₦airaland Forum

wunmi590:
Hummm, your matter got me in the corner.

OP, I won't advice you to get married early if you are not fully ready, my definition of fully ready coupled with (financial and maturity).

But be truth be told, if I were you, I would make sure I talk to her to give you more time, remember you disvergined her and she also aborted for you, so you need to always put her in consideration while planing your career.

The best you can just do for her is just let her relax her mind, assure her that you are going to marry her (that's if you intend marrying her), plan het program in your future agenda.

I know the reason why she's desperate to settle down is because of the abortion, so that it won't later have side effect when she gets to a certain age (early 30's or late 30's).

Don't let people push you to what you ate not ready for, so that your future kids would not suffer.

what kind of advice is this
Imagine your starting and ending

ikbnice:
and what shall it profit a man if he has no money on earth and still end up in the so-called HELL?

if he is poor here and ends in hell, he worked it out that way. Whether poor or rich have eternity in view.
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It is very good to be rich, if your money is genuine from hard work.
God Himself is pleased with you.
Unfortunately, every guy today admires Nigerian artists, yaahu bozs to mention but a few, who get themselves in so many unspeakable things just to get fame or money or both.
It will surprise you on the last day that all these things are vanity.
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Have eternity in view.

ikbnice:
With money, you own your world but without it, your own world is not even yours, others would dictate for you.

what shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loose his own soul?
Everything u see here is vanity
Be eternity conscious

sarrki:
Enemies of the state are short of words

Do you see anything good looking in him so far?,,,,.. and you still believe the image in that pic can still rule your country?SMH

tunary:
Wor-Wor girl despite all the cash he's got

Tuface didn't come to your house to complain about the worworness. Did he?

Stop taking panadol for another person's headache.

lefulefu:
na ashawo work dem dey do na..though in more corporate way.naija version of slayqueening is nothing more than prostitution .

so up till now, you still don't understand the defination op gave about slay 'queen'?SMH

Gidimann:
What else do women want in this life

www.what women want

begwong:
Wetin kom kwansign u. B bery kiapul witz ya comment!.

a confused religion

Mouthgag:
You're not a true Christian, you're just a hypocrite and a bloody FOOL.

go and sleep jor,,,,, your religion is full of so so trouble,,,,,transfer your agression somewhere else. B aram

Marleek:
Hmmn. Wait oh, Who still buys music CDs nowadays? Where does these artistes get their money from? Abi everyday na show? Just thinking loud.

my brother, i think am pass you o,
hmmm,,,,

obagangan:
some people will wake-up with fake doctrine from fake pastors to start there own preaching without allowing the holy spirit to interpret the word of God to them. even Muslim women pray with there head covered.

mumu Christian

if muslim woman cover their head while praying, does it now mean muslim and christain women are now the same?
Face your religion and stop putting your mouth in what doesn't concern you.

Mumu islam

Addicted2Women:

And some idiots will still tell me that God really do exist

God is in his air conditioned mansion in the sky, sitting on his gold throne and watch his children die of cancer

Be watchful of what you say here,, all the name of commenting on a post.
God is no respecter of anybody and God is not anybody's age mate.
It doesn't really matter if you believe in Him or not.
Don't stupidly run your mouth biko:

Onyemadonald:
http://www.showbizuganda.com/finances-money-mistakes-you-should-know-and-avoid/

well said

Onyemadonald:
http://www.showbizuganda.com/finances-money-mistakes-you-should-know-and-avoid/

well said

Nutase:
You are lucky o. But go and check yourself again because I know yahoo plus guys used to have a juju pot under the passenger seat of their cars. Any girl that seats their will either loose her womb, destiny or life depending on what they are after. Its not always till they get in between your legs.

Never enter the car of a guy you know nothing about.

then she should come to DUNAMIS Area1 Abuja. Her womb and destiny will be restored.

Davash222:
For the guys.. If you are being taken for granted, just follow these steps.

1: Go and make money

2: Make Enough money

3: Make plenty money

4: Don't forget to buy Big house and Cars.

