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so sorry about your mom


it is a tough decision to make especially giving the possible after-effect and strained relationship that would possibly occur between you people and your mothers family but it shouldn't matter because your mom has made her wishes known and it is one that must be respected. she is very aware that her family is back home and would like them to be a part of her burial but she choose to be buried near her children for a reason.

home is where the heart is and your mother has chosen to be interred where her heart is surrounded by her children.

sadly, aging is an inevitable part of life cycle. so it is quite normal to feel anxious about the ultimate changes that will occur. however, being old doesn't mean being senile/unproductive you can still do things for yourself, i know late 80/90s who still do some basic things for themselves.  i think the key is to do as much as you can now, so when old age comes there will little to no regrets and also being healthy/taking good care of yourself health wise and otherwise so when that time comes you can still do certain things for yourself.

we have no control over it, so the least we can do is to make good use of it

and what will you gain by disowning them?

remember one of your duties as a child of God and follower of Christ is to bring souls to him/spread his gospel to the ends of the earth and with him even the hardest of mind/soul will change.

sexsinners:
i would

AND THESE TOO:

*Have an open mind and embrace other human beings.
*Self-define your own existence and never leave it up to anyone else.
*Love yourself enough to never lower who you are as an individual.
*A man is not a plan.
*Surround yourself with positive people regardless of who and what they are and stay away from negative people because they will drain you emotionally.

*Never criticize or judge another woman/man based simply on her/his looks.
* Actions speak louder than words; judge people according to theirs.
*Never compare your life to others or wish you had there's.
*Think for yourself.
*Don't try to fit in to follow the crowd, be your own leader.
*Learn everyday as long as you live.
*You will fall, but it's what you do when you STAND-up that truly matters.
*Live life as if it was your last.
*Never worry about what other's think or say about you because life is too short to waste it on people who really don't matter. *There's freedom by living your life on your own terms.

*Looks will not determine your happiness. If you want happiness it's yours.
*Never gossip about others because those you gossip with will be gossiping about you.
*Get an education by any means necessary.
*Never compete with anyone but yourself.
*Take care of yourself first by making yourself a priority because you are number one.
*When and if you have children, respect them because they are people too.
*Respect yourself and respect others.
*Never believe that another human being is beneath you or above you because we all bleed and die the same ways.
*Sow good seeds so that you may reap the rewards. Because you reap what you sow.
*Be honest.


*Look people dead in the eyes when you talk to them.
*Be courageous, but carefully pick and choose your battles.
*Do not refer to other black people as N------ because it has the same connotations.
*Do not loan money that you can not afford to give and never borrow money that you can not afford to pay back.
*Live within your means even if you are well paid.
*Pay yourself first.
*Invest what you can afford to invest.
*Leave a legacy for your future generations.
*Seek entrepreneurship by providing a service that people can use.
*Think positive thoughts in order to live a positive life. So as a woman thinks so is she.
*You are not less than, so don't think it or act like it.


*See the world if you can, if not read all that you can.
*Find out what GOD means to you.
*Respect other peoples differences.
*Don't envy other's because it's not a good look.
* A woman is never vulgar or profane, only one who lacks confidence is.
*Give your time to help others because you also help yourself in the process.

i thought some of this were interesting

[size=14pt]18 Things I Want to Teach My Daughter About Being a Woman
- from essence[/size]



1. Pray. It sounds cliché, but having a relationship with God will keep you centered, humble and built to not fall apart every time a bad wind blows.

2. Cattiness is a stereotype. Women can compliment each other, genuinely admire one another, and never be in competition for a man, a job or anything else. Don’t believe the hype.

3. Never chase a guy. [/b]Anyone worth your time won’t make you come after him. If he runs, say bye-bye,  deuces.

4. [b]Respect your body. Don’t let yourself be reduced to boobs, butt and hips. They’re just accessories of your beauty, not the whole of your assets.

5. Act like a lady, get treated like a lady. Home training is getting to be more rare than real purses on Canal Street, but women who carry themselves with class get that treatment.

6. If he won’t wear a condom, bid him goodnight. Don’t even entertain somebody who would put their own health at risk, let alone yours.

7. Learn from other people’s mistakes. They happened before you for a reason. Take advantage of the opportunity to get a free life lesson without the headache of the drama.

8. Nude undergarments are your friend. Don’t be one of those chicks who slides white linen slacks over red panties and thinks it’s her style that’s stopping traffic.

9. Run far from a guy who doesn’t respect his mama. [/b]If he can’t treat the woman who brought him into the world like a queen, he probably isn’t going to do it for you, either.

10. [b]Don’t be afraid to be take risks, but take smart risks. Research, meditate and then be adventurous. A life full of regret isn’t a full life.

