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trinity042: Pls I'm so confused, I dnt think I'm producing enough milk for my baby, wat shud I do, wat can I eat?

I have the same problem. In addition to that my baby throws up and spits up alot, sometime a large amount at almost half of his feedings. But I have read, and several lactation consultants at the hospital who were helping with latching and breastfeeding when I first gave birth told me also that as long as you follow a normal balanced diet with 3 meals and 2 snacks, you will produce what your baby needs and the milk production will adjust to the baby's needs. I feel like my newborn is not always satisfied and often shows signs of wanting to suck some more shortly after a feeding so thats why I feel like I might not have enough. But so long as your baby poos normally and gains weight consistently there is no need to worry as it will soon be time to introducing other foods (however breastmilk and/or formula will still need to be the main source of nutrients until about a year's age from what I was told).

Hello ladies!

How are you all? I have been on NL for a few years. I struggled with infertility and was in the PCOS and trying to conceive thread. Thank God who is so faithful, I just recently gave birth to my first baby, a boy who is now 6 weeks.

It's been great sofar, not as challenging as I thought it would be and we (hubby and I) have adjusted very well. The only problem is the colics. It's not as bad as a few weeks ago when he would cry and cry at night, now he mostly grunts (very loudly) and stretches and moans a little bit when he is crampy which is mostly when he sleeps. What can I do?
I have tried gripe water, doesnt work. I had been told abt bitter kola nut (grind it, soak it in a little bit of water and give it to the baby and he will poo alot and it will stop) but didnt want to do it (i hate the taste myself) plus I wanted to read about it first but of course3 I didnt find any info about it since its more like a traditional remedy. At wits end I did it yesterday, I gave about 10ml (2 teaspoons or a little over half a tablespoon) of the kola nut water around 11pm yesterday but nothing sofar. Baby does poo a few times a day, sometimes a lot, sometimes just a little and sometimes stringy and seedy. I breastfeed exclusively but no particular changes and he still grunts, moans and stretches from the tummy discomfort.
Please share what has worked for you if anything. I know its not that big of a deal and it will overgrow it but its still painful to see him like that. However for the first time since he was born he slept from 1am until now (its noon
and he is still sleeping, and woke up only at 6am and 9am to feed) so that comforts me.

LOL @OP, you sound so concerned
greatgod2012, its kegels exercises. I admit that this crossed the back of the mind a few times. Thanks for reassuring both OP and me lol.

You obviously missed your way when you came to this site. In case you missed it, this is nairaland. The country in context is NIGERIA. They pay rent in advance not on a monthly basis. So yes, he needs like 2yrs rent, 1 year is fine. But a year goes by fast. Know what you are talking about next time before you try to advice. Or atleast disclaim based on your experience and location.

Bsby_123, I did mention I was in the West, and never said he shouldnt save. I laid out my experience to outline that it's not impossible even when you dont have much. I did say that they need at least one reliable source of income which would also need supplementation.
All I said is that he did not absolutely need 2 years, which you agreed yourself saying that one year was fine. I understand that 2 years is to be on the safe side but people don't need to make him feel like getting married is sooooo out of his reach. It should certainly not be in the very near future if they have no financial cushion whatsoever. My experience is certainly different than his could be, but all you have to do is point it out nicely/graciously, not make it sound like I can't read well enough to realize it's NL and nigeria. i usually like your posts but this

You obviously missed your way when you came to this site. In case you missed it, this is nairaland

was unnecessary

You don't need a lot to get married and stay married esp if you have a simple, decent spouse who has her head on her shoulders. Although you need to both act very wisely and maturely.

When hubby and I got married, I had started working only a few months before and hubby didn't have much of an income at all; but we always worked as a team, always clinging onto one another esp when it comes to decisions involving expenses and money. We are both simple people who know what their priorities are. I can stay over a year or longer without anything for myself.

We saved for about 4 months worth of my income and we decided that he should focus on improving his professional skills and not stress out too much. We had what I thought was a simple but very nice traditional wedding, because a lot of people pitched in (not financially though). His family close and extended all cooked from their respective houses and brought. I bought foodstuff in bulk and cooked a lot of things myself (didn't sleep for 2 days before the wedding), and had friends helping me (we live in the west so I dont have that much family around). We had the traditional part, then right after we had my aunt who is a pastor who took over and blessed us, we exchange wedding rings (the rings have since change color, they were some cheap fake stuff that I picked myself but who cares? lol), then we had the food and music of course. No need for any additional ceremony. The week we were supposed to get married, hubby was called for him to start a new job. His income has since progressively increased and he now fully supports our household.
We lived on little at first, very frugally, but we had our own very small apartment and were happy.
If I was member of a church, I would have done it in that church, blessing and share food with family and church members afterwards, even cheaper. We went to court the week before (we were 4 of us) with our same cheap rings, paid $25, took pictures with hubby's phone then went to a cheap restaurant.

