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another excellent surah from the best of books. every verse having layer upon layer of meaning. subhanallahi.

excellent reminder as Ramadan approaches.
interesting to see fasting and eid from the perspective of training and rejoicing after graduation. it helps to relieve from the boredom that comes from the monotony of it all mashallah.

alhamdulillahi rabbi'alamin. nice, so many things to be thankful for. wish this could be frontpage. it would brighten up the place.

don Allah this should be a sticky fissabillillahi.

Important thread where we could have learned about how worship helps to liberate us from a slavish devotion to our base desires towards a higher spiritual state. But losers gatecrashed it and turned it into another futile debate. smh.

Ps: wish there was a seperate thread to redirect debates that may troll native threads to.

Which kind of character comes on nl and says Freud is a quack that frankly deserves no response.

Very deep akhee,
the verse about sinking to low depths makes me teary eyed when I reflect on it. How low we can sink as humans. God have mercy on us.

See the thread here:
https://www.nairaland.com/1214941/family-planning-population-control-islamic

Salam Alaikum, if u can spare some time to go through the thread below, you may find it helpful.

https://www.nairaland.com/1214941/family-planning-population-control-islamic

betathings neva disappoints. men you no dey spare ignoramus o.

The
return of Abdulsleek.

Notorious nairalander logicboy tires of religion section and drifts to
romance section to pull an 'abdulsleek'. ever tenacious and resilient,
he would stretch the thread to the limit even while the veracity of his
posts are being doubted.
distinctive traits:
abundance of bandwidth for continuous online access,
a quick wit with excellent conversation/writing skills,
a charming temperament,
markedly interested in multicultural/intercultural issues,
a romantic, philosophical outlook on several issues, and lastly: enjoys a
good ingenious prank.

oh readers, if i lost you. just forget about it and enjoy the ride.

the British empire that westernized societies, subtly established Christianity using schools and missionaries, and introduced secularism/democracy, was not established by diplomatic means but by brute force of ready, well armed, trained and disciplined soldiers.


the established Islamic state recognizes only Abrahamic religions: Islam, Judaism, and Christianity. adherents of other religions can go elsewhere to live and practice their religion, it is not by force. there's no need to be apologetic about this.

people
should not turn things in their head. Islam has not had a monopoly of
violence in history. it only seems like that because Islam being a total
package, blurs the lines between politics/state and religion. when we
practice it right, it can be really beautiful and vice versa.
'christian' Europe has had its fair share of bloodshed in history before
setting up the current so called secular system. they have had their
100 years war, 30 years war etc. which if not outright religious wars, had
strong religious undertones. pope Urban declared the start of the
crusades which were reknowned for the unusual barbarity of crusading
armies. protestants still fight Catholics in northern Ireland.

when
we educate ourselves and understand how much it would benefit us to
have a single leader. we would all start working towards the institution
of the caliphate with the accompanying bai'ah(pledge). once the
caliphate is in place all these problems of units taking matters into
their hands and forming criminal violent groups are bound to stop.

very
important thread that sheds light on the most important issue in Islam
today: radicalisation. radicalisation has its root causes in Illiteracy
and by illiteracy I mean Islamic illiteracy which we all know is
widespread among Muslims today. many people carrying a BSc. certificate
around are really illiterate in the Islamic sense.

^ don't let me call you a . . . . everyone is leaving Muslim lands because they are war torn and impoverished.

wow, amazing mashallah. found these intriguing esp. the part about darkness seeking the day rapidly. I was blushing, and I almost did a particular current nigerian dance step.
wow, just thinkin about it: this massive earth completes a revolution about it's own axis in just 24hrs and we don't even feel it. Allah akbar!!!

Hello,
I am writing today on personality disorders. The article is not meant to be elaborate or some sort of study manual on these conditions. It would just be an introduction to a few disorders to enlighten those who had earlier been oblivious of such, and also to rouse the curiosity of those that would want to learn further about the disorders. I believe there are people on this forum who would have been shocked and disturbed by the behaviours manifested by individuals with personality disorders. Hopefully after going through this write up, they would be better informed on how to deal with such matters. For example, you may have experienced an individual having an extremely volatile temper usually not proportionate to the insults received, then you need to step back, evaluate the situation and figure out what you are really dealing with. There could be a disorder somewhere. I’m not saying not to be angry, it’s okay to be angry over unfair treatment, but some people cross the limits. Also personality disorders are not rare like that, most cases occur once in about every 100 people and some environments may throw up even higher frequencies: backgrounds with all kinds of deprivation: extreme poverty and competition for basic amenities, absent parents i.e. father or mother, or even both.

