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Romance / Taking Responsibility For Your Actions by Simplybami(f): 8:49pm On Jan 31, 2018 |
Blame,that sanctuary everyone is always quick to run to when the going gets tough. The already made excuses we are always quick to offer when everything comes crashing down. The same thing our politicians use whey they fail to meet up to their expectations, the same weapon a husband uses when he is caught cheating, that same tool a student uses when caught in an act of examination malpractice and once again, the same weapon a woman uses to sell her body for money because of the hardship in the land. The recipient of this blame is always the devil. Yeah, the same one that was banished from heaven. Indeed, this guy is really mischievous and brutal owing to the stories we've all heard about him. But please, this poor guy should be given a break. As an adult, there are some things that are expected of you. There are things you should know and when you fall short of this, never heap the blame on someone else, instead, take the responsibility for your actions. Don't tell that lady she trapped you with pregnancy just because she very much wanted to get married to you. You're as guilty as she is. It takes two to tango, she didn't sleep with herself to conceive. You didn't think it was necessary to strap up when getting intimate with her, to protect youself from being an unprepared father, and most importantly preventing yourself from contracting those deadly diseases out there. You decided to take all chances, and now you suddenly think the lady is a witch that has been sent from your village people to disrupt your life plan? No, you alone are responsible for your misfortune. For the lady, you have a duty to protect yourself. Yeah sex is great and all but remember a man and a woman is different biologically, and you will be the recipient of the end result of your risky escapades. It is not a crime for a woman to embrace her sexuality, in fact,it is a good thing when a woman acknowledges the fact that she do have sexual urges like her male counterparts. But that doesn't mean you always have to act on it, that is what makes us better than animals, because we as Humans have a better sense of reasoning and judgement. But what I find disturbing is the usual line some women are always quick to use when a sexual relationship doesn't work out. It is usually' he used and dump me' how exacly did that happen? You knew what you were signing up for, not so?and God forbid, if they should eventually get pregnant it is usually the ' he got me pregnant' line as if she wasn't aware of getting intimate with the guy in the first place. Think twice before you murder (abort) that innocent soul, if you're old enough to have sex, you should be ready to stand by its consequences. The only exception in this case is when a woman is being raped or if the woman's life is in danger and the baby really has to be terminated to save her life. The importance of taking responsibility for your actions cannot be overemphasised. If anything, it actually makes you a better person. No matter what life throws at you, you will be ready to embrace it. Every human is responsible for his or her misfortune, whatever action you carry out; which could either make or Mar, just know you're the architect of what ever outcome eventually comes out of it. Don't tell me the recession in the land made you become an Internet fraudster. One thing I find annoying about these guys is the number of hours they spend in chatting with their clients. That same time that could have been used for something productive, like reading to have a sound and better mind,sharpening their computer design skills which could fetch them some bucks to keep body and soul together and list goes on, is usually used for counter productive acts. I always cringe at their ostentatious lifestyle, it never ceases to beat my imagination how porous and shallow minded they can be. Stop using the bad governance in Nigeria as an excuse, our leaders have failed up woefully, they are all greedy louts who are only concerned about their pockets. But that still doesn't justify your heinous act. You don't have to swindle innocent people of their money because you very much want to buy a 'big suv' to impress the shallow minded girls. Yes, it is only a shallow minded girl like yourself,who has no substance, morals and most especially has nothing to offer that will be swayed by your outrageous lifestyle.They glady sell their bodies to you, and you in turn shower them with your ill gotten money. Yes! the land is bad, but people are still surviving. I've good guys around me