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JESHAL:
Kai .
Even in my cherished patriarchal northern Nigeria paternity fraud is still a thing, that mean it can happen anywhere even in strict theocratic conservative Talibans Afghanistan, it's very painful, female nature is universal, religion and traditionalism still blinds us to this harsh reality

https://www.nairaland.com/7521588/how-paternity-fraud-finding-way

Now, you are seeing the reality on ground that you argued against when a few of us pointed it out to you.

Well, paternity fraud has been there for decades though not openly documented. The more conservative a society is, the higher it is for issues like promiscuity, paternity fraud etc to thrive well without most folks noticing.

ubunja:
wow! dude is alive? Last listened to his content around 2015/16 I think. It's been quite a while.
Wonder how he feels now that his message has gone mainstream.

I wonder same. Well, the Tom Leykis 101 Show came with a lot of controversies and it got worse when he would ask callers to call in to talk about shitty things they did that no one ever knew. One woman called in to report that she killed the dad of her baby for refusing to pay child support, shooting him in the chest to make it look like a suicide. She gladly got away with it knowing that policemen would never suspect a crying woman. It got worse from there and had to go off air for a while before diverting into other non-dating interest. The good thing is that the awareness of male solipsism that he pioneered is spreading rapidly like wild fire. It can only get better. This is a wikipedia article describing the Tom Leykis 101 show which I call Red Pill 101 at its finest:

The cornerstone of the program was the Thursday broadcast of "Leykis 101", in which the program is set up as an ad hoc lecture and question and answer session, over which Leykis presides as a self-styled "professor". The subject of the "101" segments are how men can spend less money on women, while achieving greater sexual and personal success. The intent of his advice is to serve as a father figure for his mostly-men listeners. Thus, many callers address Leykis as "Dad" or "Father".

Along with general information on life for young men, Leykis's 101 advice mostly consists of his principles of looking out for oneself. He argues that the institution of marriage is flawed and that family court systems are often corrupt because DNA testing after childbirth is not mandatory to prevent paternity fraud, and because courts have forced men to pay child support even after DNA testing has established that a man was not actually a child's father. To guard against sperm theft, he advises men to dispose of their own condoms by flushing them down the toilet or filling them with tabasco sauce. Other examples of Leykis 101 guidelines include never dating single mothers or co-workers; never cohabiting with a woman; using birth control during each sexual encounter; and immediately ending a relationship if a woman issues an ultimatum. In the event of an unplanned pregnancy, Leykis advocates a strategy known as "The Hail Mary", whereby the man persuades the woman to have an abortion by promising to have children with her when they are ready in the future. Then as soon as she has the procedure, he dumps her.

Leykis constantly recommends that young men pursue their career or educational goals and avoid being distracted by serious relationships or marriage at a young age as he was. Leykis describes many women as "dream killers" (i.e., he argues that, in dating or marriage, women will typically prioritize their desires above a man's, and will actively discourage men's ambitions for fear of him leaving the relationship if he attains success). Furthermore, Leykis urges men to live frugally, including avoiding consumer debt (what Leykis describes as "renting money"; never spending more than $40 for a date; and saving cash and investing for the future. He has described men who neglect their bills as "immoral".

franchasofficia:
Guys commenting, please know this that many good girls are doing hookup due to family financial difficulties or due to failure of their parents in meeting their financial needs, and funny enough your sisters, nieces, cousins, aunts and even girlfriends could be doing hookup without your knowledge.

Life will always teach us all the sad reality of life, just a matter of time

By your logic, every jobless guy should become an armed robber to earn a living. Some of you (who like to claim advanced age and being married) just open your mouth to vomit bullshiit.

Stop encouraging stupidity in your bid to defend women's foolish choices. Economy hard no go mean say man must be encouraged to be a thief!

Prostitutes of various kinds don't change for the most part. Marriage is just "holiday" for them. Should this guy get into financial issues, gets boring or lose his sexual prowess, she is back to the "streets" where she belongs. Once a woman goes bad, she is gone forever.

Anyway, I have ex-hook up girls looking for husbands. Do well and marry them for us.

ubunja:
Tom Lekys is an old legend. I'm not sure if he's still alive or not. He used to run a red pill radio show a while back before the manosphere went mainstream. His shows used to involve people calling in,, and women loved to call in and be ripped by the guy. Find his clips on YouTube. He's legendary.