What I am trying to say is that you do not need 2 years worth of rent money like someone said, you do need to have at least one reliable source of income, enough to pay rent, bills and food, and your girlfriend needs to sit and think of what she can do with her 2 hands and 10 fingers to make some money and supplement your income; she should not just wait on you. An african woman gets up early in the morning and looks for way to make small money with her hands if the pen and paper is not working.
I am currently not working as I have had a difficult pregnancy, but I have developed interest in making party cakes, to the point where I am skilled enough and have orders for weddings and big party cakes. I sell ankara bags, and african dry foodstuff that my mom sends me. I also have a blog. Hubby buys broken computer, fixes them up and sells them back in addition to his job. God will always be on your side but you must not sleep, both of you, if you want to get married and live a decent life together in the near future.
Sorry it was long. Good luck!

Well, I was brainstorming ideas for our 1st wedding anniversary last summer. My hubby doesnt care for all that so I ddnt involve him that much in the process. I thought of a weekend getaway since we didnt have a honeymoon. Long story short we ended up not doing anything, not even going out. Too much headache for only one person who cares that much. No big deal, we both had other preoccupations that week and he had just forgotten my birthday a few days before so... When my pocket is fuller I'll plan something that doesnt need me to develop a migraine thinking of budget ideas. Good luck ladies and happy anniversary in advance!

Since you said the woman is not Nigerian, I am assuming she is not african. I'm not nigerian myself but there isn't anything here that is that different from the culture, mindset and practices of where I come from. White people do these kinds of crazy things... not sure what to say really. The lady wont come and read here anyways so...

Good for you. You have taught him the way you want to be treated. Thank God you didn't destroy your marriage using the advise given by some women here. Just to point out a few things. Men are not so particular about birthdays. I almost forgot mine last year. It was my mom who called me to wish me happy birthday and that was when I realized the missed calls on my phone were birthday wishes. I bet he would change next year or this year (since the thread was last year). Next time if you notice your huband is doing something contrary to your expectation you can correct him by example or showing him how to do it (like what you did). You know we men are not that emotional. The romantic nature we possess are left overs from past relationships. Things women taught us. So teach your man the way you want to be loved and watch your marriage blossom.

Boss13, thanks so much. I guess he didnt even care to try and he now understands and if he doesn't care I do. His older brothers plan elaborate plans for their wives, and even ask him for ideas, where they can take them, what they can do etc (I'm not comparing at all oo, and I'm certainly not envious, I don't need all of those elaborate dates, we can do better things with our money) so its not like the idea is totally strange or foreign to him. He just didn't care to make any efforts.
I have also learned to be more assertive. My hubby listens to me a lot and seeks my advice and counsel in almost everything he does; he knows I have a good head on my shoulder and he treats me right although we all have our faults and are not perfect. So thats the most important thing.

I do believe that love can grow and blossom after getting married, and I even think that marriage is the only perfect, ideal environment for love to blossom. I don't think you should be head over heels or passionately in love for somebody to marry him or her. I wasn't passionately in love with my hubby during our courtship. It was more like I thought he was a really good guy, would make a great husband, I cared for him a lot, started liking him then slowly fell in love but did not experience the same strong feelings I had in my previous relationships. If you ask me now, almost two years into it, yes I am passionately in love with him. It was a safe and stable environment for me to let my guards down and let my feelings blossom.

But everyone is different. I had a certain level of maturity which allowed me to consider the most important things for me in long-lasting marriage and my head was cool enough to think subjectively; I had other serious suitors and was just hitting my mid-20s, so not like I was desperate at all; I prayed to not fall in love too deep with my future husband so that I could make the right choice without the emotional business meddling in. That's what I would love for my sisters or future daughters but like I said it's not for everybody. Some people "need" to be "in love" to be feel fulfilled enough to get into such a relationship as marriage. For me it wasn't compulsory. When the right person is there and the right circumstances come along, love follows; that's what I believe. Today I can say my marriage is stronger than some couples around us who have been married longer, what I feel for my husband is a deep, strong, deeply rooted connection, partnership, respect, admiration, like for a best friend, and at the same time, a brother, a partner and the added bonus of being in love. You can't top it!

And NO she shouldn't sleep with him if she doesn't love him. What sense does that make. She is the one seeking to reassure herself that he is the right person. You don't have sex with somebody, or make love just because you wanna prove you love him. And if he has been putting pressure on her to do it, then the more reason for her not to do it, and see how long the guy sticks around if he really loves her. That would give her some sort of confirmation. Plus you don't force chemistry. It's there or it isn't.
I believe she needs some time away from him to figure out what her feelings are and what she wants out of that relationship and what she would want out of a potential husband. No need to rush. I know people who got married in their early 20s and 5 years later are divorced, before they are even 30.