I am not a psychiatrist or anything so there may be errors in the write up. I am just an inquisitive layman who has taken the benefit of university libraries and the internet to learn more about the world around him. I have personally socially interacted with some persons with behaviours having a marked semblance to these disorders, and in all cases I was fortunate or informed enough to know what course of action to take before the occurrence of any significant incident.
So sit back, relax, and reflect deeply as you read.


To start; personality disorders are roughly enduring dysfunctional patterns of behaviour in which affected individuals are unable to maintain social relationships with others. They are usually unable to have real loving relationships with others, and they may not be able to hold regular jobs for a long period(not because of physical or mental incapacity to do well at the job, but usually due to an inability to conform to the social norms of the culture within which they are to work, or just straightforward absenteeism). The individuals cause significant distress to people they associate with, as well as themselves, though they seem to be oblivious of any harm to their own selves as they repeat error after error in spite of any actual punishment or suffering they may have faced for their actions. They also give logical reasons for their misbehaviours and are quick to blame others when things turn distasteful primarily due to their own actions. Some will display an unnatural lack of anxiety or tension in normally tense situations. They do not accept there’s anything wrong with their behaviours so they are not likely to seek help, though lately with the advent of the internet, there are public forums where people that may admit having these disorders can meet others who are similar.
Note that most people exhibit traits like those with pd on occasion, the distinguishing factor is that in the pd individual the traits are repetitive and ingrained into the personality, and the behaviour is dysfunctional enough to prevent them from having normal productive relationships.

I write from the perspective that Personality disorders are medical conditions. Though those affected are not mad as in like raving lunatics, they may require and benefit from specialist medical attention. In society they may be called possessed, evil, or just inherently bad. Many movies and novels depict people with pd in lead roles because of their dramatic existences e.g. Tony Montana in “Scarface”, and that lady played by Sharon Stone in “Casino” are those that readily come to mind. Some notable world leaders have been affected; it is said that Napoleon Bonaparte had a large ego, a certain Egyptian pharaoh raised oversized monuments of himself, and I suspect many Nigerian leaders/politicians may be mentally suspect. While it may not be proper to unnecessarily scoff at those with pd or anyone for that matter, to condone their atrocities or feel overly sympathetic towards their condition could be devastating. Keeping at a reasonably safe distance from them, and limiting the aspects of your interaction with them to those which you feel cannot be violated by them. In short, draw clear lines, and prevent them from causing harm to others as well.

Pd do not have a known medical cure from drugs or surgery, some individuals may benefit from psychotherapy, group therapy, or other psychological methods. Religious devotion or conversion has been known to lessen symptoms in some people. Conversely people with pd may hide under the cloak of religion to justify their character. Many of those affected have very few symptoms remaining by the time they are in their middle ages(50 and above). Coincidentally by this time the most socially active and productive periods of life have passed. Many pd people have “conduct disorders” in childhood, and as in all illnesses, a stitch in time may save nine. And taking the “unusual” child to see a child psychiatrist would be a prudent step. Interested Nlanders can research childhood conduct disorders on the internet.
There is no single precise known cause for pd. Possible causative factors include genetics, social status, familial environment esp in childhood years, social environment.

Note:
a. Some pd are extremely malevolent: destroying lives of loved ones and sufferers themselves. Others really cause no harm to anyone, just the behaviour is uncommon and psychiatrists have categorized them controversially as pd. I will start with the most malevolent types and move down to other relatively benign ones.
b. People with some pd are likely to abuse substances, and people that abuse substances may exhibit behaviour similar to pd. In the former case, traits have been present since childhood or teens, while in the latter, traits only start to manifest after adopting substance abuse, they will be perfectly normal if and when they get sober.