He is still alive but not very active like before just like Barbarossa (MGTOW) and Sargon of Akkad. It's Tom Leykis btw.

ubunja:
If anyone wants to understand better what I'm saying, watch these two YouTube skits.
The lady is purposefully SAYING one thing but ACTING the opposite. The guy is confused as hell but all he has to do is ignore her words and WATCH WHAT SHE'S DOING. Actions are what you watch. Play the videos first with the audio on then play them again without the audio, on mute, to see how different everything is when you discount words and focus on a woman's actions.

https://youtube.com/shorts/9vLDwXADukY?feature=share


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SYUcjIPaIE

It's hilarious and a bit dramatized (understandably) for comic effect. Regardless, the message has been passed. Stay in predator mode.

Qaphela Inja

Marriage is like a video game. Starts off easy, then gets harder, and eventually you go online and find a way to cheat." — Chris Burns

#MGTOW

emmaodet:
https://www.nairaland.com/7320727/what-did-wrong-supporting-career#116439492

Guys check this thread out.

Just a slight opportunity and the last don panshy her bestie.

I trust my naija girls to serve that hot breakfast when necessary. The funny thing is that the tutorial "format" she used in deceiving this guy to go get dick is one that any sensible guy will decode on the spot. Anyway, it's a hard lesson learnt, when guys try to personalize these hoes.

These days, I have noticed it, that men rate "serious dating/relationships" than women unlike the other way round before the recent sexual evolution. It's probably tied to men being moral. The women just show up in the "relationship/situationship" where the guy is used as a placeholder for beta-buxxing while she goes on fucking multiple dicks that she fancies.

I've never been a fan of "relationships" nor needed one to get sex like most men are conditioned. With modern realities, it's useless for MOST men.

heartofcity12:
Exactly!. Guys already predicted that he’s going to see the light with time but he was adamant and stubborn back then, I’m glad he’s seeing things clearly with his own two eyes now, if care is not taken this guy will switch into something women hate more than the redpill itself, he’s just beginning to know about female nature and he’ll learn more with time. The same women he fought and advocate for were the same women that want him cancelled, currently hate him, mocking him and reported his IG page(one of his source of livelihood) till it got deactivated. It’s funny a once hardcore male feminist has completely turned 360 to denounce feminism and rebuke everything it stands for. It’s funny how he has become this, something he himself doesn’t understand. I bet there is still more to come, watch out

I remember 2012 -2015 when I used to be active on Facebook, the dude (Buchi Solomon) was a white-knighting nuisance/irritant I would often argue with. The day he called himself a Male Feminist was when I quietly unfriended him.

Where men are hard to convince when it comes to the true nature of women, leave the women to convince them. Nigerian women will never disappoint you in the serving of hot "breakfasts".

theamazonguru:
Only in Nigeria.
God have mercy.

Nothing surprising here. Even the Government (which includes law enforcement like the police) are equally criminals. The only difference between the "illegitimate" bandits and the "legitimate" law enforcement is that bandits are honest criminals while the police are dishonest criminals.

rickleye:
Do I hear ! Mama say knock you out !!!

The LL Cool J reference. Lol

MJBOLT:

you need to see the way evening newspapers are fuming over Leonardo DiCaprio dumping ladies after they hit 25, meanwhile the younger ladies are saying "it's his choice"

That is the reason why the age-appropriate relationship some dirty cunts are advocating for (mentioned by LordAdam16) will fall flat on its face. Post-wall women, Single mothers and other women way pass their prime are pissed that a man like him won't save them and they hate to see him win, while the younger women see him as a ticket to serve their hypergamic instincts in money and status. Both sides always get disappointed. Lol

LordAdam16:
They've been trying for years now. That infographic was made in 2019. Five years ago. The woke crowd are trying to push this thing called "age-appropriate" r/ships.

As it goes, someone like DiCaprio should not be dating women in their 20's, when he's 47. Notice that's the same age as Zach Braff who I commented on a couple of pages back after his breakup with Florence Pugh.

DiCaprio should be dating women closer to his age (in their 40's and 50's, maybe late 30's), the so-called "evening newspapers". It is a flagrant, though coordinated attempt to restrict men's options and push a scarcity mindset (with all of its related deficits). Also, it helps aggregate a large pool of made men that must rescue the retired h**s, single moms, divorcees, and cat ladies.

Interestingly, you'll not see them breathe a word when the likes of Madonna change their boy toys. But when has hypocrisy ever stopped femmes from fighting for their interests?

