₦airaland Forum

Sophyrocks:
Very peaceful i tell you. No stress. You have no idea! I don't understand why people don't get it.

lolz

soundforce:
I sense regrets. You seem to be very uncomfortable in your marriage

I am not ,,, but there is stresss being in a relationship

DonPikko:
but it's there choice to decide, you don't need to force it down there throat, you're part of the problems we have in the society, you're in a relationship yet you keep preaching singleness, just like the idiots that'll travel out and tell you its better to remain in Nigeria, but they themselves won't come back

i ain’t forcing anything down their throat ,, she asked a question n I answered... this is just a comment on nairaland so they can make whatever choice they want!!! If they wanna wallow in desperation to get a man rather than working on ur self n living their best lives regradless is totally their choice!! They won’t come back cause they hv nothing to come back too,, they r drowning in debt n mortgages but hv already made their decision n started the journey already!!

rock003:
Greater peace in the sense that you had freedom to fvcck any guy you wanted without being monitored?

wow how did u know? Lol

DonPikko:
you're in a relationship? And you're preaching about singleness, you're cruel o

I don’t want women who r single to die of depression!! Cause they can be happy being single

Hanseel1:
I think you're trying to be sarcastic ,you and Shugavee.

I don't subscribe to women doing house chores by themselves so stop saying those stuffs to me.

Check my created topics, you'll see a topic where I advised women to stop being submissive unless the men will reciprocate that submission.

I don't understand why y'all think all men here are alpha males, misogynists or whatever.

okay, understood!

lexy2014:
madam I didn't ask u if u have travelled. I asked u have u dated or had a r/ship with an unemployed guy from d west. D men that kiss feet, did they kiss ur feet? If u havent, then u cant speak aithoritatively. Are u trying 2 tell me there are no men in Nigeria who cook 4 their wives?

I said what I said

Hanseel1:
No. You lack the necessary cognitive ability to understand my post because my posts aren't meant for the feeble minded and dull individuals (Not trying to insult you)

Being financially responsible as a woman doesn't mean you should take care of the home(except it's your choice or whatever) -I think you should do some research on “collective financial responsibility”

You shouldn't tell me before I know that a man who wants collective responsibility will also be a homely man -by being homely

Cooking, taking care of the kids too, and doing other house chores.


You might not necessarily contribute much but be financially responsible .


I can't continue with this conversation because you won't understand my post.

u r trying to twist what u just wrote cause this n what u wrote first don’t even follow

Saff:
It’s poor ladies that want men who are providers? What planet are you living on? Or are you just delusional? I’m not here to argue about my financial status as this is only argument that most of you guys can ever counter me with. I know I’m good, never struggled and never will. Thanks for your concern though.

You want women who are financially comfortable but just not more than you...right I get it. A woman who you can still have total control of, still cook, clean and do everything in the house but someone who you can also share the financial bills with. Rightttt, I get it. Someone who can help you do your job financially, but you still want to be regarded as the man of the house, riightttt I get it. Someone who is helping you in every aspect but helping her equally to do domestic chores is non existent in your world. Rightttt I get it. I find it so funny how most of you men are so adamant about women being financially responsible and helping out financiallly in the house but don’t have that same energy when it comes to things that are not financially related. I believe in gender roles. Why? Because I believe when there’s no gender roles the woman will carry the burden. She ends up doing nearly everything, being super woman. I’ve seen it happen too many times.

exactly they want women to do everything!! Using her n doing nothing ,,, come back from work n expect the women to present them food,, see the kids feed n house clean!!! Women r wiser

lexy2014:
were did u get that? Have u dated an unemployed guy from d western world 2 have come 2 that conclusion?

nope but I hv travelled!! In foreign countries u see men willing to cook n kiss ur feet,,, knowing they ain’t finically okay atm!! But in Nigeria u see useless broke Nigerian boys asking women,,, what can u cook with 200 Naira !!!WDF

Hanseel1:
Is this post for me or for another individual?

I didn't say you should take care of the home. Read my post carefully and understand first before you quote me.