who would rather work hard to make ends meet than to engage in what you call 'the easy way out'. They do not have two heads, they also live in Nigeria. So what exactly is your excuse? You really think it's cool swindling people right? Well good news, karma is just right around the corner. And when it finally comes knocking, please be ready to hold up to it and embrace it warmly. Accepting responsibility increases your personal growth and level of maturity. No human is infallible, we all make mistakes. No one was born perfect. Our imperfections keep us alive, motivating us to push farther and farther. So next time you want to blame the devil, or your sweet,wrinkled, old grandmother in the village or any other person at all; just know you are the architect of your being. Your future will always serve as a constant reminder and reflection of your 'today', so therefore, make today count. www.simplybami..com Cc; Lalasticlala 1 Like |
TV/Movies / Re: Khloe KokobyKhloe Goes Braless On BBNaija 3 by Simplybami(f): 10:23am On Jan 30, 2018 |
LadyGoddiva: God bless you dear. I hate wearing bras at home too. What's the fuss about? Smh. |
TV/Movies / Re: Khloe KokobyKhloe Goes Braless On BBNaija 3 by Simplybami(f): 10:22am On Jan 30, 2018 |
LadyGoddiva: God bless you dear. I hate wearing bras at home too. What's the fuss for? Smh. |
Culture / Re: I'M Desperate, Please Help Me With The Meaning Of This by Simplybami(f): 12:01am On Jan 29, 2018 |
ikeepitreal:Awwwwn, ndo you hear. Lol. |
Crime / Re: Yahoo Boy Fights Friends Who Abandoned Him After Going Broke by Simplybami(f): 11:39pm On Jan 28, 2018 |
DivinelyBlessed:Nna eh, yahoo no be work! 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Kaha, Singer: I Met My Wife On Facebook After She Responded To My DM (Photo) by Simplybami(f): 1:26pm On Jan 25, 2018 |
yanabasee: Wow! Smh. |
Health / Re: My Lassa Fever Story By Doctor Chibuike Joseph Chukwudum by Simplybami(f): 11:37pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
sholay2011: Lol. 'shook' indeed! 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Lagos Man Searches For A Light-Skinned Lady He Met In A Bus Yesterday by Simplybami(f): 4:13pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
Brooke60: Don't mind her. Even if the guy doesn't have a car yet,is that really a yardstick to judge his personality? So far a guy is SMART,has a great personality, and has potentials,never let him go. Maybe she wants him to steal or start 'Yahoo' to buy a big 'SUV' to impress her friends that she has arrived. Smh. It's simply misplaced priority. 1 Like |
Religion / Re: My Experience With A Babalawo From Nairaland by Simplybami(f): 6:46pm On Jan 21, 2018 |
Nostradamus: I don't think so. Well,let's keep our fingers crossed. |
Romance / Re: Things Guys Say When They Want To Get Down With A Babe: See Hilarious Comments by Simplybami(f): 7:57pm On Jan 11, 2018 |
bodyonchecheche: Or send me a picture of you in bed. #pervert .I don't waste time in telling them their lives history though. |
Politics / Re: Ekiti 2018: Fayemi's Posters Flood Ekiti Streets by Simplybami(f): 7:35pm On Jan 11, 2018 |
This man is so shameless. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Benue Killings: I Warned Ortom, He Did Not Listen Says... Plateau Governor by Simplybami(f): 7:23pm On Jan 11, 2018 |
Agbaletu: A very useless one, God I'm so angry! 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Benue Killings: I Warned Ortom, He Did Not Listen Says... Plateau Governor by Simplybami(f): 7:19pm On Jan 11, 2018 |
How insensitive can one be? Is he now mocking Ortom? There is absolutely no justification for what is happening right now. God, I weep for my country. 4 Likes |
Culture / Re: Why Do All Blacks Have This Inferiority Complex In Them On The White Men by Simplybami(f): 1:02am On Jan 10, 2018 |
gregyboy: The word 'Half-caste' is derogatory. Next time use 'Biracial' instead. |
Events / Re: Nigerian Man Marries His German Girlfriend In Anambra (Photos) by Simplybami(f): 10:38pm On Jan 09, 2018 |
biacan: Why not propose to him since you're ready? 1 Like |
Webmasters / Re: Why Blogging In Nigeria Is Boring by Simplybami(f): 12:41pm On Jan 09, 2018 |
You're right OP. Check out www.simplybami..com |
Celebrities / Re: Harysongs Buys A N95million Bulletproof Mercedes Benz (Photos) by Simplybami(f): 10:01am On Jan 08, 2018 |
MhizzAJ:Exactly! that vehicle is way too expensive. |
Romance / Re: Its Impossible For A Guy To Have Beards And Still Remain Ugly ( See Pix) by Simplybami(f): 9:47pm On Jan 07, 2018 |
Proudlyblack: You're not alone. I find it very repulsive. |
Family / Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Simplybami(f): 9:38am On Jan 05, 2018 |