DiCaprio is a credentialed Wokester as a climate change advocate and he is one of the most celebrated actors of his generation, so their attacks have not gained traction. I certainly hope he stops dating and adds some Victoria Secret models to his speed dial. He might become a casualty of a Second Wave of #MeToo. Recall how successive waves of feminism have had weirder demands.

-Lord

Leonardo DiCaprio is one who I greatly admire as a feral MGTOW playing the gynocentric system to his own advantage. On this thread, I once called him a ghost in plain sight which is the perfect way to go, in a society that will go great lengths to dispose off men, just to make women and pets happy. He supports NPC leftist causes like animal rights and the LGBTQ community to distract the wokesters while living the red pill by dealing with young nubile women and avoiding marriage to protect his life and assets.

Tupac Amaru Shakur was another feral MGTOW that I would have loved to see, win but sadly, he lost his life to male hierarchy squabbles that keep men ignorant in the matrix.

DonEvarest:
the realisation of this made me cut off all the ladies I had romantic interest in the past but use similar words to qualify me... Omo... Such words are to make Simps to erroneously feel good and hope that the lady is happy with them and thus is genuinely interested in them romantically.

It's best to start afresh dealing with ladies who see the newer version of you, where you know the game, putting yourself first and not tolerate bullshiit. Years back, when I swallowed the pills, I deleted the contacts and stopped communicating with women who considered me humble and nice, save for a few who i work with and relevant to my hustle. With the latter, I minimized my "familiarity" with them. It saved me from a lot of time wasters, those seeking an emotional tampon, "see-finish" and beta-bucking.

Dwightventures:
The one I call 75k, dem don buy am? Na to look for what to find topic on top our people dey look for. Idleness is killing this country

nextstep:



You know the sad thing? If by mistake he gets out after 5-10 years, and returns to Naija, he may run for office, and win. He's no different from certain barons, godfathers, and siphoners.

They will turn up with Ankara at the airport to worship him and reward him with political office.

Nigerians are a weird, upside-down thinking set of people! It's crazy!

ubunja:
it's how they do it. A lot of guys here have no problem complaining about female nature day and night posting memes and articles about women's cruelty,, but the moment there's a proposal that men do something and be proactive and take concrete steps to play the game to win, for a change, suddenly you're called an agent of chaos who's endlessly immoral.

Myself I'm taking a page from the women's playbook and doing them how they do men.

Way to go... I already took my male solipsism to another level. When dealing with a woman, I act like a man but think like a woman as they do when dealing with men by putting their needs first.

A lot of gents in the red pill and those heavily stuck in the blue-pill matrix miss a lot of things about female nature. They can yell "Women are Hypergamous" all day where Hypergamy means women going for what's better but same folks get confused (especially with current complex social events) where a decent number of women are going for what they (by their judgment as men) consider lower than what the women would naturally go for. To summarize it, some women are flipping HYPERGAMY on its head, the way men know it much to their confusion.

That missing link is FEMALE SOLIPSISM which a lot of men in the red pill do not deeply touch and the confusion brings up a lot of discussions that further complicate matters. For the woman, it is all about herself first, when dealing with men from mundane stuff (that men often over-look) like attention, protection to more material stuff like dick, money etc.

It's why I tune off when men try to link parameters that men use in ranking each other (male hierarchy attributes like wealth, social status and competence) and project same in dealing with women. It's a recipe for failure in understanding women. Whether low or high in any of this male hierarchies, women deal with all, as long as it is, to her advantage. Whether the males in whatever ranking of this hierarchies get equal benefits doesn't matter much. Where the males get benefits, the women get greater benefits.

For instance, a very wealthy guy drives a luxury automobile and parks on a street. Both men and women around checks him out. For men generally, they are like "wow, I like this guy's car, I want to earn so much to be able to afford his car and his lifestyle". Women on the other hand think same but take it a notch further: "He appears rich, I want his money, influence etc, to my benefit". This is also the reason why the most feared 60 year old general commanding a legion of men who respects and are intimidated by his presence or a 50 year old mega-rich CEO, would be getting childishly manipulated by a 17 year old girl who has been groomed in the understanding of men. For poorer guys who serve a purpose beneficial to women, it is the same.

I'm all for men (regardless of their rank in male hierarchies) winning in their dealings with women whether they choose to deal with them fully or sparingly. If completely avoiding them also makes a man win, I'm all for it regardless of what society thinks.

