₦airaland Forum

Dshocker:
That is the reason why most men don't like taking their wife aboard.

Especially if you enroll her into nursing or to study medicine, by the time she is through studying such course, then the chances of her being your wife is like 20%.

And it is her fellow colleagues that will brainwash her into believing that being single is the best and her husband has no right to question her decision.

Dear men; If you ever plan on relocating your wife aboard, make sure she signs a prenuptial agreement.

The man is saying that THEY built the house TOGETHER.

How can you sign a prenup on a partnership? And, this man is a foolish goat. The law decides who takes the house. The law in most cases split the asset. There has been no court case, no jurisdiction and this man just fell to his knees. This appears staged to me. Absolutely a ploy to get famous. He's in his middle age and seems to have failed in his endeavours and now going big on blogging with a set up stage. Y'all enjoy this drama. Listen to him carefully. No man who loses a huge asset like a house sounds this way. Not even a drunk redhead. This is an epic spin off. This man is about to profit online.

At least a sincere man would have provided a few clues as to what led up to this situation. This man is shooting a livestream and fixing Nigerian time haha. He's in the US, he should be fighting it out in court and explaining to his lawyer. He's not the first or only Nigerian in the US. Explain to your family. Call her family too. Leave the public out of it first.

A Settler with 3 suitcases only. He has no valuable item in that house? He didn't reach for a single document. School, work, passport etc. He just went out like a stray dog. Come on! What do I have to listen to such a man at 6 PM for? He didn't hug the children, kiss, calm them down etc? He caught the woman on camera physically abusing him and throwing his belongings outside and he has no case in court? What guarantees the woman the house in the name of sense, please somebody?

This man is an outright squatter. She owns the house and they are not married. Hence her actions.

Ask him to set up another plot cos' whoever wrote this script is missing the ideal narrative.

NaBanga:
Any man that enters America and believes he will beat on, cheat on, and snatch a woman's paycheck, has only fooled himself. I am sure one of these 3 things are happening. The woman is tired.

Be aware that alimony goes both ways if you have a strong lawyer. My friend is on alimony spree now as we speak and he's a man. The law is not for women only. Know your right. I see many black men falling stupid cos' they have had their rights washed off their brains by some people. By the look of things, this man doesn't own that house. They are both renters. She will pay the rent herself or bring another squatter. As it stands, they have no kids and he seems to be a squatter judging by the number of suitcases to his name. I doubt that they are married. He is an overused toyboy who has probably been caught pants down multiple times with someone younger and more attractive than the woman. She sees that she stands no chances beside that younger girl.
He didn't sound like a man who was thrown out of HIS house. He didn't provide any history as regards to what led to this. His reaction is like someone who gave a policeman 1000 naira on the road. No enthusiasm in his expression.

In the US, I lived rent free, used a bank card at will, went on 2 all-expense paid trips and shopped for free. Stop spreading lies about the US. Know your game and have what the people want and you can live for free. So many women are willing to give you what you want. The women are majorly the ones paving the way for young Nigerian men. Know the game and play it if your are street smart. If I were in the game still, I would have shown you what women can do if you got the mojo.

OlawaleBammie:
Lol, well, i give you the benefit of doubt, even Samson (in the bible) was eliminated

"the benefit of the doubt".

Bro, I have seen tough men like you go down too easily. Do not get your head hyped over Samson. That story is extremely unique compared to yours. I worked with one alaye like you some years ago who was always screaming "ogun ma pa e, no woman can play me". Claiming to have a babaláwo father and an iyaláwo mother. He got played big league by a village girl, and all his smuggish brags ended up in "I swear for you".

Most times, the slim quiet men are unpredictable. I dread an always "it's all good" type of man who got his hands lock behind him. No brags, no "I have a strong babaláwo", or I bought it in my mother's name.

You have your hands on every vertex of a square and you have only two of them. How can you cover the sides when you dwell on the vertices. My message for you: avoid savages! Just go for a woman who loves you and not the other way round. Pretty faces are not for you.

If you are scared to lose your small coins, be with someone who has more than coins. Less worry for you.

And, let me warn you. You may trust your mother, but you are not the only one that she trusts too. My friend who invested his all in his mothers name returned to learn that his own brother had swindled his mother. Things happen.

OlawaleBammie:
Lol, how??

You act so tough but quite easy to eliminate

OlawaleBammie:
are u married?? Easier said than done in most cases. But u still stated the fact sha.

Me as a person,

I can never allow my wife to be permanent in the west, she must be frequent here and face our business

I can never maintain my savings account in the west, wetin happen to my Nigeria bank account?

