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erimakosamuel:
I love the silence here

Observation mode.

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Wow! Thank God I saw this post. Please add me
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goosast:
I mean she was calling, i havent answered her yet. I know she will still call. Her stuffs are in my place n i have promise to assist with part payment of her fees. I think i have a chance to messed her life up. How do i go about it?

This guy you are in trouble in the hands of this girl o. All the things HARDDON is saying are not even entering your head at all. Calm down my brother; we know you and this girl have had good times before but can't you see those days are gone? Look at the way she is even talking to you (" that you should go and Jump in a well" ) like a piece of rag, with zero respect.With all these she is doing, I can see your intention for this girl is still geared towards marriage; my brother you want to kill yourself abi?

Calm down, spend time to think properly, you are more than this as a man.

WackyJ1:
You're lucky i was in the neighboorhood bro.

I remembered seeing your posts the first time you popped into this thread and i was just checking to see if you had improved in your game.

As for this your Case,
Your girlfriend was on the phone with another boy and she saw your missed calls and she could not dismiss the guy to answer yours? That shows the level of priority you have in her life currently no matter whatever else she says with her mouth. It is obvious that she is enjoying the attention she gets from the other guy but at what cost? She is willing to put you on the back burner so that she can continue to enjoy, the jokes and compliments that she is getting from the other guy.
She knows you're the Fiance yet she gives the other guy the control and discretion on how to end the call. That girl of yours is weak-willed and a big liar.

It is very very dangerous to take serious a girl who is weak-willed and a liar like your girl has shown and even more dangerous to take such a girl serious when you're in a long distance relationship with her.

What you have done for her in the past is irrelevant now, the most important thing is the mindset you have going forward from this moment.
Number 1 Rule is never be afraid to lose a girl. Do not Carry their matter for head. Girls are fickle and can sway with the wind at any time.

Right now, you should be shifting your attention to other girls you have at hand. If you don't have, better start chatting up or meeting other girls, this will help you not to keep your mind on just one girl., you care less about what this girl or any of the girls do because you have many others. it what HARDDON calls "Abundance Mentality".

Right now in your mind, break up with this girl. You do not have to do it physically but at this moment you can be rest assured that when the opportunity presents itself, this girl will cheat on you, and as you can see, opportunity is already knocking on this girl's door. A girl that can be on a thirty minutes call with another guy by 10pm to the extent of ignoring your calls when she saw them is no longer your girlfriend.
No longer show her the care that you used to show her. Dissociate yourself from this relationship in your mind, this will give you strength and peace of mind if anything happens because you are already expecting it.

Stop the calls, find another babe and let this girl go and meet her secondary school crush.

Thanks a lot for this your timely advice; "A stitch in time saves nine" I have been pondering on what she did for some time now. It is like a 180 degree change in attitude from her; I didn't expect it one bit. I APPRECIATE YOUR RESPONSE MY BRO.

SOLARPOWER1:
I tried calling my girlfriend yesterday at about 10pm and noticed she was on call for about 30 min with someone else. I further called her with another number she didn't have, still busy. To my surprise after she was through with her call, the first number she called back was the one she didn't have (which I didn't pick) before she finally called my phone. I waited for it to ring through then called her back. She started talking quietly saying she knows I am angry that she didn't pick my call and asking if the other number belongs to me. I calmly asked her why she thinks I am angry then I asked her about something else with a sendless tone, before I finally popped up the question of who was calling her.

She said it was one of her old time secondary school mate she has not heard from for a long time "CRUSHING" on her who she told me about before, that she told the guy her fiance is calling but he was just bringing up one topic after another ( though I can't remember her telling me about the guy before) . I then asked her so that's why you didn't pick my call for about 30 to 45mins, are you OK? Then I disconnected the line. She gave me two missed call, no response, sent a text begging me, then called again, I haven't answered her since yesterday. I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS MATTERE FORWARD.

I believe the source of the problem is that I have dropped my guards on this girl, calling her too much, giving her the impression that I want to marry her with excess attention as she is in a different state (city) from me.


Cc: HARDDON and all my boss here help your boy.

Somebody should show me some love here o. I need advice here o.

I tried calling my girlfriend yesterday at about 10pm and noticed she was on call for about 30 min with someone else. I further called her with another number she didn't have, still busy. To my surprise after she was through with her call, the first number she called back was the one she didn't have (which I didn't pick) before she finally called my phone. I waited for it to ring through then called her back. She started talking quietly saying she knows I am angry that she didn't pick my call and asking if the other number belongs to me. I calmly asked her why she thinks I am angry then I asked her about something else with a sendless tone, before I finally popped up the question of who was calling her.

