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Family / Re: Modern Age Feminists Are Disguised Lazy Women: Miss Cokie by Simplybami(f): 8:25pm On Jun 07, 2018
iamJ:
Na wa see Agege bread seller ghetto understanding of feminism wink the number 1 requirement for you to be a feminist is intelligence, no intelligence in this write up

Is like ure reacting to the understanding of feminism that agege bread sellers follow, feminism is good and it’s here to stay



Lol. The write up is so shallow. SMH. I really don't know why people can't educate themselves instead of spewing rubbish.

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Food / Re: Quick And Easy OKRO Soup! by Simplybami(f): 9:45pm On Jun 06, 2018
emelda86:


Person go chop poison one day all in the name of soup

I swear.
Food / Re: Quick And Easy OKRO Soup! by Simplybami(f): 9:04pm On Jun 06, 2018
emelda86:


My darlyn truth be told Op tried but all this ingredients for okra soup issa no no for me

My list:
Okra
Crayfish
Mangala fish
Oil
Maggi
Salt
Water
Ugu
With this I'm good to go

Op no vex ooo...

Lol. She even fried the pepper and onions for Okro soup? Chai!

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Food / Re: Quick And Easy OKRO Soup! by Simplybami(f): 9:01pm On Jun 06, 2018
Sanchez01:
This isn't good to the eye one bit. It is supposed to be made from Okra, which means the possibility of liquid in the pot or plate must be slimy, save in case of a Vegetable Okra. That looks like a tonne of water which rules out the absence of Potash; a primary ingredient in preparing slimy dishes in Nigeria.

I'd rate you 2/10.

Lol. Well said.
Food / Re: Quick And Easy OKRO Soup! by Simplybami(f): 8:54pm On Jun 06, 2018
Follygunners:
All I can see na OKORO soup not, Okro soup, abeg! grin

Real okro soup prepared by the real owners (Yoruba pple) no dey get the leaves.

If you know, you know! cool

As in i'm surprised myself. That's not how to cook Okro soup please! What is this? Smh.
Family / Re: Mum With An Autistic Child Reflects On Her Emotional Journey As He Turns 10 by Simplybami(f): 7:28pm On Jun 03, 2018
shaybebaby:

I implore you to stop generalising as this further promotes misconceptions that makes people tarnish individuals with autism with the same brush.

It is called a spectrum for the precise reason that NO two people with the disorder present exactly the same way, same as no two individuals being the same.

Some make eye contact appropriately, some excessively and some not at all.

Some have sensory processing disorder which may affect some of their senses (eg sound, taste, hearing, touch etc). The effects are different in them, some may be highly sensitive to noise and have to wear ear defenders to be able to function, some crave extra sensory input and actively seek out touch etc.

My instinct is to be nasty to you but I realise that this is an opportunity to educate and create awareness.

I am a mum to a son on the spectrum, I am friends with other parents of children with autism and I can say our kids are all very much different even though the diagnosis is the same.

And I can say authoritively that such utterances like this does not help our kids.

I am not in any way tarnishing their image. For God's sake,I know it's a spectrum and I even wrote an article about it. Trust me,I understand your sentiment.
Family / Re: Mum With An Autistic Child Reflects On Her Emotional Journey As He Turns 10 by Simplybami(f): 4:07pm On Jun 03, 2018
Smarkie:
thank God for him to have such a caring and supportive mother in such a difficult time

Hmmmm. It is very draining and exhausting. It takes a strong woman to raise an autistic kid without breaking down. It can be very frustrating,especially when some refuse to maintain eye contact with you,and cringe when you touch them!

http://simplybami..com/2018/03/does-autism-spectrum-disorder-have_19.html?m=1
Family / Re: Mum With An Autistic Child Reflects On Her Emotional Journey As He Turns 10 by Simplybami(f): 4:01pm On Jun 03, 2018
Pharmchy:
Please can someone educate us on the causes of this and the possible ways to prevent it. Thanks and God bless u.

