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makydebbie:
But most feminists.
No dear, I wasn't advocating anything. I just wanted Amara to understand that even men are discriminated. It cuts across all genders.

it made sense from that perspective!!!

greiboy:
Have you read it yourself? How is her points supporting individualist feminism?

yes sure I hv read it!! Individualist feminism believes that feminism is for both gender!! N believes men suffer more due to inequality which i agree with!!so in other to truuely get equality we need to reduce the social expectations from men!!

makydebbie:
Yea, you're right dear. But feminists makes it seem like it's only women that are being punished.

that's not true!!! Not all feminist!!! I believe feminism is beneficial to both male n female but then women still suffer more in the society. Even With ur points, u r advocating feminism please read up individualist feminism!!!

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:
See that's your problem there. You force someone into an argument and when they make a sensible post your brain has issues comprehending.

This is why I keep saying you've gotten S H I T for brains. You've never one day provided a meaningful counter response. Shame on you

i hv no time arguing with men that ain't open minded abt feminism!! That's a complete waste of my time and data cause they will always look for faults!!!
Shame on me yes, If it saves my data!! Why should i care trying to prove a point to you when u do nothing for me!!

Harshirama:
So if two things are not the same are they now equal? Women are best at what they do and men also. Trying to switch roles won't work

equal in opportunities!! N other social phenomenon!!! But we are not physically alike!!

Harshirama:
And I wish women too will realize they can't be equal with men.

they are equal but not the same!! But if men are as open minded to that extent I dont think we will hv much problem abt feminism

donstan18:
Stop exposing your bitter self, be the little girl your parents trained and wished you to be.

Just re-check your comments herein and see how odd, dumb, empty-headed and frustrating you sound, just take a glance on Kimbraa, Debbie and Brutus comment and see the difference yourself, you are not wise, Amarabae is married, you are not, you are still a kid being influenced with what she sees on net without attempting to seek a proper and profound knowledge about it. Don't be deceived by Amarabae, your siblings and loved ones won't be happy to see you bash and scream feminism 24/7 here. Be a good girl.

When I read your comments sometimes, i just wish I can see you in real to console and cuddle you from the possible heartbreak you experienced from the man that made away with your pride, you reek bitterness and it doesn't fit you, believe me if you invest the time you use in defending feminism in other things, you'll be loved both online and offline.

Feminism isn't a bad advocate, but being foolish over it is bad and not cool, stop abusing the privilege of accessing the net. Be wise, I don't need to be told that you are a child, but just be wise.


Drops pen!

look at ur long epistle!! I wish I care !!! Me reply this trash?? tufiakwa!!!

Harshirama:
Simple grammar,that they are not equal does not mean one is superior. Women can do what men can't and vice versa. If you were logical enough,you'd understand my statement.

oh I wish all men will even agree with that!!

Harshirama:
Calm down ma'am,be realistic,so what have you achieved by ranting online,you can keep complaining from today till tomorrow and nothing would change.

firstly we dont rant but i know u see it as rant since it does not uplift ur ego,and who says nothing is changing, why do u think men are now so bothered n bitter abt feminism!!! That's why I said u men r the ones who cant take the bitter pill!!

donstan18:
Shurup, just shurup and stop embarrassing yourself.


Why can't you think of expanding your reasoning in doing hard jobs like welding, field structural works, barrow pushing and carpentry works?

Please, who are these dunce?

come to my house n shut me up naw!!! The once that can't feed themselves three square meals will still be forming man on nairaland !! Trash!!

Harshirama:
Men and women are not equal and that's always a hard pill to swallow for feminists.

men n women r equal, i think u men are the ones that can't take the bitter pill, women are making names for themselves n moving higher n u men just wanna stick with the backward mentality just to build ur ego!! Even if u know deep down we are equal!!!

