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Caleycash:
Then better nothing like marriage, instead of wasting a man's resources and scamming him of his resources!, and everything should be 50/50 then!

exactly.... Everything should be 50-50

Caleycash:
NO!... naturally a man is polygamous, that's my own personal belive, then if we go by nature and religious standards, a non virgin shouldn't be married, paying bride price for her is a taboo, but 80% married women are not, men still love and marry them, spending millions on whats unacceptable, only VIRGINS have right to leave a man who's cheating💯

I agree with you bro that men are polygamous in nature but what most Nigerian men don't know is that women are also polyandrous in nature.... That's why most married women cheat on their husbands but most times the husband is under the illusion that he has a faithful wife... At the end what we call marriage in most cases is a diluted version of open marriage cos most times the women know that the men are cheating while the men don't know...

solla22:
so uncle made the wrong choice..
theres a definition for people that blame other people for all their woes and never take responsibility..

very true ... I concur

Proudlyngwa:
No

The remaining percentage just go their separate ways

But why will a man marry a woman that will seek divorce later? He obviously made a wrong choice cos there are men who got married to women that never asked for divorce in their marriages..

Caleycash:
Most issues many women will present to you in marriage is cheating that made them leave the man, not that he can't provide or doesn't love her again, check 80% of divorces and separations , it's mostly the issue.

but do you think cheating is a good reason for a woman to leave the marriage?

IamHonourable1:
It can't apply to divorced men,eg I'm divorced but it was my ex wife who initiated the it.Shr never believed in marriage and likes travelling and having fun, she's into man and woman (if you understand what I mean).Prior to getting serious in the relationship, my mother cautioned me about the possibility of the woman divorcing me (because her mother left her father because she was no longer interested in their marriage). This is exactly what she did to me,she still had the effrontery to steal my household property while I was in the village.

sorry for what you went through bro... It's sad.... My respect for your Mother cos she saw that you were about making a mistake but somehow you chose to marry her... Many women are bisexuals, as a man once you find out and you are not okay with it, it's better to leave her although some men are okay with it, at least I know of one man that his wife is bisexual and the marriage should be over 30 years now..

Lanruze:
No matter how dumb or crazy a Man is, he will never divorce a good, respectful and virtuous Woman.

A Good woman is a scarce resource and highly addictive ; they are like oxygen to Men. Once the supply is off- the Man will exhibit withdrawal symptoms and will go all the way to reconcile with her.

Once a Man steps out of your life and files for divorce by himself, then questions need to be asked.

Please note: The most difficult decision for a Man is choosing who he will spend his life with (Marriage).

you are right.... He will dump the bad woman he mistakenly married out of his poor judgement...

Caleycash:
Whatever the outcome is the woman is held responsible for her ordeal, Do you know what it takes for a man to conclude to wife a woman out of thousands available??, think it deep!, it's a woman's responsibility to make good choice for herself!

yeah, you are right and the man seeing a bad choice accepts it because it's the woman's responsibility to make a good choice.... Noted bro...

Proudlyngwa:
I said divorce is because of the woman, men become divorcees because of women at least 80% of the time.
The women are mostly the ones seeking divorce most of the time.

From what you just wrote, it means some percentage of men seek divorce meaning they regret making mistake about their choice of a spouse... Noted bro....

Caleycash:
It doesn't go both ways!... A man who spent fortune and some even life savings to marry you truly loves you, so I see no reason you should be rebellious to the man, if you don't love him genuinely, REMAIN SINGLE!!!

Okay bro... So it means the woman made the wrong choice of a man ?

Proudlyngwa:
Divorced women are the reason we have divorced men

QED

so the divorced men made the wrong choice then... Do you think they were smart to make such choice?

Oshin56:
there's nothing like right choice, marry the one you know you can manage... his/her madness

you are right so when the marriage ends does it mean the wrong choice was made?

Exceed15:
They became divorced men because they want to die out of frustration in the name of marriage. My uncle ended his marriage himself. The woman is so stubborn, disrespectful she almost gave him heart attack.

so sorry to hear that... Marriage is not easy... So did your uncle make the right choice by marrying her in the first place?

Namaster:
Divorced women are a big TABOO!

They should be AVOIDED like politicians avoid the truth.

It's either they are so HORRIBLE that a man who spent money on TRADITIONAL and CHURCH marriage could no longer put up with them.

Or

They are so STUPID that made the CHOICE to marry a TERRIBLE man. In other words, they did not see, or saw and chose to ignore, RED FLAGS throughout the dating and courtship phase until they got hitched to a bad man.

Either way, DIVORCED women are BAD news!

Does this apply to divorced men also?

richmond500:
At the age of 42 he can't rent a place in off odili road and still start a business with 2m, I'll advice him to stay around choba and do business around uniport

Your suggestion is also good... But yes he can ... Off odili comprises of fimie/abuloma... He talked about light and security, to a great extent they have it there... A budget of 500k or less can start business in that axis... Off Odili road is not limited to aeroplane drive even though you will still get rent of 500 to 700k along that same drive cos my friend is a Landlord in one of the estates there.. Your suggestion is also not bad but with what he said he needs,, off Odili Road will be better when you have look at the ease with which you can move from there to within other parts of Port Harcourt unlike Choba that is on the outskirts of Port Harcourt...

