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greiboy:
Physically?

So you are married or dating. So is it safe to say your husband/bf offer nothing but sex and money?

Why do you even feel the need to get into a relationship with these useless creatures aka men, knowing that you are a independent lady and all? is it a quest to fulfill something more than the physical thing you believe men only offer?

pysically yea!!!:we need each other man n woman thats just it!! Men r beautiful creatures please!!! But why u men ask stupid questions tho!

greiboy:
Good

So you believe men only offer money and sex

In that case, are you planning to get married at a stage in life? if your answer is no, how do you intend to get this sex men offer, if your answer is yes, why will you sell yourself short for men that only offer sex and money?


So now that you are working women, do you think you can work, clean and take care of your kids all by yourself?

I assume you are single

Have you ever interviewed any single mom making huge money to satisfy their families to get opinion?

1. There are other things a man n woman contribute to make a relationship /marriage work!!! Love trust,respect n so many others but i mean phsically!!! Like tell me what else a man can physically do 4 a woman more than what i hv mentioned
2.offcourse!! Why not!! But we all want a man normally but i can do that by myself if i hv to
3. No am not single
4.. not a single mother!!! But my aunt is married to a man she is way richer than n pays the bills most times!!! She married at her late 30s n married 4 marriage sake!!! Based on the society!!!! Not like she is even happy now but she has a ring on her finger thats it!!! She literarlly still does almost everything on her own!!

olac21:
You're just too rude...Maybe you should take down the thread then if you're not receptive to others' opinions..

oh yeahhh!!! Thats the next one!!! Please go somewhere else!!!

greiboy:
Good
So if that is what you call an independent women.

Do you believe men cannot offer the independent woman anything at all?

Do you believe men only offer money in relationship? if you believe that , why?

Do you believe a woman can still maintain her independence in a relationship?

1. Yes i believe there is nothong special a man can give an independent woman more than sex n sperm!!
2. Physically asin like what we can see!! A man only ofers sex sperm n money!!!
3.cause i am a working class woman n regardless of how my partiner is nice n all!! I feel there is nothing he can do 4 me i cant do 4 myself finacially!! Even if i as well appriciate the gestures (cause i love him) so sex is what's left!!!

greiboy:
@ shugavee was is your definition of an independent women

a woman that works n makes her own money! Pays n sorts her bills on her own!!

U men dont know how to answer questions,,, if u say my post is bitter i see no reason u typing all ur trash, just move on with ur life!!! N i said physical! Dont be saying abstract nouns!! Finacial stability is reasonable but what if the lady is an independent woman?? What then can u offer, a woman literally does everything 4 a man n the man gives her nothing but the fact she is a married woman, a man goes to work n has food made 4 him,chores done, kids feed,a lady leaves her family n begins to prove herself to ur family, give birth to ur kids, with all the pain that goes with it!!! But what does a man do 4 a woman,,,, stength!! One guy said, what does the strength add to a marriage, protection! Like a woman wont protect her family as well,,, so far there is no reasonable answer just guys so bitter n pained abt the question cause they hv nothing reasonable to say!! N to the people that said that i was bitter i wasnt!!! I was being blunt as i always am , if u check my other threads i basically dont give a f**k, instead of u to answer!!! u r hitting ur head on the wall abt bitterness n blah blah blah!!! N adding nothing relevant what so ever!!! Most guys r really naive to the fact they add absolutely nothing to a woman than sex, especially an independent woman!!! N to my fellow women that are two faced!! Well done!!! Still on the issue whats a man physical contribution in a union!!!

centboy123456:
are part from sex and kids when have nothing to offer

so what do u hv to offeer.??

greiboy:
Check her comments I think on page four and five, you will see the summary

quote the comment so i can see it

Opentokwowledge:
What do you mean by "physically"? You think you can contest the 'physical' strength of a man or what?

strength to do what

greiboy:
I still don't get your bone of contention here.

