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a beautiful ayah about our beloved Muhammad(peace be on him)
9:128 Now hath come unto you an Apostle from amongst yourselves: it grieves him that ye should perish: ardently anxious is he over you: to the Believers is he most kind and merciful.
Laqad jaakum rasoolun min anfusikumAAazeezun AAalayhi ma AAanittum hareesunAAalaykum bialmu/mineena raoofun raheemun

tnx for the reminder op, jazakAllahu khair. may God help us keep to the sunna as much as we can.

deols: the topic says, before you say I do and not on your wedding day.

So again, @op, how do you think a Woman would have known? Do you think everyone would be able to ask such a question? how would you have felt if you were asked?

wAllahi, this questions are so funny, and practical too. if a woman should ask me such a question, i am sure to blush through my dark skin.

snubish: ummitoagirl, can u pls send me an e-mail address to contact you on. I want to ask you some questions, though not related to this post. my contact is a_raim2009@yahoo.com. thanks

pls you should send the mail to my box via the above e-mail address, if it's sent through nairaland, I may not get it except I am incidentally also on NL at that moment.
ma salam.

ummitoagirl, can u pls send me an e-mail address to contact you on. I want to ask you some questions, though not related to this post. my contact is a_raim2009@yahoo.com. thanks

deols: [/b]- I see this a lot. they know their trousers should jump and just roll it up for the prayers and then go on bouncing afterwards

One of the mistakes of some of those who pray is that they tuck up their garments before starting their prayer.

nice article deols, thanks for calling our attention to these. I am so guilty of the above, hope to change now inshAllah.
lol @ the bolded.

very true, the feeling that most comes to mind for me is Awe. to the point that, in addition to laziness, I tend to leave studying the Quran from being overawed by its gravity. God forgive me.

kissing, hugging, holding hands, and all such public displays of affection do not guarantee a happy union, as we can see from societies where these things are encouraged as part of their culture.
most women love for their man to love them deeply and to show it whether in the home or in public, but at what cost? a thing may seem innocent to a person but be suggestive to another. and Islam is particular about morality in the community.
me sha, maybe I can hold hands sometimes and do istighfar thereafter, beyond that? I don,t know o.

BahPulo: I am happy to return to this thread and tell my muslim sisters that I finally took the hijab. I feel so liberated that I get mad at myself for delaying it this long. It's been a journey and I am glad to say that I finally reached my destination. I love the inner pose and peace the hijab has given me. I love the fact that I get greeted by a muslim wheneever I pass one because they can tell. I am taken by surprise when strangers I don't know say assallah mallaikum to me on the streets. I love the fact that my husband is happy but most of all I love the fact that I am finally doing what Allah expect from me as a muslim woman. Thank you for your prayers because if you go back to the first few posts on this thread you will see some of you prayed that Allah makes it easy for me to take the hijab He did and Alhamdulillah. MAy Allah make it easy too for our sisters who are finding putting the hijab on hard.

Good for you! mon pied, ton pied. this pleasant piece of news has me smiling with tears in my eyes just now. May Allah Ar-Rauf make it easy for you.

PRACTICAL TIPS FOR THE MUSLIM FAMILY

1. Pray and learn together

Bukhari and Muslim report that the Prophet (s) said: “The difference between a house in which the name of Allah is mentioned and a house in which the name of Allah is not mentioned is like the difference between a dead person and one who is alive.”

The Prophet (s) also said, as narrated by Abu Hurairah: “Do not make your houses like graveyards; satan runs away from houses in which the chapter of al-Baqarah is recited.” (Muslim)

Another hadeeth, as narrated by Abu Hurairah, says:

“May Allah have mercy upon the man who wakes up to pray during the night and wakes his wife to pray, and if she does not wake up he splashes water on her face. May Allah have mercy upon the woman who wakes up to pray during the night and wakes her husband to pray, and if he does not wake up she splashes water on his face.” (Ahmad, Abu Dawud, Nasaa’i and Ibn Majah)

Learning and educating themselves about their deen, going to lectures as well as taking part in various dawah activities together, will unite husband and wife in purpose.

One of the best ways to resolve conflict and prevent dispute is to have a common law that all parties consider sacred and refer to for guidance. This common law is the revelation of Allah, the Quran.

2.Take good care of your appearance

The advice of taking good care of one’s appearance is not only directed to women, but also to men.