Yes ooo, every single penny of it. I don't know how that money was made, where it came from, or even if it's a bait. I never pick money from the ground when I come across it, hubby does and says that's his good luck. Not me oo. There are too many strange things happening. That money even if it's a penny might be curse itself. Plus if I had lost my money I would be so desperate to find it intact wherever it was lost. The greatest blessings are from above. Honesty especially with money dealing is the absolute best policy.

Acidosis: If I were your husband, I would have quit the marriage a long time ago...

Call it jealousy, insecurity, or anything...

But I'm yet to meet a Nigerian (not sure ur husband is Nigerian) man that would absorb all your posts..chats...flirts and all on sexuality section...

I'm yet to meet a man that would laugh out loud when strange guys online like Born2Fcuk, dobodobo flirts with his wife with nasty comments about her yanzh and all... on a public forum...

I'm yet to meet a man that would allow her woman post pics online with comments about her husband's agility on bed...

Your husband is yet to see you online, and he's jealous already...
wow...

Do not forget you're married... gone are those days when u have the freedom to do whatever...

Pls I'm not trying to judge you here but to save your young marriage..

If it means staying away from sexuality section...pls do! Leave those young boyz and men who patronise lovepeddlers (I'm sure you're ignorant of the effect on the long run)...
Respect your marriage.... Respect your body and above all, respect your man..

Apply my words offline and wait for the resultant effect..

Thank me later or Hate me now...
Either way you're still one of my favorite nairaland sisters...

100% agree! Excellent reply. I was going to respond that I have been in a relationship like that which lasted about 5 years before I got married. We were so close to getting married and I'm soooo glad it never happened, especially that I see what it feels like to be married to somebody who trust me, is not insecure and gives me the healthy vital space everyone needs.

However, after acidosis's post and a quick read on the link that was suggested here, I don't know if your husband is truly the only one to blame for his mistrust or jealousy. My dear all this flirting and sexually explicit language does not show you in a good light and I wonder if thats how you behave with men around you. A mature, classy, married woman handles herself with dignity to the point where no man can address her a certain way, much less refer to things or use language that you should only be left for your hubby to use. Sorry but you do not handle yourself with dignity here, and it might be suggestive of how you handle yourself in real life. Check yourself and make sure you give no reason to your hubby to doubt you. Your posts on the sexuality forum would give any man (even boyfriend), not to mention husband, a reason to wonder which kind of woman he has for a wife.
Please do not take this negatively, try and show more maturity in your dealings with males. And my advice would be to stop posting on the sexuality forum unless its something educative or informative. You don't even need to be there unless you are giving advice, much less mention whatever happens in your bedroom, or try to know what other people's sexual practices are. You should NOT take part in certain types of conversation esp sexual even with other married people. I would never risk such stuff. Marriage is a very serious and sacred issue my dear.
That's my own.

Hey All,

I was going through posts and I am not sure why I never came back and say thank you for all your answers. I'm sorry, I read them all, the encouraging and the less encouraging ones. It's funny how the thread derailed towards the last few pages. Anyways, like I said I am the type of person who likes to put a smile, do something nice or special for someone whom I love and who deserves it. Special attention to people that are dear are important, whether its' your mom, sister or spouse. I didnt request anything extravagant, I said a simple card or even a handwritten note, or text message would have sufficed. I was more hurt that he didnt seem to care after I told him I was hurt.
But anyways, this is behind and I did throw him a nice surprise party with close friends and family, took off work and cooked all day. I wanted to make him feel special. And just the surprised look and the smile on his face was priceless (and he felt pretty bad too ).
I did tell him what expectations oo, I'm a simple person, I dont need flowers or chocolate, just do something different that you don't do on other days. I got a sweet text message on Valentine's morning and red roses on Valentine's evening, a total surprise. I got him a card and a gift as well; this is how you treat someone you love; little attentions.

PS: For people, especially men that mentioned that I was acting juvenile and didn't have other problems to worry about, let me tell you that it is not because someone does not post about bigger life issues that they dont have them. I choose what I disclose and this was rather trivial compared to other things that I wouldnt necessarily share.

OMG...! Dont know what to say...

It all depends. I love my in-laws. No pb for me. Although living with them for extended time would be an adjustment but if it's under our roof no problem, if they know their boundaries. And they usually do. I even wish they could come and stay with us more often. I love family and I care for them almost as much as I do my own people.

Demdem: The op has obviously forgotten one major thing.
Men shouldn't stop making love to their wives. Ladies libido at this period are super sensitive. They need to be well serviced.

Every woman is different. The first and last trimester are often the most challenging and she might not even want to hear not to talk about think about sex. In my case, hubby had to be real patient because everything smelled bad to me, the entire house, our bedroom, the bathroom and even him and even myself. I was disgusted with everything, including food. Not easy at all.

Mortiple: you never even go buy Efon Riro or MR BIGGS at 12midnight, you dey complain? LOL!!! It is all well and good.

