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no tickcle my fancy here abi

Terry44:
Hello nlander, Had to create this account for anonymity sake.

Kindly forgive my Errors.


I am a guy in my late twenties, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this Buhari's next level. I've dated this lady for two years and I'm almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, mind you she is 24.



Issue all started when I left Abuja for Lagos for a contract job, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too. For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her Step-mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.


Problem started when she first visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time
with my ailing father and younger siblings.

The actual trouble bothering me is this, toward the end of completing my contract job, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand due to the fact that I had a lot to take care of financially and such emergency spending was not budgeted for. She was so much desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. So I had to use part of my younger brother tuition fee and also borrow from my colleague to help her secure a self contain apartment as well as everything needed to make her feel comfortable, she collected the money from me to give to the agent who was supposed to source for the apartment. She resolved to squat with a friend pending when the apartment would be ready and acquiring necessary furnitures.


Almighty God been so good to me, I got a permanent job offer in a multi-national firm in Ogun state. She came to visit me and I had to pay for her flight ticket to and fro, she just left my house on Tuesday after spending two weeks with me. During her stay with me I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over previously due to the fact that she was having sex chat with the said Ex and also another guy who is a member of their family church, which she told me is nothing to worry about that the ex was disturbing her that he his still having problem moving on .


I'm at the cross road and unable to decide whether to end it or wait for her to apologise. Though, I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a
good woman and has really supported me
except for my latest findings.



Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her,
my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should
talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.




NB: no insults please. I'm really unstable at the moment.

YOU CANT ESCAPE INSULT FROM ME MR MAN , HOW MANY TIME I WOULD KEEP SAYING THAT THIS HOLES CANT LOYAL ,ITS JUST YOUR TIME UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED TO A WOMAN STOP WASTING RESOURCES ON THEM .. LET ME TELL YOU THE FACT THE MONEY YOU SAID ..YOU GAVE AND SHE GIVE IT TO AGENT ,SHEY NA YOUR EYES SHE GIVE AGENT ,ALAYE YOU BE MUMU THE GIRL DEY WINNING YOU THE AND HER BOYFRIEND JUST DEY USED THE MONEY ENJOY THERESELF AFTER SWEET FUVK , YOU BETTER JUST DEY DO LIKE YOU DONT KNOW ANYTHING ..DEY CHOP HER OILYHOLE NO GIVE HER ANYTHING AFTER SOMETHING SHE GO LEAVE YOU HER THATS HOW STARZ DO

Hugomexis:
This my guy did something for me in my second year in uni that's still evergreen in my memory.

I was sick then with no money to buy drugs.He was my room mate in the hostel.Seeing how frail I was,he gave me the last money in his account to buy drugs and food.

He must have probably forgotten about this but I've not.His birthday is next week and I will support him with 150k.

bragado

kenzysmith:
going to brothel to sleep with different girls you know nothing about and playing bet9ja virtual which one is more dangerous

No one Good out of it unless you caution yourself

Iamolukorede:
And so I will just go straight to my reasons for the post, I hope this is the right section at airing my plights and mods please take this to the front page, to help me collect advices from all the ladies and gentleman here.

How can I fix this, I am 34. I live in a third world country I am jobless infact I'm broke to a pulp and I'm not married yet.

I want as much advice as I can get, it would go a long way. What trade or business is advisable after a vocational training of 3 - 6 months

brother we dey same egde everything would be alright for us let just have the believe and have faith in God , Am also 31 years old now and I feel like you but anyway am graduate but not yet do my clearance due to my broke condition ! You goto course or do 3 months to 6 month training ..if you like to know more you can send me PM on here and I reply you through email shalom

sharpwriter:
6 times daily? Chai... Wicked oga

believe this at your own peril

SamuelOamen:
A 30-year-old woman, Blessing Jimoh, has been arrested by men of the Ondo State Police Command for allegedly killing her mother, Ijeoma Odo.

Blessing said she killed her mother with a cutlass after a Pastor said her mother was a witch.

She was paraded alongside other criminals.

The Pastor is said to be on the run.

Blessing said she has four children and committed the crime while they were working at the farm Ile-Iluji area.

She claimed to be mentally unstable when she committed the crime.

According to her, "It was something doing me that make me kill my mother. I am not happy with what I did.