Zonefree:
Taliban's approach towards women is the only reason I may consider islam in my next life.

what if you come as a woman in your next life, will you still consider the being part of their religion that makes you ripe for marriage from 6 years?

SamuraiXXX:
Can he afford that place with a budget of just 2 million?

Yes He can...

Off odili Road.... Aeroplane Drive to be precised... It's largely safe due to many gated estate around there and police patrol : The power situation is good apart from when there is collapse of National grid and the fact they are on Band A...

There is no where in that write-up he said he he is now a native doctor

immortalcrown:
I never denied the things you outlined here.

My point is, have lecturing jobs gone that bad? I have a cousin who is a teacher in a government primary school. She got the job two years ago and earns less than 50k monthly. I don't know if the new minimum wage has become effective for her. She spends at least 600 Naira on transport daily. Is her job better than lecturing in a university? Answer this question.

You will not understand, that is why I said even if I explained the details to you, you will still doubt it... I will give you one last answer concerning what you asked now ... Everyone has different level of responsibilities and financial commitments.. nice chatting with you...

immortalcrown:
This has nothing to do with the size of someone's cycle of friends.

The economy is undoubtedly harsh. But sales girls, cleaners, security officers and civil servants in local government secretariats still afford transport to workplaces. Are these jobs now better than lecturing?

.... Are you aware some persons stopped working because of transportation cost? Are you aware that many businesses have been badly affected because of the increased price of petrol? I help supervise a particular factory, the cleaner there I let her come to work sometimes once a week because it's not realistic for she to be coming everyday with the salary, and guess what , many other places will even pay less or almost half of what is paid to her but because of her dedication to work in the past , one has to find other ways to keep her . I don't know if live in Nigeria or if you are suffering like me in this country, but it's hell out there despite the little privilege I have ...

immortalcrown:
What is the distance between the school and the lecturer's residence? I mean, how many hours drive?

Lol... Even if I explain to you the details, you will still doubt it... I have given you a simple task which is to increase your cycle of friends, and ask some questions concerning this.... I am sure you might hear worse cases of the plights of some lecturers...

immortalcrown:
Well, I am yet to believe this.

It doesn't change the fact... Increase your cycle of friends, ask questions from them , it will not take you long before you find out .. even as at last year he was sleeping in his office once in a while to cut cost, he has slept at his colleague's house to cut cost..

immortalcrown:
I am neither a supporter nor a defender of Tinubu. My signature is enough proof. But I stand by the truth. I don't accept unconfirmed rumours, even if the rumours go against someone I do not like.

Are we really sure that some lecturers sleep in their offices primarily to cut cost? Or, is this just an exaggeration? There is a part in the post where a professor claims that he is not aware of any of his colleagues sleeping in offices. Notice that only the ASUU chairman claims that some lecturers sleep in their offices, and he doesn't provide any evidence.

Until any lecturer comes out to say that he or she sleeps in his or her office to cut cost, I don't believe this report.

Anyways, some professors in these institutions participate in rigging elections.

my friend is a lecturer at NDU, there are many times he has slept in his office just to cut cost...

Lifestone:
I don't agree with you. Dele put these guys in no position to walk away, the allegations are too weighty, and Dele continue to promote the books, one way or there other, Dele has done the maximum damage. Afe &Co needs this to force him to recant or punished. Generations to come will see the balance and pick the balance. The alternative is to have only Dele's narrations in the space there.

Although I still stand by my position but I respect your opinion... You disagreed like an educated person without insults...

Ishilove:
I believe they are called 'Pyrrhic victories'.

Spot on

Ishilove:
Dele fvcked around. Now, he is finding out

You are right, I never knew he had a book until he was arrested, I never knew according to Sahara reporters that WikiLeaks wrote about some of the fraudulent activities until he was arrested... The author of the book called Mafia Manager said , There are some victories worse than some defeats... It's actually playing out now...

Lol

Truth is many of us are mad but at different levels.... It's not easy to be normal in this country...

writeprof:
I understand you also. I believe Christians are called to be warfare conscious [spiritually & physically] but not to be on the "offensive" but rather be on the "defensive." Being "defensive" is a battle mode activated and this moves the hand of God.

David received instructions from God to take care of Goliath...He was not a man of the flesh... that's why his victories are unrivalled. God would give instructions for taking "offensive" postures.

Like your illustration, I tell my people to guide against being victims of the ungodly who might later repent.

I have been a Christian fellowship leader in core north of Nigeria. I have seen how God arose to defend us & also opened the way for us to take "offensive" actions such as simply by being assertive on the position you represent.

Love your neighbour as yourself is a call to place value on your life and not to allow anyone waste it or cut it short.

You wrote nothing but the truth... More Wisdom to you Sir....

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