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greiboy:
Foremost of all, I will like to commend the man for exercising restraint when necessary, some men will have responded in kind to that ill tempered woman. tbh, I wouldn't trust myself in that situation.

Your friend's wife is an aggressive women with anger management issues.

Nonetheless, one constituent of your story is not adding up because most people that are aggressive with anger management issues are always quick to show remorse after their anger must have caused a problem, but your friend's wife didn't show any remorse on this occasion. Thus, I believe there is more to this story, perhaps the wife is the provider in the relationship or the couple had other serious issues before that encounter.


my advice

@ the child issue

I believe the man should try to avoid correcting the woman in the presence of their children in the future.

@ aggressive behavior

The woman needs to take anger management classes for the sake of her marriage. I am sure the man is already reaching his limit.

so u hv sense like this!!! Hmmmm!! I Sure need a meme for this!!! Wonders shall never end!!

CAPSLOCKED:

IT'S CALLED A COMPETITION.
INSTEAD OF QUITTING TRY TO IMPROVE IF YOU CAN'T COMPETE. IF YOUR FOOD IS BAD AND HE'S BETTER, THERE'S NOTHING TO DO BUT TO LEARN FROM HIM. BAD FOOD IS A DISEASE. IF YOU CAN'T BE GOOD DON'T BE BAD AT LEAST.


BUT OF COURSE, "WE" ALWAYS WANT THE EASY WAYS.
QUITTING AND CRYING HAS ALWAYS BEEN EASIER THAN LEARNING AND ADAPTING FOR WOMEN.

i dont agree, i feel anyone u are hving a romantic relationship with should be ur confidant, not ur competition, its never healthy. Him teasing her diminishes her self esteem!! No one wants to be involved with a guy u always hv to prove urself to, so making her feel less is the mistake, not correcting her!! Am sure she would try n improve her cooking skills but not for u!!

KOPT33:
How does railing against bad cooking make me a bad person? Na waoh - all these bitches that need slaps.

tufiakwa!!! Irresponsibility

Ladyhippolyta88:
We agree it was not in the pre nup and the woman was wrong to have done such This must have been an arranged marriage because if it wasn't and you claim to love her why divorce her immediately the man just needed an escape route

marriage with a pre nup is not marriage!! Let's just continue doing boyfriend n girlfriend!!

KOPT33:
I am hungry and angry.

If you guys see the absolute horror of soup and stews that a living human being cooked, you will weep for me.

For Christ sakes, I spent N12k on everything!

Jisos! I don't think I will experience food this bad again. Not if I can help it.


I have told her I won't eat her food again. I will start cooking my own meals or call my girlfriend to come and cook for me.

Bleep any woman can't cook. Fuc.k her. Fuc.kk her!!!

any man that doesn't hv sense, f**k him too!!!

freak33:
I was only teasing her that her food is not sweet (honestly the soup was watery and without taste) and that I can cook better than her, she got angry and took her things and disappear,
minutes later she sent me a text telling me its over that I don't appreciate her and that since I know how to cook I should be cooking for myself, I was only correcting her what's the appreciation there, I should appreciate her for something she didn't do right?
is it bad for me to correct her?

always start with thank you!! N don't tease women with such issues,, its a very sensitive issue for a woman, u tell her politely like someone that genuinely cares, not someone that wants to make fun of her.

ihitenansa:
] the word ibo is actually derogatory. we igbos view it as the blacks view the word negro. more unsettling when a supposed igbo person uses it.

nothing like that, i am igbo too

It's very stupid n disgusting, u see a well written epistle n offcourse expecting to see reasonable contributions.. but instead oversabi people will be looking for English to correct!!! so they can prove to narialand people that they r intelligent , people who dont give a f**k abt u in real life!! No be say u no no weyti e write o!!! Nonsense!!!

freeze001:
Even u appear to have comprehension problems and from the way u're ranting aimlessly, if I address u on the matter u will say I am correcting English.