I believe u didn’t understand ur own post!!

lexy2014:
are u trying 2 say that African American women don't date broke guys? Are u saying that d guys African American women date are educated and that their men don't beat up women?

most of them don’t,, a broke guy in America isn’t the same with a broke Nigerian guy!!! Their mentality is shitt n westernized women can’t adopt deal with such rubbish

Hanseel1:
No man is scared of being financially responsible but they want you as a woman to also be financially responsible. It's a collective work.

I've always said it that ladies who speak like this are poor ladies, made ladies don't have time for all these senseless debates. It's poor ladies who always use the "real man " stuff to escape responsibilities.

Homely woman. It's time you stop deceiving yourself on this forum, no man wants just a homely woman. Other qualities+ being homely are desired by men of this era and I believe you know those qualities.

Immediately, I saw your post I knew the kind of responsibility you were talking about.

Don't bother yourself quoting me with insults.

if u get a women who is financially stable n homely at the same time,, what can u offer her,, hope u would still learn to be a homely man,,, because hope U don’t expect women to make money for the home n take care of the home,, while to go work n do nothing else!!! Women r not ur slaves

Lordofthewest:
Ode..so every Nigerian guy is broke?...i can smell the feminist bitterness all over you this is what you morons become when you go about chasing the so called bad guys, they break your hearts, f#ck you up then you carry out your hate on others.Get off nairaland and go get busy with your d#ildo

I am done with you ,,, stay blessed

majekdom2:
Okay. The right mindset. The right ideaology but it’s not the case in Nigeria. A “feminist”in Nigeria once told me “ do I know how many men wanted to sleep with her and give her a job” but she was rigid because of her bf. so she thinks she is doing the bf a favor by being faithful. This mindset will lead to many actions that are uncalled for but in her thought she is being a feminist. I all advice my African ladies and men not to bring feminism as a defense for cases as many feminist in Africa do not understand the ideaology. Now you made it clear: the feminist mindset is I don’t have to sleep with a man to achieve my goals, I don’t have to be his slave but this does not mean I should disrespect a man and see his advice and corrections as ordering or controlling me. This does not mean I can’t be in a relationship with a man who can help me achieve my goals.

exactly

LordSaints:
talking about bellow, you know that many Nigerian women are below Nigerian men? Reason most Nigerian women of today are not good looking

I rather talk to intelligent men!! Thanks but no thanks

abduljabbar4:
The self-consolatory nonsense on your status shows how frustrated and depressed you are.

nice u read it

Lordofthewest:
And why are they relocating back to Africa in their thousands and getting married to African men. Do a simple Google search to see the number of Africa American who have relocated to Nigeria,Ghana and Senegal in the last 5years stop being ignorant and bitter...and go get yourself a real dick not that Love Machine people like you use to console yourselves.

firstly U r foolish, u know why I never talked about them coming here or not,, do u now think those African Americans will date a broke Nigerian boy?? Or an uneducated idiot that will beat them up?? That shit has nothing to do with culture,, there r women who feel they r bellow men even some whit women,, not all women r feminist!! But they benefit from feminism n don’t take shit!!

abduljabbar4:
Go and kill yourself. Buhari till 2023.

mad people have entered this thread!!! I am out

lexy2014:
if marriage isn't an achievement, what is it?

i don’t know,, is just one of those things we do!!! If we can . Is like traveling out of the country,, there r people in Nigeria who live better lives than people who travel aboard,, infact most of them r suffering,, but those that hvnt traveled or know the struggles will see it as an achievement,, not knowing they r better ... the ones that knows about the suffering living in foreign countries r relaxed n comfortable in their homeland praying for the country to be better (self love for single women)

Lordofthewest:
Speak for yourself aunty feminist some many of our women still believe in family values.No wonder a white dude on Instagram once said African women have no identity, first they try to speak like westerners, look and dress like westerners, and now live like westerners. The funny part is that the African Americans are trying to be African cos they now see the value of culture but our moronic women here are doing the opposite and getting dumber everyday.