Finally, do this..

yes o

Mekus68:
So somebody cannot die again in peace.

In fact, any Nigerian that is wishing my president death, it is his president that will die.

lmao,,,narialanders,,,won't kill me.
Anytime am bored, i just come here to laugh out loud....
The interesting thing about nairaland is not in the post,,,it is in the comments

tintingz:
It is normal for dogs to bark in the middle of the night, it is for security, alert. What's strange about it? I've lived with people that keep dogs and they bark most times in odd hours.

i can see, u didn't get my point, and u r glue to ur own school of thought.. Every body has different views on this, so its ok.
Tanks

EvilBrain1:
Its called sleep paralysis and its perfectly normal.

When you are asleep, you brain normally paralyzes all your muscles. This is so that when you dream, you don't start acting action film and punch or kick your wife/girlfriend sleeping beside you. This paralysis (called muscle hypotonia) is usually turned off as you wake up. Sometimes however, you might wake up while the paralysis is still on, making you feel that you can't move or that something is pressing you into the bed. It usually lasts just a few seconds and stops immediately you're stimulated, e.g. if someone touches you or if you hear a sound.

Because this experience can be scary for those who don't know what it is, the greedy, corrupt pastors have taken advantage of it to scare people and make them seek protection against the "evil spirits that are responsible".

But there are no evil spirits, it is perfectly normal, and it happens to everybody. So don't worry.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_paralysis

your answer to this question, appears perfect and convincing but for other facts about it,,,,
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This is my case..
(1.) First i see my self in the dream,,, and then, either a man or a woman is trying to catch me with an evil intention, so i will start running or he or she may be trying to press my neck and surfocate me to death in that dream, i will then try to shout jesus, but it is as if the person is overpowering me,,,,, i will start struggling with the person, and wake up, but as i am trying to come into conciousness, i only discover this force pressing me down,,, a kind of wanting me to die in my sleep.... I don't experience pressing without such evil dreams.,, as in me, don't of others.
It really gets me worrying.
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(2.) second, i noticed my dog will start barking at that minute. Facing the door to my apartmment.,,, serveral times, this happens, i see my dog in that state.
There are times i wake up from my sleep, without pressing, the dog doesn't bark those times.
The question is why facing my door at such times.? To me, It means the dog saw something, like a spirit,,(evil spirit) entering my room.
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(3.) some av even died through that process. Some people struggle to wake up, some struggle too but couldn't make it and died.(lot of mysteries about it)
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To me i feel there is more to it...'spiritual wise'. I feel Its beyond the brain paralysis you talked about.

enshi:
God bless you for real...
Was thinking girls would speak in her favour...
God bless you again

Do u know if he a male in disguise
But you were just too fast in deleting her from everywhere around your life, barring her lines etc,,,
u know ladies are rarely able to think straight when they are annoyed or emotional down,,,
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No oath is meaningless and therefore should not be handled carelessly,,,,the Bible is also involved,,,, God is not mocked whatever a man sows he reaps....
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Ecclesiastics,,, says ''do not let ur mouth put you to sin,,,,,do not make vows and then not fulfil them,,, it has great consequences,,, the end is not always good,,,,cos the power of life and death is in the tongue. I said this becos i already sense fear shaking away from your voice because of the so called oath.
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My advice is that you go back and reconcile with her ,,,, there are so many ways you can resolve this issue without giving her that money,,,,
Don't endanger your life,,,, be wise

Psalm 109:8
May his days be few, may someone else take his place of leadership. Hahahahhahahaha
Nairalander won't kill me

martyns303:
I got the SMS, everything getting tough under PMB. Meanwhile I saw a sticker with the inscription "prayer for Buhari, Psalm 109:8". I just checked the Bible verse and lol......