1. Antisocial pd. (The heartless charmer).

Be careful, you just might get badly hurt; and suddenly too.
These individuals often appear charming, and have good verbal abilities. They may even be physically attractive. Casual acquaintances are usually impressed with them but those that know them a little more often loathe them. Underneath the superficial charm is a gross insensitivity to, and a marked tendency to habitually violate the rights of others. (Sidney Sheldon in his first novel: “the naked face” described a criminal character with a magnetic personality: Demarco. He said he had within him something called “mana” which ancient people regarded as the evil spirit within a man that drew people to him). They are more likely than normal to habitually involve in criminal behaviour and as such are most likely frequent in prisons, courtrooms, or detention centres. In organized societies, this is the so called unreformable criminal.
Some environments e.g. violent slums may actually idolize antisocial behaviour as their traits may confer a survival advantage. Traits include:

• Repeatedly committing illegal acts, including thefts, leading to recurrent arrests.
• Lack of remorse for violating the rights of others.
• Engaging in or causing fights.
• Repeatedly lying and deceiving people for profit or fun: pathological lying.
• Engaging in reckless behaviour including reckless physically intimate relations within casual relationships:
These “players” have no scruples, and apart from maybe immediate family members, no one is forbidden to them, first cousins, distant relatives, friends’ partners or daughters, legal minors etc. are all fair game. They seem to reject all forms of morality.
• Impulsivity and failing to plan ahead.
• Absenteeism from school or work:
Antisocial personalities are likely to perform below their estimated intelligence(usually above average) in school leading to expulsion or dropping out.
(I read on NL recently about a prison kingpin who impregnated some prison officials. You do the math). They are usually male and usually abuse substances.
Think: Smooth criminal.


2. Histrionic pd (The seductive drama queen).

Not quite yet your turn Miss Fabulousity.
These individuals, usually females, are overly seductive in their dress, speech, and general manners. They however carry on as if they are unaware of this. This excessive seductiveness will usually cost them friends (other females) and male partners. They are unable to have deep loving relationships because of the shallow and tone of their emotions. Their traits include:
• Excessive dramatization of feelings as seen in extreme facial expressions, excessive inappropriate tears, temper tantrums following minor events.
• Constant need to be the centre of attention, selfishness.
• Seductive dressing or exhibitionism, constant loud dress and make up.
• Engaging in promiscuity from which they don’t really derive pleasure.
• Dependency; constantly needing reassurance.
• Manipulating with suicide attempts, pathological lying.
They may be unable to perform tasks requiring perseverance or deep concentration. May abuse substances.
Think: Marilyn Monroe.


3. Narcissistic p d.

Narcissistic individuals have an overinflated sense of self importance. They exaggerate their talents and achievements, and are quick to notice others’ faults. They believe they are unique and engage in fantasies/thoughts of unequalled success. They have a constant need for admiration and may form dependent relationships to this effect. They however have a lack of empathy for others’ feelings and are frequently manipulative of others to please their own selves. More often male, they are prone to constant raging or deeply feeling humiliated when criticised.
Narcissus in Greek mythology saw his reflection in a stream and was so pleased by the beauty of his own reflection that he was unable to leave the stream.
Note that a narcissistic person may however be able to function effectively at work for long periods while irritating co-staff with their attitude.



4. Schizotypal pd.

Mr Oddball; thinking is odd, speech is odd, appearance is odd. They are highly superstitious, engage in magical thinking: may believe they are clairvoyant, or believe they are re-incarnated etc. they are extremely socially anxious and are socially isolated. They have a childlike fantasy world with imaginary relationships. Are not schizoid(rational thinking), or schizophrenic(have hallucinations).


5. Schizoid pd (Android, anyone?)

Characterised by persistent social withdrawal and emotional coldness usually accompanied by an expressionless face. They have close relationships with only one or two people including family members, and believe they have no need or time for others; so no dependency issues here. However they may reveal underneath their bland façade a fear of people. They usually have an inner world of imaginary friendships. They are usually unable to express anger, as well as other emotions as mentioned earlier.
Now wait a minute, these guys are not your habitual truant. They can work well, and are exceptionally brilliant at tasks that require little interpersonal contact e.g. maths, programming, writing. They occasionally give the world truly original, creative, and innovative ideas. Unlikely to follow fashion, many usually commit themselves to some social cause while still avoiding close relationships with people. Are not schizotypal(odd thinking), or schizophrenic(have hallucinations).
Think: The “mad” scientist.