You asked a question and numerous people provided reasonable answers which should have satisfied you curiosity

Nonetheless, you took upon yourself to counter their claims with pretty weak logic I must confess

You claim child bearing and house chores are more important than anything men can ever offer in a romantic relationship

They countered you by stating categorically that child bearing is not only for the benefit of man and it can also be achieved in other ways.

They also said house chores is not specifically for women, neither does house chores require any specific skill set.

Instead of you to agree at that point that whilst it easier for both sex to survive together, we can always survive without each other.

However, you kept repeating your line and they kept poking fun at you

we need each other to survive but who contributes more physically in a union!! They are all saying abstract things!!! I mean physically

No reasonable reply yet Okay o!!

Na u get ur mouth u fot talk weyti u like talk!!! Whats is a guys physical relevance in a union than sex N u all wanna kill urselves!!! Smiles!! Keep it coming its nice seeing u guys so pained 4 nothing!!!!

makydebbie:
But that's what this thread is all about? The op is asking what can a man offer when the woman is working and makes her own money. I'm not arguing out of context. The op clearly stated that women are working now, so men cannot use the money excuse and that's what I'm on about.


The feeling is mutual and that's why I chose to reply you and ignore others trolling in this thread. The dude I quoted, said something about women not paying all the bills and taking responsibilities and I'm like if a woman is financially stable and capable, what stops her from paying the bills? That is why I used Tiwa and Omotola. I really admire people who argue sensibly.



I just feel she is naive about some certain issues. And she's too angry to admit.

Exactly, I quoted a dude. He said the thread was rubbish. I quoted him to tell him what you're saying here. So why did you ignore all my points and come for this one. Don't forget, I didn't just come to comment, I was here to counter a point and everything I wrote there was based on that point. Surprisingly, you see nothing wrong with what he said, when it is full of flaws.

am not angry

greiboy:
The chick that created the thread wasn't really prepared for a debate

She should have known that nairaland guys like any rational people will counter her assertions

Perhaps she must have thought that she will just drop her comments and everyone will applaud her

Well to bad, better luck next time

just say u cAnt ansa the question!!! Nairaland boys this n that,,,, most of these boys never chop belle full , so whats my business what they think!!! If they dont like the thread go somewhere else! U inclusive

So this how u people want to answer the question or divert it!! If u don't like my thread or me rather!! Dont bother wasting ur mb to write ur life history!!! Answer the question or let it go!!! Am seriously not worth ur plenty talk!! I care less abt u

CAPSLOCKED:

THIS IS MY POINT.

SHE DIDN'T NEED ANSWERS WHEN SHE MADE THIS THREAD.

SHE WANTED TO MOCK HER ANCESTORS


WE WON'T LET THAT HAPPEN!

comon stop crying!!!

CAPSLOCKED:

FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT WOMEN THIS, FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT WOMEN THAT.

THAT'S WHAT EVERY GIRL IS USING FOR THEIR DEFENSE ON THIS TOPIC.

BUT HOW MANY NAIRALAND WOMEN ARE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT?
HOW MANY NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT?

I RESPECT AND ADMIRE YOU A LOT ON THIS FORUM, AND SO MANY OTHER LADIES WHO MANAGE TO ONCE IN A WHILE SHOW A DIFFERENCE.

BUT IT'S CLEAR THIS OP IS OUT OF HER MIND, FROM THE FIRST WORD TO THE WORDS SHE'LL SAY NEXT, ALL WE WILL SEE AND UNDERSTAND IS HATE FOR MEN, BITTERNESS, AND ILLITERACY.
IF YOU GO THROUGH HER THREADS AND TOTAL NL POSTS YOU'LL KNOW BETTER.