Men can do better

ubunja:
that Tonyray is so hung up on the 30% paternity fraud rate, even myself I told him it may be lower or higher but it doesn't matter the exact exact percentage. Statistics involving the general population of a country are never 100% accurate, hell even the census itself is never 100% accurate. It's just an estimate that 30% of children are with the wrong father due to women's dishonesty. What matters is that ITS A HIGH NUMBER, not the actual number itself,, Tony missed that.

True.

No research is 100% fact and where a large population of humans are involved, not every parameter will be 100% covered.

When the paternity test issue came up last year in Nigeria, I gathered as much information on this issue as I could and found some nigerian researchers linking the rate of paternity fraud to be as much as 60%. To any man with a sane mind dedicated to the cause of men, any issue of paternity fraud with a double-digit percentage should never be taken lightly. Anyone starting to make silly issues out of this (this thread is not a debate ground for academic discussion) is not helping men here understand the reality of what they would be facing with their women in reality. Knowing the Tonyray to engage in meaningless sophistry for blue-pilled distractions, I chose not to engage him. It's pointless and wastes your time and energy hitting keyboard/keypads.

Ubunja, it is worth noting that you also won't win the war with moral champions who love to/are only contented with complaining about female solipsism or look the other way when women selfishly puts their own needs first, but rush into the thread when men are advised to put themselves as their own centre of origin.

Men have been sacrificing for the collective (society) and women for ages. Why does it get a lot of guys angry (almost into moral panic) when a man decides to put his own needs first, especially when dealing with women? Just why? Men's self-hate is on another level.

Martinez39s:
Obviously, Skepticus wasn't referring to the issue of the actual percentage of paternity fraud, or the "studies" flying around to support the percentage. Even that wasn't the main issue yesterday. Read his post again to understand what he is tackling.

@Skepticus
I would rather you don't respond because this whole thing is turning to a clown show.
=====

@Ubunja and other redpillers, I will give my contribute to this issue of paternity fraud and give my take on some posts later today or tomorrow. Have a great day redpillers.

I have no response for Tonnyray as his usual line of thought deviates from the purpose of this thread which is the RED PILL.

Concerning the issue of the accuracy of paternity fraud percentage being reported, I have no issues whether it is below 30% or above 30%. Topping in promiscuity and being ranked by some researches as the first in Africa and second in the world for paternity fraud is something worth taking note of regardless of the veracity of the research. All I know is that my awesome Nigerian Women would always prove your white-knighting excuses for them, wrong and serve you hot breakfast (regardless of your social status and financial standing) when it is necessary to bring you back to your senses. Even some online red pill content creators took note of Nigerian women being on another level, when it came to the brutal nature of women from the cries of their men. The almost overwhelming rejection and condemnation of paternity test by Nigerian women when the issue first came up last year is another testament. I didn't make this up.

Battalion1:
Bros what ubunja said is true no dey argue nonsense ABI u wan dey defend ur country?

This is not even about nationalism. Women will always shock you and render your points foolish when you try whiteknighting for them. It is generally agreed that Nigerian women would w.hore for material and economic reasons because of poverty but how do you explain similar level of whoredom/promiscuity in richer countries where government take care of women? Even the Nigerian girls I have had to deal with in my nature of work exposed so much that a lot goes beyond economic/material reasons.

Women, whether in the west or the third world will w.hore for ANY REASON. They hold the key to sex (Briffault's Law). It is blue-pilled ignorance on the part of men to keep on defending the position of women based on what the society has fed them as regards women. Women know how men reason and portray it to men, in ways that put their own desires at great advantage at the ignorance of men.

Men projecting qualities they use in relating with their fellow men like (logic, ego, morals, male hierarchical structures, direct style of communication),on women, has always been their failing with women and integrating several layers of the red pill. It's too evident on this thread.

It is funny though.

How can you expect an "incompetent-thinking", almost brain-dead electorate/populace to vote competent leaders?