6. Avoidant pd. (Mr. Goody two shoes)
Extremely shy and socially withdrawn because of fear of rejection. Are extremely sensitive to criticism. Usually hesitant to enter into relationships unless sure of uncritical approval. They have a desire for companionship but are unable to risk the criticism involved in social interaction. May live their lives on the sidelines, and not rise to their true potential because they are unable to take the risks associated with assuming responsibility. They have an ingratiating attitude( are incurable people pleasers) and may have a difficulty in refusing requests to their own detriment and that of their loved ones.

7. Compulsive pd. (The devil is in the detail)

That will be quite enough, Mr. tidy, spick and span.
Compulsive personalities are preoccupied with order, tidiness, and organisation in everything. Their lives are filled with lists, dates, notes, and so on. In short, they are literally addicted to perfectionism. They are however not able to properly express warm, tender emotions, and can be harsh and unreasonably stubborn. (See: sleeping with the enemy: Julia Roberts). They have difficulty in making decisions because they endlessly turn over all their options in their mind. They may succeed at monogamous relationships with understanding partners, and occupational success is common because of their consistent habits and thorough work ethic. God have mercy on you should this person be your project supervisor in final year. You may just not graduate with other members of the set.

Other pd include borderline, paranoid, passive-aggressive etc. for further info, see: www.psychcentral.com.
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6. Avoidant pd. (Mr. Goody two shoes)

Extremely shy and socially withdrawn because of fear of rejection. Are extremely sensitive to criticism. Usually hesitant to enter into relationships unless sure of uncritical approval. They have a desire for companionship but are unable to risk the criticism involved in social interaction. May live their lives on the sidelines, and not rise to their true potential because they are unable to take the risks associated with assuming responsibility. They have an ingratiating attitude( are incurable people pleasers) and may have a difficulty in refusing requests to their own detriment and that of their loved ones.

7. Compulsive pd. (The devil is in the detail)

That will be quite enough, Mr. tidy, spick and span.
Compulsive personalities are preoccupied with order, tidiness, and organisation in everything. Their lives are filled with lists, dates, notes, and so on. In short, they are literally addicted to perfectionism. They are however not able to properly express warm, tender emotions, and can be harsh and unreasonably stubborn. (See: sleeping with the enemy: Julia Roberts). They have difficulty in making decisions because they endlessly turn over all their options in their mind. They may succeed at monogamous relationships with understanding partners, and occupational success is common because of their consistent habits and thorough work ethic. God have mercy on you should this person be your project supervisor in final year. You may just not graduate with other members of the set.

Other pd include borderline, paranoid, passive-aggressive etc. for further info, see: www.psychcentral.com.

4. Schizotypal pd.

Mr Oddball; thinking is odd, speech is odd, appearance is odd. They are highly superstitious, engage in magical thinking: may believe they are clairvoyant, or believe they are re-incarnated etc. they are extremely socially anxious and are socially isolated. They have a childlike fantasy world with imaginary relationships. Are not schizoid(rational thinking), or schizophrenic(have hallucinations).


5. Schizoid pd (Android, anyone?)

Characterised by persistent social withdrawal and emotional coldness usually accompanied by an expressionless face. They have close relationships with only one or two people including family members, and believe they have no need or time for others; so no dependency issues here. However they may reveal underneath their bland façade a fear of people. They usually have an inner world of imaginary friendships. They are usually unable to express anger, as well as other emotions as mentioned earlier.
Now wait a minute, these guys are not your habitual truant. They can work well, and are exceptionally brilliant at tasks that require little interpersonal contact e.g. maths, programming, writing. They occasionally give the world truly original, creative, and innovative ideas. Unlikely to follow fashion, many usually commit themselves to some social cause while still avoiding close relationships with people. Are not schizotypal(odd thinking), or schizophrenic( have hallucinations).
Think: The “mad” scientist.