"I cut her neck with a cutlass. It was a Pastor that said she was witch and l went to beg her. My mother is from Enugu State. We have been looking for the Pastor but we have not seen him."

Ondo Police Commissioner, Bolaji Salami, said the suspect would soon be charged to court.


https://thenationonlineng.net/breaking-i-killed-my-mother-because-pastor-said-she-is-a-witch/

wetin dey worry most of this fake pastor.. with there werey behaviour

MrGrimm:
I met this girl in Uniport she liked me, she kept telling me how cute I am and stuff. And she was cute too. We talked for a while and I decided to take her out. I took her out and the date went nice. I remember one day I was talking with her and she misinterpreted what I said, immediately she started saying "I'm not liket that" and I asked "like what?". She started saying how she can never be a runsgirl (prostitute), I had to explain myself very well because I don't know what she heard. After a while like some weeks she started treating me anyhow. If I call she'll not pick, those kind of things. I even offered to take her out somewhere nice for the second time, she told me yes, but when I went to the venue she said she's not coming again. I got over her. After a few months my friend told me she's a runsgirl. I was doubtful so I did my research and it was true, she now has a daughter. She's now a single mom. And upon she's a single mom she's still doing runs. You won't believe what most of these girls do, many men after all their hard work will marry them and these girls can keep a secret. I feel somehow when it comes to women. You can't trust anyone.

no how I can dated runs girl and I would not know ... I am Rosco for different olosho carry Dem Wella Wella since 2013 before I give my life to Jesus ...they are not good to marry for house unless they intentionally wonna charge but they can fuvck like mad ... my fool friend Marry runs girl I don nack different time mofo

IamYourNeighbor:
I just heard from someone that "being quiet is almost same thing as being weak." What a society we live in! Being loud is taken as being strong, and being quiet is taken as being weak !

What's your assertion to this ideology peopleii?

Yes you can be quite but when you see that they want to take you for granted , you must talk and let them know you no be fool unless you would be bully for long time be quite ...am introvert , gentle but I can be crazy sometimes .. that's how it's supposed be

Zzor:
lefulefu,crackhaus,gtguru abi qtguru,Descortes,Lintune ,come and lie your lie let me see

this table you are shaking , do you think you can withstand it Zzor

ILuvBreasts:
I'm 22 and in the university for 4 years. I'm thinking of having a girlfriend,my guys have been teasing me a lot with it. I don't just have the motivation to toast in school...I don't know why.
Maybe because it's capital intensive
I'm tired of trying and I hope it's not an issue

You just need an hole to be dig .. don't put yourself in relationship wahala omoboy

Map1:
you be yeye Man, a real man don't fight for woman,if the guy kill you after your death another man will still bang her, Don't ever fight some one you don't know,he might come back for you

WISEWORDS OF THE DAY , DON'T EVER FIGHT SOMEONE YOU DONT KNOW HE MIGHT COME BACK FOR YOU

NearDeath:
Hi. Am a citizen of south-south delta state, one of the most worthless state in nigeria. Have been tortured heavily by a deity(juju) for 3years and i cant bear it anymore. I've lost contact with humanity. Pls go ahead and suggest a potent liquid for a quick and short painless death (apart from sniper).

I beg no kill yourself sef oooo buahari go miss you

menabae:
Op this not a big deal,there are lot of girls that do even more than that for their poor bf....good girls like us do exist ok :-

if person broke no me say poor boyfriend this your words mean another things only wise can relate ... Nigeria girl mentality can't never change I swear see this one too

Woman are pretender and hypocrites in nature

englishmart:
My ex invited me for her wedding. I knew it was to spite me. But whatever be the case, I'm not attending even for $200,000 voucher.

What about you?

i no get time , am a introvert

Warrgidanairala:
News reaching me about Nairaland guys goes thus: 1:That they don't respect and value women. 2:That they are hustlers,no much big boys here. 3:That most of them live a reckless lifestyle I.e smoke and drink. 4:That they are for the streets. 5:That they have some self acclaimed redpillers who have nothing to offer aside big prick and always rant about how they will shift a woman's womb,they mostly spend their time at the gym trying to prey on successful women. As a new guy here I just want to clarify if all these things are true because that's what the lady that introduced me to Nairaland told me.

the girl that's introduce you to NAIRALAND saying all this about us is a werey ... All guys here are hardworking and we are into professional works

What Is The Best Thing A Girl Can Give To His Bf To Prove Her Love For Him ?

