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ToroJah:
Greetings to y'all family section members and a special thanks to all my followers cos I know you did follow me so you'll be updated with my sad story. Now here it is.

I'm from a broken home, my dad left us when I was a yr old. From what I gathered things got tough and he couldn't man up to face the hard times so he abandoned us to God knows where due to pride cos have found out he's a very proud man.

My mum that he forced to become a full time housewife decided to pick take up teaching job to cater to our needs, my mum was very mean during our growing up days(don't know if it was due to anger from my dad abandoning us for her), now my dad is back claiming he's sorry for leaving us but from the look of things he's in dire need of help (him and his other family are living in poverty) so I personally I'm paying deaf ear to his cries.

Now my predicament is this. Since after graduation have had two serious affairs that should have led to marriage I was even engaged in one but the men I meet and mostly their families often frown at a girl from a separated home irrespective of her good character reason being that she'll always toe the path of her parent and this has made me hate the family I was born into, sometimes I feel like taking my own life.

So dear Family have made up my mind to deny my dad cos he's the one that put me in this mess I will tell the next man in my life that he's dead cos to me he's good as dead, his presence in my life is causing me tears daily.

To y'all please all I need is an advice!!! To those that do jump on post before putting your leg in one's shoe feel free to bash me.

Lastly, advice to those searching, study your partner before saying "I do" don't depend on arranged marriage cos my parent own was a product of such that's why it was difficult for them to accommodate and understand each others flaws thereby leading to my dad abandoning us.

Love is not always enough so marry your friend so you too can still be together even when hard times set in.

Thanks in anticipation for reading!

BY OLAKUNLE OLAFIOYE

Just like in his previous outings, the ghost of Decree 4 of 1984 is haunting General Muhammadu Buhari(rtd), presidential candi­date of the All Progressives Congress (APC), as he once again takes another shot at the presidency. The infamous decree which made the duo of Tunde Thompson and Nduka Irabor of The Guardian newspaper the first victims of military law, has in recent weeks gained cur­rency with political rivals using it as a weapon against the former military head of state.

But Tunde Thompson believes Buhari’s op­ponents are deliberately confusing and mislead­ing Nigerians . In this interview, he lays bare the issues surrounding their detention as well as unmasked those behind their ordeal. Excerpts:

Are you saying if there was any hurt he’s been forgiven?

Left to me, the hurt was inadvertent; it was aimed at protecting the government. I know it was not for journalists alone, there were other professional groups other than journalists that the decree was targeted at. I am very happy that we faced the bullet and the bullet was deadened at our end. The press and the government are rivals in the search for in­formation. They are also rivals in secrecy matters. The government wants to keep its secrets secret and we want to make the secrets open because we want to inform our audience. That’s why we always quarrel and that’s why I believe the govern­ment and the media need more fora to understand themselves. There are hostilities because we don’t understand ourselves.

Are you saying you wish General Buhari well as he aspires to rule Nigeria?

Yes, as far I am concerned now and considering the fact that there is an order that the Minister of Petroleum should not appear before the National Assembly to defend her conduct and considering the fact that the Naira had been further devalued. Now listen, in Ghana the Cedi we used to mock, the Rupee we used mock and the Yen. The Naira is just not there again. We say revalue the Naira but they said they cannot because we only have one commodity. The government has been saying a lot about agriculture. Cocoa provided the mainstay of the defunct western region under Chief Obafemi Awolowo. Groundnuts provided the mainstay of the defunct northern economy under Sir Ahmadu Bello. Have our farmlands suddenly become infer­tile? We have solid minerals; we have gold in Ilesa. What I am trying to say is that if we look critically, we have other commodities and if they are har­nessed we will be able to say we have more than oil. I appreciate what the Minister of Agriculture, Akinwunmi Adesina is doing now. Rice is be­ing produced on massive scale but the problem is mechanization. They are trying to see if we can grow wheat here. I believe enough efforts have not been made to find alternative income-generating activities.

Some even seem to be too powerful. They are sacred cows and they cannot be tamed. Is that not dangerous? I believe that a person like Buhari at this time can call anybody to order and some people are afraid of that.