Elections in Nigeria is simply a waste of time and exercise in futility

Gratefully01:
You are not really serious, why hooking up with a hooker, why can't you get a girlfriend or you should get a wife instead of risking your life for just a 5 minutes enjoyments

With the level of promiscuity rife among our girls today, I can boldly say it here that there is no different between girlfriend/wife and hookers. Girlfriend/Wives are just hookers wey "go church". Hookers are even more truthful than most girlfriends.

grop1040:
I will only quote this based on the fact that plenty people are likely saying the same thing as him doing financially better than I am. Well let me put this straight, from children of 4 from my mum, am the last born, he is the second, I have been the one off the 4 taking care and feeding my mum in the last 23 years or more, bought her a car etc. Now to tell yall, he aint financially sound at all, I cant count the number of 400k, 500k, 100k, 150k i dun dash, some of which he borrowed but never returned, to even say the recent car 2013 toyota camry is driving right now, I bought it for him from the excess of the crypto deal I had with a friend in USA, which my wife knows of. So theres nothing as such as the current situation being based on the fact that am leaving off of him.

Since you are financially successful, and you allow your narcissistic half brother and ignorant, agreeable mother get this far in manipulating you, then you must be a weak, pathetic excuse of a pussified man.

I have no apologies for using such demeaning words against you as you laid the background for this man (your half-brother) to control/dominate your wife in your presence when you never stood your ground as the leader and protector of your own family. What makes it worse for you, is that you are now shifting the blame to your wife and refusing to confront your manipulative half-brother, hiding under "I-do-what-will-make-my-mother-happy-even-if-it-negatively-affects-my-self interest-and-family" which is a hallmark of weak men termed, MOTHER-WORSHIPPERS.

All I see is your wife just blending along and secretly hoping (which is my advice to you) that you man up and stand your ground against your disrespectful half-brother, avoiding all these overfamiliarity of your wife and kids with him which has caused a lot of "SEE-FINISH". Cut that whole family crap. Any blood relation or non-blood relation who wants to see you fail or be as miserable as them is NOT FAMILY. Stop allowing selfish narcissistic people gaslight and manipulate you. Fight for your family as the man they look up to.

As it is, women are drawn to men who are dominant and manipulative (dark triad personality traits). Being weak and allowing your wife and kids access to this narcissistic man, It is only a matter of time before she gets wet, drop her panties for your brother while disrespecting you as the spineless weakling that you have proven yourself to be.

ZiiVentures:
Fvck it! Why are some men really dumb and stupid! Why are you still taking your mom's weak advice on matters concerning your own family and your life? See, if that your half brother is not feeding you, then man up and confront him. Why must you wait till the soured soup gets rotten before you can act? Anyways, your wife already sees you as a weakling and her loyalty has gone to the man that exercises power over her. That's the nature of women. They pledge allegiance to men that taunts and talks down on them. So that your half brother now controls your wife, her heart, her breasts, her pussy. While you, on the other hand, keeps listening to the weak advice of your mom - mummy's boy. In the end, your half brother will fvck your wife's pussy to stupur, get her pregnant and you'll raise someone else's child. And when you find out? Mom will always be there to be there to beg you. Get out joor. Idiot mumu man.

grop1040 listen to this if you have sense

Guyman01:
If you want to know more about JEALOUSY in relationships just look at LGBTQ gay community.
Many women are bisexual and this hurts the ego of their lesbian partners who don't do both genders and they are ready to kill their lesbian friend and the man sharing their partners.

This stabbed man's wife is bisexual while this murderer is a full time lesbian and unfortunately he didn't know what he got himself into by marrying that woman until he "unfortunately" caught them in the act of eating and sucking their pussies

Agreeing with Mandrake007, Nigerian men are really ignorant of how wild the Nigerian women they deal with, have become, over the years as women have become more emancipated and society, become sexually liberal.

In the so-called "modern marriages", they don't know that these women see them as only useful slaves for their own survival.

If you had told this man (Okechukwu Onuma) that his wife was cheating on him, he would fight you and console himself that he makes money. Meanwhile, he doesn't know that he is the intruder in the "serious" lesbian relationship of the whôre he married.

Keep it coming, Dizzyyish.

I've always loved your deep, insightful knowledge on the Red Pill. They are refreshing and helps one to remain "focused".

Much respect!

CaveAdullam:
Calibrator, Jessepaid, Junnior, Sajmark, Reminderz, Hedgefunds, TRP1, hope you guys are fine.

Uncle skepticus, you have been hovering above us. When will you land? Lol.

Stay well.

I'll land when necessary. I appreciate the love.

goggle48:
Reward for passion

The irony

More like: "Reward for Foolishness"

heartofcity12:
Oh really.. Some men are still ready to save these hoes despite all the awareness out there today, this shouldn’t even be a question if you ask me but I understand that it’s fair to allow ppl ask questions about what isn’t clear to them or what they have no knowledge about. I hope he gets the advice he needs and put it to good use.