My husband has it well then. I try hard to keep my cravings to myself as to not bother him too much because I havent cooked been able to take care of the house and the food the way I use to. The only and single time I couldnt handle it was the McDonald fries at 3am on a snowy night. I do what I can when I can and he tries but mostly the stuff will stay the way it is until I force myself to clean it or put things away on a better day. I still praise him though.

@Prettymomma and @champs, thanks ladies for your kind words. I bless God for your wonderful testimonies. @Prettymomma, your testimony about how you and your hubby prayed and the lines on the hpt came back as strong as before is truly chilling and amazing, there is nothing before before God than a married couple that put their knees and seek God's face. I wish hubby had any interest in prayer. It happens once in a blue moon. I must admit that I have really slowed down prayer life. I should be a prayer warrior

@Teenaba and @Hebrewwoman, it's so funny how my testimony is almost like yours combined. Like Teenaba, I never thought this could have been the cycle I would have conceived. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was a teenager and suspected low progesterone so I had been on clomid, conceived twice, miscarried twice. Decided to try Fertilaid after waiting for almost 4 weeks for any signs of ovulation or period. I didn't even have any egg white cervical mucus like I usually do, and did not use my opk like usually do once I start noticing ewcm. Plus, I had decided to relax and stop counting and planning sex. I even had a few drinks with hubby and in-laws almost all the weekends of that month. I started taking Fertilaid, and 10 days later, BAM! BFP! With hubby we didn't have intercourse more than 3 or 4 times in the whole 40 days that followed my periods. Like you Teenaba, I KNOW that GOD is THE ONE that speaks and breathe life into existence. No signs of ovulation, no hormonal support, not even prenatals, unfrequent intercourse and alcohol, yet HE DID It, to prove us that HE IS THE HE. HE is in control so that we may not boast.

Me: 26, PCOS since age 17 (with a rings of cysts of various size) on both sides.
Low progesterone (estrogen dominance)
Long, irregular and anovulatory cycles
2 Clomid cycles, 2 miscarriages (June and October of this year)
Hubby, 34. Never tested for anything
Married since August 2011
Conceived miraculously sometime around mid-November maybe.
Between 6 and 8 weeks pregnant and doing great by the Grace of God.

Ladies, please let me join you... Here is my testimony (please accept a copy/paste from the TTC thread where I just posted).



Hey ladies,

I have never been too frequent on here although I posted a few times. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was still a teenager. I got married about 1 year and half ago now and we have been TTC. I have always had irregular, long cycles and I as well as my Dr even doubted that I ovulated on my own. I started Clomid in May, got my first normal cycle, ovulated, conceived and miscarried end of June. I posted about it here. These past few months have been difficult but I slowly stopped being obsessed with conceiving because at one point that is all I was thinking, dreaming, talking, reading about and it is emotionally so draining.
I did a 2nd round of Clomid, ovulated again, conceived and miscarried but this time did not even try to go to the hospital. For anybody who lives in the US, health care is really really expensive if you dont have a good employer sponsored insurance (which sucks so much money out of you every month). The bill we got from the hospital was much and after the insurance covered some of it we were still left with over $1500 so I stayed home and prayed.

I had one round of Clomid left but I have been reading alot about natural and herbal remedies, with all these synthetic medications which increase the chance of miscarriage and which we dnt even know exactly the effects in the very long term. I decided to go natural, had a change of attitude, left everything is God's hands, stopped asking and started praising. I stopped taking my temperature and stopped using ovulation kits. I ordered Fertilaid (which main ingredient, Chaste berry extract/vitex is an herb which helps restore hormonal balance) and started taking it with prenatals.

My sisters and aunties, I am pregnant, again, and I know this one will stick. I could not believe it! This is the only cycle in which i did not see any signs of ovulation, no EWCM, nothing. My husband and I had very infrequent intercourse. I started Fertilaid Nov 17, on cycle day 28, started feeling tender bosoms and slight cramping about a week after that (thought the Fertilaid is helping regulate my cycles and finally my periods are almost here). On cycle 38, still no periods, no signs of ovulation and of course I know I couldn't be pregnant having intercourse once about every 10 days or so. But I just told myself to just test, and there was a very faint line. But it was a cheap test so I thought it was wrong, waited the next day and tested. Tested the day after that, I was sooo anxious!! I have tested everyday and the line has gotten darker and darker and I decided to stop testing yesterday and believe that my baby is here, and here to stay. I have secretly picked her name and pray for her.