Ibn ‘Abbas said: “I like to beautify myself for my wife just as I would like her to beautify herself for me.” And he then recited the ayah that says: “And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness.” 2/228

In this sense, it is very ironic for men to make sure that before they leave their homes they brush their teeth, wear perfume and dress up, whereas when they are at home they neglect their appearance when their wives are the most deserving of seeing them in good shape.

The wife should certainly also do her best in this respect. When her husband comes back from work her sight should be pleasing to his eyes and heart. This is particularly important because he has probably been around improperly dressed women at his workplace.

Do not look at that which is unlawful for you to look at because the evil consequences of this sin will impact your home; watching women on satellite television, for example, makes one’s wife appear less attractive.

3. Smiling, joking and change

Smiling lifts up the heart and wipes away hatred.

Abdullah Ibn al-Harith tells us that he has never seen anyone smile at somebody else’s face as he has seen Prophet Muhammad (s) smile.

Joking is a remedy for depression and distress.

There are several reports about how the Prophet (s) used to make jokes. However, he never said anything but the truth.

Change and recuperation are essential for our emotional wellbeing as well.

A poet said:

Do something different every day for your household, lest they will be sick of you and desert you

For water is fresh as long as it is running, and once it stagnates, it starts to change

It was authentically reported by Abu Dawood from ‘Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) that she used to race with the Prophet, and one time she beat him, and after she gained some weight, he raced and won. Then he said: ‘this time makes up for the other one.’

4. Physical intimacy

It was certainly not vain for Aisha (r) to tell us that the Prophet (s) used to kiss his wives even while he was fasting.

Also, when they were having their period he would avoid intercourse, but not physical contact with them as such.

He would also pray so close to Aisha (r) that he would signal to her to move her legs when he made sujood (prostration). Reported by Abu Dawood.

He said to his Companions when he lined them up for prayer:

“Do not misalign lest your hearts will become misaligned.” Reported by Ahmad and Abu Dawood.

This is because physical intimacy will bring about emotional intimacy.

5. The big little things

There are things that may seem trivial or small, yet they mean so much.

This would, for example, include a kiss on the forehead while your partner is asleep, calling from work to tell him/her that you think of him/her, covering him/her while asleep, or tucking him/her in at night.

There are many other ways to show your partner your love and appreciation. As spouses, each one knows which big little things are important to his/her partner.

6. Support each other emotionally

Women go through hormonal changes before and during their periods as well as during and after pregnancies. These changes have an impact on their emotional and mental well-being. The husband needs to be aware of this and treat his wife even more kindly during these times.

Men are usually most distressed when they feel unable to suffice their household during times of sickness of a family member. The same applies to other hardships such as loosing one’s job. In these cases, spouses should support each other emotionally.

7. Divide the burden

A husband should help his wife whenever he can.

Imam Ahmad reports that Aishah (r) was asked what the Prophet (s) would do while at home. She replied, “He was just like any other human being, he would sew his garment, milk the sheep and serve himself.”

These manners of the Prophet (s) are neglected by many men who would not even make themselves a cup of tea even when they see their wife run between nursing a baby and trying to comfort another child.

8. Etiquette of discussion

Allah has made the family a place for peace, tranquility and stability.

Allah says in the Quran (30:21):

“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who give thought.”

It is important for the husband to remember that his wife likes to talk to him about all her daily affairs. He should be attentive and listen to her, for this is a reflection of his good manners as well as his love and appreciation of her.

You should also know that some women are too shy to complain. Their screams are hidden deep within their wounded hearts; their lives are an emotional struggle. In this case, the husband needs to be smart enough to pick up the clues and hasten to her rescue from the distress and sadness that have overtaken her before she cannot take it anymore or becomes permanently resentful.

Do not be offensive and choose your words wisely.
Allah has taught us this even with regard to the disbelievers. Even more, it applies to your spouse.

“Say: You will not be asked of what we committed, nor shall we be asked of what you do.”

Praise whenever suitable and yield to your partner at times, so that you do not seem like a tyrant.

Praising the wife for her appearance, cooking and adornment wins her heart. Moreover, Islam has allowed husbands to lie to their wives in order to increase the love between them. For example, telling her that she is the prettiest woman you have ever seen, when that may not be the reality.

Remember that your spouse is probably not the devil, so you will find something good to say about him/her.

When angry remain silent.
Anger is the cause of all disputes. The relationship between husband and wife is far too valuable to ruin in a moment of anger. So, remain silent whenever you become upset.