The fear of a few people who have plundered the treasuries of this country should not be allowed to hinder our economic progress and political trans­formation. I think Buhari is humble. How many times did Abraham Lincoln run for presidency of United States? Was it not about 11 times? But Bu­hari is running for about three, four times and peo­ple are saying he is too old. He is not too old. Let them go to India, let them go to other places there are examples. I will not like people to use Decree 4 as an excuse to deny somebody, who can help bring discipline through democratic means, to Nigeria, another opportunity of getting to the position of president of this country. I think God is getting tired of the injustice in this country.

That is why some of us are seeing the reason to rally round the man and support him. The Sun is not a newspaper for any candidate, it is a national newspaper. I am very happy that you raised the is­sue about what my position is on somebody who put me in jail. I think 30 years is long enough, we should forgive and forget and let there be progress. Those who are ready to continue confusing issues out of their ignorance should be pushed aside and let us do what our conscience dictates. Except we want to suffer for another four or eight years, it will be costly to make a wrong decision again.

By DELE SOBOWALE
“Promises, like pie-crusts, are made to be broken.” Jonathan Swift, 16767-1745, (VANGUARD BOOK OF QUOTATIONS p 203).

For those Nigerians who have not abandoned the truth about this failed project called the Transformation Agenda, below is the catalogue of failed promises made by the Jonathan administration, on power generation, since 2011 till date. Power we know moves economies.

“F.G plans electricity load study”, PUNCH, August 11, 2011, p. 24.
The story reported the former Minister of Power, Professor Barth Nnaji to have said that “the government had the capacity to generate 6,000 megawatts, but was currently generating 3000MW. “Also the Federal Government has said it is determined to improve power supply by taking the increasing power generation from the current 3000MW to 7200MW by December this year [2011].In the same report by PUNCH, the Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Petroleum Resources, Mr Sheik Goni, …”added that eager to deal with the issue, the government had set a target of increasing power generation to 40,000MW by the year 2020.” Goni was not through with promises on behalf of the government. He also said: “plans have been put in place to raise this capacity to 7220MW by the end of 2011 and 14,018MW by the last quarter of 2013”. That was a year and one month ago.

“Power Ministry Targets 5,000MW by December”, THISDAY, August 14, 2011, p. 1.
This was reported as a telephone conversation with Professor Bart Nnaji, the same Minister who only three days before promised 6000MW while Goni vowed it would be 7200MW by the same December. Were the two working for the same government? “Jonathan: Uninterrupted power supply possible before 2015”. NATION, August 17, 2011 p. 11. According to the paper, “He [Jonathan] said yesterday that his administration remains committed to the attainment of uninterrupted power supply in the country before the end of his tenure in 2015”.That tenure expires on May 29, 2015; five months from now.

“Nigeria needs $100bn investment in power sector”, DAILY TRUST, p. 25.
Here again, it was Professor Nnaji, who disclosed this in a paper titled” “Nigeria: A Miracle Waiting To Happen”. According to him, “Nigeria needs $100 billion investment to achieve 40,000MW in the year 2020. That is six years from now.This was followed by “Show the light, and the people will find the way”, by Bart Nnaji. NATION, December 1, 2011, p. 22.
According to him, “The Road Map [launched by Jonathan] provides ways and means to make Nigeria achieve 40,000MW within one decade, so that our beloved nation could become one of the world’s 20 largest economies by 2020”. On December 31, 2011, neither the 7000MW nor the 5000MW milestone had been reached. Having failed woefully to deliver on the promises made for 2011, Jonathan and his team marched into 2012 to make more promises and to shift one goal post.“Nnaji’s curious games with power sector reforms”, was the title of a PUNCH Editorial, dated March 5, 2012, p. 18.
In the editorial, the paper reminded readers that the Road Map had assured Nigerians of the “targeted increase in actual generation capacity to 7000MW by December 2011. PUNCH however confirmed that even in March 2012, “all the entire nation has today (as generation capacity) is 4200MW”. Trust Professor Nnaji, the perfect Minister for a nation of scatter-brains, on June 12, 2012, in a report by PUNCH, there was a report titled, “Electricity generation to hit 5,500MW this year’. He announced the figure at a lecture at the Institute for Security Studies in Abuja.
Sounding triumphant instead of repentant, he told his audience that “there will be a remarkable improvement in power supply across the nation”. Deliberately, he made no mention of the promise of 7000MW by December 2011. Two months after Nnaji spoke, we read: “Power supply peaks at 4237MW” in NATION, August 8, 2012. According to the report, “the Minister broke the cheery news to the Ministry’s directors yesterday”.
No doubt he called the President first. A greater clown show could not have been imagined. A Minister promises 7000MW the previous December; and 5,500MW for 2012, he delivers 4237MW in August and receives a pat on the back. What then is our definition for failure?September 14, 2012 brought another “cheery” bit of news in the form of a report by PUNCH.
“Five power plants shut over technical hitches”, said the paper on page 21. Power supply dropped to 3938MW. October 11, 2012, President Jonathan in his 2013 Budget Speech announced as follows: “The Power Sector Reform [to reach 14000MW by December 2013] is on course. Of recent, our efforts have paid off..”. We were, then, only fourteen months from the promised 14,000MW and we could not hold power supply steady at 4000MW and yet the President of Nigeria said the programme “is on course”. Will somebody define flight from reality please?