And now am in hot water,,,everybody attacking me cos of the social media thing.....
Yes we are protected, but it is not likely you get the correct answer to the question here.
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For some of us trying to say what we really feel, we are seen as 'holier than thou'.
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Now, promise is a debt, if your wife ever promised you something b4 marriage and after marriage she is not keeping to it, i know is bad and if she doesn't change, she may be inviting something terrible to herself and marriage.
Unlike what i understand b4 now, if she has agreed to abide by them b4 now, she should try by all means to adhere to them now, cos promise is a debt.

mrk74:
I've really learnt from your post. Thanks.

But do you have something to say about someone not acting as expected even when they had promised to. Especially where they have not cared to air their reservation/objection. The issue here actually stemmed from not acting as expected. Some of the other instances had even not doing things I suggested which were for her own good because she had reservations but didn't care to bring up her reservations.

--Modified--
For the bolded. I hope you realize that our identities are protected. No one knows us here.
I won't share this on Facebook and I'm not even using my regular NL account.

Don't you think you are expecting so much from her?
We only heard your side,,we haven't listened to her yet....
And if you ask me, for even bringing your family affairs to social media is a lot of immaturity from you....
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What is killing marriages now is over expectation,,,spouses expecting too much from each other.,,some wives expect that their husbands musn't cheat on them,,,,so when they realize he is cheating, they feel the world should come to an end.
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I know a family whose dad, mom and the first child of the family are diebetic,,,,,you know what that means?,,,,,,they started having a pattern of cooking and eating in the house,,,,now these patterns weren't going well with those without the illness. Eating wheat with a particular kind of soup for a whole month became boring to some people and i tell you, it wasn't easy at all for them to adapt.,,,,
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it is really difficult to start adapting to something you were never used to.
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For that aspect of food, your wife could get many pots as possible,it means she will be cooking yours separately,becos it's obvious, she can't do away with that item, if it was, she wouldn't av bought it and then hid it.............
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To avoid hiding things as such, tell her to get a separate pot for you and another pot for herself and she is free to use the item in her pot only.
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For the apology aspect,,, i know it hurts especially when you are waiting for someone to tell you sorry and the sorry isn't coming...but then if it is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life, the earlier you accept it the better, otherwise, ur marriage will be in riun if care is not taken.
She may even be someone who doesn't see anything wrong with apologizing-there are people like that, it doesn't matter if you guys dated for 8yrs before marriage- the truth is you can never finish knowing someone.
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For example,
i have this habit of not greeting people becos of the way i was brought up.i see only mum and dad when i wake up, i greet the two of them and will have to greet again when i get to school, and greeting a teacher was a collective thing.,,,,so i was not used to greeting so many people in the morning, like someone who comes from a large family or live in a family house. And i grew with it
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Now when i grew up, and left home, i started having problems with it, people complain i don't greet. If i wake up in the morning and i see 20 people i have to greet, it is like the ground should open let me enter.- it bores me.
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AND OVER THE YEARS I GROW UP EVEN WITH A MENTALITY THAT GREETING IS NOT A BIG DEAL. I WILL NEVER BE UPSET IF 100 PEOPLE PASS BY ME WITHOUT GREETING ME, AND SO I EXPECT THEY SHOULDN'T GET UPSET TOO IF I DON'T GREET THEM.
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now many people interpreted this as pride, ego etc.
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When i got married it became a very big issue. My husband loves greeting people, cos he grow up in a large family where you greet about 40 to 50 people when you wake up in the morning.
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He started forcing me to greet anybody i see, i started forcing myself to greet really, but even in my trying, i still fail most times,,,i could just pass you and not notice you,,,,maybe after walking abit far, it then occurs to me i didn't greet that fellow and i will start feeling so sorry again.
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But when my husband realizes i wasn't doing it out of pride or ego, he learnt to live with it.,,,,,he does both his greetings and mine together,,,,and when people are complaining, he will be the one to explain things to them.
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So try understand ur wife, apologizing may not be anything to her. Perhaps, she had an upbringing where you don't need to apologize for anything, and she is used to it. It may not be ego or pride, it has just become a nature.

mrk74:
Thank you very much for this input. Even though she is not really arrogant she does have a bit of ego and seems to hold a view that apology should not be necessary. This is something I want her to change. And I'm hoping that when she see's other people's opinion on this she will be more inclined to adjust.