My property in the western world wil be registered in my mama name, not mine, not my child's name

And four, my babalawo will always be at alert incase i want to deal with a monumental failure of Jezebel.(any woman that want to wreck me, if i get her blind for ten years sin no dey)

I dont forgive bro, i hardly forgive

Your type go down with $7 dollar rat poison

donprinyo:
Hope u r a mother else waste of womanhood

wrap your mouth up with a rag and dump in a dumpster.

Marriage is God's arrangement. Stop being a bully and a control freak. Attacking a player does not win you the game.
The first thing for you to do, is to learn how to spell marrIAGE in order to fix your orientation about a union. If living single were good for you, you would have been for it rather than being against something else. Spend more time analyzing the beauty of singledom than condemning marriage.

Antimarraige:
Hahaha very very good, serves the idiot right. No marry they no go hear. If your marraige is from 2010 to date you are a foolish man.

Jim99:
Just goes to show that men are the best at everything.

Even the best cooks are men.

Feminists would be gnashing their teeth bcuz of this.

Trans women invading women spaces and dominating. Now they'll know what it feels like when they invade men spaces.

I tried to laugh but this is bigger than comedy. It is actually a movement. It endangers kids but I welcome it because the Bible prophesied that it will be. We cannot stop it. The devil is in control of their minds.

They should keep on to their destruction

22o62021:
Ashawo house full everywhere

People fail to understand that religion doesn't determine it. Even in Saudi Arabia, the sex and pedophilia, and homosexuality is to the roof. The act transcends religion.
It stems from poor parenting and devious inclinations.

AbelAbdul:
ENVIRONMENT

Lagos is not as people say it is. In fact, the GRA in Port Harcourt is more neater and nicer than Lekki.

Lekki was nothing to write home about during my stay there.

The people hyping Lagos are Lagos residents who have never lived elsewhere. Or, those who came from ratholes. We left Lagos since the early 90ies and none of us dream of returning to stay. Sadly, we are Lagosians. You visit, attend functions, and go enjoy your life elsewhere.

Whoever lived in Lagos in the 80ies and 90ies will never accept to live there today, given some options.

To enjoy Lagos, you must have a large income gate and a foot outside Nigeria.

Moh247:

Baba Olowo himself

They outspent Jagaban dollars for dollars, pounds for pounds

Adeleke University gave so much scholarship to the poor that you wonder if it was a charity University... Full scholarship, feeding, books and accommodation without connection or preference
.

I never heard this before but I am impressed by it. Really impressed by such gesture

dalongjnr:
Best presidential candidate, APC Failed to present to the Nigerian masses.
Quickest recovery, Mr VP.

Fact

AbuAeesha:
lolz.
I don't intend to be mean,but u and almost everybody on this platform are products of sex.
so I believe sex is an important a part of life, especially when it is done lawfully

How many times do your parents sex per day? How many times do you eat per day? People spend 10 hours at work and 10 minutes having sex. Where is the storyline of the 10 hours? It feels like exaggerating how you put on your panties and ignoring the entire clothing items on you.

Sex needs to be talked about but sensibly. It is more like a calculative attempt to arouse unnecessary feelings in the hearts of the general public. Apparently to pull traffic which in effect is a curve ball with a catalytic effect. The reason for the pervasiveness in town is because of the airtime or promotion that it gets.

Why always sex? Isn't there something worthwhile to talk about? Haven't technology and science advanced beyond just sex?

Stamina for what? Is sex the backbone of all these advancements? Is it the engine for salvation? Did Jesus engage in it to complete his work? Did Paul?

Why can't these moderators support the youths and galvanise them to success? Why are the moderators selfishisly destroying the mindset of the average youth? Why must sex be the criteria for front-page worthiness? Just scrap all these nonsense and send these virile men to work rather than dwell on trivialities.

Fmlao:
Incoherent again!

All that bullshits for the birds

I subjected you to a logical discussion, u dey abuse ur father at home.

Well, I'm not suprised, u are just a frustrated being.
Ok, ok
Obi don win
Happy now?
Bye

Very irrational being.

JAMO84:
From past experiences, revolution like this never ends well.


Syria

Libya

South Sudan

Yemen

Tunisia.....



ALWAYS END IN PREMIUM TEARS

It was the tears that led them there in the first place. They have been in the tears since birth. Do you actually know the facts or just feel like dropping a comment? Comparing Yemen to Libya

Fmlao:
Incoherent!