1. Antisocial pd. (The heartless charmer).

Be careful, you just might get badly hurt; and suddenly too.
These individuals often appear charming, and have good verbal abilities. They may even be physically attractive. Casual acquaintances are usually impressed with them but those that know them a little more often loathe them. Underneath the superficial charm is a gross insensitivity to, and a marked tendency to habitually violate the rights of others. (Sidney Sheldon in his first novel: “the naked face” described a criminal character with a magnetic personality: Demarco. He said he had within him something called “mana” which ancient people regarded as the evil spirit within a man that drew people to him). They are more likely than normal to habitually involve in criminal behaviour and as such are most likely frequent in prisons, courtrooms, or detention centres. In organized societies, this is the so called unreformable criminal.
Some environments e.g. violent slums may actually idolize antisocial behaviour as their traits may confer a survival advantage. Traits include:

• Repeatedly committing illegal acts, including thefts, leading to recurrent arrests.
• Lack of remorse for violating the rights of others.
• Engaging in or causing fights.
• Repeatedly lying and deceiving people for profit or fun: pathological lying.
• Engaging in reckless behaviour including reckless physically intimate relations within casual relationships:
These “players” have no scruples, and apart from maybe immediate family members, no one is forbidden to them, first cousins, distant relatives, friends’ partners or daughters, legal minors etc. are all fair game. They seem to reject all forms of morality.
• Impulsivity and failing to plan ahead.
• Absenteeism from school or work:
Antisocial personalities are likely to perform below their estimated intelligence(usually above average) in school leading to expulsion or dropping out.
(I read on NL recently about a prison kingpin who impregnated some prison officials. You do the math). They are usually male and usually abuse substances.
Think: Smooth criminal.


2. Histrionic pd (The seductive drama queen).

Not quite yet your turn Miss Fabulousity.
These individuals, usually females, are overly seductive in their dress, speech, and general manners. They however carry on as if they are unaware of this. This excessive seductiveness will usually cost them friends (other females) and male partners. They are unable to have deep loving relationships because of the shallow and tone of their emotions. Their traits include:
• Excessive dramatization of feelings as seen in extreme facial expressions, excessive inappropriate tears, temper tantrums following minor events.
• Constant need to be the centre of attention, selfishness.
• Seductive dressing or exhibitionism, constant loud dress and make up.
• Engaging in promiscuity from which they don’t really derive pleasure.
• Dependency; constantly needing reassurance.
• Manipulating with suicide attempts, pathological lying.
They may be unable to perform tasks requiring perseverance or deep concentration. May abuse substances.
Think: Marilyn Monroe.


3. Narcissistic p d.

Narcissistic individuals have an overinflated sense of self importance. They exaggerate their talents and achievements, and are quick to notice others’ faults. They believe they are unique and engage in fantasies/thoughts of unequalled success. They have a constant need for admiration and may form dependent relationships to this effect. They however have a lack of empathy for others’ feelings and are frequently manipulative of others to please their own selves. More often male, they are prone to constant raging or deeply feeling humiliated when criticised.
Narcissus in Greek mythology saw his reflection in a stream and was so pleased by the beauty of his own reflection that he was unable to leave the stream.
Note that a narcissistic person may however be able to function effectively at work for long periods while irritating co-staff with their attitude.

I write from the perspective that Personality disorders are medical conditions. Though those affected are not mad as in like raving lunatics, they may require and benefit from specialist medical attention. In society they may be called possessed, evil, or just inherently bad. Many movies and novels depict people with pd in lead roles because of their dramatic existences e.g. Tony Montana in “Scarface”, and that lady played by Sharon Stone in “Casino” are those that readily come to mind. Some notable world leaders have been affected; it is said that Napoleon Bonaparte had a large ego, a certain Egyptian pharaoh raised oversized monuments of himself, and I suspect many Nigerian leaders/politicians may be mentally suspect. While it may not be proper to unnecessarily scoff at those with pd or anyone for that matter, to condone their atrocities or feel overly sympathetic towards their condition could be devastating. Keeping at a reasonably safe distance from them, and limiting the aspects of your interaction with them to those which you feel cannot be violated by them. In short, draw clear lines, and prevent them from causing harm to others as well.

Pd do not have a known medical cure from drugs or surgery, some individuals may benefit from psychotherapy, group therapy, or other psychological methods. Religious devotion or conversion has been known to lessen symptoms in some people. Conversely people with pd may hide under the cloak of religion to justify their character. Many of those affected have very few symptoms remaining by the time they are in their middle ages(50 and above). Coincidentally by this time the most socially active and productive periods of life have passed. Many pd people have “conduct disorders” in childhood, and as in all illnesses, a stitch in time may save nine. And taking the “unusual” child to see a child psychiatrist would be a prudent step. Interested Nlanders can research childhood conduct disorders on the internet.
There is no single precise known cause for pd. Possible causative factors include genetics, social status, familial environment esp in childhood years, social environment.

