₦airaland Forum

Benita27:
Do we need to applaud them for meeting up to international standard?.

This is how it's meant to be, please.

mexxmoney:
They are not the same o, at least in the eyes of northern Muslims. Trust me, I grew up in the north. Whenever religious crises set, them no dey spare Yoruba Muslim o. They count them as infidel(Arne or kafir). Yoruba Muslims dey come take refuge for Christian dominated areas if e start.

GreatSE:
As usual Yoruba Muslim defending their master, but you don't know that Fulani-Hausa Muslims see you as infidels just like they see Christians.

Amebo1:
Long hour of sitting in a confined position leads to stasis of blood in the leg and eventually clot together (especially in people at risk e.g previous small pulmonary embolism, endothelial injury). Immediately they come down from the flight, the clotted blood get dislodge and travel to the lung where it block the pulmonary artery. As a result of this, blood cannot get to the lung for oxygenation.

Amebo1:
This is so sad.
Most likely a case of Massive Pulmonary Embolism from Deep Venous Thrombosis due to long hours of sitting in a fixed position on the flight

fineboynl:
do you know if he swallow cokes? or he was cursed to die anytime he step foot on 9ja

glossy6:
these days 13 year olds write SSCE

Papiikush:
At least can't we see a picture of him writing the letter?

Why is our president holding us at ransom? Is he trying to sabotage the presidency?! I think buhari is dead but they are only trying to keep this as a secret for now.

Harrisee:
Anyway, after reconsideration, I would say that you try to rehabilitate your wife since you knew she was like that before getting married. You guys should deal with your problems. Bring her to Jesus Christ and keep praying for her. Perhaps she might change. Maybe God has put you in her life to help her.
#much peace

Thanks bro. I'm praying hard on this. May God see us through this. Thanks again.



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Maduawuchukwu:
The last thing that should be on your mind is reuniting with your wife. Maintain that distance because if u guys come back you are merely resuming your issues. The same issues that caused her stealing from you are still there and someone is talking of reuniting. This is no fairytale movie where all ends well. This is reality man.

Maduawuchukwu:
Has your wife apologised for her past behaviour or shown that she is sorry? Is Alimony threats the way a woman who wants to turn a new life behaves?
How sure are you that her parents won't interfere unnecessarily in ur home again?
These are the questions that should be on determine whether you guys will reunite on not and not all the bull that fortune teller is telling you. Are u reuniting to begin same suffering again? Is that what family life is all about?
Also ignore any advice coming from that fortune teller female. She has justified your wife's parents behaviour, she has justified your wife's troubling insecurities, she even justifies her violent habits. She is clearly not fit to advise you as she does not care for your own probs. Living with a woman with massive insecurities is very dangerous: See what happened to that Ibadan man who was killed by his wife because she was jealous of the man's baby mama. Mind you, the guy was always calm and going back to his wife like you.

FortuneTeller:
I get like that as well. I really think it's insecurity. Well I don't know if it will work on your wife, but don't talk to her every day. Talk to your kids and when she wants to to talk, keep it very short and say you have to go. The minute she starts arguing with you, say goodbye and hang up immediately. She's going to shout and try to keep you from talking to your kids for a few days, but hold tight and wait. The reason I know this works is because whenever my husband is away and he stops calling me, I get chest pain. The next thing you know, I'm calling him and being nice. I don't like him being quiet because I don't know what he is thinking. Is he upset with me? Is he tired of my craziness? Does he have someone else? All kinds of thoughts run through my head. So when he stops talking to me, I calm down and relax my mind. The worse thing you can do when you visit her, is to argue with. I'm telling you all the arguing just winds us up for more arguing. The best thing you can do is sit there quietly while she carries on and wait for her to finish. At that point, tell her you love her, you love your children and you want her to come home. Tell her But if she doesn't want to come home, let you know before you to back to Atlanta. Take her out to eat and right before you leave, drop her a stack of money. When you get back to Atlanta, do not answer your phone for a few days. Trust me. She is going to blow up your phone and text you to come and get her and the kids.

FortuneTeller:
I'm frowning at you. But seriously your wife and I are too much alike. Remember we can't help acting crazy. It's just the way we are.