The Prophet (s) said: “Teach, make things easy and do not make things hard. Give glad tidings [to people] and do not repel them away; and when one of you gets angry he should remain silent.” Saheeh al-Jame’ 4027

When your spouse is angry, calm and comfort him/her.

Abu Darda’ said to his wife: “If you see me angry, calm me down, and if I see you angry, I will calm you down, otherwise it will be too difficult to live together.”

9. Resolve conflicts

Forgive and lower your expectations
Bukhari and Muslim report that the Prophet (s) said: “Take good care of women, for they were created from a bent rib, and the most curved part of it is its top; if you try to straighten it you will break it, and if you leave it, it will remain arched, so take good care of women.”

A believing man should never hate a believing woman. Whenever he dislikes one of her qualities, he likes others.

Always remember that while a wife is not like the female Companions that he reads about, the husband is also not like the male Companions of the Prophet (s) that she reads about. If she is not Aisha (r), he is not Abu Bakr (r) either.

Conceal and work together
Spouses should not discuss problems in front of their children because it has a negative effect on them and reduces their respect for the parents.

Muslim reports from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri that the Prophet (s) said: ”The most evil person in the sight of Allah on the Day of Resurrection is a man who sleeps with his wife and then goes out and spreads her (sexual) secrets.”

The Prophet (s) also tells us:


“He who covers the faults of a Muslim, Allah will cover his in this life and on the Day of Judgment.” Reported by Ibn Majah.

Find a trustworthy judge or judges
The Quran tells us:

“It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.” (33:36)

Before spouses start looking for someone to judge between them in case of a serious dispute, they may want to refer to a book about the fiqh of the particular matter that they disagree on and read it together. They might come to an agreement already.

If not, they may seek judgment from one member of her family and one member of his family. If the family members are not rational or practicing, this step can be skipped.

Then they may go to a scholar who is trusted by the two of them.

That scholar is not infallible, but his judgment should be accepted because it is most probably closest to Allah’s decree.

If they think he is in plain error, then they may seek advice from someone else who may be more knowledgeable.

But when the rulings of the different scholars agree, they have to accept what they think is most probably the decree of Allah.

Remember that your fight in this life is against the devil and your evil inclinations, not your ex- spouse.

May Allah protect our homes, and make them as he wishes.

Edited by: Sr. Safiya Balioglu

for full article see source: http://wathakker.info/english/articles/view.php?id=906

^both.

^moderator or psychologist: choose one mac.

a commentary of the above verse from tafsir Ibn Kathir:

The Messenger is not the Father of any Man
Allah states:

Muhammad is not the father of any of your men,
After this it was not permitted to say Zayd bin Muhammad, i.e., he was not his father even though he had adopted him.
No male child of the Prophet lived until puberty.
Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, bore him Al-Qasim, At-Tayyib and At-Tahir, but they died in childhood.
Mariyah Al-Qibtiyyah bore him Ibrahim, but he also died in infancy.
He also had four daughters from Khadijah: Zaynab, Ruqayyah, Umm Kulthum and Fatima, may Allah be pleased with them all. Three of them died during his lifetime, Fatima lived long enough to be bereaved of him, then she died six months later.

He is the Last of the Prophets
Allah says:
but he is the Messenger of Allah and the last of the Prophets. And Allah is Ever All-Aware of everything.
This is like the Ayah:
Allah knows best with whom to place His Message. (6:124)
This Ayah clearly states that there will be no Prophet after him. If there will be no Prophet after him then there will surely be no Messenger after him either, because the status of a Messenger is higher than that of a Prophet, for every Messenger is a Prophet but the reverse is not the case.
This was reported in many Mutawatir Hadiths narrated from the Messenger of Allah via a group of his Companions, may Allah be pleased with them.

Imam Ahmad recorded a narration from Ubayy bin Ka`b, from his father that the Prophet said:
My parable among the Prophets is that of a man who built a house and did a good and complete job, apart from the space of one brick which he did not put in its place. The people started to walk around the building, admiring it and saying, "If only that brick were put in its place.
Among the Prophets, I am like that brick.
It was also recorded by At-Tirmidhi, who said "Hasan Sahih.''

Another Hadith
Imam Ahmad recorded that Anas bin Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah said:
Messengership and Prophethood have come to an end, and there will be no more Messengers or Prophets.
This worried the people, then he said:
But there will be Al-Mubashshirat.
They said, `O Messenger of Allah, what are Al-Mubashshirat?'
He said,
The dreams of a Muslim man, and they are one of the parts of Prophethood.
This was also recorded by At-Tirmidhi, who said, "Sahih Gharib.''