Just click on this link.

http://simplybami..com/2018/03/does-autism-spectrum-disorder-have_19.html?m=1
Family / Re: Mum With An Autistic Child Reflects On Her Emotional Journey As He Turns 10 by Simplybami(f): 3:53pm On Jun 03, 2018
Barney11:
Please educate me,can they be called imbe?

Hi. I wrote an article that extensively explores this issue. You should check it out.

http://simplybami..com/2018/03/does-autism-spectrum-disorder-have_19.html?m=1
Literature / The Dark Dawn( A Short Story On Domestic Violence) by Simplybami(f): 2:33pm On May 25, 2018
The room was tense, with the intruder unrelenting in her quest to be acknowledged. The Sun was shining brightly,peering in making the two women seated on the bare ground blinking their eyes intermittently. One of the women got up and walked towards the window,drawing the curtains together, to keep the intruder away.



  'I never imagined it could ever turned out like this, I didn't mean to. It was swift, rash and impulsive. I love my husband but...................' breaking off in her speech, she resumed her sobbing in a low tone. Fifunmi looked up at her friend, wishing she could comfort her and put an end to her misery. She had been crying ever since she rushed into her house at 4:30am in the morning, banging heavily at her door. If Fifunmi had tarried one second late, Nimi could have broken down the door, the banging was that serious.


'Nimi, you had the chance to leave, I warned you repeatedly but you wouldn't  budge, thinking you could change him, not so?


'Funmi, I never imagined it could turn out this way, he was so sweet, loving and caring at first I ..............' her voice trailed off this time with loud wails escaping her throat.


'Oh please, are you telling me you didn't see the traits?are you saying he turned into a monster overnight?


Nimi shut her eyes now, to stop the tears from flowing, instead it kept rushing down her cheeks like a cascade.


  She remembered how it all started few years ago. She had met Charles inside the company's elevator. She was already running late for the presentation her boss told her was scheduled for 9:am prompt. Raising up her wrist and peering into her rolex wristwatch she got at Primark shop in London, the time was 9:10 am. She was already ten minutes late. She kept muttering a quiet prayer to God, she didn't even notice the good looking man beside her, all she wanted was to be at the meeting already. She kept tapping her right  foot on the floor wishing the elevator could move faster.  It was an unconscious habit she exhibited whenever she was tensed.


'I never knew angels now dwell amongst human beings, if this is a dream, I do not wish to wake up.' Charles said.


He had been dazzled by the light skinned beauty standing next to him. He had always dated skinny girls but seeing the curvaceous beauty  beside him had made his mind go blank momentarily.

It sounded cliché to Nimi 's ears but also made her feel good. She looked up at him now,surprise spreading across her face, yes! The man had found her attractive.

'Thanks' she said shyly to him. The elevator eventually halted at the 20th floor. Without sparing the man another glance, she rushed out and dashed into the boardroom almost colliding with one of the board of directors at the entrance. She apologised quickly, grateful she was not the only one that arrived late.


She apologised for arriving late before commencing with her presentation. It turned out great, and when all the directors filled out of the boardroom, commending her on a job well done; then, she noticed him. The good looking man who had complimented her earlier. He was the external auditor her boss had told her about earlier, he was there to represent his company.


'You did a nice job back there, I'm impressed. You're not only beautiful but also very smart, I love having smart people around me' he said grinning, revealing his nice set of dentition and dimples. Nimi blushed heavily now, with her cheeks turning red;staring face to face to a guy she thought had stepped out of a chocolate factory, with his 6.2 feet height towering above her, and his well sculptured muscular arms emphasising his broad chest. He looked like those male models on vogue magazine, Nimi thought. Oh, and he smelt great too. It was one of the things she found attractive in a man; nice smell without the sweaty armpit appearance.


'Thanks for the compliment' she said,'by the way I'm sapiosexual' she squealed.


