are not the father of their 2 kids etc.

queensmith:
Its very obvious none of you are actually that succesful otherwise you wouldnt be surrounded by women that are soo poor the idea of sharing cyber irks you.

Was that a scientific/sociological research?

12large1:
I dont need to tell you it is on google check am by urself isi ewu

You are a cretin!

It is me you think you can be using lies and facts manufactured in thin air for?

Me, SAGAMITE?

You are a moooron! You think I have a failed education like you?

armyofone:
don't be scared. you just gotta meet a nice babe like moi and the rest is history.

only the bold walk the alter.
believe the Lord for all your need and HE will care for you.

Hopefully in the name of God, I would meet a nice babe but no be you sha.

I am scared shyt when I see your name. I am always looking at my bank account to see if my money is still 100%.

chaircover:
Now we are getting somewhere & I am patting myself on the back because so far you havent asked me which school I attended

Ok so saga dearie have you considered that there may be a possibility that you may fall into the lucky few who will enjoy marriage and are therefore doing yourself a great injustice if you totally shun it without at least trying?

The chances of with the current crop of women in the 21st century is quite low. Maybe 10%.

The risk/consequence of getting it wrong (90%) is quite high. 

I have in place a relationship risk management system, the girl way go pass through am go try sha.

Come on. Una know my value for market na. A whole Saga. You think say na beans to bag am?

naijababe:
Sagamu, na for night time na hin person wey carry umblerra dey know say na laod hin carry. You think you still can't be cleaned out at 50? Siddon dere dey yarn dust 

Lai lai.

I for don enjoy life and anything I make would be hard to allocate to matrimony.

chaircover:
We know your type o! Hair dying trying to look funky old men at clubs trying to pull babes.

or trying to pick up babes on the road . .  .sisi mi sho fe lift or fine girl where are you going   

No one is saying that you wont get something even at 90; the question is what is the quality of what you are getting 

I fear the quality will be the same as the quality I would get if I waste my youth. 

I no like FA cup replay, it causes fatigue. 50% of the peeps wey marry will have to have replay. The ones wey no do replay might be in misery for most of the time holding on. Na lucky few go enjoy am.

Jessechinex:
papa God said 2 Abraham i wil cause dos who cause u nd bless dos who u. So dos u cause had bin cause n dos who bless had bin bless cos u re truly cal by God.

Papa God no bless you with grammar sha.

moremi2008:
Only Sagamite (as foolish as he is) has addressed my pressing concerns. The thought of a woman coming to reap where she has not sown bothers me. Except I can find a wife that has her own properties, businesses and assets, then why should I marry a woman unless she signs an iron-clad pre-nup?

You are a cretin!

What can you achieve in life with your level of idiocy?

chaircover:
Here we go again. . . .  . my money, my car, my house, my rolex, my Gucci 

Some of you will end up lonley old men sleeping with your wads of money & your pet cat on your bed with no one to even ask you if your feet are warm enough. Dem plenti for ASDA with their small shopping baskets containing one onion, one bottle of wine, one loaf of bread, one carrot and one tin of baked beans 

I know of men who have le le too o! or you think that mens market too doesnt go stale? what kind of correct all round babe will a 50 year old man pull? A bimbo who is clearly only toleratng you for your money or a woman your age who has tons and tons of baggage. Na excess luggage charge go kill una 

Better make hay while the sun shines. I don talk my own

Having a 28 year old bimbo at 50 is more appealing to me than have a shyt head waste my youth only to lay claim to my sweat at 38 and then I start sharing apartment and still single at old age because I lack coins.

Except you really worwor or lack coins, there is no way of being single old man.

naijababe:
You dey mind dem, small time now one of their aunties go begin hawk them from naija to jand to yankee to canada.

All dem aunties we go dey pursue 21 yrs everywhere with their 'Ha sisi mi, mo de l'aburo kan to ma fit o, olowo lowo o de ni ise to da lowo'. SMH!!!