11. Don’t let your circumstances drain your ambition. Things are, at some point, going to suck. But that doesn’t mean you should stop striving toward your goals.

12. Never, ever expect a man to do for you what you can do for yourself, which is just about everything. If a dude comes along and wants to take care of you, that’s beautiful. But until he shows up -- and in case he never does -- learn how to do as much as you can.

13. Be serious about your money. Take care of your credit and learn how to budget what income you have. And don’t get talked into co-signing a loan for anyone. That good credit will be gone quicker than a sobering dude after a one-night stand.

14. Here’s the formula: marriage then babies. There’s a reason the Lord designed it that way. If you’re going to have sex, there are too many birth control options to wind up knocked up. Protect yourself.

15. Friends are going to come and go. Not everyone is going to be in your life forever. Enjoy them while they’re there but let them go if and when you grow out of them.

16. Take care of yourself. Your health is the most important thing you have, and it fuels the thousand and one things you want to do. Work out, eat well and drink water every day, even if you have to force yourself.



17. Laugh. Nobody likes a dud, and being dry and crotchety makes you look old way before your time.

18. Love yourself. Even when you don’t understand yourself, even if you have a muffin top, even if you lose a tooth. You’re perfectly imperfect.

Quote from: pro01 on Yesterday at 01:03:40 PM
The idea of a visiting father in-law even sounds weird - especially if he intends to stay overnight or for several days. Very weird indeed. That role is typically for mothers and mothers in-law. Na wa for some agbaya men sef.

while its true that its usually the mothers who go visits that often especially in some cultural groups, i don't think it is that weird as you make it seem that the father would spend a few nights with her daughter and family before continuing on his journey.

jennykadry:
@Sissy's last reply

And how are you so sure that the father wouldn't demand same from his inlaws even when his wife had already told him about it ?

i dont know that. but it would be some what safe to assume that since he believes he shouldn't take permission from his daughters husband before coming , he would also apply the same logic in his own case

*i have reedited the first one, to express it better *

[quote author=[size=14pt]werepeLeri[/size] link=topic=748309.msg9052228#msg9052228 date=1314851103]
Seun -

Well done jare - do your thing the way and manner you think is best for you. Why should you seek anyone's opinion to run your own business the way you want it? Will they not do the same or worse? They make themselves important in other people's business.[/quote][quote author=[size=14pt]_werepeLeri[/size] link=topic=748309.msg9052715#msg9052715 date=1314859972]
Sharrap your dirry mouth - motherfuucker - you are the kinda sttupid goats that encourage a much bigger goat - seun[/quote]una no well Lol

Princek12:
@ OP: your father is acting childish. Your father should inform your husband before visiting your house because your husband is the head of the household. Shikenah. Do unto others as you would like others to do unto you. How would your father feel if your mother's father just visited your household without being informed?

maybe he doesn't care about being informed first/at all, as long as the wife knows as evidenced by his action and reaction in his daughters case

i dont think your father did something bad by informing you first, it was your duty to relay the message, the same also in the case of his family coming too.  also, it was just for a short stay. your husband is even talking sef that he at least knew about the visit prior, 'cause some naija inlaws would have just shown up at your door unexpectedly. Egos has been hurt and the early an amendment is made, the better it will be for a marriage that is still in its 'newborn' stage

got it!

EuroMeko:
A beautiful picture.

What you call child abuse I call survival.

Those look like well fed kids, certainly well dressed. I've seen kids in the US that are far worse.

Before you start sullying the terminology "child abuse" be careful so you don't water it down for those kids who are really facing abuse.

beautiful picture ke?

those kids should be doing something else that kids their AGE are doing.

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Re: Skinny Jeans On Men: Cool Or Not Cool?
« #19 on: August 28, 2011, 01:18 PM »
"I'm imagining what your English Teacher was like."

definitely nothing like your asss

imagine a grown asss man wearing a skinny jeans?

mogbomoya:
@Seyi_ Orija,
I know I should have followed my instints, but dear, you need not be too harsh on me. No point rubbing pepper on Injury. I pray you would never find urself in a desperate position, u wld be amazed at the things u wld do just to get out of the situation.
@Odunnu,
You don't have to be insultive. I pray u wld never go thru what am going  ! God wld always be an on time God for u.
@Sissy,
My main reason for posting this is just to let other women out know so as they wld be careful next time.
I have learnt for myself.
@Blank,
I have let the case lie low. No point arresting him. I leave it all to God. God has a way for fighting for me. If he is trully a fake doctor, God wld give him his measure of purnishment, if he is genuie,God wld also bless for trying to help.
@Pslm 23,
I have learnt my lesson, u know that experience took away my anxiousness. I trust God absolutely.
@aieromon,
I cried when I saw your post. Thank you for understanding and not blaming me. Surely my pursuit of happiness would not be in vain. Before the yr runs out, I wld share my testimony. It is well with me.