Sixfiguresmart, e no go better for who do you like this

You must be suffering from low self-esteem and an embattled spirit of bitterness, and despair. As the saying goes, a clear conscience fears no accusation. If your complex isn't killing you, it is surely damaging your ability to precisely establish an understanding of simple logic.

Sir, you are deluded. You are blindly following a trace of the wind without verifying the direction. BAT will walk and piss on your grave to get to his hospital beds. BAT is currently the most corrupt active individual buying and lobbying everything he gets.

Keep on drinking his piss

Fmlao:
You can lay your facts without showing your stupidity but since you choose to show your stupidity, i will let you wallow in your misery.

I am for BAT. Choose your candidate without abusing others

I stand with God and not men. You stay with BAT and get pissed on

Fmlao:
WHY ARE PEOPLE RUNNING TO LAGOS AND NOT ANAMBRA IN SEARCH OF A GREENER PASTURE?

LET'S TEACH THEM POLITICS 101

Because Lagosians are running away to the UK, the US and Australia. How many rich Lagosians are left in town? Only those with political ties. And, where are their children?

Baba, as a Lagosian, I have to travel abroad to see my family. My colleagues from the east travel to Lagos and to Plateau, while I have to board a flight to see mine in foreign lands. Travel out and look for Lagosians.

You must be core stupid if you think that you will teach anyone politics. You have no sense to see that your head teacher does not visit the same hospitals as you. Have you taught yourself that millions of innocent Nigerians die daily as a result of road accident? Where is the bridge that Tinubu built for Lagosians? Where are the universities and the housing?

Leave Peter alone. Hold us accountable. Why not mention "we"? We are the ones signing the petition. Look our way.

lexy2014:
What are you even saying? What has being an islamist got to do with the guys views about gays? Are there no people on nairaland who would rather see gays dead? Are they islamist? How is homosexuality pop culture and when did buhari attack pop culture?

Una go just de talk Wetin no head or tail

I'm truly shocked to read this. How Nigerians suddenly became activists for gay rights. They are the same ones mobbing gays to death.

With this push, gays will be emboldened. And, it will aggressively permeate the culture.

stigman:
And so, they are dogs, with the number of girls everywhere na fellow man ass una want

It baffles me sometimes. The law of Nigeria incriminates it. Suddenly, APC and PDP turn gay rights advocates. But PDP under GEJ criminalised it, not Batti.

Can we also get the view of Atiku and Tinubu to see if they are gays or gay rights activists. We might just be having the first gay president.

Who asked you to fight for it? He's dead Sir. You join him. The familes and countries that you raided weep too

Then, shut down government until then. Will Tinubu say a word about this? No! Will he ever speak for Nigerians? No!

The Lekki incident should serve as a precedent to his rule. He will spray live bullets into y'all. You will die like birds.

The grandpas will do anything for power. Your life means nothing.

Every single country on earth warns against Nigeria. When y'all keep electing old men who have no stake in the future to build a future for you.

Saudi Arabia used to be this strict country ruled by grandpas but the young prince made a huge change that women can now drive themselves and no longer need a male guardian to do anything.

Nigerians want to run to many countries where the leaders are young while voting in grandpas. Boris Johnson is 58 only. Macron is 44, and Trudeau is 50. Albanese of Australia is 59. Our presidents go from one hospital bed to another. And, are we going to have another patient in this sick country? Biden doesn't know where his left foot is. He falls of bikes, planes and thoughts.

You cannot ask a sick doctor to treat sick patients. No matter how good he is. Tinubu has spent the last 3 years in many hospital beds. From the US to the UK. During the endsars saga, he was mute. Look at all the injustices in Nigeria, he has been mute cos he is a beneficiary. Tinubu was a senator before Davido and wizkid were born. Before Regina Daniel was born Tinubu had been a senator. When Fela was attacking the government for corruption, Tinubu was philandering with women. This man just doesn't care about you. All he cares about are his oligarch friends.

The chronic stupidity of the Nigerian youth who imagine that having a tribesman in power means problem solving is cring worthy.

A man who 3 months ago needed a walking aid, urinates on people's couches, cannot brush his teeth, months ago he was lying on a hospital bed and Fashola had to visit to confirm that he is still alive.

What really has he done for Nigerians? He has a feud with Obasanjo. He was everyone to bow to him while he urinates on their faces.

The country is sinking. There is global inflation. All the bribe that he is handing out must be recouped if he gets to power.