Another Hadith
Abu Dawud At-Tayalisi recorded that Jabir bin Abdullah, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah said:
The parable of myself and the Prophets is that of a man who built a house and did a complete and good job, except for the space of one brick. Whoever entered it would look at that space and say, how good it is, apart from the space of that brick. My position is like that of that brick, and the Prophets -- blessings and peace be upon them -- end with me.
It was also recorded by Al-Bukhari, Muslim and At-Tirmidhi, who said, "It is Sahih Gharib with this chain of narrators.''

Another Hadith
Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah said:
The parable of myself and the Prophets is that of a man who built a house and completed it apart from the space of one brick. I have come and completed that brick.
This was also recorded by Muslim.

Another Hadith
Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah said:
The parable of myself and the Prophets who came before me is that of a man who built houses and made them complete and beautiful apart from the space of a brick in one of the corners. The people started to walk around, admiring the construction and saying, If only you put a brick here, your construction will be complete.
The Messenger of Allah said:
And I am that brick.
It was also recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Another Hadith
Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah said:
I have been given preference over the other Prophets in six ways:
I have been given the ability to speak concisely;
I have been aided by fear (cast into the hearts of my enemies);
the spoils of war have been made permissible for me;
the entire earth has been made a Masjid and a means of purification for me;
I have been sent to all of mankind; and
the Prophets end with me.
This was also recorded by At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah; At-Tirmidhi said, "It is Hasan Sahih.''

Another Hadith
Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah said:
The parable of myself and the Prophets who came before me is that of a man who built a house and completed it apart from the space of one brick. I have come and completed that brick.
It was also recorded by Muslim.

Another Hadith
Jubayr bin Mut`im, may Allah be pleased with him, said that he heard the Messenger of Allah say:
I have several names:
I am Muhammad, and
I am Ahmad;
I am Al-Mahi (the eradicator) through whom Allah will erase disbelief;
I am Al-Hashir (the gatherer) at whose feet mankind will gather; and
I am Al-`Aqib (the final one) after whom there will be no Prophet.
It was also recorded in the Two Sahihs.
And there are many other Hadiths on this topic.
Allah has told us in His Book, and His Messenger has told us in the Mutawatir Sunnah, that there will be no Prophet after him, so that it may be known that everyone who claims this status after him is a liar and fabricator who is misguided and is misguiding others. Even if he twists meanings, comes up with false claims and uses tricks and vagaries, all of this is false and is misguidance as will be clear to those who have understanding.
This is what Allah caused to happen in the case of Al-Aswad Al-`Ansi in the Yemen and Musaylimah the Liar in Al-Yamamah, whose false miracles and nonsensical words showed everyone who was possessed of understanding that they were liars who were leading people astray; may the curse of Allah be upon them both.
This is the case with every false prophet until the Day of Resurrection, until they end with Al-Masih Ad-Dajjal (the Antichrist). Each of these liars is given by Allah signs which show the people of knowledge and the believers that his message is false -- which is part of the perfect kindness of Allah towards His creation. These liars do not enjoin what is good, nor forbid what is evil, unless they do so by coincidence or because it serves an ulterior purpose. They are the utmost in falsehood and immorality, in all that they say and do, as Allah says:
Shall I inform you (O people!) upon whom the Shayatin descend! They descend on every lying, sinful person. (26:221-222)
This is in contrast to the Prophets -- may blessings and peace be upon them -- for they are the utmost in righteousness, truthfulness, wisdom, uprightness and justice in all that they say and do, command and forbid.
In addition to this they are supported with miracles and clear and obvious proof. May the blessings and peace of Allah be upon them always, as long as heaven and earth remain.

surah 33. Al Ahzab(The Clans/Allies)

33:40 Muhammad is not the father of any of your men, but (he is) the Apostle of Allah, and the Seal of the Prophets: and Allah has full knowledge of all things.
Ma kana muhammadun abaahadin min rijalikum walakin rasoola Allahiwakhatama alnnabiyyeena wakana Allahubikulli shay-in AAaleeman

snubish: brilliant analogy Tbaba, we met a shameful thing indeed in this world. young Nigerian girls would do almost anything for the promised gift of a blackberry. . . .

this statement was meant to highlight the loss of moral values in society generally, and Nigeria specifically.
the blame is on the unscrupulous males promising the gifts, and then the gullible, corrupt females who fall for these promises.
this has nothing to do with love or marriage immediately.

