mumumugu: If u realy lov ur patner, u will slap him/her once a while- mumumugu said so

no wan dat kain love oo biko.

Mumu carry your mumu love and your mugu go one corner

floranbee1: a lady he just met and really likes but the annoying thing according to him is that she already has a male child

1) He just met her
2) Really 'LIKES' her. Not LOVE.

The above shows that he probably likes her physical appearance. He discovered that she has a child and its 'ANNOYING' to him. Am sure by the time he'll discover more things about her he will end up molesting her. By the way, is it not a fellow man like him that put her in that situation and probably bolted?

To me, there is nothing wrong in marrying someone with a child, if am really into you, as in I can tolerate you and really loves you, then the child aspect will be secondary.

However, I will have to be detailed about the mother and what transpired and be assured and reassured that you have nothing to do with her anymore(that is if she's alive).

Where are the die-hard feminists, come oo. 'Tory don Land'
Come and defend your fellow woman

Angel196: My father's reaction?... All hell would break loose. So how would u handle that situation?

Just like your dad, mine will even apply hot pepper in you v.gna. But I won't tow that line, I'll rather sit her down and talk to her, and continue talking until my point is registered.

pickabeau1: This is so true with some female drivers... lol

So true oo. Including me too

For tushtush


I'll be right back

Good for her. Hope she rots in jail.
If she dey wiwi for bed why not buy mackintosh for her or better still send her back to her people if she cannot tolerate her.

If it were her child, would she have done same to her?

@babyosis or whatever you are called, if dem send you tell dem I dey offline, Rubbish!
You can treat your spouse like bullsh!t, who cares
@others that are ranting here and there, the earlier you humble yourself as a woman and take charge of your home the better for you.
INTERNET ADVICE WILL DO YOU NO GOOD!

@DEEMAIN, it takes a responsible and sane person to really understand my post, and u have proven to be such. God bless you.

I am no feminist or mane-ist, I stand on the side of truth, justice and fairness.
If you don't like my idealogy, kindly go and hug transformer.
Am out of here.

Godmystrength: If they catch you, na only you waka come o

Looolll

Hahahahahaa otondo laff
Kanwulia & co, you pple will not murder me with this big feet ish

Talking about submission, please let us all "submit" 'ALL' wholeheartedly to our husbands. Submit all that you have, plus house chores, plus taking care of kids, and if possible, plus pregnancy and delivery .

Me I want to be totally submissive oo

I laff in swahili

bukatyne:

Are you saying that if you are in any of these positions you will behave same way?

Don't guys/men engage in e-fights or is it a woman's thing?

@OP: Most of them are not in control of their lives and grasp at any seemingly chance to control whether real or imagined.

Some are just plain evil

Besides most women are not respected until they prove themselves

D emphasis is on 'some' women not all. We still have the very good ones.

E.g carefreewannabe

@Godmystrength. You took the words out of my mouth. Hahahahaaa
Dorosola na only you know wetin you dey find.
I prophesy into your life, that you shall find it very soon

carefreewannabe:

I am always happy to see women performing well and taking on leading positions.
.

Babe dat is you ooo. You can't say such for some our sisters.
See better woman. Me likey. Seriously

carefreewannabe:

I don't think that it is the female nature to humiliate other women / people. Some women are mean but that does not mean that majority of them is. Some men can be wicked too.

We seldom hear that women ra.pe children but does it mean that majority of men are paedophiliac? I don't think so.

Yeah you are right. But guys always got each others back, a woman would rather help in pulling you down while pretending to be a friend.
Most women are never happy when a fellow woman is presumed to be doing better than them.
I call it envy!

carefreewannabe:

I have a female boss and she is one of the nicest and friendliest people I have ever known.

Lucky you. She's one out of hundred.
Kudos to her

pickabeau1:

Calling someone spouse irresponsible is irresponsible

On a lighter note.
This one got me

PLEASE NO INSULT OR CARELESS TALK. Someone's problem might look cheap or irrelevant to you but it is their problem and if they have a solution to it they won't make it public. So let us pls be very matured about this and submit only candid advice and opinion.
Grcias![/quote]

This is just to serve as a reminder to all. Pls no one will feel good having his/her spouse called names or be insulted, no matter how 'bad' u think their spouses are. Pls we are talking about peoples soul mates not just anyhow pple. Those in the habit of insults and name calling kindly desist from it. Keep some of these opinions to urself rather than voicing it out and hurting the other person more.

@Godmystrength, dear just as adviced by pickabeau1, don't take such things to heart. Most people here are just fault-finders and trouble moguls.

Cheers!