'Touche,nice try' he replied her. She laughed heartily this time,greeting him properly now and apologising for rushing out earlier.                                                                                                                            

They would later have series of date,exchanging knowledge with each other,and never got tired of each other's company. They never ran out of things to talk about. Both were lover of books and art and would always amuse each other with their philosophical conversations. They also discussed at length  about their future plans and how they couldn't wait to get married. They had sex on the tenth date,making it six months after they had started dating. It was the most beautiful thing that had ever happened to her. She thought her first time would be painful,wincing every time she thought about it. She was still a virgin at twenty-five,she had kept on to it,until she found the perfect lover.Charles was a good lover in bed,he paid attention to her and wasn't selfish.


 'Trust me' he had whispered to her. This made her tensed muscles  relaxed,and in that moment when their breath became one he made love to her over and over again,whispering sweet nothings to her,basking in the euphoria of their shared bond.


They got married few months later, and their marriage was perfect for the first few months. Nimi couldn't have asked for more. But the serenity didn't last for long. Charles had a weakness for beautiful ladies,something Nimi noticed during their courtship but never really took to heart,thinking marriage was going to change him. He drifted apart from his wife and started keeping late nights. He ignored her whenever she asked him questions and only answered her when he felt like. He was already bored with her and had found an adventurous and equally beautiful lady he couldn't get enough of.


He turned aggressive and hostile towards her,battering her at every slightest provocation. He continued to abuse her physically and emotionally,making her lose her self-esteem in the process. She wanted to reach out to her parents,but she thought against it,her mother had also been a victim of domestic violence,she grew up watching her father beat up her mother. She felt she could handle her marital crisis and hoping Charles was going to change back to the loving man she got married to. She later confided in her friend;Fifunmi and rejected the advice given to her by her friend,thinking about the stigma that came with being a divorcee in the society. Perhaps she should have listened to her friend,but instead,she clung to her husband in spite of the ill treatment meted towards her.


Charles got back late that day as usual with air of superiority around him. He ignored her greetings and went straight to the bathroom. He later came out demanding for his meal at 2:am in the morning. He had gone to the club earlier with his girlfriend and friends returning later without giving her any explanation. Nimi asked him why a lady had picked his phone call,she already suspected that her husband was cheating on her,but the phone call confirmed her fears.


He took the question wrong and pounced on her in the middle of the night,not caring about how she was shouting at the top of her voice. He broke their wedding picture frame on her head,leaving her in her own pool of blood and rushing into the bedroom slamming the door behind him. Nimi cried heavily and then the anger rose,thinking about all the times he had always battered her. She had miscarried her pregnancies twice due to the beatings she received from her dear husband.

               

She went into the kitchen quietly and took a knife from the plate rack. She moved towards their bedroom and turned the door knob. She entered and went towards the figure lying on the bed,he was deep in his alcohol induced slumber. Reflexively,she stabbed him twice on his chest with anger surging through the whole of her body before dropping the knife and realising what she had done. She rushed out into the night,grabbing her car keys along and ordering the gate man to open the gate.


He opened it and didn't bother to ask about the piercing scream he heard,he was already used to it and had thought it was the same thing that had always happened almost every other night. Nimi drove out of the compound and sped down to her friend's place,panting heavily.


'I pray he is still alive,God please' Nimi whispered this time crying.


'How many times did you stab him?' Funmi asked her friend.


'I stabbed him twice,but I suppose twice is enough to end a life. Oh God,what have I done?' Nimi said,rolling on the floor this time.  


'You should have left him when I told you to. I know he was beast, but you had absolutely no justification to have ended his life! For God's sake, he was someone's son Nimi! Why didn't you just leave, why Nimi?' Her friend asked her with an irritated and sorrowful look on her face.


'I'm screwed babe,so I'm going to spend the rest of my life in prison?" She said in a tired and resigned voice.


Just then, they both heard the siren of an approaching vehicle blaring loudly.The room was tense once again with different thoughts racing through Nimi and her unmarried friend's mind. The Sun this time was shining towards the east direction.    


