₦airaland Forum

QuintessentialW:
Hello house, good morning.

I have a real concern and I want to know what is permissible from mature and discerning individuals in the house.

Myself and my siblings were raised (from when I was about 8 years old) single handedly by my mum. Even all the 7 years that my father lived with us, my mum chiefly ran the home... she was the one who paid rent and school fees and ensured quality feeding. Father was gainfully employed at the time, but he just lacked a sense of responsibility for family. He finally absconded at about the time I was 8 because he lost his job, and never looked back... he was never involved in our finances or welfare. In all those years, he visited a few times, but that was all. My mum passed on a few years ago and her brother, my uncle, assumed FULL responsibility for my siblings and I. My paternal uncles never lent a helping hand.

Now I'm in my 20s, done with schooling, working currently, and would be getting married soon. I want to know what is permissible. I'm from a minority tribe in Edo State, so I'm not Bini or Esan. My maternal family are Okpe (Urhobos). Left to me, I don't want my father collecting my bride price or walking me down the aisle. He now lives in squalor in the village. I don't want to go to the village to do my traditional wedding if I can help it.

Two years ago when I first had plans of getting married, my maternal uncle who's responsible for us had mentioned that I shouldn't take any man to my dad. My maternal family is angry with him, for what he did to my mum and us. I would love to respect my Uncle's wishes because I feel he has a say, and to show my appreciation for all he's done.

Has it ever happened that a girl's maternal family receives her bride price? Is it a taboo? If that's against tradition, is it possible to choose another location other than the village, where my dad and his kinsmen can perform the traditional rites?

Also, on my church wedding day, can my Uncle walk me down the aisle?

N:B I don't hold any grudges against father. I've been the only one amongst all my siblings who's tried to keep in touch with him. I was the one who personally went to seek him out to know where he lives... and to know my village. Whenever I can afford to, I send him money.

Still, I don't feel he deserves to give my hand in marriage. He's never been a dad, in the true sense of the word. Something happened not so long ago, and he was threatening to curse my brothers... for not looking after him. He acts really entitled.

Candid advice, please. Thank you.

Your father's sense of entitlement is quite offensive.
Your own feelings of resentment against him are justified.
If indeed your father is guilty, also remember that it is very human to err in life but there is divinity in forgiveness.
You have two options:
Sentence your father as judged or Forgive him his offenses. While the former will satisfy your sentiments of vengeance, and likewise ensure an equally graceless sentence for your own certain trespasses in life, the later will deny you of the satisfaction of vengeance but win you uncommon grace at your own certain judgments in life. The choice is yours. But remember that , he is your dad today, not because he deserves it but because God allowed it to be. Any decision to rob him of what God , in His infinite unsearchable mercies, preserved for him may mean you playing a different God. You may rearrange the location of the marriage rites as suit you but allow your father be father that God allowed him to be. That he is alive today is not by his merit but the grace of God. You may displease men in executing this divine option but you will surely not displease heaven..

Chummynoni:
why naa? why must you defraud pple? dont derive joy at the expense of others. its bad

Indeed, this is the golden mind set: don't derive joy at the expense of others!
Your personal religion or ideology is vain without this golden mind set.

I was expecting to see a well "Chinesed" panelbeated face but he is still looking Nigerian!
The bloated loaf of a girlfriend is just representing her constituency -: today's ladies who beg to be fvcked free of charges and even offer the wealth of their godforsaken families to their irresponsible fvckmates. What a wayward generation of adulterers and brood of vipers! Except you repent, you will all likewise perish, says the wise Judge

The hopeless wolf is just recovering from his three nights of erotic visions...

Can a knowledgeable Catholic on board tell us the roles of an Emeritus Archbishop after retirement?

Kwanza:
http://saharareporters.com/2019/11/09/breaking-dss-prevents-lawyers-entry-facility-retrieve-sowore

Steadily, dictatorship is taking over the Nigerian political space as Nigeria elites remain complacent.
There is fire on the mountains and nobody wants to run.
National patriotism is being slaughtered on heathen altars of party loyalty and many who should sound the alarms of a dangerously drifting ship of state are giving the blind eye, the deaf ear and the dumb lips. The nation will pay for this growing reign of violation of constitutional rights and travesty of justice.
Mark my words: Buhari will end up a worse
dictator than Abacha and end up in greater shame and bitter ending than Abacha

McCoy662:
Somebody once said here and I quote "put a strand of broom deep into his pee-hole and break it.

..and a rod in his shi*thole and weld it!

