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Manner #16
Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.

Manner #17
If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."

Manner #18
Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.

Manner #19

As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.

Manner #20
If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new.

Manner #21
When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.

Manner #22
When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!

Manner #23
Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.

Manner #24

Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.

Manner #25

Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.

[size=14pt]25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9[/size] from Yahoo


Manner #1

When asking for something, say "Please."


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When receiving something, say "Thank you

Manner #3

Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.

Manner #4

If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation

Manner #6

The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults

Manner #7

Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome

Manner #8
When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are

Manner #9

When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.

Manner #10
Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering

Manner #11
When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.

Manner #12
Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.

Manner #13
Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.

Manner #14

Don't call people mean names.

Manner #15
Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.

same topic have been overly and overly discussed on this section

do you brush his/her teeth?

try Neutrogena T/Gel or Selsun and if any these dont work/help, she will need to see a dermatologist to prescribe her a more potent treatment like Nizoral A-D with 2% more strength. also try ones with Salicylic acid.

the key is to experiment with all kinds, be consistent, and be patient with each use and see what will work.

kandiikane:
Warning:
Do not cook for people when you are on your menses.
You can cook for yourself.
It is quite unclean spiritually and to cook for people is unclean
If you are not spiritual and you feel it does not matter you can cook.
Do not enter the house of God if you are unclean(unless you do not care)
Do not let your husband, boyfriend see your menses or any other person.
Do not have sex on your menses unless both of you guys like that kinky sh[i]i[/i]t.(Spiritually unclean)
Make sure you do not leave any staining around the house it is very unsightly.
Not everyone has to know you are on your menses
Clean after your self
Stay fresh [/color]

na wetin man pikin no go feel hear bikonu. oga oo

Odunnu:
Nigerians!
Good people, great nation!

Did any of the suggestions work?

ok

yes some people do feel that IVF is unatural because it doesnt happen the 'natural' way but when you are in a position to be given a second opportunity/chance to get something you truly desire, those natural/unnatural thoughts becomes highly irrelevant. and in cases, you have the option of using your eggs etc which means the child will still have your DNA.  IVF is a blessing to couples who cant conceive.

some places have no age limit(because of the 'ethics' involved in it) on IVF, thats why two 70yr women in india were still able to conceive twins and a girl. there has also been cases of women in their late 50s, 60s who gave birth. however, there are guidelines some places use . 36 is still within a reasonable age range for IVF because a healthy 36yr can still naturally conceive. I dont think that nigeria has an age limit( so long common sense(age) applies here) on it because it is not a widely popular procedure yet, not everyone knows about it, and there are few places to perform it. however, so places might question the use of it in woman in her late late 40s. 50s/60s etc due to increased risk and complications associated with carrying the pregnancy and whether it would be 'fair' to the child to have an older parents or even parents who might die before they enter secondary school etc.

one big problem with ivf is the cost. it is a very costly procedure and you might not be able to conceive with first trial which would means more money to try again and it can be an emotional roller-coaster.

Also, for twin pregnancy, the chances does increase with IVF because the injected eggs might separate resulting in twins and some might want to inject more eggs to increase their chances of having one viable egg. hence, that might also result in twins/multiple pregnancies.(octo-mom) however, the chances of complications, and risks to both the mother and child etc does increase with twins/multiple births.

as for family opinions, i say the finally choice should between the husband and wife. they are ones who wears the shoe, so they know where it hurts them most. people are always going to talk regardless. if you dont have kids, the blame is on you. so, you might as well do what you truly want. at the end of day, you will the child you have always wanted. so dont  got discouraged by naysayers.

if possible, dont involve any other person other than your spouse, and the doctor. (maybe other CLOSE, ENCOURAGING selective family members- mother, sister).

if you friend is still reluctant about IVF, there is always the option of adoption and surrogacy.

makeup your mind already . you want a traditional yoruba wedding, you want an igbo wedding where the wife and husband share drink?

obowunmi:
@ OP ibo men only marry their kind --Im sure he has an uzoma in his village.

stop putting everyone inside the same basket

Nekai:
Poster, Blazay is very right. The key here is to stop beating yourself up over it and behaving like a scared puppy. Although what you did was wrong, your husband started this mess by mistreating you and chasing random strange women instead of remainig in his home where he belonged. The same time you slept with your BIL he was probably on top of someone else.

You are not a saint in this. Your biggest problem here is that you waited so long to resolve the issue. You should have had your son tested a long time ago instead of leaving your future in the hands of your BIL.

The biggest reason that your husband will be upset is because you slept beside him for so long without telling him. His trust for you may fly out the window, never to return.