Gold digging by Nigerian women is another topic entirely. Nigerians, men and women are not inherently corrupt, or greedy. In most cases they are victims of the whole political arrangement viz a viz economic realities of this country. a single recurrent theme within the psychology of both sexes is financial insecurity. but that is a topic for another day.

I should state that I have a deep respect for Nigerian women(or men) who conduct themselves respectably regardless of religious or familial affiliations. And vice versa.

thread of the year. "extremist Wahabi follower of Yazid"? see men looking for phantom enemies.
pls move to jokes section.

@vedaxcool, i admire your passion and tenacity on various anti-Islamic threads, but some statements just do not merit a reply. for example this thread by the nature of its opening is not likely to lead anywhere. it should just be ignored.
also, remember that we hold all prophets in high esteem including Jesus(peace be on him), so do not be dragged into a futile argument that will lead you to violate Islamic principles. salam.

^"for dummies" is not meant to be derogatory. it's only meant to emphasize the simplicity of the writing; and to attract attention.

tbaba, r u afraid? don't worry she won't spring any expensive surprises on you. just have a back up plan. . . like a safe escape route if that eventually happens.

@ deols, we men should know better really. 100 ferraris don't even come close to a good Muslim woman. a ferrari can not raise diligent Muslim kids with you, give you advice from a feminine perspective, or support you emotionally through tough times.

surah 2. Al Baqarah(the cow)
2:196 And complete the Hajj or Umra in the service of Allah. But if ye are prevented (from completing it), send an offering for sacrifice; such as ye may find and do not shave your heads until the offering reaches the place of sacrifice. And if any of you is ill or has an ailment in his scalp (necessitating shaving), (he should) in compensation either fast, or feed the poor, or offer sacrifice; and when ye are in peaceful conditions (again), if any one wishes to continue the Umra on to the Hajj, he must make an offering, such as he can afford, but if he cannot afford it, he should fast three days during the Hajj and seven days on his return, making ten days in all. This is for those whose household is not in (the precincts of) the Sacred Mosque. And fear Allah, and know that Allah is strict in punishment.
Waatimmoo alhajja waalAAumratalillahi fa-in ohsirtum fama istaysara minaalhadyi wala tahliqoo ruoosakum hattayablugha alhadyu mahillahu faman kana minkum mareedanaw bihi athan min ra/sihi fafidyatun min siyaminaw sadaqatin aw nusukin fa-itha amintum famantamattaAAa bialAAumrati ila alhajji famaistaysara mina alhadyi faman lam yajid fasiyamuthalathati ayyamin fee alhajji wasabAAatin itharajaAAtum tilka AAasharatun kamilatun thalika limanlam yakun ahluhu hadiree almasjidi alharamiwaittaqoo Allaha waiAAlamoo anna Allahashadeedu alAAiqabi

2:197 For Hajj are the months well known. If any one undertakes that duty therein, let there be no obscenity, nor wickedness, nor wrangling in the Hajj. And whatever good ye do, (be sure) Allah knoweth it. And take a provision (with you) for the journey, but the best of provisions is right conduct. So fear Me, o ye that are wise.
Alhajju ashhurun maAAloomatunfaman farada feehinna alhajja fala rafathawala fusooqa wala jidala fee alhajjiwama tafAAaloo min khayrin yaAAlamhu Allahuwatazawwadoo fa-inna khayra alzzadi alttaqwawaittaqooni ya olee al-albabi

2:198 It is no crime in you if ye seek of the bounty of your Lord (during pilgrimage). Then when ye pour down from (Mount) Arafat, celebrate the praises of Allah at the Sacred Monument and celebrate His praises as He has directed you; even though, before this, ye went astray.
Laysa AAalaykum junahun an tabtaghoofadlan min rabbikum fa-itha afadtum minAAarafatin faothkuroo Allaha AAindaalmashAAari alharami waothkuroohu kamahadakum wa-in kuntum min qablihi lamina alddalleena

2:199 Then pass on at a quick pace from the place whence it is usual for the multitude so to do, and ask for Allah's forgiveness. For Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.
Thumma afeedoo min haythu afadaalnnasu waistaghfiroo Allaha inna Allahaghafoorun raheemun