Don't you think you are expecting so much from her?
We only heard your side,,we haven't listened to her yet....
And if you ask me, for even bringing your family affairs to social media is a lot of immaturity from you....
.
What is killing marriages now is over expectation,,,spouses expecting too much from each other.,,some wives expect that their husbands musn't cheat on them,,,,so when they realize he is cheating, they feel the world should come to an end.
.
I know a family whose dad, mom and the first child of the family are diebetic,,,,,you know what that means?,,,,,,they started having a pattern of cooking and eating in the house,,,,now these patterns weren't going well with those without the illness. Eating wheat with a particular kind of soup for a whole month became boring to some people and i tell you, it wasn't easy at all for them to adapt.,,,,
.
it is really difficult to start adapting to something you were never used to.
.
For that aspect of food, your wife could get many pots as possible,it means she will be cooking yours separately,becos it's obvious, she can't do away with that item, if it was, she wouldn't av bought it and then hid it.............
.
To avoid hiding things as such, tell her to get a separate pot for you and another pot for herself and she is free to use the item in her pot only.
.
For the apology aspect,,, i know it hurts especially when you are waiting for someone to tell you sorry and the sorry isn't coming...but then if it is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life, the earlier you accept it the better, otherwise, ur marriage will be in riun if care is not taken.
She may even be someone who doesn't see anything wrong with apologizing-there are people like that, it doesn't matter if you guys dated for 8yrs before marriage- the truth is you can never finish knowing someone.
.
For example,
i have this habit of not greeting people becos of the way i was brought up.i see only mum and dad when i wake up, i greet the two of them and will have to greet again till i get to school, and greeting a teacher was a collective thing.,,,,so i was not used to greeting so many people in the morning, like someone who comes from a large family or live in a family house. And i grew with it
.
Now when i grew up, and left home, i started having problems with it, people complain i don't greet. If i wake up in the morning and i see 20 people i have to greet, it is like the ground should open let me enter.- it bores me.
.
AND OVER THE YEARS I GROW UP EVEN WITH A MENTALITY THAT GREETING IS NOT A BIG DEAL. I WILL NEVER BE UPSET IF 100 PEOPLE PASS BY ME WITHOUT GREETING ME, AND SO I EXPECT THEY SHOULDN'T GET UPSET TOO IF I DON'T GREET THEM.
.
now many people interpreted this as pride, ego etc.
.
When i got married it became a very big issue. My husband love greeting people, cos he grow up in a large family where you greet about 40 to 50 people when you wake up in the morning.
.
He started forcing me to greet anybody i see, i started forcing myself to greet really, but even in my trying, i still fail most times,,,i could just pass you and not notice you,,,,maybe after walking abit far, it then occurs to me i didn't greet that fellow and i will start feeling so sorry again.
.
But when my husbands realizes i wasn't doing it out of pride or ego, he learnt to live with it.,,,,,he doesn't both his greetings and mine together,,,,when people are complaining, he will be the one to explain things to them.
.
So try understand ur wife, apologizing may not be anything to her. Perhaps, she had an upbringing where you don't need to apologize for anything, and she is used to it. It may not be ego or pride, it has just become a nature.

mrk74:
Thank you very much for this input. Even though she is not really arrogant she does have a bit of ego and seems to hold a view that apology should not be necessary. This is something I want her to change. And I'm hoping that when she see's other people's opinion on this she will be more inclined to adjust.

foxychev:
Accredited customer. Sure yes. Check out my sign...