I do not know when I conceived so have no idea how far along I am, but it is very early so it shouldn't matter that much. God is the perfect physician, I'm letting him handle it all. I was anxious to see a doctor asap but I decided to calm down and wait early January so go to the doctor. I'm feeling great about this pregnancy, I am no more anxious, and after 2 miscarriages I am confident that this baby is my first born child.
However, I am continuing with Fertilaid (reduced the dosage), added 100mg B complex (b6 and b12 vitamin) as well as baby aspiring (81mg), and I also rub natural progesterone cream on my belly or my thighs twice a day. Those are natural alternatives that I have read help prevent miscarriage and support pregnancy (until the placenta takes over around 12 weeks).

I know many of you have had much more challenges in your TTC journey but God is more than faithful and will not give what you cannot handle. He loves you more than you love yourself and wants to see you happy and content. His will and his plans for your life are perfect and He seeks to always let things happen for you when it is the right time, and the right place, with the right people around you, considering all sorts of circumstances and situations which you might not know about.

Thank you for displaying so much strength and faith. We are blessing beyond measure and barrenness does not belong amongst us, not in the presence of the One who can give life to dead bones.

I love you ladies!

Hello, fellow mamas and/or mamas to be. Let me join you guys as I recently found out I am expecting (again). I have had 2 miscarriages and this is my 3rd pregnancy but I confident that I carry to term. Sending you all blessings in this approaching holiday season!

Hey ladies,

I have never been too frequent on here although I posted a few times. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was still a teenager. I got married about 1 year and half ago now and we have been TTC. I have always had irregular, long cycles and I as well as my Dr even doubted that I ovulated on my own. I started Clomid in May, got my first normal cycle, ovulated, conceived and miscarried end of June. I posted about it here. These past few months have been difficult but I slowly stopped being obsessed with conceiving because at one point that is all I was thinking, dreaming, talking, reading about and it is emotionally so draining.
I did a 2nd round of Clomid, ovulated again, conceived and miscarried but this time did not even try to go to the hospital. For anybody who lives in the US, health care is really really expensive if you dont have a good employer sponsored insurance (which sucks so much money out of you every month). The bill we got from the hospital was much and after the insurance covered some of it we were still left with over $1500 so I stayed home and prayed.

I had one round of Clomid left but I have been reading alot about natural and herbal remedies, with all these synthetic medications which increase the chance of miscarriage and which we dnt even know exactly the effects in the very long term. I decided to go natural, had a change of attitude, left everything is God's hands, stopped asking and started praising. I stopped taking my temperature and stopped using ovulation kits. I ordered Fertilaid (which main ingredient, Chaste berry extract/vitex is an herb which helps restore hormonal balance) and started taking it with prenatals.

My sisters and aunties, I am pregnant, again, and I know this one will stick. I could not believe it! This is the only cycle in which i did not see any signs of ovulation, no EWCM, nothing. My husband and I had very infrequent intercourse. I started Fertilaid Nov 17, on cycle day 28, started feeling tender breasts and slight cramping about a week after that (thought the Fertilaid is helping regulate my cycles and finally my periods are almost here). On cycle 38, still no periods, no signs of ovulation and of course I know I couldn't be pregnant having intercourse once about every 10 days or so. But I just told myself to just test, and there was a very faint line. But it was a cheap test so I thought it was wrong, waited the next day and tested. Tested the day after that, I was sooo anxious!! I have tested everyday and the line has gotten darker and darker and I decided to stop testing yesterday and believe that my baby is here, and here to stay. I have secretly picked her name and pray for her.

I do not know when I conceived so have no idea how far along I am, but it is very early so it shouldn't matter that much. God is the perfect physician, I'm letting him handle it all. I was anxious to see a doctor asap but I decided to calm down and wait early January so go to the doctor. I'm feeling great about this pregnancy, I am no more anxious, and after 2 miscarriages I am confident that this baby is my first born child.
However, I am continuing with Fertilaid (reduced the dosage), added 100mg B complex (b6 and b12 vitamin) as well as baby aspiring (81mg), and I also rub natural progesterone cream on my belly or my thighs twice a day. Those are natural alternatives that I have read help prevent miscarriage and support pregnancy (until the placenta takes over around 12 weeks).

I know many of you have had much more challenges in your TTC journey but God is more than faithful and will not give what you cannot handle. He loves you more than you love yourself and wants to see you happy and content. His will and his plans for your life are perfect and He seeks to always let things happen for you when it is the right time, and the right place, with the right people around you, considering all sorts of circumstances and situations which you might not know about.

Thank you for displaying so much strength and faith. We are blessing beyond measure and barrenness does not belong amongst us, not in the presence of the One who can give life to dead bones.

I love you ladies!!!

Hello everybody, I havent been on NL in a while... Hope all of you are doing just well.

Well, my birthday was 2 days ago and my husband forgot completely, which is not even that big of a deal, I know we both have plenty of things in our minds and we are both a little stressed right now for various reasons, but my aunt called him to have him bring me to her place as her and my sisters had planned a little surprise, so he then remembered, came down, said happy birthday then went back upstairs and that was it. We went to my aunt's place, he stayed until it was time for him to get ready for work, then picked me up after work, we got home, he went to his office, and I kind of waited for him but then I heard him doing his computer things so I went to bed. In case you ask, we were fine, our marriage is at its best, and we do not have any major issues in our relationship.