November 3, 2012 brought another promise from the “Promise Mill”. It came from the Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Power – “Fed Govt Targets 5000mega watts by December” in the NATION, page 5. Notice another 500MW had been peeled off from what Nnaji announced in June and 2000MW from what was promised in 2011. Some will call that uncontrolled regression. But, more important, these people don’t know or care that we remember what they told us last week, month or year. They would like us to suffer from collective amnesia – simply because they do.
Then something curious occurred. The Guardian, on December 9, 2012, in a story which started on the front page, and continued to page two, wrote about General Electric, GE, the US-based global giant, signing a Memorandum of Understanding, MOU, to provide 10,000MW of incremental capacity – without fixing a date for the delivery.
But, one Mr Lazarus Angbazo, President/CEO of GE Nigeria, suddenly shifted the goal post for the delivery of the 40,000MW which President Jonathan had promised to achieve within a decade — a decade is ten years for those who might not know. In the Guardian report, “The GE President recalled that the power need of the country in the next 10 to 20 years, as articulated by the government is 40,000MW”. That is a lie. The Road Map said a decade, ten years – not ten to twenty years. On December 27, 2012, the NATION’s report, on page 11, was titled: “Nigeria’s power generation to exceed 7,000MW next year [2013]. Thus, 2012 ended on the same note as 2011 – broken promises. Neither the 5500MW nor 5000MW was delivered. We started 2013 with a promise of 7000MW by December of that year.

Forgive me for not taking you through the lengthy process of proving, once again, that 2013 followed the same pattern as those of 2011 and 2012 – promises were made to be broken. Still, it is necessary to substantiate the charge. For some inexplicable reason, these people cannot stop making promises which they cannot or would not be able to fulfill. The promises came fast and bigger in 2014. This time, it was the Minister of State for Power, Mrs Zainab Kuchi who got the ball rolling.

In a PUNCH, January 10, 2013 report, titled: “FG Targets 10,000MW of electricity by December”, she first of all admitted that the “peak quantity generated in December 2012 was 4,517MW”. The report also reminded us that Obasanjo/Imoke promised Nigerians 10,000MW by 2007 – and failed miserably. Indeed, Obasanjo established the dishonourable practice of promising the people, squandering their funds and at the end, have nothing to show. The figures which Mrs Kuchi used to support her promise were at best inadvertently misleading or at best deliberately fraudulent.
Yet she was talking to a committee of Nigerians presumed to have brains. She was not alone in foisting falsehood on the nation as promise. The Minister of State for Finance, Dr Yerima Ngama, in another report on January 29, 2013, announced that “FG targets 1,000MW from 10 new plants”. It was not to be. History will record that 2013 ended with the nation still being supplied less than 5000MW of power. So what happened in 2014? Professor Nebo, who had replaced Professor Nnaji, quickly got into the promise game. In July 2014, he promised Nigerians 6000MW of power supply by December 2014. In November he reduced the figure to the usual 5000MW.
In the end, on December 28, 2014, the NATION, on page 5, informed us that “Power supply rises to 3,666.76MW”. And what was Professor Nebo’s response to another failed promise? Of course, you know. He had just announced another 7,000MW target for next year. Yet, between Obasanjo, Yar’Adua and Jonathan, Nigeria had spent $156 billion; more than Britain spent to add 30,000MW. Where did the money go? Don’t most Nigerians care anymore?
Somebody somewhere once defined insanity as “doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result”. Is it not possible to also define insanity as employing the same set of people for sixteen years, failing each and every year and still wanting to continue with them? How on earth will Nigeria ever be great if we cannot add just 4000MW, to our power supply in sixteen years? In all these, somebody must have lost their marbles. The question is: who?