k, will call u now

Thanks for this info,,,
please so you work with CAC?,,,,if yes can you help with company registration?...
Waiting for your reply..tnks

foxychev:
Name Availability search is the first step to take when you want to register your business with Corporate Affairs Commission (CAC), whether it is an enterprise, limited liability company (Ltd or Plc), or a non-profit organization like NGOs or churches.
First let me give you possible reasons why your proposed business name may be rejected at the CAC:
1. Names that are ambiguous or unclear, or confusing. Names that can confuse the public about the nature of your business, or awkward combination of words. E.g. Johnson Enterprises Company; or Johnson Motors and Health Ltd.
2. Use of reserved names like Johnson Chamber of Commerce, or John Department of Agriculture.
3. Use of names that are closely similar to that of existing registered companies with the CAC. For instance, you cannot use a name like "Dangots Sugar Ltd", because you know quite well that there is an existing company called "Dangote Sugar Plc". People can easily confuse those two names together.
Well, it is obvious we all know "Dangote Sugar", but there are thousands of registered companies we don't know about, and if we try to reserve a name close to theirs, it will be rejected by CAC.
Can we see the list of all registered companies in Nigeria before choosing our own name? Yes, but not practicable!
So what do we do?
Here are some tips to assist you in selecting a good business name that flies at the CAC Name Availability Search...
1. Be creative, very creative.
Some names are common and can be easily thought of. If you are thinking of using "Amazing Grace Nigeria Ltd", that is an easy name to come by! You can be certain that there will be existing companies having one or both words in their names. Think of unique words.
2. Explore other Languages.
For instance, if you are a fan of French or Spanish, or your native language, you can simply translate common words into them. You have a higher chance of getting your name reserved. For instance, you can translate "Red" into "Rouge" (French), or "Colorado" (Spanish).
3. Combine words that are rarely used together.
Everyone knows “Amazing Grace” are two words that are used together most of the time. “Abundant Grace” won’t be a good choice either. But if we say something like “Colossal Grace” we stand a better chance.
4. Combine more words (Don’t exceed 5 words!).
The reason for this is to reduce the chances of having closely similar words with the names of other companies. For instance, suppose we have “Johnson Nigeria Limited” already registered and we love the name Johnson so much that we don’t want to drop it or interpret it into another language. CAC may reject “Johnson Engineering Ltd”, or “Johnson Electrical Ltd”. But if we have two additional words different from those of the existing one, we can get ours approved. So if we choose “Johnson Engineering Services Ltd”, we will likely get an approval.
5. Specialize your business name
Let the nature of your business reflect in the name. E.g. adding suffixes like Engineering, Publishing, Health Services, Business Solutions, Farms, etc. will help you to distinguish your company name from others baring similar names but are into different natures of business, and consequently get an approval. Now, assuming “Johnson Nigeria Limited” and “Johnson Engineering Services Ltd” are registered, and we are into publishing, we can use “Johnson Publishing House Ltd”. It will likely get approved.
6. Google up your intended name.
Many businesses are creating online presence via corporate websites, blogs, online business directories, social media pages, etc. If you Google search your proposed name, you might come across an existing company with similar name. This will help you to fine tune yours further.
7. Be flexible, don’t be obsessed with a particular name.
I have seen people do like 5 name searches, and still don’t get an approved name. That is like 10 rejected names, since they have two options for each search! Being flexible will allow you to follow advices 1 to 6 above, thereby saving you money, energy and time expended on multiple searches.
Note that CAC has the right to approve or reject any name, based on their discretion. But a well thought of, unambiguous name will get you an approval.
Finally, seek advice from friends, family and professionals. Don’t be alone.
Contributions are welcome, please.
Drop a reply if you need additional help…