Who doesn't know u aren't the op? Did u even read? Of course u are not the op which is why I said d person I referred to has very peaceably accepted what I said so where did u jump out from?

leave comprehension problem n focus on ur own issues in life!!! U said the OP settled peacefully n i said i am not the OP, this is a public forum so not only the Op will see ur comments!!!

prechbills1:
@bolded that's what I want to hear.. average roll with average, broke ladies roll with broke guys, standard guys roll with standard babes

okay ur problem

freeze001:
My eyes, my focus, my business.
It is obvious even to d blind that Igbo is not an English word. So why are you hyperventilating? That millions do something doesn't mane it right. The op has also taken note very amicably so where the heck are you from? Cane ur lane o!

i m not the OP , Am just telling u my own, just the way u did!! English o, igbo, Hausa o, itshekiri o, ijaw o!! What ever!! U understood what he wrote!! Shikina!!

freeze001:
First of all, address the Igbo and urself (if u say u are Igbo) properly. It is IGBO not Ibo

oh please u all stop this English correction nonsense!! Ibo or igbo u understood him, so why disregard all his reasonable statements n 4cus on that!! alot of people type ibo....... it's not new on social media, so please!!

Grayjoy:
Why? He is broke abi?

lol I hv never actually thought of the reason why!!!! i think He didnt follow my pace!

Grayjoy:
In my head, those guys were never serious, i always felt superior to them, they were toasting grlz, while I will sit on my locker with pen and paper always cracking jokes to make d class laugh, then the grlz will send me letters, I will read, laugh and dispose it. Although I did small love sha, didn't wan2 share wan2 share, so I had to digress.

u want to add pepper naw oooo

Grayjoy:
Crap to u now or then?

now!! I can't imagine myself hving anything romantic with him anymore

chinedubrazil:
Mine was only crushing and crushing..

I am a shy guy.. There is this girl called joy .. Back there in jss class, i used to crush on her.. I can't even speak to her boldly or have a close discussion with her.
I don't know what happened, my classmates joined us together as husband and wife ... May be because we sat together too much or my agility in helping her out in class..

She too wasn't worried about it..
We were officially hubby and wiffy till jss 3..

Now i am no longer crushing on her again even though i have seen her recently. I don't even shout out to her....

My junior secondary was really sweet, between jss2-3 if i was to be married then, i would have be more than king solomon..

Why ?
Maybe becos of my handsome face and my brain..

Sss1-3 was average...

Though haven't been in a serious relationship..

I am shy to the core

it's funny how things change!! That my first love i was crazy abt, is like crap to me, but then he was the happening guy!! My priorities changed

Grayjoy:
I don't follow rules all that, to the point that school principal was aware dat such a guy exists in the school, dat was senior class though, I dnt wan2 claim classy sha, bt u knw dat kind of guys in class dat feels like nobody here can match me for anything? I was in dat crew, 3 rivals always contesting to be best nt by answering questions o, just getting d end result, it was silent rivalry sha, 3 slim guys.

see swag!! Girls would be triping

Grayjoy:
I knw ur group now, am nt a stage guy, but am always on d school stage, very controversial, my mum always complain I iron alot, i gat 3 whites and 2 royal blue trousers to pull tru for d week, brown sandals with white sole, always my choice, a back pack, well I was considered one of d top guys in dat A-arm always on point with questions and answers, assignment etc. So was I swaggerless?

lol, ur a nerd the dancers singers n dramatists were the real deal!!

Grayjoy:
"average role with average" it took me time to digest dat line. It should be "roll" *i no sabi english too o*
in my own school then, "swag" rolls with "swag", classy guys with classy babes i.e few o, then the rest classy ones just mind their business.

lol I wasn't even among our classy girls in our time!! I was the mind ur business kinda girl!! My uniforms were prefect n clean but i never styled them or cut them!! Followed rules n regulations!! Our classy gang those days were the rule breakers!! N yeah "roll" thanks

Grayjoy:
what do u even term swag? I mean what do u term swag in a guy?

swag in sec school: nice white, well iron school uniform, brains(not nerds tho), guys in drama group or singers,always performing on stage that was our kinda guy those days!!

