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EnlightenedSoul:
Your argument doesn't follow!

EnlightenedSoul:
It isn't the platform for that sort of thing. I can't help you see what's inappropriate in it if you refuse to see it!

I never claimed it was sexist on account of being one-sided. Nor did I conclude that persons of no interest should be punished for hitting on women, ya wild newt. Go bury your head in a pillow.

GooseBaba:
Mr gra gra....I will recommend that you apply the words in the context it was used and stop displaying ITK..

Clearly, his actions are not acceptable in the space in question. Hence his disclaimer. He can be seen as a pervert. .. Secondly, freaky in my explanation means if a married man of such caliber is caught sleeping with young babes, his actions is seen as strange. Which is considered freaky.

Make sure you check dictionary before you reply..

EnlightenedSoul:
How is it extreme? Is the platform and message appropriate or professional in any way?

She blurted out what I wish I had the heart to, and I'll bet she was royally pissed off at the time.

EnlightenedSoul:
Nah, if you're tracking someone down and it's career-related, you comment on or compliment their work, qualifications, and accomplishments if/when you're genuinely impressed, not their appearance. That's the height of unprofessionalism, IMO. But I'm no marketer, and IDK if things are different in that/your realm. You'd know better.
A boss/colleagues telling you you're hot and blah blah blah, isn't awkward and irritating? Especially, if its one-sided? Especially, when you're out there to get work done and don't need the drama, or weird scenarios springing up everywhere?? Work romances are a disaster waiting to happen about 95% of time and should be avoided at all costs, but I guess thats just another opinion of mine. If it was a woman, same thing!
I agree with you in that it shouldn't have taken to Twitter and blown up as it did, but like I said she was probably pissed off. I don't begrudge her the reponse in the least (the message itself).

silverr:
I wont really say so sha.
Some men need to be checked as they forget women are humans with feelings who deserve to be accorded respect.

But this is extremism..........

silverr:
These feminism is already getting out of hand o!
So men should not compliment women again?
I personally feel its the height of insecurity.
When you are a bad ass professional and know your worth, you wont be looking for faults where there isn't. You should even be happy your beauty or sexuality was able to attract someone through all the worked up atmosphere.

I'd bet my money that she is a bimbo (beauty minus brains) and is using feminism to cover up.

I support feminism in real gender malignment cases but neither in shows of shame like this................... nor those trying so hard to reverse the laws of nature.

EnlightenedSoul:
Alright, I'm off.

GooseBaba:
Form this context .. He was salivating at the feminist package and he knew it. That's why he used the political correct tone.

However, as a married man for over 30 yrs.. People in society will see him as responsible old man.. But when caught with a young maiden, he becomes a freaky old man wey no wan old.. You know there are certain things you can do with a 27yr old that you can't do with a 60yr old.. Bend over and touch your toes comes to mind...Hehehe

EnlightenedSoul:
With all you're trying to say, it neither equates nor computes in all honesty.

GooseBaba:
Just looking at men of his age in our society. Aristos... The ones doing it under G, It's until they get caught that's when we know that they're freaks...

EnlightenedSoul:
Though, in my eyes, the attention is none the more appreciated on public transportation, I never said hitting on a woman on a train platform was sexist. The comparison is astounding even in repetition, lolll.

EnlightenedSoul:
Lol, continue feigning ignorance and lack of cognition. Feminists/Feminism are/is the least of your worries.

EnlightenedSoul:
Refer to my previous posts as I'll not repeat myself, boy.

GooseBaba:
True talk..men his age, married for that long are perverts.. They salivate but can't touch.

EnlightenedSoul:
I've answered you, boy.

EnlightenedSoul:
And I expected no less.

macof:
If she had called him out as a pervert that he seemed to be but a sexist? Come on. . For complementing a photo?

EnlightenedSoul:
I don't blame her at all. I understand completely. She had every right to respond as she did to the annoying character, and resident (self-appointed) LinkedIn beauty contest judge

macof:
highly probable
..she's almost half his age.. maybe that's what pissed her off

EnlightenedSoul:
Are you effing serious??

I can explicitly tell you that my and dare I say 100% of LinkedIn profiles aren't there for rando propositions and advances ( of the sexual/relationship variety), but job connections/offers, and career-networking (as is its purpose!). I consider such messages exasperating, annoying, and inappropriate in the extreme. If you're that desperate and in search of that kind of attention, you'd have better luck joining freakin' Match.com or the myriad of other social/relationship sites at your disposal in lieu of trashing your respectibility and professionalism.

macof:
it's actually very funny. One wonders if the Woman is always so hard and tough or she was just having a bad day with work, cus I think her reaction was uncalled for. What happened to simply ignoring a pervert?

EnlightenedSoul:
LinkedIn is a career networking website - thats definitely not the purpose of the site! Sagamite actually went as far as to suggest women removing professional profile photos completely to avoid being hit on by immensely stu.pid characters. What does that tell you?

macof:
I completely agree . I was just making my observations

macof:
Well I don't think that should be the first point of call on LinkedIn

Not that it's any matter to take that seriously.. the woman might truly be crazy but the man seems like a pervert (I wouldn't say sexist)

EnlightenedSoul:
@ Sagamite: I disagree with your response. As I'd guessed, "you'd NEVER understand", and clearly you don't so...

macof:
I understand that was not the medium for complementing Photos but. ..Appearance is irrelevant?