i hope they will learn.

take the meaty part and leave the bones to the dogs

ifyalways:
Hate is a strong word.Who get energy to hate on internet "programs and viruses"

LAMO!

thanks a lot Ify. i appreciate it

desperation for anything will make you fall for anything

Thanks a lot! Ezeagu

thanks odumchi

interesting. you meet a total stranger for the first time--who claimed to be a doctor and while your instinct and the evidence before you was telling you otherwise, you still went ahead and followed him to the point of him drawing your blood. and not only that, you also gave him the permission to inject with some "medications"? Wow!. TTC is super frustrating and depressing, but please, don't lose your sense of judgment next time especially when dealing with a total stranger. your personal safety should always be a priority for you. just think of all the "would haves" and "ifs" that could have gone wrong with this your story. what about the safety and the assurance of those 'medications' you claimed he gave you? the safety of those needles, the safety of yourself. this is not only sad, but very scary that you would lose your sense of judgment in a flash to someone you know not from Adam. all the same i hope, it serves as a lesson to others who may be willing to do 'anything'

it'd be interesting to hear the side of the "Mr's" story

mogbomoya:
I want to share my experience of my encounter with Dr. Haastrup. Am not saying authentically that he is scam but am pointing towards that direction.
I have been TTC for 11 months and am a silent reader of Arlington's tread (TTC). Dr. Haastrup came on board and I got impressed with his level of information and his st. nicholas email addy. I decided to give him a call. I read my hormone profile result to him, and he told me outrightly that my biological age was ticking and I should act fast. I panicked and agreed to meet him up at luth. Not knowing my way there, he agreed to pick me up at Obalende, he was really nice and I was impressed with his kind gestures. Alarm bell started ringing when he was overly nice, waited for me infront of Oceanic bank and called me numerous times.
I picked him, and I commented on how nice he was, and gave me some tales on how it's just his nature. We got to luth and I was expecting us to go to his office, but alas he took me to some dingy doctor's hostel. I told him, I was uncomfortable but he sweet talked me out of it.
Every being in me wanted to turn back and go home, but as a despereate woman I said, this might be my messiah, why not give hime a trial.
He had a back pack, and looked nothing like a medical doctor. He brough out a plastic bag and took my blood sample. It was so unprofessionally done and he puntured my hand, 3 times before he could get a blood sample. He said he wld treat me with pregnyl as it was more potent than clomid. He injected me with the mixture.(He collected N28,000 for pregnyl and N20,000 for consultation).

He offered to show me a shorter route home on the agreement that I would pay for his taxi back home. We spoke a lot on the drive home, and he told me he works in Chevron's clinic and lives on the island. He also mentioned about some courses he took in canada. I commended his long articles and he said, oh it was easy for him to write since he types directly from his head!

Well, I went on to the internet, and was shocked to realise that Pregnly was a stimulant used to induce final stage of follicle development.Usually admistered right before ovulation. Ovulation takes place within 48 hrs of the Injection,.Our dear Dr. Haastrup administered his to me on day 3 of my cycle while I was still on my period. I told him my fears, and he said hit does not matter that different different, different times of administration. Only for him to tell me again today that he would have to repeat the dose just before my ovluation!

I further went on to the interent to get more information and I was shocked to see that most of the articles he posted on his tread were directly lifted from a fertility clinic in india. www.drmalpani.com.
I

Please can anyone help me with this translations:

"you are looking for my trouble" and "you are a troublemaker" in igbo

thanks

easy, go do a simple PT. it is the surest way to find out

see through nipp.le clothes

Outstrip:
Don't worry my dear when the first pain comes you will carry the doctors head and put it between your legs for him

LAMOOOO abi o.

OP. you will be fine. your main focus should be on your well-being and that of your baby not on your vaginas.

doctors have seen it all both the good,bad and ugly and they are not going to be having a feast on how your vaginas look. at that point, their main issue is on safe delivery not on aesthetics of the vulva. if it bothers your to point of raising your bp, and if possible, request a female MD. but i guarantee you, at that point in time, a male MD seeing your vulva will be the very LEAST of your problems.

wishing you a very safe delivery

honey, does this makeup/beauty product make me look fat?

how long have you been exercising?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]
Anyway i don't believe in losing individuality in anywhere. Yes you compromise and prioritize but you still do things that make you you.[/color]

This.


lose your individuality and lose what makes you, you. and become someone else's bobble head

you can still be married and be independent

Blazay:
Damn right loneliness kills.
Unfortunately, you can still be with 1 million peeps around ya and still be lonely.
Satisfaction comes from within and love certainly ain't based on numbers!
Ho-ha!

nothing but the truth

myself