Sorry abt the multiple post.
Nonsense hen-T-hen

cancerlib: Hmmm, my story took a different turn.....
When we first got married, we made a decision to wait a bit before procreating (he wanted to be more balanced) asked him how long is a bit, and he said few months. But when months rolled into a year and over a year, his family got on my case especially his mom. When I told them its their son that isn't ready they refuse to accept, after all am d woman, if I want a baby I know how to go about it.
I tried reasoning with him we should try for a baby now but he was adamant, he doesn't want stress for me andhe needs to put some things in place before we talk about babies.
Fast-forward to some months later and I got pregnant. He went really mad, how could I betray him so? Blah blah.
He told me point blank he wants an abortion to which I refused, his family heard about it and told him his callous , ,shouldnt he be happy about it.
This went on for days but he eventually accept and apologise for his actions ans and we movedd on.
When I saw his chat with the lady, this situation crossed my mind , could it be related? That's y I was dazed and confused at first.
When we talked , he went all macho with me and actually confirmed it that hes punishing me cos I tried to prove smart by getting pregnant, and that upon his tears and pleads to abort I was adamant. All d fight in me fled, I just told him hes not even the father of that child ans I told him we have nothing further to discuss.
I went to bed, this morning he asked for food and I told him am never cooking for him again.
He said I like unnecessary wahala, he didn't sleep with anyone, I wasn't even interested and just left

Whaaaaaat!!! He's punishing u cos you are preggy for him?
There is nothing one will not hear/see in this 'thing' called marriage.
Right now I don't even know what to say. I pray such doesn't cum my way cos I don't know what my reaction will be but am certain it won't be pleasant.
That cheating or about to cheat 'blokus' will be the first to suffer. 1d1otic baskard
#rawacidtinz#

pickabeau1: snazzy is this you?



its not easy..
Pre MS to Post MS --over and over again.. the cycle never stops like the moon

Its me ooo!
My dear most of us women no dey try at all.

Imagine a woman being ur boss in the office.

Imagine going for an interview and discovers that the head of HR is a woman

Imagine waiting for the approval of some project and its a woman that has the final say

Imagine getting married and you need to get the approval of MIL-to-be

Imagine a woman as your landlady

Imagine so many other positions/events wia you have to encounter a woman. The experience most times is not pleasant at all.

I'd rather deal with a thousand bad guys than with one horrible woman.

Even on NL. Imagine the way they fight themselves. Faceless fight oo. If they meet one-on-one I wonder what will happen

Umumnwanyi!

Ilovenigeria:
Snazzylove I got your message but the truth is that any man that wants to cheat will cheat even if you give him sex morning, afternoon and night.

Same thing I mentioned in my post earlier tha a born-unrepentant cheat willl still cheat cos nothing the wife does will appeal to him, but some pple decided to see the pregnancy and sex aspect of my comment only.
Babe even u, once in a while u'll pity hubby nah and be like 'oya let's manage and do small' ' it isn't by force. It should be a two way thing, done for love by both. So if there is need to abstain, both parties will still do it joyfully. Not as if somebody is dragging something with the other person or trying to intimidate d oda.

jessy4done:


Desperation is not cumin from ♍ƺ, he is always saying his dad wants him to settle down fast! Am not pushin him. I hav apologised to the dad with all sincerity.

Then clearly you are not the lady he wants to settle down with.
Babe, pick up ur winter coat by the door and move on.

@OP. Tomorrow u will come back to NL again for advice after marrying him.
I tire for the level of desperation in our chics oo abt marriage.
Meanwhile wat biz do u have with the dad, why did you send him the text . That was your gratest undoing.
Just go find anoda BF

Chillisauce:

pls just stop. because you had a smooth pregnancy doesnt mean others do. some actually sleep in the hospital for a very long period, some get miscarriages with very little thing. people are diff and react differently with pregnancy. go preach your red bra and pant somewhere else.

SMH for some pple sha
You can deny him $ex for d rest of ur marriage. Who cares

babygirlfl:

Women are fellow woman's worst enemy. Please women lets be kind to ourselves.

My dear you are still trying to excuse men for cheating with all these things you are writing. Life is not always straightforward. There are times in life when it is not possible to have sex with you partner even for months. How can a man who cannot stay faithful with a pregnant wife for some months stay faithful during these months. A partner who is unwell in hospital for months cannot have sex. Is it then right for the partner to cheat while their spouse is sick in hospital? Or in the case where they are away from each other for months e.g in different countries for some months because of work commitment. Is it right for a partner to cheat?

I believe control is key and that is what we should be preaching.

Another thing to know is that different women respond differently to pregnancy and even a woman that has been pregnant multiple times will tell you that each pregnancy was different. I expect you to know this as you a mother to three kids. I have seen a woman who was in hospital almost every week during her pregnancy. Do you think sex is on her mind? There is also something called pre natal and post-natal depression. Do you think a depressed woman is thinking about sex. Or do you think that it is right for her husband to go cheating on her?

Depression can also make such women unkempt. Another thing that can make a woman unkempt is lack of support from her husband. Men please support your wife. Do take some work off her so that she can have time to look after herself.

Just to let you know, your husband does not cheat because he is disciplined and does not want to. It has nothing to do with how you have kept yourself and how you still draw attention. We all know super models that their husbands have cheated on them.

Instead of making excuses for people, let us teach people to be more tolerant and more accommodating. Lets preach that people understand what for better for worse means and not to run away from situation when worse comes their way.