Harshirama:
Have you sampled all the opinions of all the men before generalizing?. And why do feminists especially nairaland feminists always feel so pained and cheated by men? Why do most of them think bashing men and ranting all day automatically makes them a feminist

thats ur reasoning, most nairaland men think women hv to enhance their ego!!! Feminism, though it benefits men, its women's movement!!! There is still continuous maltreatment n inequality to women, so defending n speaking abt it, is bashing to u guys !!! So why should I be bothered!! I am not obligated to understand the way ur brain chooses to understand any information passed by feminist

Lsofdk:
[color=teal]She should shut up because she acknowledged the truth, when a lady praises the effort of men you feminazis flare up

Stop misleading others, I believe you saw engineering when you opted for nursing a course that's predominantly occupied by ladies.[/color][/font]

amarabae is very correct, men invented more cause they had access to education b4 us!! They were given opportunities to expand their thinking, women were mostly abt giving birth to children n marriage!!!! So for the poster claiming men invent n do all the hard job is totally wrong, men hv just choosen to dominate that sector n bully any lady that comes close!!! Yes bully!!!! If there was a world with out men women would do just fine!!! Cause they have the opportunity to expand their reasoning, produce stuffs , n excel!! Without thinking abt men acceptance or recognition

Harshirama:
And how do men think it's always bout them?

even by reading the comment, men hv this ideology that u hv to recongnice them n honour them in ur feminst roots 4 them to regrad u a feminist!! Feminist never say men r useless cause atleast they produce sperm!! Her write up is not 100% with me, like it or not some white feminist will not Agree with her as well especially socialist n radical feminist!!! But this is her view n i respect it!!!! It's no big deal to me that u guys like her write up!! It's normal!!! Another thing is, trust me in other issues it might not be as appeasing!

Lol so because she spoke well abt men today she is a real feminist!!! Hv u had a proper discussion with her abt gender issues Yes we need each other to survive!!! But i find it really funny that men think its always abt them!! Well i dont blame them I bLame patriarchy!!

zinaunreal:
It is utterly dangerous and useless for a woman who cannot submit to her husband, have fantasies on wanting to get married. I am not a sexist i just feel it is a point of view that cannot just be countered even as more and more women have begun to be influential and independent in the society.

Society still dwells on these core unconscious rules, despite both sexes clamor for women to have more decisive and equal roles in the family like their husbands . I feel no matter how we look at things, it is always going to be wife who must submit to her husband in marriage just to ensure its longevity, health and happiness.

No man wants a woman who will rub shoulders with him. No man. So women or even feminists who feel they cannot submit, do yourself a favor and dont bother signing up for the marriage institution. Its usually tragic at the end

u men better stop talking trash n mind ur business!!! If u don't want a feminist ur choice but men r out there without this dirty outdated mentality!! So a man shouldn't summit as well?? Because he has a peniss Both spouse summit n support each other!! Marriage between two individuals has no manual, so do urs n let people do theirs!!

Cadec007:
what about those who treat their ladies as queens and still get dumped for one nigga that offers nothing more than ca$h?

that's their problem but men are the cause of these things most times!! They will say this lady is bearing with me so they will be relaxed!! Even the one with out chi chi will be beating their gf!!

mespusinglez:
Ladies Why Do You Chose To Make Us Feel This Bad Na?!
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I'm So Sad And Frustrated right now....

but when u were misbehaving!! Thinking she won't meet a better guy , now look at u lamenting on nairaland!! Next time work hard n treat women well

Ladyhippolyta88:
Nigeria is finished no wonder the country is not growing.We vote based on ethnicity and religion not on merit is this what democracy is about?

even me o!!! Bad as e bad , i am tired of Muslim people!!they all think alike

ReinaFarine:
And if only you daddy had used a condom. Just one condom of #50? It would have prevented this waste of space you've become that thinks relationship is something you should beat someone into accepting.

No wonder she left your stupid ass.

loud ittttttttttt

Horlartunes:
Yes *beating* if only have beat sense into her head she will have regards and respect me but I was doing like a lover boy petting her even when she bleeped up only if I have beat her give her mark take her out beg her till now our relationship will still be strong like olumo rock any way my next relationship auntie be ready for beating any slight Bleep up I will whip.you


team # alpha male

okay

aDEOetREGE:
I'll try and be brief

1. Haircut:

one of the most irritating haircut by most Nigerian guys is 'old skul'. Don't misquote me, there is
nothing bad with it if it perfectly fits your head shape, stature, and some other things like if you have a clean face. But imagine a hefty guy, with pimples, and all that keeping this kinda haircut, no matter how neat you are, it will portray you otherwise.

A real life example is of a bald guy I saw trying hard to keep oldskul.. Like TF?