To be honest, birthdays are usually not a big deal to me, never have. Last time I had a gift or party was over 20 years ago but we are newlyweds (our first anniversary is in a few days) and I really thought that he would get me even just a birthday card, nothing expensive. His birthday is in a month and a half and I have a been planning a surprise party with family and friends, just to show him in a special way that day that we appreciate him.
I brought it up to him that I was a little hurt that he didn't even put any thought in making me feel at least a little special, he told me he was sorry and that was it; I thought to myself that maybe now that he knows how I feel maybe he will try and make it up for it but nothing and that upset me even more but I just kept it to myself since I didn't want keep talking about it. But he kept asking me what was wrong, why I was so quiet, so I told him how even after I mentioned to him that I was kind of hurt, he still didn't seem to care and just moved on and he got upset that I was exaggerating and walked away.

I consider him my best friend and my soulmate and I stand by him firmly and as strong as I can, we have been through a lot and I really see us as a team and it would have made my day for him to have done even the slightest thing, even just an e-card. It's nice when the person that you love so much recognizes or appreciates what you do, it gives you strength and courage to keep doing. I was looking forward to having a good time with him.

SO I guess my question to you is, am I taking it too far? Was I exaggerating? How would you feel if it were you? Married men, please give me your opinion. Am I being juvenile?

I want to thank you all for so much support. God is indeed working through all of you. May He bless you and give you the deepest desires of your hearts.

Udoka, Infogenius, yogun, fruitful, redeemerdave, MSTIA, Ebony, each and every one of you guys will be blessed beyond measure because that is the promise of our God for those who rejoice with those who are rejoicing and those who cry with those who are crying.

Yesterday after I wrote my last post, I was still in pain but not that excruciating pain that I had before praying. Then one issue came to my mind. I happen to be Rh Negative (O negative) and my husband positive so because of the bleeding even though the pregnancy was still very early, I thought that I should try and reach my Dr and see if he needs me to get a Rhogam shot (which would prevent my body from producing antibodies against the baby). The Dr advised me to go to the hospital and at least have them give me the shot and something for pain if I cannot stand it. It was about 9pm so I waited for my husband to get off work at about 11:30pm to take me there.
Long story short, they did an ultrasound because they wanted to make sure it wasn't ectopic because of the pain, both abdominal and transvaginal ultrasound, took my blood, gave me some fluid and something for pain. The doctor's conclusion is that I miscarried (for "unconclusive/unknown reasons) as nothing was visible on the vaginal ultrasound (no yolk sac) and my blood hcg level of 7). I took a pregnancy test that is sensitive from hcg of 25 and up the day before and it was positive as were all of the pregnancy tests since Wednesday of last week (except the pee test at the clinic).
I give glory to God whatever it is that is happening. I did read that at this point my hcg should be in the thousand but between 5 and 25, I need to give it a couple of days and test. My Dr wants to see me next friday which was the original first prenatal appt. My fibroid is still present but is rather small (2.6 x1.6 x 1.4) and numerous cysts around both ovaries are still there.
God is the ultimate physician so I leave everything in His hands. I am getting rid of all my pregnancy tests and I am also thinking of stopping charting and just let it happen however long it takes.
Thanks again for your support, It shall be well with all of you IJN.

LAdies,

What wonderful group of women you are!! I dont know how to express my gratitude for the thoughts and silent or spoken prayers or wishes that any of you has had towards Udoka or me.
After managing to get home I spend almost 2hours and half crawling, moaning and crying for pain. Then when I realized I had fallen asleep I thought everything was finally gone, I woke up and he pain started again, tearing, and pulling and cramping. I decided that it was enough. I was imagining the devil rejoicing. I prayed and blessed God, I know He only is the author or life and He doesn't bring anything else but Life and life in abundance. Ladies, you and I who are trying to conceive are blessed in a particular way because thanks to the obstacles that we have faced, we have sought to understand and decipher the process of getting pregnant and I know that we have a greater appreciation for this miracle of life and we have a more intimate outlook at the intricacies conceiving; maybe God allowed it so that we may look at His children (people around us) with a special eye and heart and understand how special we all are. So many things need to happen, from various hormone levels, to specific secretions, to physical structural conditions, and all of that within the male and the female independently and finally as they meet, so many other things need to go right, meet at the right place, at the right time, the right way before we even talk about embryo. My point is BFP/conception does not just happen. It's a conscious, voluntary decision by God.
In the Bible Jeremiah recounts how even as he was in his mother's womb, He knew that God knew him. Psalm 139:13 says "For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb".
We can find assurance knowing that the journey from before conception (getting our bodies ready, TTC, injections, supplements etc.) to birth is journey that God carefully watches over. Let's keep our faith strong, and let's be steadfast in the Lord, Let our faith rest, not on the looks of the present situation but on God's promises. I have gotten a lot of encouragement in the past hour from this christian webpage http://stronginfaith.org/article.php?page=17
Like many of you say, Now I say with assurance that we are fruitful vines. This is the blessing that God has for our husbands (and therefore for us) "Your wife will be like a fruitful grapevine, flourishing within your home [Psalm 128:3]. Your children will be like vigorous young olive trees as they sit around your table. That is the LORD's blessing for those who fear him.