FortuneTeller:
Don't let these devils run you away from your wife and kids. They don't have half of the things you have and are trying to give you advice. You know your situation better than anyone else, but don't be a fool and lose your family over some people who likely haven't worked in years and live in a self contained room. Many of them are teens and in their 20's. They have never lived the life you have and likely never will. It's good that you have protected yourself, but also think of your children. Your wife wants to come home. Please let her come and stop this foolishness. You never know. I could be in the house with your wife right now, eating Oreos, trying to appeal on her behalf.

Daboomb:
If you notice, l respond to any post on this issue, serially, top one first.
So, l just saw the above now...(and even other ones posted after it).

First, please stop using the word "brawl" in this context! A brawl is a FIGHT. Period.
Maybe you had a "heated argument" with the guy (though, that you went as far as drawing your weapon, makes it more than just a brawl! What would you have done if he did not pipe down? Your guess is as good as mine).

Any married woman that sleeps around or with another man apart from her husband is a hoe. Straight and simple.
Any married man that sleeps around or sleeps with another woman apart from his wife is a "male hoe".
Let is dispense the necessities and call a spade, a spade!

(but l actually was not referring to your wife, in my post, as the hoe). I guess you are getting overly defensive now
Read the post again.

I also notice that you are making loads of "excuses" for your wife's actions.
That is also typical but it is a "nice thing" to do. So 'Macho'!
I think at this stage, from what you wrote, l will place my bet on you taking her back.
I will also place my bet that if you will be honest with yourself in the future (you dont need to confess), you will regret that action, when the time comes.

Men are different.
Some are made of steel, others of bronze and others of wood. Some school of thought even say some are made of tissue paper!

I read you are planning a cruise with her also.
The vibe l get in all these is that you are desperate to 'make up', which is good in one sense but could also be bad in so many others.

That being the case, one must never cry more than the bereaved.
Whatever l have written before now, is meant for those "whose die are cast"... as in 'no going back'!
So, please IGNORE them, they have become irrelevant

I wish you goodluck, going forward.

Daboomb:
Al'right Sir.
Forgive my wrong assumptions.
just trying to look out for a 'brother'

Daboomb:
Man, you really did set-up yourself for all your woes!
In a family business with the same people who have a very low opinion of you from the onset?
Allowing the same people who encourages your wife to rat on you, to know about your finances?

If we look closely, l am sure you have no "close relationship" with your siblings or parents, if you still have them?
It is obvious they succeeded in "isolating you", right? Now, they are going-in for the kill

You need to be very careful, over this kind of "boastful statement".
Let me give you a heads-up here: Alimony and Child support has NOTHING to do with TAKING CARE of your ex-wife and children.
It is DESIGNED (mostly by women and some sissy men) to put you into PENURY and eventually, make life not worth living for you, so you can consider the option of suicide or other forms of self-immolation!
Go and ask experienced family-lawyers (Try engage a female family Lawyer that is not a man-hater, those ones will tell you the truth of the whole show)
If you keep boasting about how much you can earn (and dont tidy up your finances in such a way that you can still survive afterwards), l tell you that when the Judge finally gives a judgement, you will open your mouth and not be able to close it!

Just imagine if they ask you to be giving her like 90% of your total income?
You have to be stinkingly rich, to be able to survive on the remaining 10%...and you will have to work your self to death to keep it up.
Remember that even if you work-more, so you can earn more, she will just go back to the courts and ask for even more...and she will get it.

Right now, you need to start divesting your investments (if its not too late sef! ), making sure you have enough money aside where no one knows or can reach it.
Come to Nigeria and buy a house and let the proceeds be paid into an account you have here.
Invest joint business with trustworthy friends and be the "silent partner".
Do everything to make provisions for yourself because the courts will really phuck you up.

Remember that they can only take (from you), what they can find!
if they ask you to pay more than you have shown you have or that they have PROVED that you have, you have the right to keep appealing the judgement.
Remember that you will also lose a large chunk of your income, paying legal fees.

Anyway, l dont know you and you dont know me but l am 100% certain that you will remember these words spoken by a stranger.

That girl is just trying to psych you up for her own kind (your wife), most women have an "unspoken loyalty" to their kind.
She hs gone from blaming you for your wife's cheating, blaming you for the break-up of the marriage, saying her parents were right portraying you as a kidnapper, asking you to take her back and even using your children to pressure you into doing so:

Ask yourself: WHY is she saying all these?
Then, answer yourself.`

My prayers are with you, when they finally "finished" with you.