Note:
a. Some pd are extremely malevolent: destroying lives of loved ones and sufferers themselves. Others really cause no harm to anyone, just the behaviour is uncommon and psychiatrists have categorized them controversially as pd. I will start with the most malevolent types and move down to other relatively benign ones.
b. People with some pd are likely to abuse substances, and people that abuse substances may exhibit behaviour similar to pd. In the former case, traits have been present since childhood or teens, while in the latter, traits only start to manifest after adopting substance abuse, they will be perfectly normal if and when they get sober.

Hello family section Nlanders, I don’t usually post on this section but I read from it from time to time. The family is the basic unit of society(from social studies, lol). So an excellent family is a building block for an excellent society. Don’t be deceived by lightness of my introduction. The matter to be discussed is a grave one.
I am writing today on personality disorders. The article is not meant to be elaborate or some sort of study manual on these conditions. It would just be an introduction to a few disorders to enlighten those who had earlier been oblivious of such, and also to rouse the curiosity of those that would want to learn further about the disorders. I believe there are people on this forum who would have been shocked and disturbed by the behaviour manifested by individuals with personality disorders. Hopefully after going through this write up, they would be better informed on how to deal with such matters. For example, you may have experienced an individual having an extremely volatile temper usually not proportionate to the insults received, then you need to step back, evaluate the situation and figure out what you are really dealing with. There could be a disorder somewhere. I’m not saying not to be angry, it’s okay to be angry over unfair treatment, but some people cross the limits. Also personality disorders are not rare like that, most cases occur once in about every 100 people and some environments may throw up even higher frequencies: backgrounds with all kinds of deprivation: extreme poverty and competition for basic amenities, absent parents i.e. father or mother, or even both.

I am not a psychiatrist or anything so there may be errors in the write up and I won’t likely be responding to questions. I am just an inquisitive layman who has taken the benefit of university libraries and the internet to learn more about the world around him. I have personally socially interacted with some persons with behaviours having a marked semblance to these disorders, and in all cases I was fortunate or informed enough to know what course of action to take before the occurrence of any significant incident.
So sit back, relax, and reflect deeply as you read.


To start; personality disorders are roughly enduring dysfunctional patterns of behaviour in which affected individuals are unable to maintain social relationships with others. They are usually unable to have real loving relationships with others, and they may not be able to hold regular jobs for a long period(not because of physical or mental incapacity to do well at the job, but usually due to an inability to conform to the social norms of the culture within which they are to work, or just straightforward absenteeism). The individuals cause significant distress to people they associate with, as well as themselves, though they seem to be oblivious of any harm to their own selves as they repeat error after error in spite of any actual punishment or suffering they may have faced for their actions. They also give logical reasons for their misbehaviour and are quick to blame others when things turn distasteful primarily due to their own actions. Some will display an unnatural lack of anxiety or tension in normally tense situations. They do not accept there’s anything wrong with their behaviour so they are not likely to seek help, though lately with the advent of the internet, there are public forums where people that may admit having these disorders can meet others who are similar.
Note that most people exhibit traits like those with pd on occasion, the distinguishing factor is that in the pd individual the traits are repetitive and ingrained into the personality, and the behaviour is dysfunctional enough to prevent them from having normal productive relationships.

reminder!!! pls see this if you can.
having some difficulty with embedding, will try again later. salam.

lol @ Abu bakr is back. salam akhee.

Mac and Tbaba, kindly settle this thing outside nl, pls.

Mac, Tbaba is upset with your manner of refusing his request, not the act of refusal. surely you can see this.
some people are already rejoicing.
ps: I am not expecting any reply to this comment. salam.

betathings,
why bother really.

hate to comment on this thread but frankly the op's post ranks up there
among the most silly posts ever put on NL, it just beggars belief. he
even had the audacity to give it a catchy title.
if you have been indoctrinated by your pastor, must you come to a public
forum to regurgitate the pentecostal spittle you have been consuming
every weekend.
"God is the divine father......., you can be a Muslim or not.........,
God is not interested in religion........, you can stay in your room and
just accept Jesus as your personal saviour bla, bla, bla"
plzzz, save this your message for kindergarten kids at Sunday school.

faith based intelligence by Moutassem al Hameedi

These are the topics discussed in the above titled lecture delivered at a ?Canadian university by sheikh al Hameedi.
He discusses the reality of radicalization among muslim youth, and proffers solutions as well as other esential matters regarding muslim conduct. The lecturer was the Imam at call to islam centre :luton(bedfordshire), England. He personally addressed the 2007 Stockholm suicide bomber: Tamouri al Abdaly prior to the bombing incident. Every muslim youth would benefit a lot from this lecture inshallah.


