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E don happen after destroying everything in this country, they still want to sale the carcass and run away with the money, they even ready to sell them at a giveaway price......!!

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Chii59:
Before marriage, a man's first duty is to his family, but once he's married, his first duty is to his wife, then his parents and siblings. God knows how hard you men find LEAVING and CLEAVING that's why Jesus emphasised "For this cause shall a MAN leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife" Mark 10:9

The lady in question, the brother's wife went to the extreme, true, but then the man's brother didn't honour the woman of the house.
And everyone knows a woman's office is the kitchen.
Hence he knew she doesn't like him, nor him, her, why then did he enter her kitchen (which is hers by right of marriage) to cook without obtaining her permission?

By virtue of marriage, the house is hers, the kitchen is hers and the food is hers, because "the two shall become one"
If you're married and yet you don't see your wife as a co-owner, a partner in that home, that's not the Biblical way.

"we struggled together" yes it can be quite painful but IT IS WHAT IT IS.
We don't know the woman's story, if she struggled or not before getting married, but we know that a woman, upon getting married, leaves her family, changes her father's name and adopts the man's.

Look, op, this is God's way. You can choose to obey or not, but if you don't, prepare for a peace less home.

you are missing something, two becomes one is only applicable to those from the husband's family

LadySarah:
When I read the thread I SMH and moved on, no comment. I have experienced that just bcoz I slept over at my bros house on emergency after arriving the city late cos of traffic.The wife was talking rubbish that I came without informing them.This is someone that has had holidays in my home for up-to a week. I left and went for the conference I came for.Almost all her 5 siblings have lived there at one point orthe other and the day I was leaving the sister brought 3 of her kids for hols. l learnt they stayed for a month .Imagine if it was from the husbands side.

more than a year now, my legs hasn't neared it.I have my own home which gives me peace. I'm still the one who invites my own in-laws.last yr she was talking about hols and I shut her up.Let her stay in her house let me stay on my own.

Useless things are what we bother about; my kitchen,my this and that.Nobody knows 2moro.There should have been other ways to settle the issue other than throwing him out unless he is challenging her.

I can imagine the embarrassment...I have been in that scenario before when I travelled Enugu but my own case was that I already made arrangements to sleep in a hotel....I only wanted to visit my Uncle's wife so I can give her children the goodies I bought for them,but to my greatest surprise this woman kept on telling me stories of how they went to church since 10am I said no probs, I would check back later, when I was done with what brought me to abakpa, I called her, she said they are still at the church and the program is ending soon (that kinda silent church) Then I noticed it was a game and decided to play along just for fun, At 7pm...I stopped by her gate, it wasn't locked, I called her again, this time around she said the program ain't ending soon that they are likely to sleep over but I picked the feint voice of her most stubborn son at the background saying "but mummy we didn't go to any church naw" My only annoyance was that this was someone I gave a week notice before my visit, someone I normally gist with in the villa during the yuletide period, I was very fund of her son's, one was even my namesake, she deprived me of seeing them, perhaps she thought I was coming over to stay or what, me that cherish my privacy....The last time we met at the villa, I shun her like bad habit, I don't promote nonsensical behaviour

ImaIma1:
I am married and I don't have inlaws or my family staying with us. And when my inlaws come around, they ask when they need something. They won't just do anything because it's their brother's house.

My people tend to understand that aspect of marriage. Because even when we visit our brother's house, we all act like we are at the mercy of his wife. She's the one that now tells us to stop behaving like visitors and enter the kitchen and help ourselves.

When there's mutual respect for each other's place in the family, there will be peace and not competition.

This I perfectly understood, but in this case, OP was staying with his bro in a very comfortable house before they married that lady, and now her agenda is to create enemity between both brothers for reasons best known to her, if the young man doesn't have anywhere else to stay, do you expect him to sleep on the streets when his brothers home is enough to go round?? or you think he doesn't have plans of having his own house and Family?? make una dey calm down oO.... because "uwa ne me ntuwari"

Godoverevery:
That was why I open this thread..... some men are just sissy this days.....how will my own blood be an intruder in my house.

My siblings that can stake anything for me.....I can't choose my wife over my family and I can't choose my family over my wife period.