CaptainG00D:Bride price should be abolished.https://lm.?u=http://simplybami..co.ke/2017/12/bride-price-in-africanthe-old-norm-and.html?m=1&h=ATP4Bs7EvyDldfUow0EGfeBGUGOJ-h-mRyJ1maiCSGIg1saY6kQMzykEVV2DyygJQ5uYG3VmvAsY8Uf5Tluqfh-6KMThmkvykxRRZnK_D2ipzpqUjzMTe2gQanMMZQR5qv0r9-gKZc4C3h7IPE9h&enc=AZMDj_KKlPqhDmKfUbq2AnwHMTYyxyd8KjBYQWg68qCPTDig4lvC9Mqql5RSP2F2jF41-clEpSodXdyGL-e69_qVrV-OPWJemThWUcP-K_wal6rxNJCSsGfVSnq8TF965zrHV5b0ZhxvzUfSZm9oh75YkCr5UombgUdKDRMRofJ4C5Zl4wbTDtxt2EAopSvRKjO4aRrxEDOXy1i-qdq6ISreriYCkr_ESQ9MyKAi9MgAxmApDqPAaFcBpTKJPJ6OhuDw3al5kTooZJ3Nog01iKab_inTEQJE47wYggmmsoG_S7eJmgCqpp-BC91mGGVHMYcLqrmbj-zlkEIy3YfnpWRc&s=1 |
Events / Re: White Wedding Of The Akwa Ibom Physically Challenged Lady (Photos) by Simplybami(f): 8:34pm On Dec 30, 2017 |
Mynky:Love is such a beautiful thing. |
Romance / Re: Twitter War Between Igbo And Yoruba Over Who Has The Most Beautiful Women (pics) by Simplybami(f): 5:58pm On Dec 30, 2017 |
hammerF6: What sort of madness is this?please,you will become someone's ancestor in future;so start acting like a well raised Adult! 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Toolz Criticizes Davido's 30 Billion Concert by Simplybami(f): 9:05am On Dec 28, 2017 |
ajasa4link: He really needs to learn from Falz. 1 Like |
Family / Bride Price In Africa:the Old Norm And The Demand For A New Approach by Simplybami(f): 6:53pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
The agitation for gender equality has been around for quite a while now ,which is an emancipation from that stifling box women have been placed in; hence, making them enjoy the same benefits and opportunities the opposite sex enjoys without any form of restrictions. This is a welcomed development, which has had a tremendous effect over the past years. According to Wikipaedia, the Feminism movement/history(it is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a commom goal:to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, person, and social equality of the sexes)started in the 19th/20th century.It is divided into three waves, each with slightly different aims based on prior progress. First-wave Feminism of the 19th and early 20th centuries focuses on overturning legal inequalities, paying emphasis on women's suffrage (the right to vote). The second wave Feminism (1960s-1980s) broadened debate to include cultural inequalities, gender norms and the role of women in the society. The third-wave Feminism(1990s-2000s) refers to diverse strains of feminist activity, seen as a continuation of the second wave. It is important to note that, when Feminism was introduced to Africa, it was seen as an abomination,because it was not in our culture for a man and a women to be treated in equal proportion. Hence, the resistance initially. But now, we are gradually acclimatising into it though slowly, and we will definitely get there some day. The issue of Bride price has become a controversial issue in the present day African society. Some see it as an archaic culture that should be abolished, while others see it as an essential part of the African culture that should never be cut of. It is the believe of the latter that for a man to show his love and worth to the family of the bride and also as a form of respect to the bride in question, he has to pay a certain amount of money which is always very low. But the marriage list that comes with it is usually very expensive to fulfil. For example, in Ondo state;the bride price is a paltry sum of five thousand naira which is always returned to the father of the groom. But the wedding list (Eru Iyawo)which includes:forty-two tubers of yam, a bag of rice, twenty-five litres of palm oil and vegetable oil,crates of soft drinks, crates of malt drinks, two big baskets of different types of fruit,a big suitcase containing clothes, shoes and hand bags for the bride and list goes on; can be very expensive and demanding which must be fulfilled, even to the smallest thing on the wedding list. The groom has to provide everything on the wedding list, because without it; the bride price isn't valid and the bride won't be handed to the groom. So how exactly can gender equality be achieved with the inclusion of bride price? Is the female gender a commodity that should be purchased by the highest bidder? In our society, if a man doesn't fulfil the wedding list of his bride, he can never be regarded as a real man. As a result of this, some men do resort to borrowing money from friends, taking loans from banks and at times; even stealing just to fulfil all righteousness. So after going through all that stress just to get married to the woman he is in love