That aunty has to be the best love-vendor because I go chop and wipe mouth.

Make the aunty go deal with facing wetin im aburo do.

And by the way, when such happens, na usually for some chic desperate to settle down with a responsible man. Not because aburo for London dey hunger.

armyofone:
baba agba, negative as always.

You people are not going to put the shackles on me. My babalawo is working times 4 of your babalawo.

dayokanu:
OP,

After a while the whole thing might start becoming boring,

All your homeboys you used to hang out together are all getting married infact one of my friends whom I thought would never marry got married last November in Colorado, NL Kokoye was there.

Now in your circle of like 12 friends like 9 are married or have baby mommas some of them have kids who are already 7yrs old, just 3 of you left, Going out isnt that fun any more as the much younger folks have taken over.

If you are around 30 and still hanging out with 22yr olds soon you would become an agbaya, Very soon your dad who used to be silent about such issues start bothering you with calls of when you would settle down

All your aunties start calling you everyone trying to hook you up with someone.

They now start the familiar story of how old would your children be when you are 50?

Your pastor starts calling you and ask if you have anyone in mind? Starts giving you the profile of the single ladies in church and all the bla bla bla You tell him that you are still paper chasing and he counters that all the succesful men started small with their wives
and they are now very succesful

This happened to my friend: His two younger brothers(Who were hard core players) got married

You never look the fact of that out of that 9 wey marry, in this day and age, after 8 years maybe about 4 don divorce. Those 4 are hiring a room in a 3-bed apartment share while still paying for the mortgage of the house they got before marriage and which the now ex-angel-turned-devil is living in because she has been awarded the kids.

They are hanging out with you and you are paying for stuff because they are normally broke after paying alimony since dem no sign prenup.

Of the remaining 5 still married, 3/4 are playing wrestling with women outside their marriage as their wives who have not taken care of themselves are hardly appealing.

Kai, women must hate me exposing this shikena o.  

armyofone:
sorry for the past heartbreak. take heart .

love will come and when you jam that babe eh, you will forget everything.

humming Alicia key's

I keep on falliiiiiiiiiiiiing, in and out of love with you
i keep on falllllllllllllllllllllllllling, in and out of love with you

humming and soaking drinking dom perignon

WARNING

To all men, when this woman says "you will forget everything", she means she will milk you for everything you own when una divorce.

Don't fall for her spell o!

See am already telling you, she is gonna fall out of love with you.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=857511.msg10089872#msg10089872 date=1328021616] She dated/ She's dating;not sure. They broke up for a while. I'm not sure if they're back together.  [/quote]She said she dated a Nigerian for 7 years before Olamide. That means she has dated 2 Nigerians?

sadmama:
You would have someone accountable for you, that watches ur back, that is a part of you. Someone who would care for your needs sincerly always having u in mind.

Who told you men highly value all these?

sadmama:
Marriage can be fun, the togetheress can be wonderful, though the excitement of boyfriend girlfriend is no longer there. that fantasy(even though exciting) is replaced by a sure firm affection.

This is a fantasy associated with Never-everland in over 90% of marriages.

sadmama:
Then u have someone waiting on u, at ur beck and call. she cooks ur food, serves u, could help with ur laundry, keep ur home front and might even contribute to finances. I even think its more fun for guys sef. For women all u get is that ure a Mrs and people could respect u or snigger less about you finish.

Chineke meh! Is this true?

Una no go get roster for these in the world of the "modern woman"?

sadmama:
I know someone that was denied a good job because he wasnt married, he couldnt convince the employers that he was a responsible person, esp as he had worked in good jobs for up to 8 years.

So try abeg, 

Come o, is this a veiled threat?

Na now scare-matrimony una wan resort to?