I can only choose my children above them.

Gbamsolutely.....

BlackfireX:
Let us bare with buhari , he knows what he is doing, just small pain we will be OK ..




Our Darling president, is an icon
We the youth are solidly behind you

Bros.....no-go dey piss me off oO

Buhari.....we thank you ooO

Special shout out to all those that fought tooth and nail just to install this present menace as our President,

Quick Reminder : Buhari is the minister of Petroleum and it's my pleasure to inform you all that "Body go tell everybody"

Bros thank you very much.... I was so upset when I saw that thread, especially when my fellow guys, sorry "Ladies with preeq" disguising as my fellow gender commenting rubbish because they got married....One even said his own brother is now an intruder in his house...like WTF!!

Most Men useless this days oO....

I wonder the criterion for ranking of country, how could Belgium be ahead of World Cup winners France.... anyways just like Jon snow I know nothing...

kingofchess:
I Am Planning To Marry A Lady And This Happened. Pls Help

I am in my early 30 and I have been dating this lady for a year now and we are planning to settle down together and this happened.

There is this 11 months old baby in my compound who is very close to me and she just started walking. The very first time she saw my girl, she was soo scared and started crawling very fast towards her mum and crying. I quickly ran after her and carried her back to where my girl was sitting down, this time, the crying and running became very intense, I was shocked and I asked why the baby was so scared of her and she said she doesn't know.

Two days later, she came to my place and immediately this baby saw her she was scared and crying that was when I jokily asked her if she is a witch and she got angry and left my house. After she left, a lot of questions started running through my mind: like, is she a witch? Does she has a marine spirit? What did that little girl saw in her? In fact a lot of questions. She later called that same night and was like; baby, I am not possess ooh, I should not allow this little baby come between us ooh and that she loves me very much.

To cut the story short, less than two weeks later, the baby DIED. I was so scared if the baby actually saw something in her and she decided to shut the baby up ( I don't know, just an assumption).

Ever since then, I have been scared of my girl and I really don't know what to do. Please, I need your candid advice. Please guys, how can i make the moderators move this post to front page.

The baby died isn't something to joke with.... Ascertain the cause of the baby's death, that would help.....!!

And for those saying dark powers doesn't exist, I simply laugh at their ignorance....!! well you all are free to believe what ever you want, come lemme take you to a certain Village, so you can walk around there at 12-1am at night, then come back and share your experience for me.....

Angelacruz:
Pls your girl friend is very okay.There is wat we called stranger anxiety during infancy.The infant is not used to seeing her face and there is no close attachment between ur gal frd n d infant.Pls read on "Stranger anxiety during infancy stage"before you call somebori's beautiful daughter a witch or mermaid.

And how many babies running away from strangers died....Oga this is marriage issue, if the cause of death of that innocent baby is not genuine, then I think something is fishy here.....!!

Veezy4u:
he's there to take them to the next level clueless sarri came n left. Imagine inexperienced pirlo telling cr7 do like this do like that n ronaldo will be like go tell dia morata I'm a big boy

Angelfrost:
United losing that title has absolutely nothing to do with Guardiola or City...

Na Olé and him boys decide to become unfortunate. What were they thinking dropping points against Sheffield, West Brom, or losing a 2 goal lead against Everton?!!!...

wait oO, was United planning on winning the EPL this year??

Kapilta:
Juve before penaldo. Final 2015 against Barca, another final in 2017 against Madrid. After signing the fraud. Dropped by Ajax and then Lyon and now Porto. Juve is progressing with the king of dubai d'or.

Fantachapman:
The girl I am engaged to and want to marry told me today that i love her more than she loves me. What does this mean?

There was something we were discussing and I told her there are several things that she does that makes me doubt if she truly loves me. She then replied saying, she loved her ex more than he loved her, and so she decided to not love anyone more than she loves them. That as for me, I love her more than she loves me, that’s why I sometimes thinks she doesn’t love me.

I told her this is not something you tell someone you want to marry and she said I am taking it too far.

Please am I making a mistake to want to marry her? Does she love me? Or am I taking her statement too far like she said?

Una questions dey off me sometimes now you want validations from NL whether your wife to be loved you or not ehh God!!