OBO

reccy:
Hello, this write up is solely from my own assumption and certainly from the general view of the "MEN" outside there. This is not a case of redpill or simp whatsoever..... This is however, a case of, "the right thing must be done".

Oya, lets roll........

1) Never put yourself at disadvantage to please her,: They don't worth it. Believe me, you first, your mother, father. Infact, your extend family before her.

2) Don't allow her to come in during financial crisis: to all my new 18 years old guys who, in the interest of the society, want to have a girlfriend, please never allow them to help you during your difficulties except if your want your issue to be talk of the town if things go south.... except if you are also ready to double it in future for her in CASH and not never in kind. They don't understand 'kind'.

3)Never tell her everything about you. Make a reservation and let her finds out on her own if she is curious about it, with that, you gain respects.....

4) Do not explain things to her when she is angry: Kindly give her space to calm down, kindly tell her the logic behind the whole issue and throw away that explanation.... We don't need it here!

5) *[b][/b]Never teach a girlfriend in a room with only both of you at home*: you and i know there is no discipline you want to show by wanting to teach on her visit. Uncle, are you a man at all?there is a greater chances that she will not learn anything unlike in a casual environment. Please save that and do the needful!....wink.....

6) Your parent should be the last place she should know while " girlfriending" and "boyfriending" each other. However, this can change a little when you are serious to marry her.
.......nobody should go and display fake responsibilities to my innocent mother before she would be on my neck when things get south...

7) Never allow her move in with you before marriage. It is a sin before jesus and Allah. They hate it.....
Kindly save the feeling and respect for marriage sake. It helps....

Do not show her your weak point: Ladies are good in capitalizing in such area. They have A1 in such area of concentration from the university above.

9) Never make the mistakes of showing or revealing your financial worth. You do that, you are doom.... Mine is to write, yours is to add meaning to it!

10) Never make mistakes of telling her you can do anything for her. Just let her know that you can do the right things for her. Make no satan incarnate make you go slap cultist on her behalf. Nah "on the run you go dy" till thy kingdom come.

11) add yours......

To read is yours, to understand is divine.....

Bravo ..... that's how Starz Do

tosaino95:
I was in the company where i work when i overhead one guy telling the guy on the other side exactly where i am,that the girl he told him about have break up with him.
And without letting the girl finishing her break up line, he told her he expect the break up because he knew when she return to school,she will change.
Why do these most especially to guys not in school
more of the reason i ghost my ex even though she is my type of woman.
And that same shit happen when a guy takes his girlfriend or wife abroad to be living there,after some months the lady will start changing behaviour.
I think guys are actually right for calling Nigeria girls useless.
Peace Out

VERY VERY USELESS

chatinent:
Assume this scenario: you and your wife have a lil issue, and she refused cooking for you.

Your sister came by, and decided to prepare sth for you so far your wife wouldn't. Your wife then slapped your sister for entering “her kitchen without her consent” after a little war of words.


Honestly, what will you do?

which kind question be this Nitori olorun

[quote author=Escabado post=100358856]If you say s. ex : currently s.ex is the cheapest commodity you can buy now as low as N500 to N1000

If you say a child : how can a woman have sex with a man give birth , and she seats back waiting for the man to bring money for feeding, clothing , house bills . Which is called financial slavery

If you say been responsible : how can only a man be responsible for the children, and a woman who is a grown up adult . We're as both of them are supposed to be responsible for there family expenses.

Have u noticed when a man takes up all the financial responsibility of his home till the kids grow they only buy gift and cars for there mom.

Have you also noticed when a woman bear financial cost for raising her child , she will spoil there minds towards there father and make them see him as evil .have u ever seen a single mother that speaks good of his baby dady ? We need to use our head here .think very well men



So tell me exactly what a man stand to gain in marriage .



PUSSY

SolutionsMed:
Anthony Agbonlahor Esq practices law in Nigeria, and has taught law at the University of Abuja. In this interview during the International Women’s Day, he says marital rape does not exist under the Nigerian laws. He also speaks on property, and gender affirmative action. Excerpts:

What is your position on the moves to reintroduce marital rape in the Violence Against Persons Prohibition (VAPP Act)?

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No, a man cannot rape his wife. Once a man is legally married to a woman – that is there is mutual matrimonial contract between husband and wife, it implies consent and it is irrevocable. Therefore, you cannot bring the issue of rape.

