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anxiousguy:
Hello nairalanders.
I had a fallout with some friends and ever since then I've been having this anxious feeling all the time. Its affecting my health already.

Just recently I decided to spend more time to myself reading James hadly chase books.

I've deleted my WhatsApp, deactivated my Facebook and anything that'd make me talk to anyone.

I only come to nairaland to read the headlines and that's all.

The isolation doesn't seem to help me and each time I'm always having a feeling that there's danger ahead.

My breathing is twise its normal rate and even movement of an ant would get my heart beating 1000 times in a second.

I've decided to cut out the people giving me problems in life with hope that I'd live a normal and happy life but the thought of seeing them everyday just makes me anxious.

I feel like quitting school and starting all over again in a place that no one knows me but my sister talked me out of when I told her of my plans.

I'm tired of getting manipulated by those unfriendly friends and I've decided to live my life without them but I can't help but feel anxious knowing that I'd be seeing them everyday until I graduate.

I've not made or received any phone calls since 15 days because I put my phone out of action by destroying my old lines and getting a new line which I intend to use only for data subscription and nothing else.

My mum after 3 days of not hearing from me has sent someone to check on me in my hostel and immediately I heard a knock my heart started beating faster than it was supposed to. It didn't take the person few seconds to sense that I wasn't my normal self.

I confided in her and her words gave me solace till she left. Knowing that I'm passionate about programming and software design, she bought me three udemy courses to keep me busy but I've not been able to watch more than 3 minutes of the lectures.

I took a peep at Facebook today and discovered that I'd be having some tests tomorrow in school. Immediately I remembered that I'd be seeing those friends again and the worry and increased heartbeat started again.

I've tried to get over this anxiety on my own but all my efforts seems to be futile. I can't even type as my fingers are shaking due to the panic that has developed.


Please nairalanders, I need advice. Anything that can help me overcome this panic. If this continues I won't be able to concentrate on my studies and by doing that, I'd only be helping them achieve their aim.

I don't want to show this anxiety when I appear in school tomorrow.
I want to live as happy as I can.
I don't want to feel defeated.
I don't intend to seek reassurance from others anymore.
I want to get out of this pervasive worry as it is doing me no good.
The increased heartbeat makes me get tired easily and I want to be as lively as I can when I get to class tomorrow.

I know this would get more audience if it is moved to the front-page

make new friends,, n be wiser,, u can’t be an island

ultimate77:
quite impressive. I think you should just do your thing and don't put too much hope until he is around you to do the whole thing.

alright dear

mrphysics:
Don't worry ma'am, he will come back by Christmas.


Promise us broke guys you won't intimidate with the "my boyfriend stays abroad" look when he comes back.

lol I hv no answer for you

2buffagain:
What kind of distance are talking here?...

out of the country

ultimate77:
just as you told us, you can say it to him too, hear what he has to say and his reactions too.

I don’t wanna make him feel like am anxious n put pressure on him.

QueenSekxy:
a week?
lool,sorry bae.
just get busy with something, please and prepare for the worst as you hope for the best.
mine is clocking to 7months.

okay darling , God dey

Mumin247:
Sorry am posting this here, I am yet to know how to create new topics. there's this my colleague at work i used to make moves on. though she already has a kid but no longer with her bf. she's very young. we used to flirt when i just got employed newly. she likes me and even get jealous when she sees me flirting with other girls. we'v kissd, hug and romance b4. we nearly had sex. then she started playing d jealousy games on me by flirt'n with guys and if she's call'n a guy on phone. atimes i think she fakes phone calls. then i stopped making moves on her and forget her sharply cus i hate kid games. lol. she later got tired of her games. now what she does is, she likes to talk and yab about what i wear. like if am wearing a shade, she'd say look at what he's putting on, hahaha. same thing to cloths and am sure she used to like anything i wear. and whenever our co worker yab me at work, she laugh louder than if it was someone else. maybe she might even find it funny and will nt laugh. what does this mean?

she is tripping!! Act like you don’t care

Preciousify:
Exactly!

But let's get busy. And hope all will be well.

yes o my darling!

QueenSekxy:
aww!!
You are not alone but I'm not depressed.
how many months have you not seen him?

a week n some days

ahunna1953:
Lol the only time when he will fall out of love for you is if you don't have anything doing with your life. By the way I thought feminists are tough people

tough meaning We don’t care about our men??

