Wife should go 4 medical check up if she's still having pains at 4months. Don't tink its normal.

6-8 weeks standard?

Dat means am really exceptional

At my six weeks check up the docs normally run a PT on me based on d info I supplied

Choi! @Aisha, u really get time oo, see d way u even analyzed his situation and was giving him advice
Just reading thru his post will tell you something is wrong somewhere
The 'englis' na die

Shouldn't this be in sexuality session?
Smh

@kanwulia. I dey come make I treat ur mata. Choii!!!

hispinkolo: I'm going to break the no insult rule today
Snazzy your friend is a fackin wicked witch.She should be crucified upside down and pepper stuffed down her vajay,eyes and mouth..

U are banned

Meanwhile wia u hide since

Godmystrength: i rest my case then.

I rest my case too .

edogho: i don't feel comfortable with the sir esp from mi beloved. occassionally yes buh all the time? will will surely irritate me. na like so mi life jus be o call me DEAR, HONEYBUD, LOVE and u'll never be disappointed

Are u married? If yes hope wifey is reading this so as to know when and how 2 use d pet names(to her advantage)

Godmystrength: Did you say putting pepper on his kini is not detrimental to his health? i don't think so. Besides, the pepper ish might not make him stop because he's too young to understand the correlation between touching his kini and having pepper on it as punishment. The woman is harsh o.....if she can do this to her own son, how much more what she can do to another's child..

I never supported her on the pepper stuff and I told her so, just like you said the boy is too young to understand the correlation, cos according to her the poor boy later came to her to complain that his kini was paining him, she said she felt so guilty and sad, that she couldn't tell the boy it was becos of the pepper, she told him it was because he was touching it that's why its hurting him and adviced him to stop touching it.

cococandy: All those things are abuse.

Koboko that peels the skin
Pepper to the privates and eyes.

They are inhuman treatment that deserve jail time.

We can be kind and say those generation of parents didn't know better.
But it isn't ideal form of parenting.
And for all the mean punishment and all what not,is our society better for it?

They should be kept in the past. Where they belong!

Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion and how their parenting styles goes too

What works for you may not work for the other person.
Its not about past present or future. Its all about getting your kids on the right track. If you feel talking will do the magic for you fine, if someother person feels spanking or anyother form of punishment will still do the same magic, good.
So long as whatever method you chose to adopt does not bring physical, emotional, mental or any form of damage to the child.

I hate abuse, be it verbal or physical, buh I won't call occassional spanking of my childs bumbum an abuse. No.

GboyegaD:

I grew up in that same generation as you and I think many parents missed it because many of those kids missed it because they got hardened with the beatings. I guess I was carried by my emotions and the fact that the punishment was way beyond necessary if the foundation isn't checked.

Even the bible said we should not spare the rod and spoil the child. If you read the post very well, she didn't beat on first and second occassion, but on the third, after she probably realized that talking may not do the job.
Yes she was extreme with the pepper stuff, buh am sure she knew its not detrimental to his health besides he's too young to understand.
I want to believe she is a good mother cos she doesn't want her son becoming something else tomorrow or start getting reports from his teachers that he's molesting his classmates in any way.

However like I said earlier, parenting styles differ.

GboyegaD:

I grew up in that same generation as you and I think many parents missed it because many of those kids missed it because they got hardened with the beatings. I guess I was carried by my emotions and the fact that the punishment was way beyond necessary if the foundation isn't checked.

Even the bible said we should not spare the rod ans spoil the child. If you read the post very well, she didn't beat on first and second occassion, but on the third, after she probably realized that talking may not do the job.
Yes she was extreme with the pepper stuff, buh am sure she knew its not detrimental to his health besides he's too young to understand.
I want to believe she is a good mother cos she doesn't want her son becoming something else tomorrow or start getting reports from his teachers that he's molesting his classmates in any way.

However like I said earlier, parenting styles differ.

GboyegaD: @Snazzylove,
Your friend isn't fit to be a mother. .

I don't know the generation you belong to. But if you belong to my generation am not sure you would have spoken in dat manner.

Parenting styles differ. And here is Naija where 'koboko' has been used as a form or restoring sanity in kids since 19...

So are u saying that our parents were never fit to be parents??
Smh

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Godmystrength: I will come and comment later. I am still shocked at the bolded

Me too oo

Seriously I don't get this.
A 3yr old boy selfservicing!

A friend of mine yesterday confided in me that on 3 different times she has caught her 3yr+ old son stroking his manliness.
The first time according to her she didn't read meaning into it but cautioned him gently, the second time, she said she was very firm and warned him sternly to stop it and never to try dat again.
But the third incident is wat actually hit me, this time according to her she caught him in the same act and unfortunately the younger sister that is barely two years is practising the same thing with him. She said she spanked him mercillesly and even applied hot pepper on the kini
I told her to monitor dem closely especially what they watch on the tele, the type of people they associate with and even the kind of books around the house. And equally make sure they are not always together idle, she should get them educative toys and books to keep them busy, at least it will take their little minds off dat.
Fear grip me o
Dunno if this is normal or what.
Mothers pls oo keep an eye on what your kids are doing.
Anyone with similar experience or solution to it should pls share so that we all can learn.