You will surely find out after marriage

Pedrocross4568:
For your sake, I hope your wife was not aware you went and run a DNA test on your kids?

Because if she does, now that it came out she didn't cheats on you. you have just given her enough reason to believe that you don't trust her and now she's free to do anything she wants to do

May God help you my brother for whatever she wishes to do to you for ever doubting her.

Congrats all the same man

she will do nothing bro....I wonder why so many men are afraid of their wives, taaaah, she can't do anything even if she finds out

Mysticwebb:
So these people can sound respectful? Why is their response in the SW disrespectful and grossly insulting?
Maybe adopting the SE method of aggression is the best for these people.

Na see finish dey cause am naw..... Me I know we are ever ready whenever and however they wants it!!

One4me:
Imagine! Some Men of this Indomie generation ehn...
SIMP is an understatement.

Guy...I just weak for some men I swear!! But their wife will habour her entire generation in the man's house and the mumu men would even be paying their bills and encouraging their laziness...But once it comes to his own blood, they are now intruders

We honestly need to collect preeqs from some men and give them pvssy....

Hotbutt:
Good evening. Please I need information on how to get some Yahoo Boys living opposite me Arrested.

I live in a close. My house is inside another close. In fact it's a close inside a close. You won't even know people live there becos the close is kinda hidden.

These boys are a complete nuisance since they moved into the area. They have no respect for those living around.

They are always packing their Cars infront of my gate purposely to block me from coming out of my house.
They make a hell of Noise.
They behave like complete Touts and Agberos. You can't even have a reasonable conversation with them. (So nobody should suggest that)
All they know is how to on generator from morning till night.
They live in a Flat where they pay about N400k and above.
The Landlord doesn't live there.
When they throw party, it is the worst. They will block the entire frontage with their numerous cars leaving no place to pass.

In fact they are a complete nuisance. I dislike them with passion.

I mind my business in the area 100%. If i look at u and u dont look reasonable or behave well, I avoid u.

If they can mind their own business without infringing on other people's right, we won't have a problem at all.

I want to end it all once and for all becos they think I can't do anything but I want to show them that my silence is not stupidity.

I need help on inviting the Law into this matter. If possible EFCC.

Thank you.

I will advice you to continue minding your business, because when you get them arrested,they will surely come out and our yeye police will give you out, and that will be the beginning of your problems, you might even get killed.... always let the sleeping Dog lie!! e get why

SEGLIZ:
there more to this, the op should tell us the truth, the op should come out straight.
this isn't the first time, beside you are becoming a thorn to that union. the day she got married to you bro that home became her territory, so she reserve every right to protect and defend her territory from intruder.
go drop your entitlement mentality, you have no right in that home. that you laboured with your bro is a wrong statement (if at you did, she is here to reap from your effort or from your labour) all the while you were helping your bro, you were preparing the ground for her.
the better you start thinking about how build your own Empire than wrestling someone else's from her.
please let her enjoy her marriage in peace.

So your brother is now an intruder because you got married Nigerian men are so wonderful....

pocohantas:
Take him in na. Let him squat with you, abi this una solidarity end for here?

You saw the woman’s siblings dishing food, but you refused to see them HAPPILY washing her car and running errands for her. Which I am sure if she sends you, you will open your mouth waaaaa and say she wants to turn you to houseboy. Wives family come to serve, husbands family come to be served, because it is “MY BROTHER’S HOUSE”.

Newsflash: your brother is not the one keeping the home running. Yes, he drops cash, but he can’t turn that cash to comfort. So, you all must learn to submit to the person that makes the house conducive for in-laws and visitors. Know this and know peace.




Yawns! Same old boring and stale rhetorics. You guys can do better in 2021. Eish!!!

well you are a lady and I don't expect you to understand because I know you won't even understand...But no lady born of any woman can try such with my bro...

So my brother should sleep in the street because I got married, God4bid oO!!

pocohantas:
Any Nigerian in-law that makes these two statements;

1: Calling a family house “MY BROTHER’S HOUSE”

2: Telling you how they suffered with their brother before you came in...