Buhari is not only lifeless but useless!! He still hasn’t made any attempt to save that Christian girl with Boko Haram,, doing nothing about herdsmen!! N some people in this nairaland r supporting the idiot!! May u loose ur family members to kidnappers n be totally ignored!! May ur family member be killed with no attempt to bring the criminals to book!!! I guess then u would know how useless Buhari is!!! Because u eat 3 square meals with a roof on ur head n a phone on ur hands,,, does not mean people ain’t suffering!!! I hope u buharians hv sense one day!!

Preciousify:
Yours is better. Mine is set to hit the rock!

I know I have lost him completely. We are in separate countries. We communicate majorly via video calls and chats. But, going to a month now, no video calls or chats from him. I asked, he told me he has been busy, that alot of things are on him. I see him online everyday, but he doesnt chat me. If i call, he picks and ends it almost immediately. Yet, he claims to love me.

Really hurts, cos I dont know his mind. I got a job this month, am always busy, but still think of him.

I am scared we might drift apart!! Feeling that space already!! Even if we talk everyday !! But is like I don’t hv his major attention like I use to

Angy55:
Nothing to be scared of. Release your mind sweetie. Don't nurse the fears or else you would start stalking him via all his social media et all and that would be the beginning of the relationship failing. Distance or not, if you like stay in the same street, if you like cohabit, a good player would always have his/her way.

The love that has come to stay, would stay forever despite the distance.
There are several ways to spice it up and make him love you the more despite the distance.

Above all always occupy your mind by getting busy.

alright dear,, thanks alot

pcguru1:
What are you guys goals and plans towards each other before he travelled ? Marriage or just dating , if nothing was planned or stated mehn am sorry. Is he there for school or work ? Are you joining him ? Because at the end of the day, a man's greatest task is to a forge a life for himself , if he's priority is family then yes there's a chance assuming he sees you as fulfilling that role, but if he is extremely career oriented he might as well settle with a Nigerian or foreigner over there. At this stage I will employ you guys state the roadmap for the relationship. Because me I will pick a career in a stable country and hope to see a Nigerian over there to settle down with, unless the love you guys have is very strong. All the best

for work,,,,, he is coming back October n going back again after Christmas ,,, then return by June ,,, we strong tho! But never been so far from him b4...

2buffagain:
Like the guy above said.

Have something doing.
Let it be that when you both talk, you are also celebrating your progressions with each other.
With long distance relationships, you can't be the typical girl who relies on nothing more than her body in relationships. Otherwise, There would be nothing to differentiate you from the girl across his street.

Also, have the good sense to not wait on only him to be doing the calling.
Yes he should call, but if you carry the stupid mindset that he is the ONLY one to call, you have already failed.

Lastly, take it easy. What will be will be.
Personalities determine the success of LDRs. Introverts fare better. Yahoozie people who go out all the time will likely cheat die!

he is a bit of both!! I am in serious prayer mood o

GrammarNazi1:
...on good terms...advice.

yeah honestly,, we not hving any issues,, but my mind is not at rest

2buffagain:
Like the guy above said.

Have something doing.
Let it be that when you both talk, you are also celebrating your progressions with each other.
With long distance relationships, you can't be the typical girl who relies on nothing more than her body in relationships. Otherwise, There would be nothing to differentiate you from the girl across his street.

Also, have the good sense to not wait on only him to be doing the calling.
Yes he should call, but if you carry the stupid mindset that he is the ONLY one to call, you have already failed.

Lastly, take it easy. What will be will be.
Personalities determine the success of LDRs. Introverts fare better. Yahoozie people who go out all the time will likely cheat die!

thanks! I try my best!

How do u guys deal with distance relationships,,,,, I am depressed n thinking too much,,, scared my man will fall out of love for me!! We in good terms, we even talked this morning!! But I am still scared!!Any advise

MissRaine69:
A woman’s biggest enemy is another woman especially one who clearly failed to grasp a notion and as a way of attempting self valiadation opts to insult as if that is going to make reverence to my life in some way.