                                                 
Written by Akinnagbe Ayobami Esther

www.simplybami..com
Education / Re: Scary? A Must See: This Video Is Blocked In Almost Every Country 2018 by Simplybami(f): 6:04pm On May 21, 2018
obekediamondfuto:


thanks a lot for the endorsement, but my work here is done.

nice conversation though. really nice!

You're welcome.
Education / Re: Scary? A Must See: This Video Is Blocked In Almost Every Country 2018 by Simplybami(f): 9:33pm On May 20, 2018
obekediamondfuto:


@ this point I think we have to agree to disagree.
Yes I will discipline him when necessary.
it is high time someone schooled him that ur destination is another person's starting point.

did u read his comment about someone's father?
how crude and unrefined.

I'm here to balance the equation. everything in this world has a counter entity that negates it when when it tends to go overboard. if I refuse to do it now that I'm being compelled to, another will rise to the occasion and I'd have missed my Mark!

I'm here to counter the extreme effects of his comments and put him in check. u can say I'm his medicine

Go ahead then,give him a run for his money.
Education / Re: Scary? A Must See: This Video Is Blocked In Almost Every Country 2018 by Simplybami(f): 9:13pm On May 20, 2018
obekediamondfuto:


sometimes a second look is all it takes.
treating his eff up for what? ask ur self first, for publicly airing his opinion and philosophies? nah, everyone is entitled to that.


read his post again and again and then again. there is a serious eff up there and I'm seriously hoping u can see it

PS I am more conversant with what he's talking about than u think.

in fact I strongly believe in his flat earth theory, Enoch asserted same but because of scientists they had to wave his own supernatural experience aside.

I don't have an issue with his beliefs, I have an issue with his attitude

I understand your sentiment. The guy is really rude though. But do you really have to banter words with him? People like him always claim to know it all and would never apologise even when they are wrong. We can as well just ignore the messenger and focus on the message.

Ps: The guy is really crude,just ignore him.
Education / Re: Scary? A Must See: This Video Is Blocked In Almost Every Country 2018 by Simplybami(f): 8:54pm On May 20, 2018
obekediamondfuto:


please always cc me whenever u post, I want to be following u closely and be treating ur efff up as frequently as it is needed

But why exactly do you want to treat his eff up? For saying the truth? It's a known fact that the Holy book isn't complete okay! It's an open secret. You should read 'The Lost Books Of The Bible and The Forgotten Books Of Eden.
Romance / Re: Why Do I Always Meet Poor Girls With So Much Demands? Please Help by Simplybami(f): 9:10am On May 20, 2018
Elder001:



and they're paying a price for it..

Exactly!!!

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Romance / Re: Why Do I Always Meet Poor Girls With So Much Demands? Please Help by Simplybami(f): 9:51pm On May 19, 2018
Elder001:



You're right sha... only less than 2% will date you without making such demands but they're not rare.
they've their own set of rules ..
they don't tolerate nonsense
you can't find them in clubs and you can hardly find them in social gatherings.

Now, this is someone sensible! !! The funniest thing is, guys find ladies like these too disciplined and uptight lol. So they go for the ones they can easily maneuver. Smh.

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Romance / Re: 5 Ways To Remain Physically Attractive As A Man by Simplybami(f): 5:05pm On May 14, 2018
Supreme01:
those piont do not carry weight,the are minor except no.1&3

What about:
-clean outfit
-good english accent
-intellegent guy
-some tyms God fearing

You forgot to add 'nice smell'. Gosh,I love it when a guy smells nice.
PS: Everyone should always smell nice.
Romance / Re: Edo Meets Yoruba: Traditional & White Wedding Photos by Simplybami(f): 9:32pm On May 13, 2018
laudate:

No, Ma. I only took those who were weaving tales of petty propaganda to discredit other ethnic groups, to task. I guess you did not see them insulting others, before you decided to latch on to my post?

Ignore her,she doesn't deserve your explanation.

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Romance / Re: Edo Meets Yoruba: Traditional & White Wedding Photos by Simplybami(f): 6:04pm On May 13, 2018
laudate:

Don't mind the mugu. sad He has been recycling his petty propaganda on this thread for a while now....