"WHAT DO MEN OFFER" IS A VERY LOGICAL QUESTION THAT DESERVES ANSWERS, DEBATE, AND ANALYSIS.
OUR PROBLEM IS NOT THE QUESTION BUT THE RIDICULE AND MEANINGLESSNESS OUR NURSERY ONE OP HAS ATTACHED.

nice one!! Clap 4 urself!! U can move along now!!

radiokilla:
No woman is independent. Or should I say, most Nigerian women are independent. Every woman needs a man. #companionship

sure so those a man need a womans companionship too!!!

pantherblack:
None of your loses will compare to the jpy your kids will put on your face as they grow up. These are sacrifices for effective parenting, and you should take the glory for making more physical contribution towards the development of the child and the society as a whole. women are the custodian of life. If war starts we men all go to die while we count on you to pass our will and desires to the next generation. appreciate what you have and now your sacrifices aren't worthless of under-appreciated. Not saying in Africa is our way of saying we appreciate y'all. Take it easy babe
wait till you see your first kid take his/her first step, wins award as best science student and you'll understand why they say the pleasure and joy cancels out the pain of conception

thats our speciality bringing life which destroys her body ,chores n all!!! what's their speciality or relevance in the term marriage than money ,,,which women r geting themselves already!!! So what is their relevance!! Than sex!!!!! What else can they do??

IamZod:
If you believe what you just wrote here. I.e if you are not being sarcastic.
Then truly your gender have nothing to offer other than sex.

But if you are just playing, then you know both genders have their unique roles to offer. However, it all narrows down to individuality.

they do but who contributes more!!
Drop.her family name
Sex
Her body
Carry belle
Her womb
Her 9moths of pain 4 ur own children answering ur name
Almost losing her life giving birth to ur children
Chores
Cooking
Taking care of the children
Damage her body

Men:
Sex
Sperm
The end
They both contribute tho!! But the difference is clear!!

marvin906:
you guy's should stop wasting your energy convincing
her..all she wants is for a guy to admit she's right
maybe her frustration will come down

okay if am not right tell me a guys physical contribution to a woman than sex especially a lady that is independent n has her money!!

majekoam:
I have to admit I didnt pay enough attention to the original message. I went straight to the Last page.

So this whole post was made because, as you pointed out some yeye boys said something stupid. Yes their comments about women makes them look stupid.

So because of what a few silly boys said you made a post that implies that all men do not offer much.

How does that make you look? Well the same as those silly boys...

After reading the original post...my comments on this thread are done... Goodnight all. Godbless

goodnight... God bless u too

DonPiiko:
My small prick and money

D lwkmd

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Checking up if any reasonable answer So bad!!! Coming back to check on it hoping one sensible guy wil just admit woman pysically contribute more in a union!! We will still love u!!! Just admit it!!

Lmoa!!!!

U men can say nonsense but when its thrown back at u guys!! U guys start crying !!! Women should make their own money n stop depending on men but when told to learn to cook n do chores they start screaming foul play!!! Whats a mans physical relevance in a union?? Smh

If ur pained?? Kill urself

efesodje:
Shugavee it seems you are set in your mindset about men and their contributions. You don't need my help anymore then. Now I am vexing

its okay u tried but still hvnt seen a good answer cause men ask nonsense questions to belittle women!!! So waiting 4 a more convincing answer that make men ask nonsense questions!!! How physically relevant r men to a union!!! Love n all that come from both sex to make it work!!! Thanks 4 acting reasonably

efesodje:
A mans relevance in marriage is too numerous to mention

Namely:

1. A financial provider for the home
2. Culture - positive ones that assist in training the kids
3. A protector for the wife and kids
4. Sex/Romance - The wife's readily available meat (Rated 18 : I don't need to explain this)
5. Security
6. Stability
7. Credibility
8. A helping hand around the house for manly chores (fixing electrical faults, DIY jobs around the house etc)
9. Laughter (if you are with someone that makes you laugh and happy you forget the stress of the office and happenings of the day)
9. Strength (same as Pride)
10. Friendship (same as companionship) - someone who understands you and drives you crazy (in good or bad ways)

Same goes for the women too, they bring a whole lot to the marriage.

physically oo!!! Not abstract nouns!! Apart from sex i dont see what is there again

Amarabae:
The bitter truth is that men offer little to nothing to an independent strong woman.
#fact!

exactly

So u guys seriously hv nothing to say smh!!