I will keep you posted with my wonderful testimony, and we will all rejoice and celebrate for every single of us here who are princesses of the Lord Almighty, the Perfect Creator, the Intelligent Designer and our Excellent Father.

LAdies,

I am joining with udoka to ask for support... I have been cramping really and I am bleeding with what seems to be clots and red blood after a day of brown/pink spotting and minimal cramping. This is 6 days after my first BFP and 1 round of clomid (I have PCOS). I did a pregnancy test ystrd after all the spotting and it was still positive and I had gone to a clinic earlier yesterday to confirm my pregnancy and their urine test came up negative. I havent tested today as I was tired of worrying and testing and was going to take a break and let God take care of it entirely. I am anxious. I will try and test when I get home. I dont want to panick yet coz I dont wannt give he devil any room but Please pray for us ooo may that BFP remain permanent.

Hello ladies,

I had written a long detailed post 2 days ago but the post was hidden and I guess nobody could read it.
I just wanted to share with yu ladies that I go a very faint positive on a pregnancy test on Wednesday. In disbelief I have been testing everyday since then. Since the, instead of being happy my heart has been racing and I have been more anxious than before imagining all kinds of doom scenarios, then I decided (after my mom insulted me very well) that I will claim and declare that this pregnancy will come to its completion, I will claim mmy healthy and happy children just like Kemiebbie was saying about the ladies who claimed her BFP and her children before any of that happened. My husband still cannot believe it amd it seems so surreal. I am keeping every single one of you ladies in prayer it will happen because Jesus is alive and already bore our pains and sorrows!

Ps: this comes from somebody with pcos who does not ovulate on her own.

Hey ladies,

I would to join you all. I have never been pregnant so not sure how anything feels. I have been feeling "different" lately and I believe that I am pregnant (finally!!). I got a very faint positive home pregnancy test. I am going for a "pee" test at a pregnancy center next week tuesday and then a blood test the week after. However, our medical insurance does not cover pregnancy or anything related so I am really trying to hold off onto the blood test even though I would love to have some accurate confirmation of this so awaited event. If all goes well and it will, I should be due early March 2013.
I pray for every one of us, who is trying to conceive, expecting or has delivered already, May the Favor of the Almigthy rests upon our households, our bodies, and our hearts!

kemidebbie: @sasi what can i do my sisters. We just have to keep praying that we don't fall into the hands of quaks. God should help us make the right choice of hospital. Above all we should pray 4 safe delivery as soon as we get our BFP. My sister i did really understood what U ment By Dpo. Pls explain. @udoka charms e.t.c where u ladies i miss u guys, ur post has given Me alot of strength , charms and udoka ur resachers has kept this trend thank u guys. Is really crazy in kaduna right now with the riot and the bumb blast going on it is well with us oh!

Kemidebbie, you are entirely right. But fortunately we have a God who is ALways in control. Since you said you were in your 2 weeks wait I was wondering what cycle day or day post ovulation (DPO) you were. I'm currently on cd28 and I am 11 Days Post Ovulation. Another 5 days (or about) before my next expected periods which I hope will not show up ;-)

Beetle: Sasi,

Babes, you have to be positive, see if your dr can Prescribe Metformin for your PCOS. I know it's difficult but you have to be in the right frame of mind for it to positive.

I read this in a book, every morning when you wake up give gratitude
Be grateful for everything you've received in the past, present and future.

You have To be ready as well! Can't really type more as I'm doing this from my phone.
But I would recommend this book The Power By Rhonda Byrne.

Beetle

Beetle, thanks for your encouraging words. I am grateful but it is very true that alot of times its so easy to forget what amazing blessings we have and focus on what we do not have. Mr Dr says we will do a few other Clomid cycles before adding metformin to the regimen. I really hope we don't have to get there.
I will look up that book, thanks for the suggestion.
You are so nice...

Kemidebbie, which cd/dpo are you? when if AF due? I read some of previous posts and was touched by the negligence and heartless treatment that you received. You are a very strong woman for even still having the heart to TTC.

kemidebbie: @Sasi malai u are welcome to our fruitful froum. I know dat our jonureny has come to an end IJN . I am in my two weeks wait. I am wishing all of us BFP in Jesus name.