Wake up and stop these evil maniacs

Atticusxsz:
It's a well known fact that 9ja is a sinkhole. If my expectations this year doesn't materialise, then I'll have to restrategise and take your aforementioned suggestion into consideration.
Thanks for your time and insights couple with all the assistance you've rendered so far. No wonder, your moniker sticks out.

No qualms, bro. Thanks for the compliment. I'll keep you in prayers. Stay motivated and determined.

Atticusxsz:
I've always love computing. My initial interest back then was to study software engineering at tertiary level but it's private schools that were offering it and the fee was far too massive. So, i had to opt for Estate Mgt And Valuation. Going into stuffs like programing etc will definitely require funds because while i was serving in asaba, NIIT representelatives came to our CDS venue and were giving out leaflets about computer program/programming language that they do offer and due to how interested i was into programming and stuffs, i had to visit NIIT and its facility there in asaba and truth be told, i was awed at the structure and the computing programe/programming language they did offer like Javascript,C++,Python,Mysql,Html etc but the fee was always the stumbling block. I was just salivating all through as a corper poring and surveying over the leaflet.
Even the Safety HSE 1,2,3 program that i partook in from Novelle back there in asaba, i couldn't pay up the fee for the certificate. Although, there's a waiver on it since we're serving corpers but getting the funds back then to pay for the certification was laborious and i had to drop out of the program since i couldn't come up with the fee.

I attest that the courses are ridiculously exorbitant. I just don't know why. The government should step in to regulate this.

A step at a time bro. You can save up for one and offer tutorials to make cash up for other courses. I can feel your exasperated efforts in this. Estate mgt is a good field too. Abuja or Lagos should be the zone for you.

Estate mgt is hot outside 9ja bro. With a crash course in facility mgt, you will be a hot sauce. 9ja is limiting. If the something big that you are hoping for doesn't materialise, I'd suggest that you leave your comfort zone. Go to where your services are in demand. 9ja is a sinkhole. The place kills dreams.

I felt a little lethargic after reading this. The reason: You don't just know the wealth that is moved across Onne on a daily basis. No southerner should have nothing less than #5m in his account. There is no reason why one should seek jobs in Nigeria. There is free money for all to create and sustain the job market. Your travails are book worthy.

As for courses, I just can't recommend any cos' the interest and passion need to be to excel in it. Are you enthusiastic about computing? I'm a data programmer with a long list of other special courses too that are essential in many establishments in which I have worked.

So, any upgrade is a wide gate. Good that you keep busy at least during the day. What do you have a passion for?

Atticusxsz:
Talking about indulging in personal development programs, i haven't. What are current personal development programs that you're certain and sure of, in which i believe you're certainly knowledgeable about?

I'm not mincing words here bro. I graduated in 2016 and rounded up service in 2018 but I'm sorry to say that I've been so unfortunate with securing a job at my place due to the way things are run over here. I told you before, that you ought to have someone at the helms of affairs/echelon of power and also be affiliated to a ruling body or party which isn't entirely my thing. And also, my family's name is a renown one in which has hindered me in from getting 2 to 3 jobs that i merited after some series of standardize aptitude test and interviews to check our capabilities in our chosen areas of interest.

Firstly, it's for a position i applied for relating to customer service officer in Notore Garden Estate in Onne in 2019 where i made top 3 out of 15 candidates. The company wanted employing base on field and merit which put me ahead at 92% overall rating while the 2nd person made around 85% or thereabouts. The third was on 60% plus but our then youth president stalled the process because the 3rd candidate was his own desired candidate but didn't scale through. And due to that, nobody was selected and that's how that opportunity came to an abrupt end.

Secondly, there's a protest at Notore Chemical Company that was orchestrated by the Onne youths that lasted for 7 days and an ultimatum was reached.
And we were told to bring about for indigenes from the 4 sub clans that they would train and employ their highest standard.
I was opportuned to be selected amass the person's from my own clan and so was the other three. We went through some series of test couple with sitting for an aptitude test and i was the only one who scaled through. But the final interview stage was delayed for close to 6 months. After that, i complained to our chairman about how their superior interviewer amongst the six persons present was being unprofessional all through while the interview was in session. He was even making mockery of the questions i posed to them in general because according to him, we cost them millions during the blockade by my people. Our chairman laughed and said i shouldn't worry that I'll be called to undergo medical screening from them and before that, some persons working in their supply chain department congratulate me when i ran into them at marketsquare and were optimistic about me joining and working directly with them in their department. That's the 1st time in my life that the youth president of my place came to see me in person with some of the youths with his official convoy, encouraging and urging me to aspire and make Onne as a whole proud.
Later on, it's a friend of mine that was later switched in my stead due to reasons best known to them and since then, the chairman that's suppose to give me reasons for what happened was nowhere to be found. But a close source said i wasn't loyal to their course and i wasn't an associate member of their affiliation. That's how that chapter ended while some persons up till today don't know what truly transpired. They are even unaware about the whole thing.