It's just so bad. If you know you don't like/want a Yoruba woman as an Igbo guy, just stay on your lane. What I can't stand is how they keep saying all sort of rubbish about Yoruba women. No tribe is perfect. They should just ditch the single story narrative. Don't base the attitude of everyone in a tribe on the character exuded by the one you've been with. Now, what exactly is that pettiness against Yoruba guys? This is really absurd.

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Romance / Re: Edo Meets Yoruba: Traditional & White Wedding Photos by Simplybami(f): 5:55pm On May 13, 2018
[quote author=princfred post=67522761]Most Yoruba woman, like their men, have natural loathing and even some inherent hate which manifests as unnecesary antagonism towards igbo men. But Yoruba men love to marry igbo women especially the fair ones and the average igbo.(/quote)




Where did you get this absurd notion from? How many Yoruba girls have you dated to know for a fact that they loathe Igbo guys? This is really preposterous. For the fact that the few Yoruba girls you've approached turned you down, doesn't mean they automatically hate Igbo guys. Stop making it sound like Yoruba girls are tribalistic. Maybe you should check yourself though. They might not just be attracted to you, not necessarily that they hate Igbo guys.
What makes you think Yoruba guys hate Igbo guys? SMH. This is really funny though.

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Romance / Re: Edo Meets Yoruba: Traditional & White Wedding Photos by Simplybami(f): 5:53pm On May 13, 2018
princfred:
Most Yoruba woman, like their men, have natural loathing and even some inherent hate which manifests as unnecesary antagonism towards igbo men. But Yoruba men love to marry igbo women especially the fair ones and the average igbo women dont naturally loath Yoruba men. Ofcourse there are exemptions to every rule so do give it a try if she is your spec.

Where did you get this absurd notion from? How many Yoruba girls have you dated to know for a fact that they loathe Igbo guys? This is really preposterous. For the fact that the few Yoruba girls you've approached turned you down, doesn't mean they automatically hate Igbo guys. Stop making it sound like Yoruba girls are tribalistic. Maybe you should check yourself though. They might not just be attracted to you, not necessarily that they hate Igbo guys.
What makes you think Yoruba guys hate Igbo guys? SMH. This is really funny though.

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Culture / Re: Can Somebody Translate These Sentences For Me? From Yoruba/pidgin To Amrrocan En by Simplybami(f): 9:35pm On May 10, 2018
AgentOfDarkness:
[s][/s]


Stop using google translator


You're totally wrong!

He's correct.
Celebrities / Re: Nina Apologizes To Bobrisky: "I Hate To Have Enemies" by Simplybami(f): 1:10pm On May 10, 2018
Ishilove:
Lets not deceive ourselves. We all know Nina didn't write this.

Lol. We know.
Celebrities / Re: Nina Apologizes To Bobrisky: "I Hate To Have Enemies" by Simplybami(f): 1:09pm On May 10, 2018
Earthbound:
Nina. Did. Not. Write. This.


Fact.
Lol. If you know, you know!!!
Celebrities / Re: Nina Apologizes To Bobrisky: "I Hate To Have Enemies" by Simplybami(f): 1:09pm On May 10, 2018
Earthbound:
Nina. Did. Not. Write. This.


Fact.
Lol. If you know, you know!!!
Celebrities / Assurance Seems To Be The New Cool: A Case Study Of Davido And Chioma by Simplybami(f): 10:37am On May 10, 2018
The internet went agog last week when the crooner Davido bought a supposedly "45 million naira" suv for one of the ladies in his life. Of course, there were reactions everywhere, with different comments trailing the love birds. He even wrote a song for her, which was released on her birthday. Wait a minute, maybe not all Nigerian men are really a lost cause; maybe some can be actually romantic, depending on the situation.(winks). The hash tag "Assurance" was everywhere, and almost every Nigerian lady wished unabashedly to live that kind of life.

