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If she keeps quiet I can bet with you that the shameless donkey will repeat the evil act.

She must speak out to save herself. She may even get pregnant

This is not a matter of forgiveness. Let her report to the police ans she also need to leave their apartment

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Since you already took pictures in which she appeared there was no need for her to so melodramatic about your mum taking pictures with only her children.

Taking such issues to her own mum was also a very bad idea. If my daughter called me to tell me something like this I would tell her to sort out the problem with her husband.

There is no reason to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Some battles are not worth the fight.

Don't mind her, she will get over it. I imagine how childish she would discover she had behaved in 25years time when she has sons and daughters in-law

Both of you need to read "How to win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Canergie. Its a wonderful book on relationship.

You should have reminded her that you both agreed no one is coming to stay with you. There was no need to say you wanted to think about it.

You have to insist no one will stay with you. Even if you will eventually change your minds ( both of you ) it must not be on this particular case

Just download Truecaller on your phone and block him forever!!

After 28 years its still sweet as ever. If I could revert the hands of the clock to 1988, I would still go with this wonderful woman by my side.

Yes, a born again christian can do a court wedding.

It may interest you to know that the law has no regard for church wedding.

In case of litigation, church wedding is not a valid legal marriage, it is only recognized by religious authorities.

You need to do court wedding before the law can recognize your marriage.

I have been married for twenty eight years and it grows sweeter day by day.

It is unfortunate that the picture of marriage many young people have today is that of a dungeon but I tell you, your life is what you make out of it. You decide the type of home you want and build it with your partner.

Even if you come from a broken home, it doesn't mean yours must also break.

Approach life with a positive mindset and it will amaze you how things will work out for you. The picture of marriage peddled by Africa Magic is not true.

Anyone can have a wonderful marriage if you're prepared to work for it.

Be very cautious. I believe you know how much attention this car will draw to you.

It is wise not to draw attention to yourself too much, that is why people don't necessarily buy all that they can afford.

Think more of investment today so as to secure your tomorrow.

Enjoy life in bits and grow to maturity.

Go ahead with your life, he's just being consumed by envy.

Just ignore him.

Know that the fact that you're good to someone does not mean he will be god to you.

Let him rot in his envy.

Do the best you can and forget about whatever your mum says. She is your mum but she's not the one to determine your destiny.

Don't disrespect her or abuse her but remain a committed Christian you are. God's purpose for you is unchangeable.

I grew up in a home where my mum proclaimed worse things but among all my siblings, I have the best marriage and i'm still the family bread winner.

Till today. she remains amazed at the high level of grace and favour of God upon my life.

This will also be your portion in Jesus name.

You need to learn interpersonal relationship skill. I have seen people hide their poor skill in relationship under the pretext of being an introvert but being an introvert does not make a person obtuse and saucy. Life is built on relationship and Christianity especially, is built on relationship both horizontal or vertical.

Be warm to people around you, greet them, show interest in them and they will reciprocate.

My candid advice is that you should not sentence yourself to a life of misery and regret.

If you don't have feelings for him, cut off the relationship.

It's important that couples have a sense of pride in each other and desire each other's company.
Visual pleasure, psychological and physical appeal are necessary ingredients to a happy home.

If you don't like the guy let him go.

Let's make some analysis to help you decide which package to choose

Recharge N200 data, get 200 MB of data worth N800, another N200 airtime to call or send sms to any network and N200 airtime to call 10 friends and family, valid for four days = N50.00 per day


Recharge N500 data plan, get 500 MB of data, N500 airtime to call or send sms to any network and N500 airtime to call 10 friends and family, valid for 10 days = N50.00 per day


Recharge with N1,000 for data, get 1GB of data. Receive N1,000 free airtime to call or send sms to any network and N1000 free airtime to call 10 friends and family, valid for 15 days. = N66.67 per day

N2,000 data plan, enjoy 2 GB of data with N2,000 airtime bonus to call or send sms to any network and another N2,000 free airtime to call 10 friends and family, valid for 30 days = 66.67 per day.


So, make your choice

I suspect that you must be a "pastor" in a white garment organization where syncretism is practiced.

How can you describe yourself as a pastor and advise your younger brother to inherit a deceased wife?

I believe you know what to do.