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1. To save economy woes, first i will reduce the gap between the poor and the rich.,,,,,,, (b)reduce the allowance of politicians, imagine a president earning up to 14M in a year,,,i think is too much,,we need money for other things too. (c)payment of tax mandate. if you have one car, you pay a tax of 50k per month,if u have 8cars,then u will know much will be going out of you every month.(d)as am reducing the gap between the poor n the rich,inflation will be controling it self cos i will freeze many accounts,,in short with the annoyance inside of me now i can even make a decree that is a crime if u have more than 5M in your account.
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(2)i will diversify,,,,forget about this oil thing and look else where, come to think of it the country is blessed.all these our illit.rate abokiS, i will convert all of them from insurgents to great farmers, give them attractive monthly allowance,in fact i will make the take home of agricultural workers so attractive that everyone would want to study agricultural science in the unversity.(b) if you are 60yrs, leave the service whether private or public , and give room for fresh graduates. many lie about their age and would not want to resign, not their faults anyway. so i will implement a law that from 55yrs u can apply 4 retirement and that law will go with a very attractive package, when poeple see that their is nothing to loose, rather much to gain if they resign on time. Some will even want to resign at 50, so that the younger ones can continue from where they stop. Nobody enjoys working when aging, the situation of the country is what is still keeping many there. I knew how tired my dad was when he was at level 16. He wished he could rest while money is entering his account,,,,but he kept reducing his age so that our last born can graduate from the university,,,,meanwhile many graduates were out there, waiting for people like him to go out so they can come in......but do u know my dad is retired going to three years now, government has not paid him his gratuity, don't let us even talk of pension yet,,,,,, if not for his children i don't know what the old man would have bin going thru....WHAT KIND OF COUNTRY IS THIS??
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(3) an average man is corrupt, a child born today is corrupt. If it was possible for babies to hide some of their mother's breast milk, they will do so,,,because the thing too sweet.
to fight corruption we start with individual,,,,,before going to sectors and parastaters and government.....Does Buhari know what lecturers are doing in the universities??what about police men? What about custom, what about Cpc, Nafdac, the list is endless.
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I think i will re-edit the national anthem or the pledge.
......instead of ''TO BE FAIHTFUL,LOYAL AND HONEST'
......I will put
IF I EVER STEAL FROM ANYONE OR STEAL NIGERIA MONEY LET ME DIE A MISEARABLE DEATH.,,,,
Some we say am going too far,,,i think it is a very serious issue as well
we must take drastic measures, if we really want things to change.

ijebuloaded:
As a Nigerian, Witnessing the hard time we facing in this Great Nation, If President Mohammed Buhari was Impeached today and you are elected as the President Of This Nation....My Question is ;

How will you save the Economy woes of this Nation?
How will you Save the Nation out of Recession?
How will You fight Corruption?
How will You Fight Terrorism in Nigeria?


Lets Know How The Change Begins....

ijebuloaded

Cutehector:
Have you finally gotten married sambisa5?

haahahha,,,,,priest,,,,yes o
you went that far to read thru?
Nairalanders sha,,,,,,,they can go any length.
But tnx 4 checking on me.

Thank you..
I tot i was the only one seeing it...just take a look at the guy self,,
that place they snapped was either a night club or a party.
Didn't see any sign of being responsible in him either.

Cutehector:
It's not a matter of who should first send a message.



She only said yes because he met her standards.




He only asked her to be his wife because she met his standards as well.

What are you even saying that sounds so sweet in your mouth?
You are one of those turning the bible upside down.
Changing the message, spreading another method.
And now you are talking about consequences when the woman is caught,,,,,,
that you love cheating on your wife or babe, doesn't give you the boldness to encourage others to do so on social media.

Toks2008:
In my opinion I see it as her freewill.

Of course same goes for a man..only a foolish man will say his wife can never cheat on him.

The bottom line is that if a lady cheats and she is caught , she should be ready for the consequence and same goes for the man.

CSTR2:
A girl get pregnants and bears the brunt of the stigma and whatever. That nigga that did the ejaculation is free. Free to spread his seed somewhere.
Common sense would dictate to a sensible lady with atleast a decent number of brain cells that she has FAR MORE to lose and should use a condom if she can't keep her legs closed.
May God not let me give birth to this kind of stupid daughter due to a freak of nature, I would disown her immediately.

that is why i call or refer to girl of such categories as mu'mu.

CrazyQuinn:
So? sometimes in life you just have to sacrifice something for the benefit of many, it's called logic it will result to peace and prosperity

u r just bin irrational