Under twenty four hours, beautiful ladies and the not so pretty ones changed their bio. The first noticeable thing was their culinary skill gesticulating with every pun intended. One bio reads like: i'm a fantastic cook, a fashionista, a helpless and hopeless romantic who knows how to respect a man.(very shallow right? ) Of course, she didn't change her bio to depict this description of hers in order to get her hustling boyfriend to "commit" (whatever that means) but instead to attract a wealthy guy like the crooner who released a song and got a porsche either brand new or fairly used just to celebrate the love of his life.

I know of the adage that says " The way through a man's heart is through his stomach" isn't this a fallacy? I know of few badass cooks whose marriages crashed because their husbands left them for those sophisticated ladies who hates going to the kitchen in order not to get their artificial nails ruined. Is it not laughable that a man could actually leave his wife who prepares great meals for another who can't stand the heat in the kitchen? Now tell me really, can good food really keep a man? I was astonished, when an acquaintance told me recently that cooking is actually an achievement a woman should proud of. I guess it automatically translates into the fact that; having a culinary skill as a woman will make a marriage last longer or perhaps make her man respect her better.

Now, this brings me to the assertion that has been peddling all over the blog sphere; that the hip hop artiste is head over heels in love with this lady because of her great cooking skill. But I'm actually surprised that no one is talking about the fact that he has been dating this lady for the past five years. Five years of constantly cheating on her with other women, and even fathering babies with them and flaunting those baby mamas all over. How come no one sees this forced public display of affection as an atonement for the pop star's philandering ways? How come everyone suddenly sees this as the prototype for an ideal relationship?

I am angry that some ladies actually consider this type of relationship as a goal everyone should strive to have. How can you allow anyone to walk over your self esteem like that and at the end play it cool because of the attention he suddenly started showering on you? I really do not understand the rationale behind this. Maybe it's because I can't stand a cheating partner in anyway, or because of the way I was raised to always keep my self esteem intact and to never let let my happiness depend on anybody. I know of the endorsement deal she recently bagged and I am not in anyway envious of her achievement if I can call it one. I am just surprised at how fickle minded most of our youths are,thinking money actually makes the world go around. I really do not think any self respecting adult would love to be treated like this. Maybe I should just speak for myself.

What happens at night when she strips off the masquerade? Does she loathe herself for being so easy to buy over, or sees this sudden attention as a breakthrough? The younger generation are observing keenly, and I am afraid of the type of youths we would have by the time they are all grown. Just to serve as a reminder, the crooner didn't fall irrepressibly in love with the damsel because of her culinary skill, but because oh well!because of the obvious. I find it amusing that some ladies are actually aspiring to be the next best Chioma! Whatever happened to actually working hard to be able to afford the good things of life, instead of waiting for a man to provide all? The only assurance anyone can have is to have a stable source of income and to never depend on anyone for their happiness.

This is entirely my observation;if you have a contrary opinion to this, make it known in the comment section.

www.simplybami..com

Cc; Lalasticlala
Crime / Re: 8-Year-Old Boy Commits Suicide In Abuja After Losing A Game To His Brothers by Simplybami(f): 8:48pm On May 07, 2018
ShyCypher:
Thank goodness he wasn't allowed to grow up & reproduce.

Harsh as this sounds, we should all be thankful that his genes did not pass onto & pollute the next generation. He's not the only 8-year old in Nigeria or the world to lose in a video game - we all did. Why haven't the remainin' 8 year old video game losers committed suicide? Because they are psychologically stronger than that - they are intelligent enough to differentiate between reality and fantasy. This one has a problem distinguishin' and paid for it with his life.

Somehow, Mother Nature always finds a way to clean the genepool and preserve mankind.

Phew! We dodged a bullet there...