2:200 So when ye have accomplished your holy rites, celebrate the praises of Allah, as ye used to celebrate the praises of your fathers; yea, with far more heart and soul. There are men who say: "Our Lord! Give us (Thy bounties) in this world!" but they will have no portion in the Hereafter.
Fa-itha qadaytum manasikakumfaothkuroo Allaha kathikrikum abaakumaw ashadda thikran famina alnnasi manyaqoolu rabbana atina fee alddunyawama lahu fee al-akhirati min khalaqin

2:201 And there are men who say: "Our Lord! Give us good in this world and good in the hereafter, and defend us from the torment of the Fire!"
Waminhum man yaqoolu rabbana atinafee alddunya hasanatan wafee al-akhiratihasanatan waqina AAathaba alnnari

2:202 To these will be allotted what they have earned; and Allah is quick in account.
Ola-ika lahum naseebun mimmakasaboo waAllahu sareeAAu alhisabi

HAJJ TAMATTU(umrah, then hajj)

A. Umrah(performed within the months of hajj)

•Enter into ihram at designated station(miqat) depending on route of entry into the region of the sacred places.

•Go to the Kaabah, perform Tawaf as described above

•Go to as Safa and Marwa, perform saay.

•Exit ihram

Umrah completed,
pilgrims who are willing to also perform the hajj would have mandatorily performed their umrah during the months of hajj. They now exit ihram, to enter again on the 8th Dhul hijjah.

B. Hajj

•Enter ihram in Mecca from 8th Dhul hijjah

•Then go to mina, while there, pray Zuhr, Asr, Maghrib, Isha of the 8th , and Fajr of the 9th Dhul hijjah

•After sunrise on the 9th(day of Arafat), go to Arafat, while there, pray Zuhr, and Asr and wait till after sunset. Pilgrims spend the period at Arafat in concentration on worship, supplication, and repentance. This is the most important stage of the hajj, and hajj is not valid without the vigil at Arafat.

•After sunset on the same 9th Dhul hijjah, go to Muzdalifah, then pray Maghrib and isha, and wait till after fajr of the 10th Dhul hijjah.

•After sunrise on the 10th (day of sacrifice/eid adha), go back to mina and there:


1.throw seven small stones at the stone pillar at Aqabah, saying the takbir each time(this is an act of worship like the other rituals of the hajj regardless of the various ideas people have associated with the act)
note that: there are actually 3 stone pillars at mina, but at this stage pilgrims only throw at the pillar closest to Mecca i.e. the stone pillar at Aqabah.

2.slaughter a sheep for sacrifice

3.exit ihram(note that though pilgrims have exit ihram, have cut their hair and may wear perfume and their daily clothes, “marital relations” is still prohibited)

•then on the same 10th day, go back to Mecca and make Tawaf(tawaf al ifadah: this is the major tawaf of hajj).
•Also perform Saay(the saay of hajj).

https://wikitravel.org/upload/shared//1/16/Hajj1.gif

•Pilgrims now return to their tents in mina to spend the nights of the 10th, 11th, and 12th.
On the afternoons of the 11th and 12th, pilgrims now stone all 3 stone pillars at mina in a like manner to the stoning performed earlier.

•You now leave mina before sunset on the 12th for Mecca, where you make the final tawaf(farewell tawaf/ tawaf al widah) to bid goodbye to the house of Allah, many pilgrims now in tears.
No saay is required after this tawaf.

So now the hajj is complete but it is beneficial for pilgrims to proceed to medina where the visit the prophet’s mosque(peace be on him), and his grave, as well as the graves of the esteemed companions. Fearing Allah and not committing shirk at these graves. You should also visit the mosque at Quba, the first mosque in Islam.

May peace and blessings of Allah be upon the prophet, his family, and his companions till the day of resurrection.
May Allah accept the humble service of all past and present hujjaj, may He bestow on those of us yet to visit the means to do so.
Ma salaam.

Sources: performhajj.com
Wikipedia,
hajjandumrahguide.com

Keywords

Umrah: lesser pilgrimage. Can be performed any time of the year.

Umrah of hajj: lesser pilgrimage. Performed only during the months of
hajj i.e. the last 3 months occurring after the month of Ramadan in the
Islamic calendar: Shawwal, Dhul qadah, Dhul hijjah in that order. Should
be combined with hajj i.e. usually performed before the greater hajj,
with or without interruption.

Hajj: greater pilgrimage. Performed only during the last month of
hajj: Dhul hijjah. (This is the head of the whole matter, the main
thing). Usually performed with umrah with or without interruption.