I am grateful for this thing called dgaf cause I utilise it often espicially when petty is being applied 100%.

cry me a river!!! Nonsense! Looking for validation everywhere!!! I ain’t afraid to be single blah blah blah!!! Just to form nonsense!! But ur desperate to form relationship expert!!! Since u r single please keep ur advice about relationship to urself!!

MissRaine69:
I feel sorry for you.
You CLEARLY missed the subtleness of this article but instead choose to be literal and then vent your frustrations on me. Read the points made by those who understood the post. There are a fair few fortunately enough for the sake of humanity.
That is not an article ridiculing women.
Ps for the record I don’t sound smart
I am smart.

tell that to urself!! Mtcheww

Preshy561:
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I read the gibberish you wrote.

and I asked you a question which you have manoeuvred your way into absconding.

if the question i asked means being a typical NL female,so be it.
it's better than being whatever you claim you represent.

I hv noticed she wants validation so much!! I see her thread n smh!! this topic is so foolish that I had to comment,,, like wtf is this shit!!! Like ur super smart so u know every man that wants to fool you!!! When most of them come out with a charming loving attitude,, which woman doesn’t want to be loved!!!Sorry to say that’s why she is single(even if I know she would deny) If u feel u ain’t like the typical nairaland lady,, wtf r u doing here then? Mtcheww!! Forming rubbish that I don’t know!!! E get who u Dey feed for here!! Life is about risk taking!! Nobody know pass

Preshy561:
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I read the gibberish you wrote.

and I asked you a question which you have manoeuvred your way into absconding.

if the question i asked means being a typical NL female,so be it.
it's better than being whatever you claim you represent.

I get u babe!!! It’s so unfortunate

MissRaine69:
I don’t think you actually comprehended any of that. You just came guns ablazing but then you examplifty the typical female on this forum. The ones that just like to argue for the sake of it.
Advice was given
You chose not to notice it.

there is no advise here!! U hv just chosen to make ridicule of the experiences of women just so u sound smart!!

Please u can never spot the difference if u llove the person ! Even our serious relationships now, we had doubts when it started,, but the love we hv for them kept us with them. n this is just the truth!!! Ladies r very emotional,,, that’s why u can’t talk to a woman in love..

omooba969:
Same here, let's not derail the subject matter coz Op fit vex.

So what's your take on sex b4 marriage & in marriage, is there any difference really?

not at all!!! I believe after the wedding the couple should rest gist and hv fun until they r arose to hv sex,, not pressure themselves

Ire2:
Yo fam you can Bleep but I am just saying don't kill yourself for a pussy. Sex and masturbation no difference

I think I agree

larry7ng:
sensibly its for Buhari re election,only fools wud think otherwise, lets com to think of it, if for Against buhari then who is d credible aspirant u want to vote for? Saraki/Kwakanso/Markafi/Atiku .u had better wake up from ur dreams and face reality. Though things not looking so fine but its better we suffer now and enjoy later so ur great grand children dont swear for ur insensitivity and inertia. PMB is fighting for me n u. if u know u know.
Argue with ur ancestor.

please he is fighting for u n ur fellow buharians

tivta:
Nation Id card functions for the same purpose of identification.

yup but I hv never done that,, only use my pvc since I became old enough

To me,, There is only one use for PVC n that’s for identification(opening bank account) Nothing else,,, cause even if we vote how about the people counting the vote how can we trust them!!! Well I don’t!!! Who go win go win,,hopefully not Buhari ,, but if so I will cope or find a way out of this country!!! I hv done mine! But won’t waste my strength n vote for anybody!! I can’t put myself in danger,,, when at the end of the day the election would be ringed

BlastAfonja:
i am laughing at the awada tout on 3D. he is running

lol he is mad but doesn’t know!!!! Just imagine the energy the goat spent just to uplift his diminished ego!! Him no say e no reach,, but for entertaining him by responding to his trash is quiet annoying on ur side!!! U don’t argue with a mad person

anitabeauty:
WELCOME BACK. PLEASE DO YOU HAVE ANOTHER LIST OF ECHERUO?

lol come n carry this one before she commit sucide o!! No one gives a Bleep about what nonsense u r writing!! U r still trash !! Deal with it

BlastAfonja:
HE IS A TYPICAL DOG THAT BARKS EVEN WHEN IN PAIN..

lol..my darling

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