Daboomb:
I really give a lot of Credit to you guys who marry white women but then, l realised that "Women are just Women, irrespective of their colour, just that it becomes really, really bad, when 'racism' gets added to the problem".

Your in-laws already poisoned your relationship from day one so it will just take a little "sweet-talking" from family or friends, for that marriage to breakdown....and it did.
African-American women are even worse, one just got sentenced for killing her husband who did everything for her, including becoming her errand boy that goes to Mc Donald to buy burger for her. He just bought a house for both of them.
The guy was a Fire-fighter and she murdered him just so she can lay her hands on his $100,000 life insurance

Daboomb:
While l cant judge on what really happened between you and your wife (and you deleting that original post, makes it look like you are trying to hide something!), l am sure most intelligent beings know that Nigerian women cheat a lot on their husbands, first with a Co-worker (it starts as flirting and attention ) and then maybe a neighbour.
They dont even know to do it far away from anything connected to them! Dumb phucks!

Ofc, if you caught her cheating and went as far as having a brawl with the guy (l detest guys that fight with their wife's lover, though l understand that they think they are trying to save their marriage but they should know that by the time it gets to that stage, the marriage is already dead and buried!
The problem is not the guy phucking her, he just saw a free punanny and he is shagging it; the problem is your wife who decided of her own freewill, to get open her legs and get shagged by every dick available in town, that is who you should direct your anger at because afterall, she will still go to court to divorce you and even want to claim half of what you own! Its that bad), the marriage is already ended.

FortuneTeller:
You know I'm going to fight you until I win you over, because my family is very mixed up with this American/Nigerian dynamic. I don't want to say too much because I know my hubby follows my posts. Why he hasn't said anything to me about some of the posts I make on here, is because he knows have a crazy spirit. You have to realize that your wife is very childlike and spoiled due to her parents. It's already been proven that she was there when the money as coming and ran when the money got low. I'm very much like your wife and talk too much about what goes on in my household. I make rash decisions when I'm angry and expect my husband to forgive me, even when I do something wrong. When other people start talking about what they have and what they would do if they were me, it makes me insecure. I have to get by myself to really see what is happening.

Your wife is going through the same thing. She is with her parents and realizes she doesn't want to lose her family. She's seeing all the baby mamas and old people from her neighborhood who are struggling and she wants to come home. Her pride won't let her apologize, so she is threatening you with money. If you divorce her, she is going to go into depression. I say all kinds of crazy things to my husband, run him out of the house, get mad if there is something he can't give me, but then eventually I come to my senses when I'm alone. He has learned how to ignore me and keep moving on with life. He either laughs or completely ignores me. It's made life a lot easier for the both of us.

My advice is to go to Michigan and collect your wife and children. She really just wants you to come running back for her, so she doesn't feel ashamed. Plan a nice family trip after she returns and things will go back to a fairly normal place. Don't abandon your children with your crazy wife. They need you.

FortuneTeller:
What she did is not unusual in the US. It also happened to my relative. However I thought you said she wanted to come back. If she wants to come back, then let her. I know your kids are missing you terribly. This may sound terrible, but if your wife loves money, just lure her back with that. Otherwise you may end up paying alimony and child support. Either way you will have to pay her and you won't even have the benefit of seeing your children regularly. What will you really get with another woman? It will just be the same wahala.

FortuneTeller:
Sir I'm not even that far from you. All I will say is that I don't see any fault in what her family said to you. Really you should just admit your faults, straighten up and go back to you wife. That is my opinion.

FortuneTeller:
DISGUSTING!!! I should have known you were in Atlanta. It's just a Sodom and Gomorrah in the black community. I hope you haven't been infected by all those gay men there.

FortuneTeller:
I cannot say who gave it to who, because it's possible the woman you were CHEATING with got treated and never told you. The point is that you came to the thread trying to make it seem as if your wife was an awful person and you were innocent. You're not innocent. You contributed to the destruction of your marriage. It makes me angry when Nigerian men try to act as if they are saints, when it's rarely the case. What did you do to make your wife go to another man? Was it your own infidelity? Obviously you weren't giving her the love and attention she needed. See how that works.

FortuneTeller:
In 2015, you wrote that you gave your wife an STD.

EgunMogaji:
Are you kidding me?

Of course now.

Men, well most men, are conditioned to just walk it off and screw most anything in skirts in the short term to get over it.

Welcome to the real world, yo.