She said it was one of her old time secondary school mate she has not heard from for a long time "CRUSHING" on her who she told me about before, that she told the guy her fiance is calling but he was just bringing up one topic after another ( though I can't remember her telling me about the guy before) . I then asked her so that's why you didn't pick my call for about 30 to 45mins, are you OK? Then I disconnected the line. She gave me two missed call, no response, sent a text begging me, then called again, I haven't answered her since yesterday. I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS MATTERE FORWARD.

I believe the source of the problem is that I have dropped my guards on this girl, calling her too much, giving her the impression that I want to marry her with excess attention as she is in a different state (city) from me.


Cc: HARDDON and all my boss here help your boy.

kenex4ever:
Just checked mine and was not changed, still Friday.

Is there anybody that noticed no change no change

@kenex is your venue PH

DreManuel:
Don't mind the kids. They think they are still in school where you collabo and nothing much is at stake. There is no cooperation here but competition. This platform is just to share info about the recruitment exercise without letting out your competitive advantage. Businesses in the same industry also confer to talk about changes in the industry and government policies but nobody goes there to reveal their trade secrets. This is the corporate world! This is the business world! This is competition! Compete or die is an old saying in the business world. Yes, life is not all about Shell and Shell is not all about life. But you've got to be smart. My 2 cents.

My bro , I perceive you have not seen much in life, you are still thinking like a "starter" . With time you will discover that this your attitude of compete or die has nothing to offer you than to leave you with high blood pressure as the worst case scenario then you would learn to embrace love and unity.

If shell should see all this your comment, you have just disqualified yourself as selfish and poor team player. Learn this lesson fast if you want to go far in the interview process

BiggyB242:
You're tagged selfish and childish if you refuse to reveal your question. To the Christian brothers & sisters remember the "Parable of the 10 virgins"?

I perceive you are a born again Christian from your last statement. Listen, I am also a believer in Jesus Christ but I think this kind of attitude (devoid of compassion and love; motivated by the fear of not succeeding ) that you are displaying is why people hate Christianity and don't want to hear anything about "your Jesus" that only thinks about himself. Fear not and let love rule your heart. Perfect love casts out fear my bro.

Your success in this thing has NOTHING to do with the number of people competing with you....It's all about GRACE. Shalom!

HARDDON:
DOnt be a shy duck gee. She wants u to visit, no prob buh u do it on d day u feel llike.

" hey bae, Big Deddy might be coming over leta in d day.... makE sure u gurls prepare a sumptous meal. "

Den u ball in. U shld know that she wants to show u off to her rommie. Cos she prebably has told her alot bout u. N u sshld also know u got to be in ur best form wen u roll over.. u must tease d rommie too. Make them laugh n confirm ur glowing rep.
Ladies always make dis mistake...... inviting a snake into d homestead, then d rommie go tripping n b4 u know it, u be doing double.


So dust ur boots, we going overr there!


On a side note, roomies n friends to a gurl u like, r d cheapest way to bring her in

Shy duck", you caught me there.....but the testimony will roll in; balling to her crib next week

My Gurus in the house, this young lady finally came to my crib after applying some of the games , we had a nice time chatting as I teased her. My issue now is :she is telling me, she is not coming again until I visit her ,that I owe her a visit this time. Does it make sense for me to succumb to her request? Personally I hate visiting ladies in their apartment and considering d fact that she lives with her female friend. How do I crack this nut peacefully?

LLSAINT:
A good one although this is a School of Thought, I Concur with 90% of your assertion.

Thanks for the encouragement and for allowing me to serve you with the gospel of God's grace and kindness . One of my goals here is not just to get people to mentally agree with me but to provide a platform for people to think (from a view point of life and the love of the Father that Jesus demonstrated as He walked the earth)and study more on these things.

PEACE FOR THE FINANCIALLY ABUSED IN THE CHURCH.

For today, Let’s look at Philippians 4:16,17

Php 4:16 For even in Thessalonica ye sent once and again unto my necessity.

Php 4:17 Not because I desire a gift: but I desire fruit that may abound to your ACCOUNT.

Notice Paul is saying they gave unto his NECESSITY but at the same time in verse 17, he says not because I desire a gift. He is talking like this because he wants to make sure they are not under any pressure or compulsion to give to him. See 2Cor. 9:7

2Cor.9:7 So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.

Secondly he says I desire fruit that may abound to your account. What fruit and what account was he talking about? Many have used this verse to imply that God takes record of our giving like an investment as though we have a heavenly/spiritual bank account with which He rewards us by multiplication according to how much we give.