(note that there are 3 types of the greater hajj:

1. interrupted hajj: hajj tamattu; umrah and hajj with a period of exit
from ihram after umrah, and then entry into
ihram again for hajj on the 8th Dhul hijjah.
(this article will attempt to briefly describe the interrupted hajj).

2. combined hajj: hajj qiran; umrah and hajj without exit from ihram in
between.

3. hajj alone: hajj ifrad; hajj without umrah(only for residents of
Mecca, sacrificing an animal is not obligatory).

Ihram: state of physical and spiritual purity entered into by
pilgrims signifying the start of hajj.

Mecca: most holy city in Islam. In present day Saudi Arabia.

Kaabah: most sacred site in Islam, cubical house in Mecca,
kingdom of Saudi Arabia; believed to have been built by prophet Ibrahim,
and his son Ismail. Located centrally within the courtyard of the great
mosque at Mecca.(masjid al haram)

Tawaf: anticlockwise circular movements about the Kaabah by
pilgrims. Repeated seven times, with 1st 3 circuits done at a rapid
walking pace, and last 4 circuits at normal pace. Start and stop at the
black stone. You should be ritually pure for tawaf(ablution).

Zam zam: sacred well close to the Kaabah. Pilgrims usually drink
from zam zam after completing Tawaf.

As Safa and Al Marwa: two elevations of land close to the Kaabah,
now also located within the great mosque. The Egyptian slave of prophet
Ibrahim and mother of prophet Ismail: Hajar; is believed to have paced
frantically between these two elevations in search for relief for her
distressed baby(Ismail).

Saay: pacing between As Safa and Al Marwa by pilgrims. Repeated
seven times. Starting at Safa and ending at Marwa.

Mina: city of tents about 5km east of Mecca.

Muzdalifah: area 5km east of mina

Arafat: sacred hill(about 70m in height) with surrounding plains,
about 7km east of Muzdalifah. Most important activity of the hajj is
staying here to worship(vigil/wuquf) on the 9th Dhul hijjah.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/4/4b/Tavaf.jpg/220px-Tavaf.jpg

22:26 Behold! We gave the site, to Abraham, of the (Sacred) House, (saying): "Associate not anything (in worship) with Me; and sanctify My House for those who compass it round, or stand up, or bow, or prostrate themselves (therein in prayer).

22:27 "And proclaim the Pilgrimage among men: they will come to thee on foot and (mounted) on every kind of camel, lean on account of journeys through deep and distant mountain highways;


22:28 "That they may witness the benefits (provided) for them, and celebrate the name of Allah, through the Days appointed, over the cattle which He has provided for them (for sacrifice): then eat ye thereof and feed the distressed ones in want.

22:29 "Then let them complete the rites prescribed for them, perform their vows, and (again) circumambulate the Ancient House."

22:30 Such (is the Pilgrimage): whoever honours the sacred rites of Allah, for him it is good in the Sight of his Lord. Lawful to you (for food in Pilgrimage) are cattle, except those mentioned to you (as exception): but shun the abomination of idols, and shun the word that is false,

Assalam alaykum,

Beautiful rituals in Islam.

This article intends to simplify the rituals of the hajj experience for those of us who hear about hajj but do not know what it entails or have forgotten the procedure for the hajj.

The hajj is the 5th pillar of Islam and is obligatory on every sane adult Muslim who is able to afford, and perform it.
Going for hajj is not the same as going for a tour of sightseeing or relaxation.
The hajj is an intensely spiritual journey of faith where worship of Allah is the sole aim and major activity of every pilgrim throughout their stay in the most sacred of places.
Pilgrims are to spend the entire period of the hajj in remembrance of, fear of, and supplicating in hope to their Lord. It is ideal to know how, where, and when: to say the Talbiyah, to say Takbir, or to just supplicate.

Ps: this is only a summary, do not use as a guide for undertaking the hajj. It is only meant to arouse our curiosity about hajj. Prospective hujjaj are advised to get a proper hajj guide written by scholars and study diligently before going on hajj. Remember hajj usually is a costly undertaking; you don’t want to waste your energy, time, and money or even risk not getting the full spiritual rewards of hajj by not preparing well.
Half of every journey is adequate preparation. May Allah Azza wa Jal make our journey towards completing our religion easy for us.

brilliant analogy Tbaba, we met a shameful thing indeed in this world. young Nigerian girls would do almost anything for the promised gift of a blackberry. . . .

now talking about ferraris; got me thinking: how a ferrari would make a fine bride indeed for a young man. astaghfirllahi.