Lastly, my relative that's the president of our onne graduate forum brought about an opportunity of working in WACT but we were many seeking for job but they wanted just 4 persons. We submitted our CVs and all but finally, someone at the top removed my CV giving reasons that my uncle is one of the richest person in our community and that the said opportunity shouldn't be stretched to my end. It happened after i never received a call or text from the said company to commence work while the other 3 colleagues of mine were called and commenced work thereafter.
It wasn't a hidden issue because i was briefed by my relative about it. So, that's how it's been ever since.

Presently, I'm learning a skill as a machinist assistant at WAV and i started 2 weeks back but I'm being paid a meagre sum as stipend for upkeep and it's under a pay contractor who's one of our foremost chief. But if an opportunity to grow presents itself, I'll leave without turning back since there are persons that have been working for 8 years plus and they don't earn more than a 100k while those brought in due to community protest and all, are earning 130k to 200k.
You'll see someone that you're certainly more qualified than in all spheres earning 3 times of your monthly salary. So, it's just grace.
Nevertheless, I'm hopeful of getting a better job soonest or within the year.

Atticusxsz:
Yeah, they do pay development fees to the community. Although, some of our chiefs and elders use those opportunities to enrich themselves. As for bursaries, it's been paid as we speak. As of last 2 weeks ago, the payment was ongoing. And, 100 persons who are undergraduates below 200 level and jambites were awarded scholarship which was also announce in churches yesterday.

Yeah, i almost secured a lucrative job at Asaba at FIRS after service in 2018 but it didn't come to fruition since i didn't bulge or succumb the temptations that came with the lady that wanted securing the job for me. It was against my conscience and would've drastically affected my mental health.

Something similar also occurred in Lagos. Although, i lived in lagos at Ajah with a female obsessed friend for 4 months before returning back due to the demise of my maternal grandma. She had the capabilities of helping me secure a job but i know i was going to be indebted 4 life since i knew no one over there. She's going to risk everything 4 me which isn't bothersome to her but to me, we know how stuffs like these do ends up.

Nonetheless, I'm still pushing as always.

Firstly, I am sorry for your loss. It appears that you were close to her.

Secondly, I clearly understand your hurdle with women and career. I can resonate with it. Peace of mind is better than slavery. Good to know that you can read a bait before it switches.

Thirdly, do you engage in any current personal development programs?

Can I get one thing, you mean since graduation, you haven't secured a job?

Fahdiga:
The man is just enjoying his last days in office

Do you know about offshore accounts? Get educated on how money can travel on a diplomatic train

dawnomike:
They should depot the snails enmass to Nigeria

My thought.

Atticusxsz:
Jobs ke? There are jobs but only my community alone known as Onne in Eleme LG in PH or as it's been refer to as Onne Port accommodates/houses more than 350 plus companies. You're shock, abi? But getting work over here as an indigene is like finding a needle in a haystack. Our leaders and chiefs has sold our rights and all for peanuts but this year will be different due to the new incoming ruler that will take over the Onne throne in no distant time.

Strangers can easily get jobs over here unlike we indigenes, since you'll have to be related or know someone at the echelon of power or you'll have to belong to a party etc.

Nepotism is in full rear over here. If i tell you what i went through in my own community, you'll probably think it's a movie script that I'm narrating to you. You'll see persons with just waec certificate working and learning a skill in these companies while earning 150k and above, and you'll see a graduate that's done with Nysc with other vocational certification struggling to get a job and some of we here have been without job since 2018 till date.

Nonetheless, i believe this year will be better since we've never been so hopeful as at now unlike other years before now. But generally, there are jobs in PH and its environs but i believe Lagos has got more prospects in terms of job placement due to its diverse environment and people.

Hmm. Shocking indeed. Good to know that you're from Onne. Some people there are kinda rich. That's a popular place. Been there a few times over a decade ago. Do they pay you developmental fees or bursaries?

Do you have any propect to migrate to Lagos for jobs? Have you ever tried out of your comfort zone?

Personally, I hate the boisterous Lagos life. It feels like circumventing and the country living is too cumbersome for me. It can pass for its vivacity but I need more calm.