CEONAIJATUBE:
Why I raped my 38-yr-old victim – Suspect, 27

A 27-year-old man, Adam Kunle, who is currently being investigated by the Ogun State Police Command for raping a 38-year-old woman, said on Thursday, that he raped the victim because she refused to date him at Makogi area of #Ibafo, #OgunState. .

Kunle, who confessed to the crime, said: “I have been making advances to the victim for quite some time. Unfortunately, she has been rejecting my offer. .

I raped my 38-yr-old victim.

So on that day, when the opportunity came, I took advantage of the lady since she was the only person at home, so I had my way with her.

While she was sleeping in her room at about 12:30 in the afternoon, I sneaked into her room and forcefully had unlawful carnal knowledge of her against her wish because we live in the same vicinity.” .

It was gathered that after the victim reported the incident at Ibafo Police Station, the Divisional Crime Officer (DCO), Ibafo Police Station, SP Akindele Andrew, quickly led detectives to the scene where the suspect was promptly arrested.

https://nasonaija.xyz/2019/11/08/i-raped-my-38-yr-old-victim/

The streets will be rid of one more animal in human skin!
The bad-head people - Awán olori puruku..

Jason555:
A former student of the University of Benin (UNIBEN), Ogedegbe Destiny Osayi, AKA Mr Possible has bagged himself another first class after graduating from law school.

Recall that Destiny had made the news about 13 months ago when he graduated with a first class from the Faculty of law in the UNIBEN, Dockaysworld reported.

He had become the second person and first male to do that in the history of the school and the predictions for his growth were favorable.

He has proved that with a repeat performance at law school where he once again left with First class.

See his result below

Source : https://www.dockaysworld.com.ng/student-who-was-first-male-to-graduate-with-first-class-in-uniben-faculty-of-law-bags-another-first-class-at-law-school/

A bright and rising Star is Destiny. He started off with a prophetic name and is fulfilling it.
Notice the the open ass

It is part of the duties of government to protect their citizens from all forms of dehumanization including those that appear under the guise of religion. Religion must not continue to be an easy cloak used by rogues and crooks to perpetuate crafty fraud on citizens. It is no longer news that the worst and basest form of human life in this country are rushing into religion to plunder the unsuspecting and simple believers. It is therefore time for secular authorities to checkmate such religious criminals as they are now a cancerous epidemic unleashed upon vulnerable citizens.
GOVERNMENT IS CONSTITUTIONALLY BOUND TO DEFEND THE SHEEPLE.

Famousbabe:
Source http://www..com/2019/11/video-braless-lady-if-you-cant-shift-my-womb.html?m=1

Imagine the level of ma*dness! There are still more higher levels to be revealed ...
Make una kwuntinu!

seunlayi:
She is right, shame on those that jump the privacy fence of women. Same way that American woman released her nude pics before the hacker disturbing her could release the pics online.

I wish all women were like this.

Next time, only wish for only your own mother, sisters, aunts and nieces to be like sluts who have no qualms dancing nke*d in the market square - do not stretch your absurd wish to mine!

titiloyeblog:
Judicaelle Irakoze, a Nigerian lady, has taken to her Twitter handle to react after someone reportedly leaked a video of her dancing naked on social media.

Judi in her reaction said the person released the video online while attacking her over her stand as a feminist.

The account that shared the video has been suspended after it was reported by many Nigerians on Twitter.

source: https://www.titiloyeblog.com/2019/11/nigerian-lady-reacts-after-someone.html

What is the difference between their low dirty lives and their nude videos! Hopeless idioootss

kestolove95:
She for dash me sef

With the rate and level at which girls of your generation are going, will there be functional wombs available to carry on the next generation?
This discarded vibrator which you are begging to acquire is about the size of a new born baby! The old user apparently discarded it for a HUGER size having lost enough satisfaction from the ferocious screwing and pounding of this machine! Where una de go? Can common sense or inner intuition not tell you say una don miss road for life?!

GistMore10:
Viral photo of another epic error by a politician in Yobe State who 'Denoted' water to his constituents.

Gist from Gistmore
http://gistmore.com/viral-photo-of-another-epic-error-by-a-politician-in-yobe-state

The "error" suggests a poor quality project that is a time bomb that may be "detonated" any time soon...

oz4real83:
Good one but this is exactly the reason some people are advancing againt banning guns in America. They will say that if this family for instance, had no gun at home, the robbers would have succeeded. They forgot that if the thieves had to guns, they may not have ventured into such act knowing fully well the risks involved when using other weapons not as effective, efficient and fast like guns for robbery. There are still too many guns in America.

