₦airaland Forum

Here are the facts:
- You love your man, and your man loves you and wants to marry you.
- But you can't get married because the bible says "honor your parents (who don't accept him)"
- The bible does not have anything to encourage parents to be more tolerant.
- You can't even have sex because it's "fornication". Now you feel guilty over normal loving sex.

So what is making you unhappy? Christianity. Sorry to disturb your nice fellowship, but if I was in your boyfriend's shoes I will not be very happy at all. Other couples have real problems, you are agonizing over simple sex. I have a history with a certain girl, and when I call her all she wants to know is "Seun, do you go to church now?"

I'm happy for you, nawah. Don't let them make you guilty over your happiness.

It depends on what exactly your husband or wife has done. I'm sure that some situations will warrant confrontation while some will require further investigation. Good luck, Onyibaby!

So that you can send nude pictures of yourself to all the ladies?

These are not common youths; we also have them. In Lagos they call them armed robbers.

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Ono, those men who beat their wives must have been beating their sisters before they got married. I don't do that and so I see no reason why marriage will suddenly turn me into a woman panel-beater. If not for religion, none of what you are saying will have any merit. Religion is what is making you express these crude views. Why doesn't that same religion urge a man not to beat his wife instead of telling the wife to accept it?

topea, if the second husband is not ok, then single motherhood is always an option.

Let me simplify what I am saying for you Ono. A man must not beat a woman even if he finds her in bed with another man. Are now you satisfied? If she put salt in your food, go and cook the food yourself. Afterall salt is not poison. And if she poisons you, report to the police. This is not the dark ages my brother. If my sister's or friend's husband says he wants to beat her because she did one thing or the other, he will see pepper no be small.

And what if the only food I can cook is Indomie?

Since my husband is very reasonable with money, it has been only to my advantage.

According to some marriage counselors in my family, what nawah has described is advantageous if one partner is more thrifty and accounting-inclined than the other. According to them, that thrifty partner should be the one keeping the money and they should both decide on how to spend it. So if the wife is more responsible with money, she should be the one keeping the money. It would be stupid to submit your money to a man who is a gambler, for instance. It works for nawah only because of the kind of person her husband is. You cannot assume all husbands are like that.

Ok, Ono, that's enough. A lot of men are also very nasty with the way they talk, and the way they routinely threaten violence, and the women don't beat them because of that. I have also personally experienced more nasty words and behaviours from the mouths of men than the mouths of women.

And even though some women have said nasty things to me, I have never slapped a woman - or a man. I have been slapped by a girl once - I was in JSS2.

So I have heard enough. Just make sure you tell your girlfriend how many times a month you will be beating her before you trick her into marriage. That's enough. You are still in the 18th century when women were considered as being just a step above children and slaves.

Buhahaha, she thought it was funny!

We will never find out!

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- http://nigerianchessplayers..com/

Well, as an atheist I am also not supposed to believe in the devil, so I have to repent of that afterwards!

That is the exception rather than the rule. Many wife-beaters "know Christ". The energy spent convincing the wife to accept battery as her portion should be spent convincing the obstinate husband to shape up or else.

You're not eligible meaning what? Are you married? To a Nigerian? If you are not married then you are eligible. You are in need of handsome men like, um, me.

Some of them like this woman, Abike Dabiri, who used to be a newscaster, are worthy of respect. But the popular belief is that the vast majority of them are crooks. Why? Because of how they got into the office.

Networking! People want to interact with old school friends so they can get jobs and business referrals through them. Others really enjoyed or did very well in school this makes them want to revisit the old times.

Perhaps if you talk to the boss and let him know that you know what he is doing he would stop. If you:
1) Tell your friends or (male only) colleagues about it.
2) Call him privately let him know that harrassment is not what will make him appealing to you.
3) Indicate a willingness to report to authorities if the harrassment continues.

On the other hand, you must start:
4) Looking for a new job since you are no longer enjoying this one, or

An alternative is to:
5) Ask to be transferred to another department in the company where you will be under a different boss.

That clause means even when he/she's sick mentally and otherwise (like he starts beating you and all that), you'll have to stand by him/her until death parts you.

It is because of funny ideas like this that I believe in the use of police to deal with domestic violence. If the man is beating his 'beloved' wife woman and her friends and relatives are saying that this is all part of the sweetness of marriage, then maybe the only people that can save her are the police. Battery is a crime punishable by imprisonment even in Nigeria. Stand by your man if you must, but send him to jail first!

Create your own job. Look for something that people are complaining about and find a way to solve it in exchange for money. Nigeria cannot develop if all the young people are looking for free jobs. We need more people who will sit down to solve problems and make money. Use some of the energy to create your own job. You can post a thread in the business section and people from all over the world will advice you on what to do and if you need a little capital you'll be surprised that there are those abroad who can give 100,000 naira for a worthy businesscause without feeling it.

Nigerian youths. Please create your own jobs. There are so many problems in this country that you can solve and make money!

I second that. You can employ something with Linux+ experience if you are unable to concentrate on that. Without delegation, you can't have a growing business. This explains the stagnation of Nairaland.

Hehe. For a school project I think it's innapropriate to distort reality to please "people". it's not as if they are primarily trying to please the audience to make money, right?

Interesting. According to their price list, they have toll-free dial-up Internet access at 9.450 per month and Fixed Wirless Broadband Internet access at 25,000 naira per month (though somewhere else they quote the price in dollars, which is conflicting.

Their broadband info is vague about the bandwidth their provide: "oollink Broadband for Small Business can connect at up to 1Mbs downstream."

Happy birthday Nairalanders. Fortunately Nairaland is a worthwhile venture which will continue to sustain itself.

Sure. What harm could possibly come out of it? Naughty boy!

Hehe. Snakes. Why do we all hate snakes so much? I guess it's because some are poisonous.

Is she single, and looking for a handsome man like me?

I think it's an interesting practice. I think it's our young people's way of reacting to the problem of late marriage. Your blood is hot, and you have all what it takes to be married, but you are afraid of commitment so you give it a trial. Doesn't sound bad to me. It's a nice way I can eat my cake and have it!

"I just wanted to alert all those who applied for first bank last two weeks to check their BULK MAIL in the email address when checking for their invitation letter because it could be there as well. All the best and remember to give me a part of your first salary once you get the job since i was a part of it." says tonisafe