N9,000,000 is £45,000 a month. That is ridiculously too high for a player at the end of his career.

numo86:
make ona leave them alone ooo, my lil problem is just with d birthday stuff, shuldnt the daddy's birthday be a personal family thing??why get d whole church involved, ??i mean in this lastdays when more important things shuld be occupyin d people of d church,the pastors birthday shuldnt be part of any church agenda, if Jesus and d apostles had to be bringin there birthday celebrations(if @ all they did any) to d church for all to be feasting i wonder if we wuld have a bible by now,or i wonder if Jesus wuld hav been focused in his preachin work & also dying for us, trifles should never be brought into d church,

The birthday is an opportunity to gif im money and then take ya money to go and by his next set of luxury cars.

The prayer na just to warn you in advance to start saving up to put down your own contribution.

Those suits he wears don't come cheap you know.

So what if Jesus never celebrated birthday? Did he live large as well?

Abeg leave pauper story out of discussion about big man.

12large1:
Did ur papa pass english?

You are a cretin!

Product of a failed education. You think you can speak English more than my 8 year old nephew?

Tell me when was Andre Ayew rejected by Marsielle? Show me where you got that report.

lurkee:
Natalie responds to allegations of her not being black enough for the video. She says she is open minded and she has also dated a Nigerian before for 7 years so people should "free" her.

Source

Is she dating an Olamide? As he tweet said "before Olamide".

Acidosis:
is the church money your own? or is it meant for spoon-feeding you?
are the people paying the tithe complaning?

That is as daft as saying is the money being swindled for some pensioners my own. It is OK as long as the pensioners are not complaining.

When you exploit the vunerable in my society, IT IS MY FCKING BUSINESS!

debosky:
There was intent to ridicule and denigrate the ga-y person simply for his intimate orientation. If the Oxford player made a pass at him then his comments could be justified.

So in essence singling out this person is intended at ridicule because of his intimate orientation and that is discriminatory.

Again, no need to publicly ridicule him in this manner.

We frequently and consistently express our lack of interest with other people without them making a pass at us. It is a normal societal norm. Is that grounds to lose our jobs?

debosky:
That's a different proposition - he's not denigrating her heterosexuality in that regard - she's not the only heterosexual in the house.

He was not the only poof in the house too.

debosky:
It is offensive - he wasn't even approached in the first place and it was clearly intended for ridicule, simply for being g-ay.

No.

For him to pick ONLY the poof that was bigger than him and use the word padlock (suggesting defencelessness), it can be said he targeted more because of the size. Is that grounds to lose your job?

If he said that about a female 6ft 2 bodybuilder, he would not lose his means of income even if he was not approached. Worse still, even if he was ridiculing.

debosky:
They don't say those things to ridicule the person's intimate orientation. That's the key here - his aim was to ridicule the intimate orientation of the gay dude.

But they say it to ridicule the person's se[i]x[/i]. Is that grounds of sacking them from their job?

debosky:
It depends on your organisation and its rules/terms and conditions.

Again, if deemed discriminatory, the company withholds the right to take a decision based on your terms and conditions.

There will be no organisation that can or will sack you for that. It will be seen as outrageous. You have to admit that. The worst you will get is a warning IF ANY ACTION, not even a demotion.

That shows this is just some excessive use of force to suppress anything against homosexuality.

Did Cameron get any punishment for saying the Shadow Chancellor was like a Torrents victim? People make jokes about others all the time and they don't lose their jobs.

debosky:
I agree fundamentally - but this law (the Nigerian law) hasn't even been approved yet, so it is technically not yet a 'law' - it is a proposal and hence can be challenged, especially when it is in clear disagreement with the constitution.

This is different from someone signing up to an established code of ethics and then going ahead to violate it.

If I disagree with the logic of something, then you challenge it through the right channels in the courts.

What kind of code of ethics says:

You can use psychotherapy to "treat" someone for paedophilia.

You can use psychotherapy to "treat" someone for s[i]e[/i]x addiction.

You can use psychotherapy to "treat" someone for lack of interest in s[i]e[/i]x.