lik those women that see themselves below a man!! Does africian Americans can’t take half of what africian women hv taken,,, u think u beat a africian American woman n not riot in jail Lol keep deceiving urself

majekdom2:
yes, feminism should be able women empowerment but can you empower a woman who does not have the right mindset? In Africa, we have a people problem I.e a mindset problem. We need to address it before we advocate feminism if not feminism will causbe more harm than good. A lady who refuses to be emotionally intelligent, know when to say sorry, can’t be guided, take another person’s opinion without bias, cannot be advised and can’t seem to reflect and thinks she is better because she achieved a status will come as a feminist after she has lost different relationships.... this is the typical case in Africa.

lol feminist is addressing that problem!! Ideology in the sense that,, if u see uurself equal to a Man, U r,, cause u won’t sleep with a man for money n u won’t let men disrespect you!! U try ur best to make ur own money n not depend on a man,, u won’t see marriage as an achievement n u would promote,, self love,Feminism is a mindset!! Then there is feminism activism!! Activism for women to adopt the feminist ideology!! N also fight against men maltreatment to women!

Feminism is first an ideology (mindset)

kingkakaone:
Nope, she didn't say any truth.

How can she accuse men of being misogynists and yet her comments are misogynistic?

Saying the whole world knows that the average Nigerian man are those things she claimed betrayed her claims of trying to be unbiased.
(Ur friend is biased, sorry to say).

If she thinks Nigerian guys are as bad as what she claims. she should go and date a South African or Ghanaian guy to see the difference.


I won't say more since it won't change anything.

cause the whole world does know!! Nigerian men r nice but their misogynistic character is undeniable!!

victorian:
My dear, the real world in dating and relationships is not palatable.. Trust me on that.

For instance what's happening between miracle the bbn guy and Nina, is what happens everyday to average people out there. Shiit happens. Let's not pretend, relationship is bliss cos it's not.

exactly

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majekdom2:
women that fail to realize the truth or understand how a man thinks stick to this opinion the reason is because men chose to be irresponsible- do you know there is a girl that will sleep with that “irresponsible” man for a loaf of bread? Thus he doesn’t see any value in a woman because his mindset is bleeped up. It is not a problem that peculiar to one gender. It is a problem that is peculiar to us as a people. The women see a man as the means to meet their fianancial needs, the man sees the woman as a slave and sex object. It is a mind problem. When auch Women are someway financially independent, they feel they don’t need a man and no sense of wisdom to guide them. Same with the man, he feels he can get any woman to disrespect as long as he has few notes to spend. We need to have the right mind set and understand the main reason for relationships. The main reason is to achieve greater grounds and bigger goals. The. I left says one shall chase a thousand, 2 ten thousands. Investors don’t invest in individuals, they invest in teams. Teams don’t work well if they don’t have the right mindset!

that’s the exact fact why feminism is an ideology

kokomilala:
Because the scripture must be fulfilled. Isaiah 4:1, seven women will ask one man to marry them..
Also, there's a male shortage the world over. This is making it difficult for women to get married, as most of these males are very young, at least, in a young population like Nigeria.
Lastly, but not exclusively, the unconscionable disposition of our women to material wealth. Life is not in a linear line. It could be zigzag or crooked. Fate could be cruel at times. It's a world where things don't always go to plan.

but the difference is women ain’t begging men!!! Most women love their single lives n happy being baby Mamas,,

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Amumaigwe:
And their criteria includes financially capable men who will take care of them.

is not only to take care of them,, but a man that can take good care of himself enough to represent their standard n attributes of the man they want

hollah123:
then y don't u remain single forever n see the emotional trauma behind it.many old singles deceive some young ones by claiming feminism n feigning happiness but deep down they cry like a baby.

because I found myself in love!! Lol that’s what u tell urself, they r happy n good.. yeah sometime u want a relationship,,, but when u remember u heartbreak n how deceitful men r, u come back to ur senses,,, n wait for the right man!!! But being single is stress free,, n makes u focus on urself,,, when u r in a relationship u think of ur Partiner than urself most times,, how to please them n make them happy ,, u forget about urself,,

hustla:
You go later die single if you continue with this useless feminist nonsense

and there is nothing wrong about that

ikaboy:
be consoling urself dre

i am not!! There is indeed peace,,, the mental work that goes into a relationship is too much!