If you need a confirmation from nairaland then I confirm that you walk away.

Face the reality today, don't postpone the evil day because it will surely come.

This experience will be a pain for a short time.

There are different methods......

1. Biographical method

2. Chronological method.

3. Devotional method.

4. Doctrinal method

5. Topical method

6. Textual method

There is at least three other methods I can't remember at the moment.

I have just one word........


Every leader should be aware of narcissism.

My dear Mary, I don’t get it – why should you apologise for your virginity, or feel ashamed? And why should you apologise for your faith in Christ? That’s your civil right and it’s fundamental. Your faith provides you moral compass. We all need moral compass in life. Life is too wide and long. You’re young. Even old men struggle to find their way through life. Moses didn’t get it right until 80! Had a 40-year hiatus.
A moral compass gives you guidance, shows you which way not to go and leads you in the direction you should. A moral compass gives you an ambit of operation – you operate within its latitude. It keeps you in a safe perimeter. A moral compass is about safety.
Now, some choose to remain virgin till they marry, and some deem otherwise. Some are sexually active and some have decided no more sex until marriage. It all boils down to individual choice. At the end of it all, it boils down to the philosophy we subscribe to. Our choices of sexual values are predicated on our philosophical subscription. For you, your faith is your life philosophy.
That a ubiquitous army of sneering trolls chooses to inveigh on your moral stance shouldn’t bother you. Not one bit. Whose business is it whether you choose to remain a virgin or not! It’s YOUR life, it’s YOUR choice, it’s YOUR body, it’s YOUR values. It’s nobody’s business! Man is a free moral agent, a chartered liberty. We’re free to do as we deem with our lives. God recognises this right. But of course we also must respect God’s rights as sovereign Lord. We must reciprocate his gesture and goodwill.
There will always be the cynics. There will always be the scornful. Don’t ever follow their counsel. And there will be those who regard you as a prehistoric relic of a bygone era, just because you’re a virgin! But here’s something you need to learn about human nature: the motivation of the heart of man is never apparent. Who knows the REAL reason they’re making fun of you! For all you know someone may just be feeling condemned by your virginal stance; or it may just be envy. It’s the same logic at play when people make fun of the conscientious student in class. They’ll even nickname him. Yet he’s the one doing the right thing. And the exam results soon prove that fact. In other words, people’s reaction to our stance is not indicative of the rightness or wrongness of our conviction. Should the conscientious student then stop studying because people make fun of him? Of course not!
In the same way, it will be ridiculous for you to harpoon your faith to please those harassing you. Even if the whole world makes fun of you, be sure to stand by your conviction. Didn’t they mock Noah? Don’t compromise your chastity to please the world. Who made these people judge over you anyway? And so the larger issue is really conviction – your personal conviction. Don’t violate your ethical scruples by cowering to the dictates of a baying crowd. The conviction of the masses is always suspect. It always swings. Those who shout hosanna one day have been known to shout crucify him the next day.
There is something called defiance of faith in the face of ignominious scorn. You must learn to exercise that option if you want to succeed in life. They can no more make fun of you than you can make fun of them. Everyone has a right to his or her conviction. Now, here’s the irony: some of the people making fun of virgins actually want to marry virgins. They want to hit it first. And some of the people who want to marry virgins are the very ones who disvirgined others, then dumped them. These are instances of inverted logic. But remember what I told you about human nature. It’s twisted.
You’ve got to learn to hold on to your personal convictions, especially your moral perpendicularity & upbringing. If you don’t learn the resilience of personal conviction, public opinion will oppress you and determine your life. And humans have an opinion on everything, including things that are of no concern to them. And they feed off third hand information. Witness the judgments passed on social media daily. If you can’t maintain your stand on this issue, even your choice of husband will also be the subject of referendum. You will be seeking validation from wrong sources – fickle self-appointed validators who feed on prurience. You don’t need the validation of these people. Who are they? What can they do to you really? All they can do is talk, make fun of you. And then what?
There are men out there who’ll applaud and appreciate your moral stance, who see you as what mama ordered. That other guy just got frustrated because you wouldn’t sleep with him. There are those who’ll appreciate your self-discipline. Virginity requires discipline and control. And self-discipline is a wonderful virtue. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. Learn to stand by your conviction, to live by your conviction, to live by conviction. The Pauline enunciation of sex is that sex is not just a physical act: “There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin.” That sex without commitment and intimacy makes us lonelier than ever. And marriage is the institutional platform of commitment and intimacy. That’s the philosophy of your faith. Sex is the physical articulation of the principle of oneness.
Now, if others are not ashamed of their disvirginity, why should you be ashamed of your virginity? And if your virginity gives you good conscience before God, by all means keep it till you marry. After all, it is Him with whom we all have to do at the very end.
I’ll touch on the other issues you raised in my next correspondence. Enjoy your singleness.
Your mentor, LA
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You sound like a teenager to me because that's the period of life where there's both internal and external turmoil; You don't understand yourself and no one understands you. You crave for love and acceptance but your family just complains about everything you do. That's because they don't know how to relate with a teenager.