AMen ooooo AMen!!! We will be the biblical Annas and the Saras of this year!!!

gini: Hello all, i've been researching on TTC on the internet and found out about a supplement called SOY ISOFLAVONES with lots and lots of success stories. has anyone here tried it and whats your result?

Still researching more on this. I want to find out if this can be gotten from Natural Soya Milk in case one can't get hold of the Tablet supplement. Will post whatever I find.

i think we all should research more on this and share success storiies. may GOD bless us all with baby bundles of joy. have a fruitful week ahead.

Gini and all the TTC ladies,

I tried the soy isoflavones on my previous cycles. Basically they are what is nicknamed as a "natural" form of CLomid, they bind to estrogen receptors (which clomid does) tricking ur body into thinking ur have low estrogen and helps it produce more. You take as you would Clomid, for five days early in your cycle, and you take about double what ur Clomid dosage would be.
I have read/heard a lot of success stories saying that over 60% of women get pregnant within the first 2-3 months of using it but when I ran it to my DR he says "that stuff doesnt work". I was still stubborn and I tried but it didnt work for me at all. My cycle was just as long as it had been before and I am not even sure I ovulated on it. But for the women for whom it works they usually report stronger ovulation, ovulating early, decreasing long cycles and sometimes regulating irregular cycle. I read about women with PCOS for whom it worked and read other places that it is not recommended with women who PCOS or other estrogen-dominant conditions because it only makes it worst.
Anyways, this cycle I have used Pre-Seed (fertility friendly lubricant) as well as OPKS and I also take Prenatals (when I remember lol).
For those of you on Clomid remember that Clomid sometimes dries up your mucus and you wanna make sure that ur hubby's swimmers have a nice, comfortable, nutritious environment to survive it as long as they can and nourish of it to get to destination so make sure you drink lots of water to help loosen those secretions. Also don't use any lubricant except for the ones clearly manufactured with TTC in mind like Pre-Seed, lubricant are spermicidal. (I used a regular lubricant outside of my fertile period because I am usually rather dry and use Pre-Seed before my expected ovulation period).
Babydust to you all!!!

Hello everybody,

I have been on NL for many years (under different IDs) but never knew there was a TTC forum. I am registered on other TTc internet forum and I just thought, let me try and see maybe I can find other TTc ladies on NL and here I find a very active thread.
I have been married almost 1 year. I have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) with irregular periods and long cycles (anywhere between 45 to 65 days). I went to see a GYN who has been seeing me since April and we were waiting for my periods to start a first round of Clomid. So This is my first month using clomid 50mg cd3-7. I honestly wasnt sure that it was even going to work for me and I was somewhat discouraged this month so I didnt chart my temperature. I relied on OPKs (which have always been negative) and at my very pleasant surprise it was positive on cd16 and cd 17. Hubby and I BD accordingly. I went on my 21st day for a progesterone blood test which is normally done a week after ovulation but in my case I was only 4DPO and the level was 11.5 which confirmed that I indeed ovulated.
Now my AF is due on Friday this week (06/22). I have not noticed anything other than my breasts feeling slightly tender since about 4 to 5 days after my ovulation. I am 11DPO today and in my impatience I tested twice already (i know women who got positive pregnancy tests that early so I just thought I would try on Father's day to surprise my husband but nothing).
I'm not discouraged but I am a bit sad. People that married after me are about to deliver, all of my married friends are going on their 2nd baby and I can't even get pregnant. If I am not pregnant this cycle I dont know what I am going to do honestly. My parents are waiting, his whole family is waiting. They make remarks which they dont mean offensive but it really hurts because I know they are thinking I am the problem. People get pregnant around me left and right, I am always cooking for baby showers, I am cooking to take to new mothers at the hospital, I am always buying gifts for other people's baby and I am here with an empty womb. Some people even think I have to pregnant already and that its just not showing up yet. I have even stopped calling some of his family members because that is the first thing they ask and I am tired of answering the same thing. The only thing is that my husband is just now talking about it, it didnt really care for starting a family before but at least he is fully on board with me now so I dont really have any psychological pressure from him.
sorry for venting. I wish all of us TTC the desire of our hearts. May God bless us with motherhood and fatherhood. Babydust to all!!

I am the same way. I rarely wear my ring. Hubby wears his everyday. I usually wear mine when I go out on special occasions or at my in laws but not on a daily basis. I agree that I shld make more efforts in wearing mine but hubby doest really care. Just be careful. If wearing ur ring at ur in laws can avoid u unnecessary trouble then do it. It is wise to pick ur battles esp w in laws. No everything is worth fighting for. If that's a cause for pb just learn to wear it. My in laws don't care. They are like my brothers and sisters they don't focus on stuff like that esp knowing that we have a good rship. What myt work for someone else myt not work for you. Just exercise wisdom. U don't want to encourage a thorn that will disturb. Learn to wear ur ring and don't respond to the provocations or comments.