But you should not try and use psychotherapy to "treat" someone for poofterism. Don't touch it, just say it is OK.

Where is the logic?

That is pure evidence of what I have been saying for years: There is NO WILL to find out about homosexuality or question it. They just want to go around forcing and dragooning people to accept it with weak logic.

That illogicality is more peeving than the poofs themselves.

What part of the constitution does the proposed law disagree with?

moremi2008:
Look what the cat brought in today! Still dumpster-diving behind McKinsey for rejected Powerpoint slides? Or are the security dogs being too much of a hassle today?

Cretin, what success are you claiming when you have the IQ of a toad?

OP, you missed out some a bit:

SOME SANITY PRAYERS
- Let us (i.e. you dimwits) ask God to make sure Adeboye does not use our tithe to live large.
- Let us (again i.e. you dimwits) ask God that pentecostal pastors leaving large with church funds will end up in jail this year.

fadlullah:
mike okiro was able to distinguish himself

Have you ever seen a dictionary in your life?

Do you understand the meaning and application of the word distinguish?

Or you just like pulling any fancy word you have seen used before out of your arse without thinking?

debosky:
I'm not saying it provides more grounds, but it provides mitigating circumstances - i.e. a rash comment in the heat of the moment. Suarez was rightly punished anyways, according to the rules governing his sport. This is different from making an unprovoked, clearly discriminatory comment for no reason.

I don't think someone in a heated debate using racist words is in a position of better mitigation than someone making a joke at the expense of another.

There was really no hate in the Oxford player's comments.

debosky:
He ridiculed and singled out the g-ay dude for no reason - if he made similar comments about EVERY contestant (i.e interest or disinterest in sex) then it could be considered non-discriminatory.

Why does he need to express this view on the internet ridiculing the individual? Have you heard female contestants coming out to make similar protestations? It simply was unnecessary - no one had even forced him to share a bed in the first place.

No 1, he does not need to make comments about every contestant as he might not be opposed to intimate relations with the others.

No 2, he most likely particularly mentioned the rugby player because of his physique as he was not the only poof in the house.

No 3, do you think if he said he would padlock his d[i]i[/i]ck to prevent the wild older woman (Denise) from sleeping with him, he would face any punishment?

No 4, there is nothing offensive about his comment even if made on the net.

No 5, women say such things all the time. Stalker! Pervert! etc Do you see them punished? Do you think a woman would be sacked if she said EXACTLY the same thing he said about an heterosexual man?

debosky:
Why would you even express this in the first place? Is it normal practice to express lack/interest in sex with people just because you work with them? Is this something you'd go in and tell your boss just randomly?

The question is would I be sacked?

debosky:
That is a general comment - not liking food is different from ridiculing a specific African because of what he eats. The latter would be discriminatory.

Lets say I agree with you. Would someone be sacked for saying an African was eat stinking food?

debosky:
I didn't write the ethics rules - if you know the rules then you abide by them. If you don't like them then go do something else. I don't know the details so I can't go questioning them simply because I have different personal preferences.

I think fundamentally, to have a good argument, you have to question the rational of the rule instead of stay clear and say people should follow it. Otherwise it is completely safe to say you agree: If you know Africa/Nigeria's poof laws, then abide by them. If you don't like them then go somewhere else and live. I don't know the details so I can't go questioning them simply because I have different personal preferences.

You can't give such answers because it is convenient when you clearly understand the logic and you know the rational fails logically.

moremi2008:
I am not asking this question in jest; I am dead serious. What exactly is the point of marriage? I am successful, independent, I  have had a string of steady girlfriends and if I want, I can have a string of baby mamas. What exactly is the advantage of marriage for a guy? I just don't get it. Please don't tell me "love" because I have been in love twice in my young life (I am in my late-twenties) and nothing came out of it but unnecessary pain (I am not interested in love, ever again). So why should a guy get married besides family pressure?

You are still claiming successful? How?