Is most likely a very troublesome, disrespectful, entitled, egoistic, irrational, unmanageable and petty in-law.

OP used those two statements with so much effrontery. Tells a lot about him. Anyone supporting you should take you in and you try that nonsense with their wives, let’s see how many days you last there.

Make no mistakes, the problem is not the pot or the kitchen, that was just a trap and you fell into it. After all, she knew you wouldn’t come into her room or try to touch her butt. So, she waited for you in the kitchen.

After taking tramadol with your U-27 friends, you come home and start rubbing shoulders with her. You must be sick in the head.

Submit to your brother’s wife and control that your sharp mouth.

sometimes I laugh hard when I see post like this?? do you know how the family was brought up?? do you know the struggle they both went through to develop themselves financially?? do you know the bond shared between the brothers?? all of a sudden, one woman from no where will just come to assume position and start reaping where she didn't sow all in the name of marriage!! I'm very sure this same woman was very nice to OP before marriage, and I'm very sure she knows OP is cohabiting with his brother before/after marriage, and I'm very sure the house is big enough to accommodate them without problems, but trust some women, always striving hard to create enemity between 2 loving brothers.... sometimes I just wished I can switch position with some people just to handle their situation for the time being, women like this go get sense by force

freetheking:
I'm so sorry that she throw your belongings out of the house of which I know it's not good. Secondly,you did not behave well by going to her pot without her concent. Let me tell you this and every other person reading thread, there are two things that women don't tolerate.

(1) Going to her pot without her concent.

(2) Interfering in the matter that concerns her and her husband.
You will be a good brother in-law or sister in-law.

which pot?? didn't you read where OP said he went to the kitchen cooked and served his friend, you all should stop acting funny here, Women are becoming too stupid this days once they get married and it's quite unfortunate people are tolerating there toxic behaviour....

Kelvin3476:
I betted for BARCELONA ALREADY. IF PSG WIN TODAY OR PLAYS DRAW MAKE I BATH NAKED.

oya ooO....where is the venue??

omojesu202:
you should be good in predicting Barça matches.

Lol....I saw it coming, Barca is trash now, the total squad needs overhauling, I just couldn't bet against my team

Srillanka:
The man that killed our best president

best president indeed, that was the story they sold to you....

majamajic:
Come Lekki u will see alot of them
I mistakenly enter one , the point at the price list board , I told him let me repark my car that am coming

5 times a month....No wonder the hair don chop finish, carving is now done at the centre of the head

Omo so na today we go collect.....

EsomahJD:
See I've researched alot.

Wherever in the world you see anyone speaking ill of the ibos of nigeria, the only name/ tribe that will second it will be of yoruba.

Am just stating the fact here

it's obvious, we know them very well....Funny thing is that we know the Yorubas don't like the Igbos, instead of the Igbo to have it, it should go to the bin, reason they sided with the Fulani masters to position Nigeria to the current state we are now....

I keep telling them without mincing words, you see that their Lagos (aka our small London) as long as the FG has refused to restructure the country or let the Igbos go, we will keep flooding there "na tu gbata containers" make e dey pain them well well.....

Vardanes2:
Yes I do, and yes, it does not necessarily make me happy saying it.




Well, the reason why I talk like this is that you will then later on complain about why Nigerian universites are not like South African universites...and demand that we spend $3 billion to do what $25 billion does, meaning we have to either take loans meet up and go into mroe debt.

If you don't want increase in school fees, then stop complaining about how bad our universites are. This is what we can afford...and stopping looting in the campus and by government wont change much.

And you think the problem lies in the hands of increasing fees just to meet up the standard of other countries?? No bro, this countries is so miles away, why won't they borrow when recurrent expenditure is greater than capital expenditure on yearly basis, yet their is enough mineral resources to develop the country without looking elsewhere, In a nation where about 500billions are paid to senators for hardship allowance, over 250billions for Presidential feeding and political loitering/junketing round the world, where billions of naira are allocated for renovations while the entire educational sector is been given a meagre of 96 billion....high fees doesn't automatically translate to quality education, the whole system must be overhauled if we should expect something tangible in Nigeria, in fact students should be refunded back their money because I think they are been over-charged and exploited due to the substandard quality of education they received.....