Moutasem al Hameedi: Education
• Has studies at al-Albaani Center since 2001
• Studies under the prominent students of Sheikh al-Albaani:
Sheikh Mashhoor Hasan (Hadeeth and Usool al-Fiqh)
Sheikh Ali al-Halabi (Hadeeth and Aqeeda)
Sheikh Hussain al-Awaaysha (Fiqh and Manners)
Shekih Abu Suhaib (Imaam at Wise Islamic Centre in the UK)
Sheikh Ayman as-Saadiq (Arabic grammar and morphplogy)
Dr. Malik Sha’ban (Aqeedah, Tafseer)

Work in Da’wa:
• Imaam and lecturer at Ibn Taymiyyah Mosque (London, UK)
• Imaam and lecturer at Call to Islam Islamic Centre (Luton, UK)
• Lectured at British universities and schools on Islam.
• TV shows preparer and presenter, Huda TV.
Areas of interest:
• Usool al-fiqh
• Mutalah al-Hadeeth
• Seerah

to see, follow the link below, then look for[b] faith based intelligence[/b](no. 123) in the videos column on the right side of your screen.(you need a fast internet connection to view) the lecture is in 15 parts.
http://99islam.com/

to see on youtube, follow here:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TIUNAuzpj2o

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Moral of the story: we are not saying you should not employ mediocres, but only allow the presentable and capable employee address the public.

Rukemi291: Thank you. I am also very shy but getting married in a few days time. So i browsed about wedding, found this very rich material and decided to share it.

hey ya, may Allah bless your union, and give you the best muslim children.

Muslim jurists and abortion

Many Muslim scholars have discussed the thorny question of abortion. They have based their discussion on the division of the development of foetus into two stages. According to them, the whole period of pregnancy can be divided into two stages: the first 120 days, and the remaining period before childbirth. Most classical Muslim jurists claim that it is permissible to have an abortion for valid reasons during the first stage.
All Muslim scholars agree that the foetus changes to a human being after 120 days of conception. The following hadith also supports this point.

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Each of you is constituted in your mother's womb for forty days as a nutfah, then it becomes an 'alaqah for an equal period, then a mudghah for another equal period, then the angel is sent and he breathes the soul into it."

This view of embryonic development was central to the Muslim arguments on abortion. According to Muslim scholars, it is lawful to have an abortion during the first 120 days, but after the stage of ensoulment, abortion is prohibited completely except where it is imperative to save the mother's life.

The Hanafi scholars, who comprised the majority of orthodox Muslims in later centuries, permitted abortion until the end of the four months. According to them, a pregnant woman could have an abortion without her husband's permission, but she should have reasonable grounds for this act. One reason which was mentioned frequently was the presence of a nursing infant. A new pregnancy put an upper limit on lactation, and the jurists believed that if the mother could not be replaced by a wet-nurse, the infant would die.

A considerable majority of the Maliki jurists described abortion as completely forbidden. In their view, when the semen settles in the womb, it is expected to develop into a living baby and it should not be disturbed by anyone. According to Ibn Jawziyyah, when the womb has retained the semen, it is not permitted for the husband and wife, or one of them or the master of the slave-wife, to induce an abortion. After ensoulment, however, abortion is prohibited absolutely and is akin to murder. [19]

Many Shafi'i and Hanbali scholars agreed with the Hanafis in their tolerance of the practice, some putting an upper limit of forty days for a legal abortion, others eighty days or 120 days.

tbaba1234: Disclaimer: I am not a scholar or an ustadh, whatever is written is from more knowledgeable sources. I just try to pass the message on.

you know I was just about to ask you if you wrote this from yourself or other sources.
Jazakallahu.

very beautiful, I always found that ayah mysterious. it is a very deep verse indeed. thanks for posting.

sometimes when you see exegesis on a verse of the quran, you feel like abandoning all worldly pursuit and concentrating on Quran only, even if it's a verse a day. but we have to eat nah.