But the word translated as ACCOUNT in verse 17 is the Greek word ’logos’ (which means a word, something said including the thought, a reasoning, a computation/logic, an understanding based on something said….), the same Greek word translated as word in John1:1 (In the beginning was the word (grk: logos), and the word (grk: logos) was with God………..). Paul was saying he desires to see the fruit (the result, the belief in the gospel, the transformation in kindness and generosity) as a result of their understanding of the word he has preached to them. There is great joy in the heart of a minister of God’s word when he sees the fruit of the word (i.e. a change in people’s lives/attitude as a result of his ministration by the Spirit).

Matt 6:30-32
Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?

Therefore take no thought, saying, what shall we eat? Or, what shall we drink? Or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?

SHALOM!

PEACE FOR THE FINANCIALLY ABUSED IN THE CHURCH
(Tithing can destroy your understanding of God's love)

THE TITHE OF ABRAHAM AND MELCHIZEDEK
You will need patience to go through today’s episode, it’s a long one, just had to add necessary information knowing fully well that this is a very controversial topic.

Gen 14:17-20
17 And the king of Sodom went out to meet him after his return from the slaughter of Chedorlaomer, and of the kings that were with him, at the valley of Shaveh, which is the king's dale.
18 And Melchizedek king of Salem brought forth bread and wine: and he was the priest of the most high God.
19 And he blessed him, and said, Blessed be Abram of the most high God, possessor of heaven and earth:
20 And blessed be the most high God, which hath delivered thine enemies into thy hand. And he gave him tithes of all.

NOTE: before we even dig deep, let’s look at the popular logic of most tithing preachers: they agree that the tithe commanded in Mal.3:8-10 is under the law hence it’s not for believers today but argue that Abraham tithed before the law was given to Moses. But Abraham also did things like circumcision and sacrificed animals to God long before the law was given. Are we to continue in these things also because they were before the law? SELAH. (read my post: ‘the origin of the law’).

Notice that the first thing Melchizedek did when he saw Abraham was to bless him, Abraham did not offer him anything before he blessed him with the bread and wine (which we can say in typology represent the flesh and blood of Jesus Christ), then Abraham gave him 10% to say thank you for the blessing and as a sjgn of respect for the Kingly priest.It was not the 10% tithe he gave that attracted the blessing, the blessing came forth first before he gave something as thanksgiving. I have seen it done repeatedly in some churches where the pastor calls out for the tithe, then prays specially for only those who gave their tithe leaving those who did not pay their tithes in self condemnation feeling they have missed out of the blessing.THESE PASTORS ARE DOING THE REVERSE OF WHAT THE KINGLY PRIEST MELCHIZEDEK DID HERE.

BUT WHY DID ABRAHAM GIVE THIS KING OF SALEM 10% ?

Abram was not a Christian and did not grow up with a Bible in his hand. We need to know that Abram was under an AMORITE who enforced the Babylonian-Chaldean law on all who lived in his fields. As a child, Abram—who would eventually be called Abraham—lived in Ur, then moved to Haran after some years. It was at Haran that God told him to leave everything and go to a land God would show him (See Gen. 12). He eventually ended up close to Hebron, in the fields of Mamre, an Amorite, south of Salem (Jerusalem). It is very important for us to understand that Abraham was living and following a Babylonian-Chaldean tax system of honoring the greater, called the tithe tax. The king’s tithe was a Babylonian tax system whereby you honored the king and his rule over you. All the subjects of the king had to give ten percent of their income to the king. That is how they showed their respect to the king and submitted to him. Should you not pay it you would be under the curse of the king, seen as his enemy and punished?

OTHER ACCEPTABLE CUSTOMS OF HIS DAYS THAT WE SEE ABRAHAM AND HIS WIFE LIVED BY:
1) Getting married to the slave girl:
Although under Babylonian law monogamy was the rule, in the case of a childless wife, she was permitted to give her husband a maidservant to bear him children, who were then reckoned to be hers. The code did not allow the husband to take a concubine; but if his wife did not bear him a child he could do so. The concubine was a co-wife, though not of the same rank; the first wife had no power over her. Sara was observing this law when she gave Hagar to her husband Abraham for a wife, to bear children to them. Sara was obviously observing the Code of Hammurabi when she gave Hagar to Abraham. Should we also allow this today, since it was before the Ten Commandments? Never! And we don’t tithe just because tithing was practiced back then either.