That's the alternate moniker of the clown King0G who once said that paying for prostitutes is the Red Pill. At that time, I started doubting his mental sanity.

I'm not surprised that he has set his own bar so low. Damaged women are for folks like him.

armyofone:
Like seriously eh - sex - human beings are just craxy about it.

The rich man and sex -
The poor man and sex -
The in between man and sex -

Believe it or not, all road leads to sex.

JESHAL:
Do well to always remember this
Men lower and compromise on their standards even if it doesn't benefit them due to sexual scarcity and one-titis especially if they have feelings for the lady or are moved by her beauty, women are wiser than that and would never be that foolish even if they like a guy they priotize their security long term above all else especially in a poverty ridden society, Most poor girls end up as single moms for criminals and are forced into prostitution to survive or better still they have bad boy phase in their prime years with big boys, players, married men, rich men, yahoo boys and when almost 30+ or it already they become more serious with their lives priotizing beta bucks with stable good men especially the traditionally conservative Christian brothers who serve as their long term retirement plans



Let your heart be cold as ice
Don't fall for the scam of love, most women are hoes, not just that they are heavily materialistic, mannerless, infact as a redpill aware man your only issue should be how to control your libido, you should have left hopes for hopeless Romanticism for these leeches that aren't worth it and try as much as possible to control your Innate protective instincts for women so that you won't be preyed upon by them


A word they say is enough for the wise

This is the main reason why more than 90% of the red pill will be tied to men's relationship with women, understanding of women's nature and how he should place his himself in a vantage position where he is considered a disposable slave. The rest, like self improvement etc are tied to what most men logically understand. Dealing with women, they often lose that logic and become miserable pusssies. Daily dosages of the red pill keeps one's awareness in a blue pilled world, intact.

alabo1:
Of course but it is not a must to be married. He can have relationships. Marriage can be hell. Trust me I am in the process of finalising mine and nothing will make me enter that path again

Go MGTOW!

Pukkalolo:
I'm responding to the tweet you posted that says,
"Worse thing to do with a girl?
Tell her how much you like her.
Women dig men whose feelings are unclear."

Lolz...In my opinion, I don't totally agree with that statement.

Here's why:

Ok...Yes, sometimes women dig men whose feelings are unclear, but sadly, Men sometimes also dig women whose feelings are unclear.

And that is the beginning of the problem .


Firstly, as a guy when you're not being clear about feelings and interest in a lady, you're playing games. Girls are expert at manipulation and mind games. The female gender are professionals when it comes to making their feelings unclear. You can't win women in that game because right from their little age, they've been trained to hide their feelings and always pretend.


The best way to win the game with women is to actually leave the game.

Infact, from my experience, women love operating in ambiguity, vagueness and unclearness. That's their main source of power when it comes to manipulating and exploting men.

Girls love it when you to make your feelings unclear, not because it makes make you more attractive but because it makes it easy for her to manipulate you.

After reading that tweet post you posted, I asked a lady who was with me...I asked her whether she prefer a guy who makes his feelings clear or the guy who's unclear about feelings. She said she prefers a guy who makes his feelings unclear. Wow!

I asked her "why"

She said, "when the guy makes his feeling clear, it will spoil the vibe."

I asked her, "What vibe?"

She said, " once a guy makes his feelings and interest clear, I might be forced to either reject him or accept him..."

I said, "isn't that a good thing...is it not good you reject a guy that you don't like so he'll stop disturbing you?"

Her next response exposed her intentions.

She said, "if I reject him and he leaves me alone, I'll not benefits anything from him."

I was curious, I ask "what do you mean by you'll not benefits anything from him ?"

She said, "you are acting like you don't know that there are so many benefits of being just friends with a man?"

Our conversation on that topic continued for over an hour..but I'll stop here for now.

I respect this lady alot because she's actually one of the fewest sincere lady I've ever met.

Her point is, ladies benefits alot of things from being friends with a guy; things like money, employment offer, expensive date, free lunch, free tickets, free attention and so on

When this girl said "when the guy makes his feeling clear, it might spoil the vibe," what she meant is that it might spoil her opportunity to manipulate and exploit him.

This is why most times when a guy meet a lady he likes and then he makes his feeling clear, she might give him unclear and ambitious response like

"I need to take my time..."

or

"I don't want to jump into any thing yet, let's take things slow"

Or

"I'll think about it"

or worse

"let just be friends for now."