If there were intelligence qualification tests on social media, above comment will not be on air.

nairafamedotcom:
Am the reason your boyfriend is always coming home late, Nigerian lady calls herself Lagos traffic as she flaunts her cleavage online. You have to see people reaction.

Source https://www.nairafame.com/2019/11/lady-who-calls-herself-lagos-traffic.html

Delusion of Grandeur...

All these is not about reviving our rich culture alone. It is more about the Renaissance of Paganism. Traditional religion which is nothing more than worship of demons, is now coming under disguise of reviving culture to bring Africa back to the dark unprofitable days of idol worship. And many who have no roots are falling for this ploy. Those who belong to idols would be taken but hear this - the true God , who has nothing in common with demons, has reserved no future to devil worship.

iamJ:
all these kind boring unions


no doggy, no oral, no 69, no better thing, its better to die single than marry a very religious girl


church on sunday, prayer once in awhile but lets listen to wizkid and lara gaga once once


these ones wouldn't listen anything if its not abt jesus


i weep for their children

You are the type who return to Nairaland with their sorry stories of Christ-less, crisis full lives. Spare your tears - you will need them for yourself!

Gistfresh:
Ever since she shot into limelight when she tied nuptial knot with revered octogenarian and highly influential Alafin of Oyo, Oba Lamidi Adeyemi, Olori Badirat Olaitan Ajoke has not failed to show she was properly trained and nurtured for royalty. She embodies royalty with blue blood flowing in her veins.

The stylish queen and serial entrepreneur personifies beauty, class, panache laced with an alluring gait. Her persona and fashion sense has gained her several admirers from different strata of life.

If there is one thing she cherishes with passion, apart from her marriage, it would be celebrating her birthday. She always celebrates with the single motive of impacting her immediate environment positively with her wealth of influence.

The HRM logistics boss will on the 3rd of November turn 30. In the course of her 30th birthday celebration, she will be holding a week- long empowerment programme for indigenes of Oyo in October.

The proud mother of twins plans to teach soap making, skin care, cake baking, shoe making, makeup, Aso-Oke stoning, bag making and nails at a venue in Oyo town.

She is changing the narrative from just throwing a birthday soiree to putting smiles on the faces of people around her by equipping them with entrepreneurial skills for self sufficiency and sustainability.

See the lovely photos below;
http://www.ogbeta.ng/2019/11/youngest-wife-of-alaafin-of-oyo-queen.html

This is unfair to a lady who could be his great grand daughter. This is barbaric , obnoxious and repugnant ...In fact, it is abuse and violation of a Young lady's life under the guise of unprofitable tradition

LolaO:
My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.

He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that.
It’s been 5 months now.

This is someone I had planned my whole life around.

Distance does not make the heart go fonder.

I am so hurt, it hurts.

He endured the relationship for five years!
His job outside your town may have been self designed.
It was probably an escape route !
You may be guilty of nothing before him.
He may even still love you beyond your imagination.
He may have realized that there is just no hope of future happiness for you or himself or both of you if you continue together because of an unresolvable issue.

GistMore11:
A lady was left in shock and disappointed after a trusted neighbour who she asked to walked her home raped her in Limpopo, South Africa. Gistmore reports

According to her, after pleading him to walk her home, immediately when they got next to her gate things changed next thing she's on the floor next thing his strangling me her on the floor which results to the rape leaving injuries on her body.

She wrote;



https://mobile.twitter.com/Nomathenda/status/1191039127547973632

Gist from Gistmore
http://gistmore.com/left-in-shock-after-a-trusted-neighbour-raped-her-in-south-africa

I hope she is not wasting valuable proof time! After more than 24 hours, the critical semen sample to nail the bastard would have been lost. All rape victims should ASAP report to police who will monitor laboratory procedures for legal prosecution.

friendlyadvice:
Hmmm u sure? I mean rape dey sweet o esp. If the geh get agidi no be all those yeye one wey go dey cry dey beg(mood spoiler)
My dream rape list na yvonne nelson,regina daniels and toke makinwa

WÈRÈ
YABA LEFT...