with, you really expect that type of man to see his wife as an equal? NO, he will continue to see her as a commodity he had spent his life savings on to purchase. This archaic practice is usually backed up with the African culture card. Culture is the ideas, customs, and social behaviour of a particular people or society. People make culture. The rules and regulations we have all over the world were all made by humans so many years ago, not spirits. In the 19th century, it was the culture of the Efik and Ibibio:a particular ethnic group in Nigeria to kill twins. But it was later abolished because of the intervention of the late Mary Mitchell Slessor who fought tooth and nail to ensure that the barbaric tradition was put to an end. Of course, so many people were against the abolishment initially because they were sacred of upsetting the gods of the land. But, it was eventually abolished, and the ethnic groups involved are still flourishing till date. So, can this tradition be cut off? Yes, but it can only happen when the African society start seeing the female genders as full human beings whom they do not have to transfer to a new owner/master as a mere commodity. So many men in Africa believe that, bride price automatically means ownership. It is important for every African parent to know that once they accept the bride price of their daughters, they are automatically selling them off; stripping them of their rights, dignity and honour. Some men maltreat their wives because of the huge amount of money they've spent in "acquiring" them. They see them as lesser beings . But love is a beautiful feeling which should never be quantified by monetary standard .It is not important for a man to pay a certain amount of money or fulfilling an outrageous wedding list in order to prove his worth and love for his bride. An incident occurred on Christmas day in my street; where a man kept beating his wife for a flimsy excuse of not answering him immediately he called her. The surprising thing however was the statement he kept repeating:"I've paid your bride price, you're living under my roof and you should accord me with respect because I'm your Lord"! People had to intervene to get the woman from his grip after designing her face and body with different patterns. This is just a typical example of how some men treat their wives. The man in question spent a staggering two million naira on the bride price of his wife. The man obviously sees and treats his wife like an object, this mentality is really demeaning. There are so many hustling guys out there who would really love to settle down, but they are being discouraged due to the high amount of money they'd have to part with. Can we all have a sane society, where women aren't treated as second class citizen, devoid of any owner? It begins with you and I, by educating people about the outcome of this archaic culture,which should be cut off completely. I honestly crave this type of society, because there will be happier men and women without any form of expectations.For gender equality to be achieved in the African society, the issue of bride price must be abolished totally; giving women a sense of freedom and right without any restrictions. www.simplybami..com |
Travel / Re: Bus Crushes Girl's Leg In Enugu Accident (Graphic Photos) by Simplybami(f): 9:19pm On Dec 26, 2017 |
Martin0: What's so funny about this,are you an idiot? 1 Like |
Music/Radio / Re: Melanin: Controversial Clarence-shot Video Banned In Kenya by Simplybami(f): 3:18pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
Sanchez01: Nice one! |
Fashion / Re: Peace Mildred Ehiguese Wins Miss Nigeria 2017 (Photos) by Simplybami(f): 10:38am On Dec 22, 2017 |
Gkemz:Her skin tone is everything. |
Crime / Re: Man Narrowly Escapes Rape By Gay At A Private Party & The Comments Are Hilarious by Simplybami(f): 11:28pm On Dec 18, 2017 |
mazimee: God bless you. |
Romance / Re: Who Is A Wife Material? by Simplybami(f): 8:34am On Dec 16, 2017 |
harrwix:Thank you. Do you have a problem with Feminism? Because that's what this is all about. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Who Is A Wife Material? by Simplybami(f): 8:31am On Dec 16, 2017 |
ubergold: What exactly is your definition of submission? I find that word very stifling and unsettling. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Who Is A Wife Material? by Simplybami(f): 8:28am On Dec 16, 2017 |
donsimo: Wow!your level of reasoning is so shocking. |
Romance / Re: Who Is A Wife Material? by Simplybami(f): 8:26am On Dec 16, 2017 |
Wow! Your level of reasoning is so shocking. 1 Like 1 Share |
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