If you work diligently and accomplish things why won't people recognize that?

ilobasama:
As a barrister I will definitely avoid being her client before she turns a case she's meant to win for me against me just cause she feels i am against the female race

EnlightenedSoul:
How would you feel if, in your professional sphere, you were constantly being assessed by your physical appearance and so-called beauty rather than all your accomplishments, almost in spite of your accomplishments?

EnlightenedSoul:
Why should my boss or colleagues comment on something as irrelevant as my appearance at every turn? Why should a LinkedIn profile created specifically to showcase professional experience and qualifications be used as a medium to hit on women? Is this Facebook?? She took a stab at responding to irritating af behavior I try my best to ignore, and not let bother me on any given day. And I'd bet $1000 it wasn't the only comment of its kind she'd gotten that day, hence the outburst.

EnlightenedSoul:
He neither afforded her any opportunities nor gave her any cogent offers in the idio.tic e-mail he actually took the time to write, but to offer her his "vote" on being the 'Most Stunning LinkedIn Profile Picture', as if it were a thing of value to line her pockets with. Lol, screw him. Reading that, I share her annoyance.

ilobasama:
Well those are feminists for you. They attack you for any comment and action you take and turn it into a gender based war.

So she could not appreciate a simple complement, even if he had talked about something else outside her looks, she ll still find way to put it in her gender- bashed-i-am-the-victim books

She's a role model and mentor to many of our feminists females here on NL

EnlightenedSoul:
Well, she's absolutely RIGHT, but you'd never understand!

[size=18pt]Sexism row after top lawyer compliments woman barrister's 'stunning' LinkedIn picture... then claims he was talking about the 'professional quality' of the photo
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It was probably meant as a compliment – but for 57-year-old lawyer Alexander Carter-Silk it backfired spectacularly.

The married father-of-two was accused of ‘disgusting’ sexism last night for messaging high-flying barrister Charlotte Proudman, praising her ‘stunning’ picture on professional networking website LinkedIn.

He said the 27-year-old should ‘win a prize’ for her photograph, adding it was ‘the best I have ever seen’ on the site.

Miss Proudman – who is the same age as Mr Carter-Silk’s daughter – responded saying she found his message ‘offensive’ and that she was not on LinkedIn ‘to be objectified by sexist men’.

The human rights barrister, who is currently studying for a PhD at Cambridge, then posted an image of both messages on Twitter and was inundated with messages of support.

In accompanying tweets she wrote: ‘How many women @LinkedIn are contacted re physical appearance rather than [professional] skills? ...highlights wider sexism in legal [profession] perpetrated by other legal [professionals].

‘His motives are sexist & such users shouldn’t be allowed to use @LinkedIn –need firm stance.’ Asked by a Twitter user whether his message would have been more acceptable to her had he spoken to her face-to-face, she added: ‘Sexism has no appropriate context.’

Other lawyers also commented, calling his message ‘inexcusable sexism’ and ‘very worrying’.

Mr Carter-Silk’s full 9.16am message said: ‘Charlotte, delighted to connect, I appreciate that this is probably horrendously politically incorrect but that is a stunning picture !!!

https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2015/09/08/23/2C15990500000578-0-image-m-46_1441752987398.jpg

‘You definitely win the prize for the best LinkedIn picture I have ever seen. Always interest to understant (sic) people’s skills and how we might work together.’

Responding around nine hours later, she wrote: ‘Alex, I find your message offensive.

‘I am on Linked-in for business purposes, not to be approached about my physical appearance or to be objectified by sexist men.

‘The eroticisation of women’s physical appearance is a way of exercising power over women. It silences women’s professional attributes as their physical appearance becomes the subject.

‘Unacceptable and misogynistic behaviour. Think twice before sending another woman (half your age) such a sexist message.’

In a statement released through City law message board RollOnFriday, Mr Carter-Silk claimed his comments had been misconstrued.

He said: ‘Most people post pretty unprofessional pictures on LinkedIn, my comment was aimed at the professional quality of the presentation on LinkedIn which was unfortunately misinterpreted.

‘Ms Proudman is clearly highly respected and I was pleased to receive her request to linkup and very happy to instruct her on matters which [are] relevant to her expertise, that remains the position.’

Miss Proudman is an award-winning barrister at the Chambers of Michael Mansfield QC. She is currently taking a sabbatical to do a PhD, where she is studying the law surrounding female genital mutilation (FGM).

Mr Carter-Silk lives in Cambridgeshire with his wife of nearly 30 years, Jacqueline, 60.

He has more than 25 years’ experience and represented high-profile clients, including Elle Macpherson throughout the phone-hacking scandal.

Speaking from the couple’s £700,000 detached home last night, Mrs Carter-Silk said she was unaware of the incident and declined to comment further.

A spokesman for law firm Brown Rudnick, which he joined last year, said: ‘We are aware of the comments made by a member of the firm on a private social media account.

‘We have apologised for the offence caused and have no further comment to make.’