But in the UK since the 1990s, marital rape may be established where there is no consent at the material time and with proof of violence?

Why should the man resort to force and violence if he is not possessed? Outside marriage, where consent is gotten by deception or where the person is stupefied by injection or alcoholic beverage or force, it is rape; but a man cannot rape his wife. If there is a marriage certificate from the Registry, it means that a man and his wife are one. If they are one, then no one rapes himself or herself. This applies to even church marriage under the Act and Islamic marriage under Islamic Law. Those who marry underaged commit statutory rape since a girl below 16 cannot give consent, but have you heard them taken to court? This is Nigeria; under Nigerian jurisprudence today, a man cannot rape his wife.

Is this from a religious or cultural interpretation?

Even in law, a man and his wife are one. That is why it is difficult for a wife to testify against her husband in court, unless it has to do with an offence relating to property or sexual assault or rape of a minor. A man cannot even be charged for the destruction of the wife’s property unless it was acquired before the marriage. While they are together, her things belong to the man.

Several civil society organisations are fighting against such paternalistic practices?

This is about the law. They can only make noise in the social media. Why don’t they test it in court first? Let there be a judicial pronouncement on these.

The Supreme Court has pronounced in favour of female property inheritance, for instance. Do you still insist that a man can claim the wife’s property?

In law, there is individual responsibility, or proprietary rights. That is a man and woman can own their respective properties. But where there is joint ownership, how then do you distinguish which part belongs to the man and which to the woman? It is a legal logjam. You do not buy joint property with Mr and Mrs because the Registrar at the Land Registry will not accept names with such joint titles of Mr and Mrs; it is either in the husband’s or wife’s name or if they don’t trust each other, they may use that of any of the children. This is because assuming the man dies before the woman or vice versa, and the family wants to inherit what was left, what happens to the woman? It creates difficult problems. If they have a registered company where both have shares, they can buy the property in the name of the company and have the property registered under the company, it gives them security.

Assuming the man dies and the woman remarries, or they don’t have a child, how do they share their properties? It creates problems. But I still repeat that if a man is angry and destroys his wife’s property like gold, jewelleries and trinkets, it is still his own, so when his anger calms down, he will pay.

What is your take on the growing cases of rape of young girls?

How can you kidnap for the purpose of sexual gratification? That is why I like what the NDLEA is saying that without drugs, there can be no crime. Some people can do anything under the influence of drugs. Nowadays, some young boys sleep with their mothers to make money, or the men sleeping with their daughters. In those days, people who commit these offences blamed the devil, but not anymore, the devil has been acquitted; drugs are responsible.

Woman are agitating for more positions in government. What is your take?

Women are their own greatest problem. Do you know that the highest number of voters in any country are women? The day women in this country unite, go under the umbrella of women like Aisha Yesufu or Oby Ezekwesili, they will take power. But I support that some positions should be conceded to women as an affirmation. They are good administrators and are less likely to be involved in corruption.

Do you agree with some people who say women are not essentially weak, so we should be talking about equal opportunity, not affirmative action?

The fact that women are clamouring for equal rights, they need unity more than affirmative action. If a woman becomes the president of this country today, the National Assembly will pass some of these laws. First of all, make all political nomination forms free and let the candidates go and campaign on their popularity.

The government said it is empowering women in the rural areas. What is your take?

When you set up cottage industries in rural areas where the households can benefit, if you have a grinding or milling machine bought for a community either for casava, millet, sorghum etc and people go and use it for free, it will be more beneficial to rural women than sharing the cash to them. In the present economic situation in this country, how many women have actually been empowered?

https://dailytrust.com/why-marital-rape-is-not-recognized-in-nigerian-laws-agbonlahor

you can put it in the law nah

fati2001:

photo shop

tee59:
I don't know why some men are feeling shy or ashamed to buy condoms from stores or any where around. I read a story of a married woman who's pregnant, and her baby is just 3 months old. She said, it was her husband's fault. Cus the man will not use condom because of shyness and being ashamed buying it from stores. And my question now is, can a woman/lady buys the condom for her man cus of this or it's only man's business.

why the man they shy to buy condoms nah ! I remember I dey even buy gift like pants , bra , sneakers and all for my ex when we are together sef Man need to be romantic to our wife and girlfriend

tee59:
A lady friend of mine share a real life experience of her friend to me now.This women left her husband with two kids last four months CU's he was not taking care of them.Whereas, she was already in a relationship with another man who had been married for eleven years without a child before packing out of her husband's house.She lied to the man she was pregnant, which made him to get a flat and a jeep for her and also taking care of her children. Now, she wants to end the relationship with the man having gotten what she wanted.