Grayjoy:
Lol, oversize khaki with overflowing white shirt. Is dat what u are thinking?
It is not by swag.

no be only., when we were young all we think abt is swag n fine boy!!! Guys were all abt fine girl that has packaging!!! Not like now! I was average tho!! Average role with average!! Swaggerless boys r on their own

Grayjoy:
I no get o, am gud boy, sorry was a good boy, don't do bad tinz o.

abi u no get swag those days

Grayjoy:
Confrence call with ur love? Am sure dem plenty.

lol talk ur own jor

I remember when I was dating my first love in sec school, pure n innocent love, asin mid night calls n all that, conference call, gisting all night!! I remember how many times I was flogged by my mum to stop, had to hide myself inside ghana must go, so she won't hear me, cause our house echoes!!
Our fight like :
Me: when did u start carrying that girls bag
Him: ah ah I was just helping her
Me: u try , see dont call me anymore, u think i dont know what u r doing

As popular couple everybody start talking to me n begging me, because of God I will 4give him,
On monday break time I will eat correct fried rice n fried fish,
back then its normally a competition on who gets the best gifts on vals day!! Teddy bear, chocolate ,perfume everywhere, i rem my first val dayl I gave him sexy boxers n belt!
Mind you, it was a non sexual relationship , u both just hv this closeness , non of us were talking abt sex!
Not now that life has spoil.,

i remember our high class relationships in sec school, like our celebrity couples then.., always going to parties enjoying n the ones that gist us abt sex!!

Chai swt times
Tell me ur own story!! Don't tell me sec school was fun 4 me alone

English corrector: thanks but no thanks

greiboy:
Shift where kwanu ?

Come on! , greet your trollie osiso

come this boy why do u love me like this??

greiboy:

tah shift!!

RuthDaniels:
Why are the guys mad? something is fishy

prechbills1:
lady, you can't be a dependent poor lady and call yourself a feminist

u can be a feminist n not hv money, i started feminism from a very young age, still under my parents but, i believed in equality , that no man is superior than i am!! Feminism was my drive on being an independent woman, it made me study hard n get good grades, till i finally got my job n i am working now!! A lady who is dependent on her husband might not see a reason to advocate for feminism, but we still hv working ladies who r regarded as poor due to our individual standard of living!!! ( e.g. dangote can see someone like you as poor even if u r working))A poor man to you might not be the same for me!! If such a lady becomes a feminist , that would be her drive to do better in what ever she is doing!! And futher more if u were dependent on ur husband n u become a feminist, that will be ur drive to do something for urself n hv ur own money!! Feminism is for all women, it has no manual, people like u want to make feminism rigid so other women won't want feminism because of this n that, but feminist belive it's an advocacy for all women!! I know u will find this hard to comprehend!! But i am done with this topic!!

trustyshoess:
I know you're here for my head but hear me out first. So in the space on an hour, I have come across two threads relating to feminism. This is not a counter or anything as everyone is entitled to their own opinion. However I can't help but put my 2 cents in.
I seriously believe that feminism is highly misunderstood

First things first, let's define feminism; it is the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Notice it doesn't say feminism is a drive towards matriarchy? Well that's simple, it's not.

There are many different types of feminism but I won't be discussing all of them as that will take too much time so I urge you to use good old Google!
So I think that the kind of feminism that people think of when they hear Feminism is Radical Feminism-: Radical feminism is a movement that believes sexism is so deeply rooted in society that the only cure is to eliminate the concept of gender completely or for females to dominate.

Now that's not the kind of feminism I'm talking about. Another type of Feminism is Liberal Feminism. Liberal feminists strive towards gender equality in all areas of life. Gender equality includes men too!

So why am I a feminist? Or why do I believe in gender equality? No, it's not because I believe that men and women are equal or because I'm against submissiveness or because I want female world domination (although that would be pretty cool)
I believe in gender equality for the same reason I believe in racial equality, tribal equality and anything that has to do with fairness in general.

Of course men and women are not equal, physicality being the main difference but they're both humans and both deserve to be treated equally as a result.

Believe me there's soo much more to say, but I don't want to make this too long. Feel free to ask questions, let's see if I can get you to see why feminism isn't all that bad

Give Femism a chance, it's not as bad as people make it out to be. We all should be feminists, we all should be striving towards equality

ur write up made alot of sense, but am sure u know now that no matter how u explain n explain, men will 4ever see feminism as war against men!! Even if it isn't!!! They know it's abt equality but they don't want that equality so anything trying to degrade their so called superiority is war against them, u can never please them as far u identify urself as a feminist!! Cause even if they agree with u in topic A ( when its something to uplift their ego) u both may not Agree with other issues like rape ,domestic violence and other gender issues!! nice write up tho!!

prechbills1:
you're the frustrated one.. broke feminist

broke kwa

prechbills1:
sorry, it doesn't make sense for a feminist to be poor.

feminism is for all women!!