How insensitive can you be? This is a little boy for God's sake! If you know you don't have anything sensible to say; why not shut up instead of spewing rubbish? It is really disturbing.
Politics / Re: Buhari: I Read It In Newspapers That Boko Haram Still Controls Some Territories by Simplybami(f): 9:59pm On May 02, 2018
[quote author=Okoyiboz3 post=67224656]

May God run your life and those of your generations the same way Buhari has run

So be it!!! Excluding his generations though.
Family / Does Autism Spectrum Disorder Have A Spiritual Undertone by Simplybami(f): 11:18pm On Apr 29, 2018
Christianity was introduced to Africa several ages ago. It brought about immense development and a somewhat
conscious reawakening which actually questioned our beliefs as Africans in deities. It is a known fact that we believed
(some still do) in our gods (deities) who served(s) as mediators between human beings and the supreme being. In
Yoruba land, Olodumare is being referred to as the supreme being. But he can not act alone, so he has several deities
who automatically carry out their specific duties to mankind. These deities include: Obatala, Orunmila, Osun, Sango,
Ogun, Esu, Oya, Yemoja etc. The white men (missionaries) came with a perfectly packaged religion which signified
hope and a somewhat salvation to the one and only true God. The African Traditional Religion was treated as something
unclean which should be done away with quickly, and also for every African to embrace the one true religion which is
Christianity.

Of course, with the emergence of this religion; some bizarre traditions being practiced in Africa as at then gradually
reduced. Indeed, the advantages far outweighs the disadvantages. So it is safe to say, that the introduction of
Christianity is one of the best things that has ever happened to any race. Although, not too many people know that it
was also used as a tool of exploitation, but that is a topic for another day. As Christians, we are taught that with faith,
nothing is impossible. In fact, there is a particular portion in the bible(Matthew 17:20) which states that".............. truly
I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, move from here to there, and it
will move........." But it is very surprising that this portion has been abused for so long because of how it has been
interpreted.

Dear Africans, God is not a magician please. Stop mocking God at the expense of praying to him.
Sometime last year, I came across an autistic child. He had the perfect growth of a normal child of seven years old. But
there was something definitely unusual about him. He was restless, throwing tantrums, uncommunicative, avoided eye
contact and super repetitive. It didn't take me so long to figure out that he was actually autistic. But what struck me
the most was the revelation I heard from the child's mother. She was discussing with her friend concerning her child's
condition and how she would do anything to make him whole again. I could hear the desperation in her voice, and in
that moment my heart went out to her;because having an autistic child is not an easy job at all.

According to her, he wasn't born that way, but he began to be more self absorbed when he clocked four. She told her
friend that it wasn't ordinary,and she knows deep down that it has a spiritual undertone, and she strongly suspects her
step-mother. She asked her friend for a powerful man of God who could heal her son completely, because she had
spent so much money seeking help from so many self acclaimed "Men Of God". Her friend promptly suggested her
pastor who was very powerful and could make it all go away. At this juncture, I got furious.

'What exactly has the pastor got to do with this? Has she even tried to get a speech therapist for her son to make him
more communicative instead of getting swindled by different pastors? Doesn't she know that ASD has no known cure but
can be managed with the right therapist? These were the questions I asked myself. I decided to butt into their
conversation and damn the consequences(I had my headphone plugged in the whole time, which gave them the
impression that I wasn't listening to their conversation) But they left that same moment I was ready to bare my heart to
them. They had finished their transaction and had to leave.

It is very shocking to know that, almost everything is always attributed to the spiritual realm in African. We so much
hold on to archaic superstitions that nothing can ever happen to us without attributing it to the spiritual realm. Don't get
me wrong, I know for a fact that God is the supreme being, and I strongly believe in him. But I think there are
somethings we should be able to figure out for ourselves instead of expecting God to perform a miracle. This is the
same reason I always keep mute in church whenever we are asked to pray for our country. I mean, God didn't put us in
this mess right? Our bad leaders did. So why exactly are we disturbing that sweet man up there?

What Exactly Is Autism?