Another absolutely ridiculous hypocrisy from one of the so-called "progressive" pro-poof nations that go around lecturing African countries on "being civil" and "leaving people to live their lives".

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/story/2011/11/23/bc-polygamy-ruling-supreme-court.html

These are the types of cretinous positions that irritate me to the bone. Coming from Judges of a SUPREME COURT!!! A career apex that makes some other people worship them and refer to them like if their words are the words of Gods (trust Sagamite is not one of those, I filter even what God himself tells me).

So polygamy "harms" children and needs to be criminalize (and worth 5 years in jail) but they think homosexuals raising kids does not harm them?

African government officials should start shoving this publicly in their faces anytime they open their stewpid mouths.

ThiefOfHearts:
How come you forgot to mention that she received a RAZZIE for Mission Impossible II.  I dont know any truly talented actress/actor that has received a razzie o. yet na that one you want representing you. O kare!

You are a bloody liar!

What about Madonna, Jennifer Lopez, Jenny McCarthy and Paris Hilton?

ThiefOfHearts:
By the time i break that your massive head eh  

Racist trying to disparage our own black brothers and sisters awards.

Working for the whiteman to bring us down.

Nnenna1:
If she was nominated then it was more for the political underpinnings in the movie than her talent (much more lol).

But you're right, the average western viewer wouldn't give a toss about her accent or any of the nuances that would make the movie authentic.

I think a lot of people don't find her that good of an actress though.

No doubt the fact she is like a stick and light skined makes her appealing/sexy to white boys and might have helped her career in getting good roles.

Oyinbo like pankere body that you will fear the wind will blow the person away, with light skin and bony face.

ThiefOfHearts:
My friend. stop lying. what award? all her awards have been token black person awards. awards solely given for being black. That's it. NAACP/BlackImage/etc, na award be that?

I would rather be nominated for an Oscar aka Okenedo or a SAG award than some pity "thank you for putting your black face in this film to make people think it's a diverse movie" award.

Bafta no be black award na.

Neither is London Film critics award.

Or Screen Actors Guild Award.

And why are you racist against we blacks?

Nnenna1:
Honestly though - I think she will give a cringe-worthy performance. Kinda like how she was in Crash (HORRIBLE African American accent). Ah well, let's see how things go.

I have a feeling that the actors won't lend an authenticity that Nigerians can identify with. However, as Nigerians are not the main audience I can't see how this will bother the producers.

She was nominated for several awards for her role in Crash including NAACP.

Even if she mashes up igbo accent, frankly, most of the people that matter (audiences in Western cinema) will not have a clue or give a shyt.

ThiefOfHearts:
That is what Chiwetel is for.

Can any of you even name a movie Thandie has been in? Im quite sure I know whether or not she's actually talented more than those in this thread.

As a producer, if I can throw Whoopi Goldberg, Oprah Winfrey, Morgan Freeman, Queen Latifah, Don Cheadle, Vivica Fox all in, I would.

The more the merrier.

I know she was in Crash and Mission Impossible, that is far better than any Igbo girl can bring to the table to help my top line (Revenue).

Point 1: Thandie Newton would help with film's promotion and hence generate more revenue.

Point 2: How many Nigerian actresses can really act before producers can find an Igbo one.

Point 3: If you want to make real money in film, you audience will not have a jack arse clue what is authentic Igbo accent, hence Thandie will be just fine.

Money over inane cultural pride.

Some sssseriously, fffcking awesome and hot looking chics in the video.

Jakumo:
I never said that, but all the same, murder is murder, whether perpetrated by a cop, or by a mob.

But that is what I am asking you.

How come we see that every month (conservative estimate) for the past few years in Nigeria but almost impossible to see that in the UK/US?

Jakumo:
Actually, rogue cops in the US have been jailed for committing murder in the line of duty.  That is not a common occurrence, but it does happen once in a blue moon.    In every such case, they faced trial in the court of law, as it should be.

They shot unarmed people in broad daylight for bribe?