I advise you to get a teenage worker of the same sex with you, someone who understands teenage idiosyncrasies. such a person will help you to handle yourself.

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My dear, I have been married for 29 years. My honest advice for you is to find a way to cut off completely from this guy. He's not in control of his life. If you marry him, be sure that his family will push you out of the home. His escapist mentality of resorting to drinking and smoking in the face of challenges is also very disturbing. It doesn't show he will stand by you if his family comes tomorrow to throw away your property from his house.

Once upon a time, a man ignited a match stick inside his room and put it very close to his wardrobe. Withing minutes, one of his shirts caught fire but he just laughed, afterall its just a shirt and he could just put out the fire with his bare hands. So he left the fire and went to his sitting room to watch ManU vs Arsenal. Ten minutes later, three shirts had caught fire but he didn't mind; why should he? He just needed to fetch a bucket of water to put out the fire. One of his neighbours noticed a strange odour of burning materials from his room and called him but he said it was nothing. He was in charge. Twenty minutes later, the whole room was in smoke! Then he started to panic so he ran to the tap. His neighbours saw the smoke oozing out of his window and screamed to attract the attention and call for help. It was too late; the whole house was burnt down.

Moral of the story......

Don't intentionally ignite a fire you have to invite the fire brigade to put out.

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Most times it is the man's upbringing that comes to play in the home.

We had a discussion on this issue with some couples recently and I asked if they are teaching their boys how to support in doing house chores in their respective homes. The answer is no. So I said their daughters in law will face the problem they are presently facing.

The truth is that a guy who did not grow up doing house chores will find it difficult to enter into the kitchen and soil his hands when married. This should have been detected during courtship so that a lady knows what to expect after marriage. If you date a guy who does not have cooking pot but relies on eateries for dinner, you shouldn't expect him to join you in the kitchen after marriage.

If your man does not know how to support you with house chores what do you do?

Ask. Don't assume he should know what to do. Make a gentle request that he helps hold the baby while you're in the kitchen. Be bold and courteous. he will begin to learn.

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There are good christian psychologists available who can help you.

I assure you that the addiction can be broken.

One challenge I have noticed in all these contributions is the use of the word "doctrine". What is a doctrine? Many of the allusions in the contributions are dogmas not doctrine.

A doctrine is a clear teaching in the Bible which Christians have been instructed to follow. For a teaching to be a doctrine, it must be practicable in any circumstances in any part of the world. That will include (but not limited to):

i. Accept the free gift of salvation (some will refer to it as accepting Jesus Christ into your life)
ii. Partaking in the Holy Communion.
iii. Evangelism. etc

Dogmas on the other hand are practices or traditions of each denomination. They are not necessarily ungodly because many of them indicate acceptance and give identity to members. The problem is the elevation of dogmas over the teachings of the Bible.

HERE IS AN OFFICIAL RESPONSE FROM NIV BIBLE PUBLISHERS! PLEASE REBROADCAST AS WIDE AS POSSIBLE TO SHAME THE DEVIL!!!

Thank you for checking on this before forwarding such false and misleading statements. It is good to see a Christian who uses their mind before simply believing such nonsense.

These statements are false and silly and promoted either by those who don't know any better or who are intentionally trying to mislead. They have been promoted by some people for the last 40 years or so, but were refuted by good conservative scholars from the very beginning.