CNN: If you think you are tech savvy all because you know what "LOL" means, let me test your coolness.

Any idea what "IWSN" stands for in Internet slang?

It's a declarative statement: I want sex now.

If it makes you feel any better, I had no clue, and neither did a number of women I asked about it.

Acronyms are widely popular across the Internet, especially on social media and texting apps, because, in some cases, they offer a shorthand for communication that is meant to be instant.
Some acronyms can be a shorthand for sex, drugs and alcohol
Experts say parents should be aware of acronyms and talk to their children about them
Expert: "Asking kids not only gives you great information, but it shows that you're paying attention"

After you read this list, you'll likely start looking at your teen's texts in a whole new way.

1. IWSN - I want sex now

2. GNOC - Get naked on camera

3. NIFOC - Naked in front of computer

4. PIR - Parent in room

5 CU46 - See you for sex

6. 53X - Sex

7. 9 - Parent watching

8. 99 - Parent gone

9. 1174' - Party meeting place

10. THOT - That hoe over there

11. CID - Acid (the drug)

12. Broken - Hungover from alcohol

13. 420 - Marijuana

14. POS - Parent over shoulder

15. SUGARPIC - Suggestive or erotic photo

16. KOTL - Kiss on the lips

17. (L)MIRL - Let's meet in real life

18. PRON - Porn

19. TDTM - Talk dirty to me

20. 8 - MouthAction

21. CD9 - Parents around/Code 9

22. IPN - I'm posting naked

23. LH6 - Let's have sex

24. WTTP - Want to trade pictures?

25. DOC - Drug of choice

26. TWD - Texting while driving

27. GYPO - Get your pants off

28. KPC- Keeping parents clueless

For all the crave for a change at the National level, and a strong penchant for continuity at the state level...I was just wondering if Jagaban Tinubu or Fashola would sacrifice Lagos state to PDP for APC to rule at the national level.

Or put yourself in their shoes. Would you ever make that choice?

When the whistle was blown for the commencement of political activities in 1998, you pitched your tent with the All Peoples Party (APP). This was quite in the cards as majority of the friends and associates your illustrious father acquired towards the end of his life on earth were ultra-conservative northern elements in the Northern Peoples Convention (NPC).

The presidential candidate of the APP and the Alliance for Democracy (AD), Olu Falae, eventually lost to the candidate of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), Olusegun Obasanjo, in the 1999 election. Either by acts of omission or commission, it became your lot to constantly unleash scud missiles against Obasanjo on the pages of national newspapers. You accused him of committing all manner of unpardonable sins of governance. In fact, if it was strictly left to you, you’d have had him impeached several times over!

Not too long after, the wily retired general decided to pull a fast one on you by hiring you to be his hatchet man. And voila, the scales immediately fell off your eyes and it dawned on you that Obasanjo was actually “a very competent leader and national hero”! In his recent book, My Watch, Obasanjo describes a well-known activist (now a senator), who “wittingly or unwittingly began to do the bidding of the lurer” and in the process the erstwhile firebrand, now “called and coiled,” sacrificed not only the “fire” in him, but also the “brand.”

You had a penchant for accusing the Yar’Adua/Jonathan administration of messing up all the good work Obasanjo did. During this time, your new friends like Bola Ahmed Tinubu and Muhammadu Buhari were always right and correct, no matter what they did or didn’t do. Together with your former colleagues in the Obasanjo cabinet and fellow members of the opposition party, Nasir el-Rufai and Nuhu Ribadu, you gave the PDP and President Goodluck Jonathan no respite in your write-ups.

When the then national security adviser to the president, General Andrew Owoeye Azazi (rtd), broke protocols and shockingly told Nigerians to “blame the rise of Boko Haram attacks on the PDP (because) the problem could be traced to PDP’s politics of exclusion in the north,” you famously quipped in your newspaper article of 28 April, 2012 that, “Even the dullest among us will surely be able to appreciate the deep implications of this very serious allegation coming from the man that is charged to guide and advise the President on national security matters.”