Am not making excuse for anybody my dear. Am equally a woman. And the best I can do is to tell fellow sisters the truth no mattert how bitter it is.
Pregnancy last for forty weeks, and you cannot tell me that for that forty weeks you don't have a single day that you are good.
I do have challenges with pregnancy too that equally lands me in the hospital bed, but its not an everyday, every week or everymonth thin.
Whatever works for you sha,do it.

@ujujoan. My dear I completely understand your point. Same applies to me too as in d work aspect. For instance on a saturday that you have to do a lot of house chores, its understandable. My hussy has equally met me in same attire too due to plenty work, but its not an everyday thing. I will even be the one to joke with it, by telling him "ur babe has not showered since morning oo" we'll laff over it and if there are other things left to do he may offer to assist.

Who said its easy for me to keep looking sexy? its a lot of work oo, hard work for that matter.

Your friend that hussy does not notice or look her side, you don't wait for them to notice oo. You push them to notice . If am addig weight for instance, hussy doesn't tell me oo, he keeps saying you are ok, you are ok. Na only me dey advice myself. If I come back from the salon , I will be waiting for him to tell your hairdo is nice, for wia? He will not notice, not that he he doesn't want to notice, but his mind doesnt go there. Am the one that will be like 'babe so u didn't see my hair abi?' He will now say ahh sorry ooo, I noticed that u are looking different and pretty buh I didn't know its d hair. Men are not as petty as we women. I've come to undertstand that and I don't hold it against my hussy if he fails to do or say somethings. I will just remind him if there is need to do so.

The bottom line is to make our homes and hussys comfy increase communication a lot. Not official communication oo. Joke with ur hussy, tease him, laugh a lot, see him most times as that boyfriend u were dating b4 tying the not, it makes it a lot easier.

Ujujoan:

You were really making a lot of sense untill you got to the conjugal right part. Ewoo, so now it's ok for men to cheat on their pregnant wives just cos they were denied sex for 1week

Biko if he didn't load his heir in her will she be feeling crappy and having perpetual back ache from logging about a human being

Most men think that sex with their pregnant wives is the same. Mba nu . . . .

How man men massage their wives's waist and back after a hard day at work? How man men make extra effore to flatter their wives', comment on how sexy and pretty she looks, even with her swollen body part? How many men take time to rub wifey's feets, give her their backs for her to elevate them make them FEEL like having sex.

But no, they just want to hump with no consideration for their wive's condition. And if you say no, they claim it's their reason for cheating.

Thunder fire any man who cheats on me while preggy, I'll lay a curse on him that will surely come to pass

That being said, there is no excuse for cheating in a marriage . . . No excuse at all!

Babe, I never said being preggy is an excuse for a man to cheat on his wife. NO! Am a serious advocate of faithfullness in marriage. But you cannot leave your hubby for months simply because you are pregnant. It takes a a man that is principled to the core and had the fear of God and respect for marriage in him to stay faithful in such situation.
I have a friend that left her hubby starving for 6months simply because she's preggy, and even after delivery surely the man has another long wait to do.
Sisters we are humans, and you cannot tell a $exually active dude to stay like dat , nothing at all, not even to help him in other ways to get that thought out of his head.
We all feel terrible when preggy, but there are days you feel good, make use of those dayz datz what am saying. The days you are not feeling good, hussy should equally understand and play his part. But leaving your hussy to starve for months all because you are preggy is unacceptable, and you are indirectly bringing prob to urself without knowing it. Except the dude is a born-unrepentant cheat, then there is nothing you do that will ever appeal to him.

As for the man massaging and pampering his wife when she's preggy, I don't know about you, but my hubby is an expert in that. Infact I love beign preggy, cos datz when he brings out the best in him . And I equally try to meet up with his needs too. Its a two way thing. I make bold to say that in our several yrs of marriage, hussy has not given me any reason to suspect or doubt his fidelity. Infact he always tells me that am more sexy and attractive when am preggy so why should I push him away simply because am pregnant. Besides, is pregnancy a disease or illness.

@justwinnie, its not about knowing your right, its about keeping your hubby.

Still talking about being preggy, most woment are so terrible that to even take their bath, make their hairs, and look inviting for the hubby is another wahala, (especially in the first and last trimester). The same cloth he. Left you in when he was leaving for work in the morning is still the same cloth he will meet you in when he comes back from work in the evening and your excuse will be that you are feeling crappy? Most ladies their personal hygiene when they are preggy is close to Zero. So hubby should come and bath you and make your hair for yopu and probably brush your teeth simply because 'he put his heir in you'. And even after delivery, some ladies will aloow their body grow out of proportion without bothering to watch what they eat or even do the simplest of work out. Later they will start crying foul.

Ladies let us wake up and take our destinies in our hands. Do you part, and see if the your hussy will ever look sideways talk more of looking out.

For me am intact. No shaking. With my 3 lovely kids running around, I still draw a lot of attention . Hussy has no choice but to stick around . Luv u booboo

Mtcheeeewwww!!!
Akuko Mike Ejeagha