First, the NIV does not remove ANY verses. Instead, like all good Bible translations, the NIV omits statements that were added later and WERE NOT PART OF THE ORIGINAL TEXT. When the KJV was translated, the translators had only a few manuscripts of the New Testament available to them and these were very late (mostly from the Middle Ages). We now have hundreds of earlier and more reliable manuscripts. Scholars today recognize that we have a Greek text today that is much closer to the original than the KJV translators had available to them. So all modern versions (except the NKJV) use these older manuscripts. Even the NKJV puts the better readings in the footnotes (look for the abbreviation NU, which refers to the earlier and better manuscripts).

Remember that the original books of the Bible had no chapter or verse divisions. These were added later. So to say that there are "verses" missing is wrong. What are "missing" are phrases or sentences that were added by later scribes and were not part of the original text. The NIV, like all modern versions, seeks to preserve what was originally there. Read the Preface to the NIV and some of this is explained.

As far as the homosexual statement is concerned, this is simply false. None of the translators of the NIV were homosexuals (or Satanists!). All were conservative evangelical Christians fully committed to the inspiration and inerrancy of the text. For the names of the present and past committee members, see

http://www.biblica.com/…/the-niv-bible/meet-the-translators/
http://www.bible-researcher.com/niv-translators.html

Just check passages on homosexuality in the NIV and you will see that the NIV is not "soft" on homosexuality. Here are the main passages:

Lev. 18:22 “ ‘Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.

Lev. 20:13 “ ‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.

Rom. 1:26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

1Cor. 6:9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

1Tim. 1:9 We also know that the law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10 for the sexually immoral, for those practicing homosexuality, for slave traders and liars and perjurers—and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine

So you see, these accusations are false and slanderous. It is a shame that many Christians are out to attack others rather than to promote the good news.

Thanks again for your question.

Blessings,

Mark Strauss

http://www.bible-researcher.com/niv-translators.html

HERE IS AN OFFICIAL RESPONSE FROM NIV BIBLE PUBLISHERS! PLEASE REBROADCAST AS WIDE AS POSSIBLE TO SHAME THE DEVIL!!!



Thank you for checking on this before forwarding such false and misleading statements. It is good to see a Christian who uses their mind before simply believing such nonsense.

These statements are false and silly and promoted either by those who don't know any better or who are intentionally trying to mislead. They have been promoted by some people for the last 40 years or so, but were refuted by good conservative scholars from the very beginning.

First, the NIV does not remove ANY verses. Instead, like all good Bible translations, the NIV omits statements that were added later and WERE NOT PART OF THE ORIGINAL TEXT. When the KJV was translated, the translators had only a few manuscripts of the New Testament available to them and these were very late (mostly from the Middle Ages). We now have hundreds of earlier and more reliable manuscripts. Scholars today recognize that we have a Greek text today that is much closer to the original than the KJV translators had available to them. So all modern versions (except the NKJV) use these older manuscripts. Even the NKJV puts the better readings in the footnotes (look for the abbreviation NU, which refers to the earlier and better manuscripts).

Remember that the original books of the Bible had no chapter or verse divisions. These were added later. So to say that there are "verses" missing is wrong. What are "missing" are phrases or sentences that were added by later scribes and were not part of the original text. The NIV, like all modern versions, seeks to preserve what was originally there. Read the Preface to the NIV and some of this is explained.

As far as the homosexual statement is concerned, this is simply false. None of the translators of the NIV were homosexuals (or Satanists!). All were conservative evangelical Christians fully committed to the inspiration and inerrancy of the text. For the names of the present and past committee members, see

http://www.biblica.com/…/the-niv-bible/meet-the-translators/
http://www.bible-researcher.com/niv-translators.html

Just check passages on homosexuality in the NIV and you will see that the NIV is not "soft" on homosexuality. Here are the main passages:

Lev. 18:22 “ ‘Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.

Lev. 20:13 “ ‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.

Rom. 1:26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

1Cor. 6:9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

1Tim. 1:9 We also know that the law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10 for the sexually immoral, for those practicing homosexuality, for slave traders and liars and perjurers—and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine

So you see, these accusations are false and slanderous. It is a shame that many Christians are out to attack others rather than to promote the good news.

Thanks again for your question.

Blessings,

Mark Strauss