Autism is a complex neurobehavioral condition that includes impairments in social interaction and developmental
language and communication skills combined with rigid, repetitive behaviors.
Because of the range of symptoms, this condition is now called autism spectrum disorder (ASD). It covers a large
spectrum of symptoms, skills, and levels of impairment. ASD ranges in severity from a handicap that somewhat limits
an otherwise normal life to a devastating disability that may require institutional care.Children with autism have trouble
communicating. They have trouble understanding what other people think and feel. This makes it very hard for them to
express themselves either with words or through gestures, facial expressions,and touch.A child with ASD who is very
sensitive may be greatly troubled -- sometimes even pained -- by sounds, touches, smells or sights that seem normal to
others.(WEBMD)

Autism could either be manifested if it runs in the family,if a pregnant woman takes a drug which is not safe for the
baby during pregnancy, or when a baby is being injected with an overdose of the recommended vaccine immunization
(though this has not been proven). Scientists have not been able to ascertain the real cause of autism. It can be a very
trying and tiring period when a child is being diagnosed of ASD, because there is no known cure for it. However, it can
be managed. It is pertinent to understand the fact that these lovely children are special need kids who need utmost
attention and care.

They didn't create themselves that way. In fact, most of them are usually perfect in their first few
years on earth before regressing. So, no form of aggression or frustration should be channelled towards them. Though, it
is not always easy, because it can get really disturbing when they are always unresponsive. But, that is their nature.
The one and only reliable alternative to manage this condition is to contract the help of a therapist who specialises in
this area. They need all the love and support they can get to communicate better. They have to be treated with
patience and deep understanding. They can't adapt well in regular schools, so; it is always advisable to enrol them in a
school that caters for special need children. Faith and work operates hand in hand, it is okay to pray for them, but it
should also be backed up with the steps listed above. Unlocked by Karen Kingsburry is a must read for every parent
with an autistic child. Autistic kids are not useless, they are actually very talented; but need the right and trusted hands
to explore this talent in them.

Below are the list of some centres that cater for special need kids:

1. The Zamarr Institute

LEA Nursery & Primary School, Patrick O. Bokkor Crescent, Off Ebitu Ukiwe Street, Jabi,Abuja
Email: zamarrinstitute@gmail.com/info@thezamarrinstitute.org

2. Centre for Autism and Developmental Disabilities (CADD Nigeria)
1 Chika Omo Street, Off Nnebisi Road, Asaba, Delta State

3. Modupe Cole Memorial Childcare and Treatment Home
1, St.Finbarr College Road, Akoka
Telephone number (08074571573)

4. Benola
Suite 19/20 praise plaza, Ajah/Ado road, Lekki, Lagos, Nigeria.
Telephone number (+234-012954355)

5. C.A.D.E.T. Academy
Block LG, 13, Uruguay street, Maitama, Abuja, Nigeria.
6 Patrick Speech And Languages Centre

131, Fan Kayode street, GRAHAM, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria.
Telephone number (07055028215,08033019865)

7. Centre For Children With Special Needs
4, Lake Chad Crescent, Off IBB Way, Maitama District, Abuja FCT Nigeria.
Telephone number (09020454575,08069738449)

Do you know of any autistic child around you? How do you treat them? Do you look down on them, writing them off with
the mentality that nothing good can ever come out of them? Do you really believe that Autism Spectrum Disorder have a
spiritual undertone? Share your thoughts with me in the comment section.

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Celebrities / Re: Charly Boy Calls For Ban Of BBNaija Show, Gives Reasons by Simplybami(f): 1:34pm On Apr 23, 2018
HsLBroker:
#ISTANDWITHCHARLEYBOYONTHIS


He has no moral justification to condemn bbnaija.

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TV/Movies / Re: BBNaija 2018 Finale Voting Result As Miracle Wins by Simplybami(f): 9:44pm On Apr 22, 2018
Onyinye15:
Miracle all the way................

But people dey mad for this country sha

See Ceece vote huh cry
As in, the thing weak me my sister. I'm not sure those people are sane, i'm serious.
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Pappyto:
Kini Simi woyi nitori Olorun?
As in, the thing weak me. Lol.

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