Officiallyurs:

Never seen a man address his wife as Ma. A man can't even try it unless if he is joking with you

You are right. Sometimes when I ask my hussy to help me do certain thingz, he'll be like 'yes ma'. Behind dat 'yes ma' is like ' I don hear madam at the top'
So no man actually addresses/answers wifey 'ma' at least I've not seen one

SIR or DADDY? Lmao
Are you kidding me
Is he my BOSS or my FATHER

What happened to more romantic pet names like, hny, swt, babe, booboo
Even icecream and sugar are more romantic than @ topic

Purecotton: With all these, I still love my husband, I support him, I encourage him to succeed and I keep praying for him.


This whole situation has turned me into a very angry, abusive, unhappy and bitter woman as I feel I hold so much grudges against my husband and I really need help to let them go.

You said you still love your husband, support, encourage and pray for him. Then where is the abuse, anger, bitterness and all the grudges towards ur hubby coming from?
LOVE IS KIND!

Am yet to understand the type of help you seek.

You are almost there! Safe delivery dear. Inform us when it happens oo so we can pop some champagne here

So they want to aid the distribution of Ebola just like our health workers are doing. Mtchew. Any school that refused to comply should be burnt down. Nonsense

Godmystrength: no be the witches picture dey up there?

missberrypop5: Hmmm, so much hate. Why?

Don't mind him.

One high heel sisi don show am pepper after trying to prove mr Macho to her. He come NL come dey pour venom.
Abeg channel your energy to somthing more beneficial.

@topic. I cannot say for sure now if I will stand by him(I've always prayed to) or not until I find myself in that situation.

I may say one thing now, and when the situation arises, my oga at the top (brain, emotion, etc) will say/do another one.

In Femi Kuti's voice, plenty nonsense dey 4 Nigeriaaa...

vivienobidike: Empty Brain

Empty brain? Nooo
Foam and Pap brain

Pishure of the man and the witches or...

@Godmystrength, I no just wan comment on your comment . You are just attacking left right and centre, no single soul spared

In a nutshell, that family is a HITTING family.
Mother hit son
Mother hit hubby
Hubby tried to hit wifey
Next time...
Son maybe hitting daddy or mummy, either way there will always be hitiing going on there.
*dodges a blow* na wao. Make una see my head oo abeg. *runs off*

morenike23: Hav knw him for four years now...

Datz good. At least you guyz have dated long enough to come to this decision (marriage).
So if your daddy gives his consent, just go ahead and do ur intro, but for the wedding proper, hmmm... if you are in unison with him, you pple can still go ahead with it then hold on for child bearing. But how long he and his family will be willing to wait is what am not sure of, cos you know the mentality of our pple around here, once the owambe of marriage is over, they'll start looking forward to the owambe of a baby .
So discuss with him, am sure you guyz can sort that out.
Good luck!

mamateniola1: Being engaged in this part of the world has been abused!

You are sooooo right
However, from her explanation I feel the guy is serious. Waiting till end of nxt year is largely due to her edu which is not a bad idea.
Nevetheless, @morenike23, answer d question cocoacandy asked. 'How long have you known/dated the guy? Let's see if its enough time for him to be in such a hurry.

alutacontinua:

sweetie, if there is nothing too URGENT, I don't think it's a bad idea to wait.
schooling + marriage (especially kids) is in no way fun, trust me......
I have friends and I don't envy them 1 cent

She said she's only concerned about her father giving his consent, meaning she's ready to take the loooonnggggg walk.
However, I totally buy into your suggestion. I'd rather prefer she completes her edu and service year, probably get a job or while job-hunting she can settle down, by then she must have been mentally, emotionally, & maybe financially prepared for the task ahead.
My opinion though. She's in a better position to decide what she wants.

morenike23: My fiancee is ready for mirrage and we are alreaddy planin our introduction,but am afraid of tellin my dad cos he might not agree becos am still in sch 300L to be precise......

Tell him first. He may surprise you by not saying no, equally consider what cocoacandy and beeevan suggested. If your course of study is a 4yr course, it means you'll soon be done. So no big deal per se.

A true woman!
Despite her position, achievements, fame, politcal and monetary power she remained a WOMAN, WIFE and MOTHER to her husband and kids.
I pray the women of our generation learns a lot from this great AMAZON, who is a true symbol of HUMILITY, despite being greatly empowered.

Adieu Nneoma!
Adieu our Priceless Jewel!!
Adieu my Beloved role model!!!
Adieu the beginning of life (DNA)

We love and miss you dearly, but God loves you more.

onirugbon1:

the reality of the slap chartered a taxi and travelled from his cheek to his brain.