Yet, as soon as you patched up your differences with the PDP and Aso Rock Villa, the scales again fell from your eyes and the same Femi Fani-Kayode who wrote these things is now busy pontificating about the APC and Buhari’s alleged support for Boko Haram! With the benefit of hindsight it’s crystal-clear that your comments in the New Telegraph of 14 December, 2014 are completely self-serving. It’d indeed be interesting to know what Obasanjo thought of you after you metamorphosed from his virulent critic to fawning bootlicker. Did he also consider you “called and coiled” and having irreversibly lost the Fani Power brand in you?

The way you’ve been carrying on with your “APC is a Muslim party, APC is a Muslim party” mantra, are you saying in effect that it has similarly dawned on you that your father and his boss, Samuel Ladoke Akintola, were wrong all along in their bid to forge a political partnership between the Yoruba political elite and intelligentsia with their ultra-conservative Muslim counterparts the north – ostensibly aimed at allowing the former play ‘mainstream politics’ – and that Awo was right in vehemently opposing the gambit? If your answer is in the affirmative then I demand a public apology from you for two important reasons.

First, what your father and SLA, among others, started ultimately fostered sadistic killings of millions of innocent Igbo men, women and children as well as the ‘abandoned property’ syndrome. Second, as the good Christian you profess yourself to be, you ought to know that God promised to visit the sins of the fathers up to their third and fourth generations. If your answer is negative, then please just stop the noise-making! An Igbo adage warns that a person who has skin rashes does not engage in a lengthy handshake.

It isn’t in my duty to respond to your recent hatchet job on Buhari that has gone viral on the social media. Suffice to say that it was wrongheaded for you to disrespectfully ask if Buhari regards “Christians as human beings.” Here’s a supposed fundamentalist Muslim who equally chose an irrepressible fundamentalist Christian in the person of Rev. Tunde Bakare of the Latter Rain Assembly as a running mate in the 2011 presidential election. If that doesn’t spell R-E-S-P-E-C-T for Christendom then I wonder what else does. “A fly, sir,” averred English essayist and poet Samuel Johnson, “may sting a stately horse and make him wince; but one is but an insect, and the other is a horse still.”

I totally disagree with you that “a Buhari Presidency will be a disaster for our country, a danger to the Christian community and clear evidence of the final victory and triumph of Boko Haram and jihadists over the Nigerian state. It would also represent the end of Nigeria as a nation.” If that happens, where would you run to – the Republic of Oduduwa? The sage almost everyone later described as “the best president Nigeria never had” was a victim of a similar orchestrated campaign of calumny but Nigerians are now wiser and would refuse to be swayed by scaremongering.

Rather than pointing fingers at perceived enemies and saboteurs, you should be helping the president’s campaign team determine how someone who procured a historic pan-Nigeria mandate in 2011 ended up three years later presiding over a nation that’s never been so divided along ethnic, religious, partisan and regional fissures. The same people who massively voted for him then have now morphed into promoters and supporters of Boko Haram! Our elders say that a man who sees everybody as the reason for his calamities will mistake a goat for a lion.

But the even bigger wonder is that the Presidency and Muslim leaders in the PDP have not thought it wise to call you to order for the potentially highly inflammable political fires you’re stoking with your flippant religious bigotry. Permit me to conclude by adding that you’re beginning to irritatingly sound like a broken record player with your constant flip-flops, arguably occasioned by ‘stomach infrastructure.’

My prayer is that since you’re still a young man with a very bright political future, you won’t allow yourself to be deceived into believing that you’re best-suited for hurling jaw-dropping abuses at political opponents. It is a trite saying that a girl who becomes over-conscious of her beauty will end up marrying her father’s servant!

Tiko Emmanuel Okoye

sweet2blv:
from the way the op ssounds, his mind is already made up but i will advice u to try listen to peoples advice. as for me, considering the location of your wife working place it is capital NO from me. you av same case wt my colq at work bt nw regretin dt mistake. the wife also works in ikeja while our own office is right somwhere around adeniyi jones. pls tink well abt ds

SleekyGee:
well in my own area in lagos we usually have light from 9pm-9am

it isn't fair oo

wazoboy:
I think OP suld just erase the thread and apologise to everybody! OP was bored and he typed all he typed in error

untainted:
Answer this question though I can bet my breakfast it is Arik.
Very frustrating experience with the frustrating operator.
It is their stock in trade.

phantom:
OP....dont you think this your post belongs in your diary