Solorrman:
We never justify killing anybody without reason but u need to know that even shekau that we Muslim hated the most is closer to God than u,because u are totally following west while real God follows east u are never close with only 3 sentences u are doomed more than idol worshippers and i urge u to go and unknot the complex shirt in ur religion then come back and talk of shekau. Shekau is not a Muslim but u are very related to him than us,ur situation is mocking and degrading God himself while shekau mocked and degrade innocent people. U follow a guy called Jesus Christ and u bragged all the time against north that u are educated but failed to use ur brain to see plain truth. Jesus was the only said God in history of mankind to be having anus and penix,i never heard a God ,living God having penix,eat food and goes to toilet than Jesus Christ. All Muslims must accept Jesus to be fully Muslim but we do believe he was just a prophet that was born miraculously and was also a messiah but never a God. God is above having penix and visiting toilet,infact no one can kill God the almighty only fools would believe that,a God can not cry,a God never wrestle because he is not a comedian and lastly only an insane would believe by only dancing and singing u are going to heaven as if God is ur uncle

You are evidently confused as aptly portrayed in your writing. The Jesus Christ you referred to as one guy is the same Jesus you later claimed is your prophet and Messiah!
You know about man who has peniss and goes to toilet but you cannot know about man who is glorified until God's mind is revealed to you

Many have tried to create a new Islam of Peace out of the Qur'an but no sooner have they settled with their peaceful creation than a violent uprising erupt from their midst. It is impossible for Islam to sustain peace in this world simply because it was sown with the seed of blood and sword. It cannot beget otherwise.
Mark the words of the Master: those who live by the Sword shall die by the Sword! It is an immutable curse!

kikake:
Southern Nigeria's political class is waiting for Boko Haram to consume all of Nigeria, then it will be too late to pull southern Nigeria out of Nigeria.

Boko Haram says it's fighting for a country to be governed with Sharia criminal laws, the same Sharia criminal laws adopted by the 12 northern Nigeria states beginning 1999.

Boko haram is not even satisfied with the sharia operating in the12 northern states, if not they would settle in one of them to live their low lives. What they are protesting is the secular Constitution of Nigeria. It is an abomination for Muslim to live under law which supersedes the Qur'an! In order words, other faiths have no right to a non Islamic life where Muslim exist! It is actually a religious lunacy of " live and let die"! Every Muslim is sympathetic to this lunacy! The jihad fundamental Muslim goes beyond mere sympathy to this course by fighting , maiming and killing to actualize their Utopia. Islam is incompatible with world peace! The world must expunge Islam to secure peace. This is the acid truth, no one wants to proclaim...

chimaobinelson:
This man is an honest and obedient follower of the truest Hadith and personal life of the prophet Mohammed.

forget all this rebranded interpreters and preachers round us deceiving and trynna repaint a clearly written text and blantant truth of islam.

the prophet wasnt under any law of any country, but he rather subdue the corrupt laws and enact the law of Sharia which brought peace to the then world.

according to the warlord prophet mohammed, "jihad is recommended for every muslims". But this vain preachers will tell you, "its not literally 'jihad'".

Bloody men are unmistakably and constantly men of lesser intellect and intelligence. Little wonder those vampires lead the rear in science and technology. They will remain inferior until Messiah returns...that is a secured long-placed curse on them

mauriceju2:
Islam and Muslims - the most stupid and foolish things on the solar system
The audio technologies and almost everything aiding their life are from Western education.
Buhari their chief sponsor children and families second home is the Western world

They will not be satisfied until we return with their dumb-asses back to the stone age!

seanjy4konji:
It's truth. The oloriburuku7 policewoman us part of problem of nuggria...

All Dia dogs doing tipatipa arrest up and down... They will never talk about it..

It's musician that us their problem.

Den den craze

Which brand you de use?

Democracy is government by the majority.
With the alarmingly growing numbers of black morons who have no value of time or better use of it, little wonder that democracy can not benefit the BLACK RACE?

Two people have two different interpretations of their Allah and Qur'an. One of the two says Allah will judge, in one breadh. In the next breath, he is threatening to kill the other for having a different interpretation from his own. So, he has suddenly assumed the role of the Allah who he claimed will judge!
Demented Devils!!!
Only the annihilation of these religious lunatics can bring peace. Shekau and his colony of madmen must be extinguished by all means humanly possible for peace to be restored. You can never contemplate dialogue with lunatics.

GreatResearcher:
Fellow husbands in the house, are your wives attitudes while in marriage the same as when the were in courtship? I realized women characters change from almost good to very worst once they get married.

Most tmes we wonder if the women we got married to are they women we dated. What could be the cause of this change in character.

There are many latent traits in individuals which diffuse outward with time for males and females. Reckon with this fact from the onset -- you are sure to meet a new version of your spouse with time - brace up to deal with that!