Bald guys usually look good on skin
Square faced dudes are good with low-cut
And like that, every guy should know what's best for him

Mature girls like neat and good-looking guys. This is one of the things they look out for in guys.

2. Dress sense:

mature girls don't want you to have a wardrobe as rich as hushpuppy's, NO! Even if it's just 3 cloth combinations you have, make sure you know your way around. Dont wear native to a Monday date, don't use a stripe tie on a striped or multipatterned shirt......



3. Are you yourself?

A total turnoff for mature girls is you trying to be what you are not. If you don't have one naira, don't claim to be yusuf buhari.... Don't rent cars to impress her on dates. How long are you gonna do these for? Someday she is gonna realise and she is gonna dump your fake ass.

4. Be busy:

She doesn't care what you do as long as something keeps you busy. She doesn't need you to be the managing director in shell or first bank, NO.

She needs you to be intelligent and busy, then she trusts whatever you are doing even if the return is low ATM.

Trust me, she doesn't need a man to babysit neither does she wants a man who craves attention at every damn minute. Hint: Unavailability is a good spice.

5. Smell

Imagine you wearing a multimillion naira worth of wears, shoes and blings...Fine, you killed it but how about the strong smell from your armpit and what have we. Men are wired to have strong body scents and when not properly checked, it becomes disgusting.

This applies to the mouth too. Every mouth stinks in the morning, it’s left for individual whether to let it stink through the day or not.

For those with persistent mouth odour/halitosis, a visit to a doc ain’t a bad idea after all...

Remember, always smell nice even in your private closet.

6. Loyalty:


The preceeding points are the pros of mature girls but this right here is the major con about them. Mature ladies are extremely jealous and territorial beings. They want their man loyal to them and them alone.

If you are dating one right now and know how to keep your blokos where it is, good for you..... Else, it can make you a victim of

-Death,
-Arson (burn you or your important docs)
-voodoo affliction


You know the rest!

i totally agree with you

enemmo:
I think she has two.

The longer one and the mid length one bit they're similar (big hair).

I'm not defending hair tho,She should try something different maybe braids.

okay!!

rawpadgin:
I nor understand why men go dey watch BBN, Z-WORLD, & NAIJA HOME VIDEO


the thing dey vex me!

dey vex 4 weyti no concern u! Welldone

mostHandsome01:
people will start saying what they know nothing about now, RUUTOS helps the housemates do their hair every sunday, and Cee-C does hers too, she changes the hair but does same style.

she changes the style but not the weavon! She came to the house with side parting and now on centre parting!! Same weavon

Ceec hair is very one kind abeg!! If u r watching bbn, that her hair must vex you!!

Sagamite:
How is it a gift?

What was the reason it was given to her for?

Tell me about any other "gift" you know of that is given for one singular intent.

Also tell me about any other "gift" you know of that can be given to you by only one kind of person.

It is about feminism. It shows the selfishness of feminism. Which is really not a shock considering the gender that is primarily advocating feminism.

said my peace, am done with this topic, its was a gift to her, n she would give it back if she wants to!!! If u want the ring back ask politely , don't think she will forcefully give u! Cause it's hers!! Good day

Sagamite:
Why should it be fine if she does not return it?

Did she buy it?

Is she fulfilling the intention it was bought for?

You are a feminist! Remember?

this has nothing to do with feminism firstly!! 2ndly it was a gift n its her decision to make!!! She didnt buy it but it was given to her!!!

Ladyhippolyta88:
All these nairaland guys would just be forming boss online.Any man that cannot be domestic cannot marry me it is my definition of a good husband.Let me add this no nairalander should quote me and tell me that I would end up in shiloh.

me too o!! That's why I said in my previous thread, if u want an independent woman give her something more than money, for me u just need to be useful in the house, i just hv to know u hv those skills even if i will do it myself most times

dominique:
The running of the home should be the responsibility of both couple not just one person. There's hardly a home where both husband and wife don't contribute financially to the upkeep of the family. So why should the husband doing chores in his OWN house be an issue? God will save my daughter from all these poorly trained boys that are all over the place. She will never be any man's liability neither will she be anybody's glorified maid.

well said

DonPiiko:
To an extent

DonPiiko:
What is good about the morning

u woke up!! Is that not good enough!