Sadly, Men fall for those lines all the time. Basically, she's not saying YES or NO. She's giving him a Maybe(unclear) response. Ladies needs to give you this unclear response so you that you can continue chasing her, so she can exploit you. And more importantly, that's why she prefer you don't make your feelings clear.



The statement "Women dig men whose feelings are unclear," is not totally correct, at least from my experience. That's because most girls who I ended up dating, I actually made my feelings clear to them. Infact the current girl I'm with, if I had not tell her I like her and made my feelings clear ASAP I would have lost her to someone else.

But again, some guys might argue against that. They'll say, "when you make your feelings clear, you've giving her power; because now she knows you like her, she'll start giving you attitude"


Note: When I say make your feelings clear, I don't mean telling her things like, "I love you... I'm in love with you... I can't stop thinking of you...." Or any other bullshit. That's not making your feelings clear; that's making your neediness and stupidity clear.


The truth is, Women DON'T dig men whose feelings are unclear, what women actually dig is, men who they can't easily manipulate and wrap around their fingers.

Making your feelings clear is not giving her power; you only give her power when you start acting like a simp.

When I'm interacting with a lady I admire, often make my feelings and interest very clear in a very confident and detached manner. If she's resisting me or playing hard to get, I'd never start being too persistent; i'd never start trying to convince her to accept me. When I see that she's not giving me the feedback I want, I'm very quick to move on. No time. I've low tolerance for ladies who don't fancy me.

It is foolishness to wast time, effort and money chasing after a woman that's giving you hard time. Anytime you're being too persistent and chasing after a girl that's giving you hard time, you are only disrespecting yourself and also disgracing yourself.




Let me give a real life example making your feelings clear in a more detached and confident way:

About last month or so, a guy who knows about me, messaged me and told me about a lady he's close to. he likes her so much, but he said he doesn't know where he stands with her. He said sometimes she act hot today, then act cold towards him tomorrow. She's pratically playing games with him. She has all the power.

This guy told me he made is feeling for her unclear and he never tell her how much he likes her, but despite that she's not still digging him. Infact he's the one digging her badly.

He ask me what to do about the situation. I told him to stop playing games and that he actually has to make his feelings clear, but in a more detached and confident way.

I told him to tell her something as simple as this:
"[insert her name], I have no interest in being your next platonic friend...if you don't have any interest in me romantically, then I'll fucking leave you alone."


When he told her that through WhatsApp, he showed me her response.

Her response was, "Wow! I don't know what to say right right"

He asked me what to say next... I told him not to reply her anymore. He left her chat that way.

About a week later, she messaged him again. Saying "Hello", But he ignored her message again. She messaged him again. He ignored her again as I advised. Remember, Most ladies can't stand being ignored. They'll feel like they've lost.
She finally called him on the phone. She ask him why he's ignoring her chat...and all... He stayed in control; no simping.

I won't go into much detail...but to cut the story short, this guy now as the power now. If you know what I mean.


In my experience, when you meet a girl, and you're intentionally trying to make your feelings unclear so she can like you more, you are only hurting your chance with her in the long run. Although, initially, it might seem like she's digging you, but somehow somehow, you'll eventually lose her.

But, the more boldy you make your feelings clear and not give a shit about her reaction, you'll be flooded with more romantic opportunities in the long run. Although, initially, it might seem like you're losing out, but somehow somehow, you'll eventually win.

This is just my experience.
Sometimes, you’d be surprised how a girl will respond with attraction and respect when you make you feelings clear in a confident and detached manner. But the biggest mental hurdle for many guys is the ability to handle that initial "negative/undesirable response" they get from girls when they make their feelings clear. As a guy, it's very important, you develop an I-don't-give-a-shit attitude towards how a woman respond to you.

Like I said, women actually dig a guy who they can't easily manipulate and wrap around their fingers --- and that's a guy who doesn't truly gives a shit

The truth is, when you develop an I-don't-give-a-shit attitude towards how a girl respond to you, you won't be scared of making your feelings clear.



Stay blessed brothers.

You do have a point but I don't know if it is just me alone who feels a little "cringey" about your repeated use of "man and his feelings" in the same line.

In my opinion, the word "feelings" in popular language/culture screams "EMOTION" which is usually a recipe for betaness and disaster for a man, when dealing with women. There are better words for it. EMOTIONS/FEELINGS should be left for women. I'll prefer "intentions" as most men just want to fûck or commit.