2) Abram and the Sky God:
Gen 13:18
18 Then Abram moved his tent, and went and dwelt by the TEREBINTH TREES OF MAMRE,* which are in Hebron, and built an altar there to the LORD.
NKJV

The full Hebrew name for the fields of Mamre where Abram lived is Elonei Mamre, which refers to a cultic shrine dedicated to the supreme sky god, “El,” of the Canaanites, whom they referred to as “god.” It was a place where there were trees that the people believed had special powers to help them connect with “god.” Abram decided to build an altar at that place, sacrificing to the god he believed told him to move to another place. Here we see Abraham still mixing his beliefs with the beliefs and practices of that day. Abraham went to the magic trees in hopes that they could help him connect with God.
We need to realize that Abram was not a Christian at all, and he submitted to the heathen laws of those times. He lived by the rules and laws that governed the people of that time, which were what the Israelites later wanted when they asked for a king as the other nations had. These rules and laws applied to slavery and tithing as we can see in the Mesopotamian tithing laws, and in 1 Sam 8:15-17 where they asked for a king.

SHALOM!

@ menxer thanks for the idea. I have created and added a link to get the book .

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B7p2iMvZXcBINWhxSTl3SjdKYmM/view?usp=drivesdk

PEACE FOR THE FINANCIALLY ABUSED IN THE CHURCH
(The tithing, sowing and reaping message CAN KILL YOU)

In the next few days I will be posting grace based and contextual explanations to some scriptures (especially the letters of apostle Paul) used by sowing & reaping, tithing preachers to take away peace from the hearts of God’s people and distort the view of a loving and caring Abba Father (God) that we have. (This thread is open to contribution and healthy discussions)

I am fully aware that this might stretch the belief of some friends I have here but these truths are not from my head, they are in your BIBLE and I promise it will bless you and cause a radical change of your view on who God is.

"The root of most unbelief in the modern-day church is a warped view on money. This wrong view left the world laughing at the church as well as the people in the church confused and flooded with unbelief.

The character of God has been slandered in many ways since the fall of man. One of the areas where great error has crept in is in the area of money, leaving the human heart in a place of doubt about the integrity of God.

To start with, I am giving out free e-copies of a book titled: JESUS IS THE TITHE by Bertie Brits.

This book will help you get established in the love that God has for you. It is a relationship based as well as a doctrinal approach to money in the church that will help you reconcile the love of God and finances in the Church. This book shakes the traditional view on finances and will help the reader to experience peace on account of the love of God in the area of money." Drop your email here to indicate your interest or get the book from the link below

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B7p2iMvZXcBINWhxSTl3SjdKYmM/view?usp=drivesdk


NOTE: I am not saying you should not give money, support your local church and the gospel as led by the Spirit of God. My goal here in the days ahead is to see people set free from manipulation and law based giving and see true generosity and freedom born in the hearts of God’s people.

HARDDON:
Some1 might be wondering, " what then is this light? How do i own it n glow in it ?"

Ansa is simple: Digest these drills , make it a life style, live in it! All that u hv learnt here, n wud keep learning.

U wud save ur self head aches, heart aches, fuggy fussy brain, money, time, energy n ultimately avoid d Fzone as a single guy

Wen its time to marry, u wud go in wit a clear hear n heart. N know d right one for u

In marriage, u wud know how to take hold of ur family ship rodder n direct it gallantly. Not for naught, were u born a man!

You wud appreciate d fact that real luv is not in singing it daily to her ears, nor selling urself short! But in unpredictable daily actions .

U wud know wen to clip anY wantom wings that wano sprut from ur wife cos of external influence. What u permit/ignore, takes hold of u


You wud know that daily, ur wify wud try to manipulate ( own , control ) u by tiny , seemingly harmless requests n msgs,. Dont fall for em. Cos b4 ud know it, she owns ur balls.
This is what brings boredome to r/ship marriages!
They always wud put u to test, to see if really u r an Alpha male or just faking it. Should u slip, she owns u, ur bright light dims out n she gets bored!
Then she starts to look out there for some guy that has some light.

Then , all a sudden, u cant connect with ur own wify again. Arguments, fight .

When these tins happen, man, u have become a boy.

This is when u now see guys raising hands against their own wifys just to maintain control. Unfortunately, u can never gain control by beating up a woman. If only guys know.