So you know yourself that Nigeria girl are all useless

clevvermind:
A Lady should not ask a guy out, cos it will make the lady look cheap people will say.

A Lady should not ask a guy of sex because it will make the lady look cheap people will say.

A lady should not woo a guy cos it will make the lady look cheap people will also say.

But what about begging a guy money? Would it not make the lady cheap also?

When it comes to begging a guy money, ladies dnt see it as making themselves cheap.
Let me ask. ladies, are you not making yourself cheap when you beg boys money? Why should you beg a boy money when you want to protect your dignity? Ladies are really funny. So, begging money from guys doesn't affact the dignity abi? Funny tins.

There was one lady i added on facebook and she accepted and we became friends. We use to chat often. After 3weeks, she told me that i should help her with the sum of 3k that her parent is broke now and that she is passing through tough times. I told her to send me her bank account details and the next day i pay 4k into her account. She said thank you.
After 2weeks, she told me again to help her with 7k telling me all sought of story as before. I pitied her and payed it into her account. In a month's time, she came demanding for 7k again, i then get annoyed and told her that she is making herself cheap by begging me money every time, that i'm not her boyfriend nor a central bank. I told her that i just felt pity for her that was why i gave her those money, that i now know the kind of a worthless beggar she is. Trying to use me. I then quickly deleted her from my friends' list.

Know this as a lady, that when you beg boys money, you are also making youself cheap and reducing your worth. Real ladies don't beg money like beggar. If you cannot ask a guy out or tell a guy that you want sex, don't also beg him money at all. You are also making yourself cheap by doing that. So, ladies don't beg guys money again.

URGENTLY 2K

Toks2008:
This is a sequel to the thread .. https://www.nairaland.com/6478860/fun-thread-ladies-choose-poison

As we already know, no lady is perfect and almost everyone of them have a character defect they need to work on so guys tell us, which one of these ladies will you settle for provided that she is excellent in every other aspect. You must choose one.

1. Smokes excessively.
2. Takes too much alcohol.
3. Very Arrogant/Non-submissive
4. Promiscuous.
5. Very financially demanding.
6. Very Lazy.
7. Very Dirty
8. Sexually unattractive.
9. Stark illiterate.
10. Hates sex/ Sexually boring
11. Hates cooking.(Yes some ladies hate cooking and will never cook)
12. Social media addict.(Always on social media)
13. Artificial/Cosmetics body.
14. Being dishonest and lying regularly.
15. Violent/Destructive anger.
16. Devilishly Stubborn.
17. Very Controlling.
18. Diabolic
19. Very Rude and Condescending.
20. Hateful/Malicious/Unforgiving.
21. Dangerously Jealous and Possessive.

As you can see, the list is so long and that is because of the very intricate nature of women but the truth is that if we guys consider the faults of every lady we come across, we will never ever have a woman to call our own so tolerance and understanding remain the best options so just pick your headache and use your paracetamol as at when due or just forget about having a lady in your life and enrol yourself in a seminary

too much alcohol still dey manageable , I would be nacking her every night when she's is drunk noni .. just like dream come through

athenswonders:
The invention of simping came from Lord Lugard, he dared told his girl friend flora shaw to name this country as a romantic toast....

then she named it Nigeria...

Gentle men and ladies, na there problem start ooo

na simpto Gin dey affect NIGERIAN

Ruben225571:
What's happening in this photo? What’s your Stake on this?

Love or foolishness?

that black girl na glutton

Prettyangelng:
Most physical abuse from men is caused by mental abuse by women.

A man's desire is not sex, he can get it from anywhere. A man's desire is not food, he can get that from the best restaurant. A man's desire is not dressing, he sees women even better dressed than you every day. A man's desire is his respect. If you take that from him, you will cause the beast in him to be activated. He needs respect. He needs you as a woman to massage his ego. Act like a queen then he will be your king.

ONE OF THE WISE LADY ON NAIRALAND

Fazemood:
If you find yourself in this service how focused can you be

church of Satan