^ shala, or wotever your name is. frankly, the format of this your post is not encouraging. . . . which language is this? seeing this post, i wouldn't advise you to read a Koran. stick to watching cartoon network!

^^ in fact. . . . . scratching my head, my mouth opened. . .

vedaxcool: and when I said Avicenna was also logicboy they said it isn't true now we are seeing the convergence of the deluded character.

no vedaxcool, avicenna is not logicboy.
logicboy,cheers01,logicboy03, abdulsleek etc. is the most sincere and probably most intelligent of the atheists. see his posts as "logicboy" when he was new to nairaland, then he was completely honest, and never claimed to be a muslim. he was going out with a muslim arab lady whose family objected to the association. unfortunately for him, Islam places the muslim community above the individual, muslim or non muslim.

[quote
author=Avicenna]@Abdulsleek

I'm an atheist. Ex-muslim.
I left Islam because I do not agree with it. Some morals, some
punishments.......

I have no belief in God because we have no evidence for him. Its that
simple.

You said somewhere that Allah is wrong.

I agree with you. COMPLETELY WRONG. I was told to never put my morals
or principles before Allah's own. I'm not sorry, my reason says
different. I have no interest in worshipping an ignorant God( no
offence).

This your questions will finally lead you 'astray'. Not necessarily into
atheism but you will definitely leave the religion. Maybe become a
deist if you still believe in God.

My point is, trying to find answers here is futile. You will get
rationalizations. And rationalizations. And finally, a GODDAMN take it
or leave it.

I left it.[/quote]Who exactly is doing the rationalizing here.
The basis of faith in Islam is the Koran:
We believe the form and content of the Koran could not have been
invented by a human 1400 years ago.
We believe in the messenger that was sent with the Koran, and we try to
follow his example to the best of our knowledge and ability.
you sir and other atheists are the ones who rationalize their disbelief.
Some people do not believe that the HIV virus causes illness, some
people do not believe in intra nuclear sub atomic particles, in spite of
proof. So each man is free to choose whatever his intellect will allow
him to believe. There is no take it or leave it here, but I see you chose
to leave it. And so what do we say to those who leave it to follow their
own personal whims, after having shown them proof: GOOD RIDDANCE TO BAD
RUBBISH! It’s that simple, really.

@tohira, every form of worship is encouraged during these days. however, the known sunnah of the prophet(peace be on him) was fasting on the 9th(the day of Arafat).

^ 1st dhul hijjah 1433 A.H should most likely be Wednesday 17th October 2012.
ma salam.

surah 22. Al Hajj(the pilgrimage)


22:26 Behold! We gave the site, to Abraham, of the (Sacred) House, (saying): "Associate not anything (in worship) with Me; and sanctify My House for those who compass it round, or stand up, or bow, or prostrate themselves (therein in prayer).
Wa-ith bawwa/na li-ibraheemamakana albayti an la tushrik bee shay-an watahhirbaytiya liltta-ifeena waalqa-imeenawaalrrukkaAAi alssujoodi

22:27 "And proclaim the Pilgrimage among men: they will come to thee on foot and (mounted) on every kind of camel, lean on account of journeys through deep and distant mountain highways;
Waaththin fee alnnasibialhajji ya/tooka rijalan waAAalakulli damirin ya/teena min kulli fajjin AAameeqin

22:28 "That they may witness the benefits (provided) for them, and celebrate the name of Allah, through the Days appointed, over the cattle which He has provided for them (for sacrifice): then eat ye thereof and feed the distressed ones in want.
Liyashhadoo manafiAAa lahum wayathkurooisma Allahi fee ayyamin maAAloomatin AAalama razaqahum min baheemati al-anAAami fakuloo minhawaatAAimoo alba-isa alfaqeera

22:29 "Then let them complete the rites prescribed for them, perform their vows, and (again) circumambulate the Ancient House."
Thumma lyaqdoo tafathahum walyoofoonuthoorahum walyattawwafoo bialbaytialAAateeqi

22:30 Such (is the Pilgrimage): whoever honours the sacred rites of Allah, for him it is good in the Sight of his Lord. Lawful to you (for food in Pilgrimage) are cattle, except those mentioned to you (as exception): but shun the abomination of idols, and shun the word that is false,-
Thalika waman yuAAaththimhurumati Allahi fahuwa khayrun lahu AAindarabbihi waohillat lakumu al-anAAamu illa mayutla AAalaykum faijtaniboo alrrijsa minaal-awthani waijtaniboo qawla alzzoori