Your only hope in this could be to emphasize that your BIL is blackmailing you, taunting you, making your life miserable. Emphasize that he wants the boy that calls your husband daddy. Downplay your role by quickly glossing over the fact that he caught you at a weak moment, and that it was so unforgettable that you mostly forgot about it until your BIL came around trying to lay a claim on the boy. He may just be so enraged that his own brother would have the balls to do this, he could lose focus on your role.

true. however, i do think her husband will place more emphasis on hers because of the person she cheated with. i mean if she cheated with an outsider it would less 'heavy' but messing with his own brother

dey there nah! you still dey talk of access to a PC, when having access to kerosene to lite a lantern na big wahala

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=249630.msg8223616#msg8223616 date=1304016754]@ Sissy,

Don't mind that Netotse for abandoning the thread, if not for me that kept it going and had to even beg them when it went over the 100 page limit. Really glad to have you back jare, missed you mwuah mwuah mwuah. But come wia did you go, you just dissappeared like that, ha ha.[/quote]Lol yes o, i see your hardiwork on this thread, u try no b small . oya this one is for you: https://i612.photobucket.com/albums/tt209/msparrie/HUGS/hugs67.jpg

u choose, you can be the big one or the little one

my dear, na life no wan allow me rest oo. longest tyme jare, i hope body dey kempe

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=656225.msg8223386#msg8223386 date=1304014303]Poor thing, I woulda burst into tears, with him thinking she is crying tears of joy, unbeknown to him that I am only crying that I would have to wear such fugly monstrosity.


Who says the proposal and ring should go hand in hand? Knowing myself, I would 99% hate his choice so it is better we go and both choose the ring later.[/quote]see this woman, you bad no be small


@ post

engagement ring na oyibo thing ojare. what counts most is those words, " i wanna marry you sharp sharp" chikena!

leave finger ring for d main d main event

since no guy want to response, i will


i have no problems with low cut, so long you know what [i]fits [/i]your face

so they show-off the gifts their husbands bought them to a widow?

XX01:
My husband is the third among 3 boys but the second to marry. His elder just got married and i am having issues in relating with his wife. My husband's family is sort of close knit and like to do things together so almost every month, we have a get together.

Now, there were certain responsibilities i used to take up which the new wife is trying to usurp. I feel like i am being pushed to be Wife nos 3 while she actually is the youngest wife. We are age mates so no issues there but she tries to make me give her some form of respect which i feel should be the other way round.

I tried talking to my MIL but she waved it aside as a non-issue but i feel so sidelined. I am more of an introvert while she is an extrovert so its easy for to just relegate me to the background. I have been married to him for 3 years now so i feel that i deserve my position.

I feel i should be more assertive and push her into her own position. The latest one was when we had our extended family meeting so as they were introducing everyone (as is customary), after the first wife, they called the second wife and she stood up. There was a little murmur but they introduced her as the new wife and then me. I was pissed. 

I just felt like ranting and letting off steam.

so whats actually the problem here? isnt she the new wife? or abi you want them to reintroduce you as the new wife and her as the new last wife or what? second wife, third wife dont matter, everyone know you were married before her why worry over that?

i throughly feel you are overacting over the whole " na me dem born first, na me dem marry first or abi second" thing. and it does come-off as if you being jealous over her getting all the "newbie" attention. so, you need to stop complaining and learn to respect yourself. she is still newly married, so it definitely too early to start fussing up over things like this now. and you also want to tone it down with running to your MIL with complains because you wouldnt want your second name to be "mrs complainer" cause it will definitely not help your "cause"

[s]tell her to stop chatting sh!ts everytime about her daughter that it annoys the living craps out of you[/s]

or tell your own mother to start constantly bragging about you to her every-time too. both your good doings and bad ones, she will get an ear full and taste her own medicine

or be extremely disinterested in her stories everytime, by your facial expressions and body language and just

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Ignore.[/color]

her

HAPPY EASTER TO YOU ALL my dearies. hope you all had a wonderful celebration with lots of rice, chicken minerals, and ebas

BB: you dey craze , abeg jare for my side we are still in january jor   how body?



netotse: how u dey? see how una leave this place dry

Nekai:
Those videos were hilarious!!! 

yup, i can watch it ten times and still laugh with them

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how old is he? or what age range is he in?


40-50s, 60-70s, 80-89 or 90+?


also any changes in his use of language?

^^^^

not forgiving and forgetting, but forgiving as in still letting the marriage stand

ifyalways:
you know your hubby better.Is he the forgiving type?

i think this is important too. even though, it might be harder to do on this one, but if he has that forgiving 'spirit' in him, ( also given his own randy past)

so wetin you wanna do about it?

cost esp traditional depends on the origin--tribe-state-LGA of the ceremony

if she does the dna test and the BIL is the father, she will probably have to do a double explanation. the husband wouldnt be too happy to find out not only that she cheated but also went behind his back and did a dna test.  unless, she is willing to keep the first result a secret and redo the test again because the husband would most likely prefer to do  a dna test too.



@ Ify and Dayo

the idea of denying it entirely might be easier IHMO, if the dude in question was an outsider. however, for the simple reason that the dude is her BIL, it might be a harder pill to swallow. i mean, the husband must be really convinced to believe that his brother must be telling lies. if she claims violation it will be a double whammy on her conscience because she fully knows he didnt violate her and it might  even cause a bigger problem between the two brothers than the affair truth would have. claim it didnt happen, and her husband would wonder how/why his brother would make up such lies.

things would have been much easier if the bil wasnt assholing about the whole thing and kept everything quiet. who knows, if he doesnt personally tell his brother about it, he might boastfully knowingly/unknowingly spill the bean to a friend and from there the walls will hear it.