More grease to your elbow harddon. The results of my application of these drills ve got me thinking, really beyond the boundaries of bf & gf relationship. I believe these principles are (more) badly needed in marriage where the partners can possibly get bored of each other. No wonder many struggle in their marriage with just no reasonable/visible explanation........"Confusion is the lot of the husband that know not these drills; for in vain will he try to please her"

Lawlahdey:
I don't like arguments and that is why I gave up so easily. .. Lol

Smally, u are already fumbling in the web of the don so soon.I advise u to wake up from this slumber b4 it's too late....Expensive play

okwypascal:
U jus fell in love bro, now asking nice guys question (what re ur likes and dislike), so u can play along and not make her annoyed right.
who cares about what she thinks, she should be the one asking that cos women are meant to care, the one that is supposed not to make u vex.
show her the money, make her smell it(buy her stuffs) but don't let her touch it. see guy trash the life out of this kind of gal, cos she is not a relationship type(that I see u desperately want).
jus enjoy her while she lasts with u, she doesn't worth u.
let me not criticize u bro, at times even we dey fall hand sef, na after the Bleep up u go dey recollect. jus go back to ur drawing board.

Thanks 4 d necessary lashing from you and @liljboy, what I just needed to wake up frm my slumber.....We roll

Baba Hardon I need advice badly on this. How do you handle a girl who after applying necessary gaming principles starts respond to ur calls to come around seems to like being around you but hardly asks personal questions about you like she is not even interested in knowing you more. My confusion here is though she respects me, my instinct is telling me she is not feeling me 1 bit. My question is what does she want from me then. She has once used the popular feminine quote of I don't like STINGY guys when I asked her what she likes and dislike about guys and she likes navigating towards money when we gist sometimes. My greatest suspicion now is that she is coming for my Benjamin (MONEY) even though she doesn't look like that type......

Easy4reel:
Hi everyone, this is undoubtedly d best forum I've followed here on NL....Thumbs up Harddon and other bosses.

I've got this issue and I'll appreciate if the boss can put me through. There's this girl I like so much, we got really really close after she broke up with her boyfriend(that's about 6months ago), although she's like a younger sister to me(even calls me bro) so she took me like her brother. But I want more....

Maybe I made a mistake by asking her out recently which she turned down outrightly but after much talks she said she will think about it and I should give her till may next yr, yes may 2017(that's about 6months) . I used to think she feels d way I feel cos we talk and play a lot (online though), she do tell me about her ex(cos he wants her back) and other guys that propose her even sending me d pictures of those guys and the screenshots of their chats, telling me she misses me every single day. There was a day she said she couldn't concentrate on wat she was reading cos she was thinking about me. All these things made me think she also has d same feeling but it seems I'm wrong cos she turns me down instantly although in a respectful way.

It doesn't affect our previous relationship cos we still flow as before (on a brother but friendly level) till now. She do call me like 3 times daily till now, still showing all the affections which I maybe misinterpreted earlier.

I'm still interested in this girl and I can't afford to loose her. I don't also want to put pressure on her by asking her if she has thought about it. .
I'M CONFUSED BRO....WHAT SHOULD I DO?




....I'm really sorry if the answer to this is going to be a kind of repetition but I'll appreciate if you reply without referring me back to previous posts.
Thanks.

My bro wake up frm dis ur slumber, what do u think u re doing..asking for what u already have. Am even surprised she didnt distance her self frm u after u made d mistake of asking her out. My advice to u is cut down dis too much attention u re giving her and all d many calls....3times a day, geez! And u will see her repent frm dis funny 6months waiting list she has placed u

ELITE12:
Good afternoon Guys please something different us happening

there's a girl I chatted up I got her number but something happed the day I called her,

when I called her to meet up at mammy she told me she wasn't hearing me clearly and cut the call

I got angry cause I knew she was with another guy @ mammy market and just used that as an excuse to cut the call

next I totally ignored her for like two days now I see she's trying to get my attention by always looking for opportunities to seat around me laughing out loud and all that but i still ignore her

now she's also trying to make me jealous by talking with other guys around me to get my attention

Avoid working too hard and sending d wrong signal as u apply d ignoring strategy.

When ignoring any of these wonderful creatures, dont make d mistake of giving her d impression that u re angry with her or intentionally doing it....Do it with d SENDLESS attitude ...i.e like u re just too busy with other important things to attend to her. Lets say u incidentally meets her on the way, talk to her smiling as u QUICKLY disappear from her presence.

lankykid:
I think I'll just stay off relationship for now... something interesting happened today. I gat calls from almost all my female friends today. the calls just kept on coming. . it was amazing

Guy u should not cherish d ladies calling u like u re doing now, it shoud be the other way around.Change ur thought;, change ur world

HARDDON:
We have told u in tine past how to flake out on a lady. Do it with wisdom.

About d god talk et all, that happens when d sassy n always higher than dan d fun or

Wen she is angry with u.
Blend ur concotion well and hey, guys like us r no robots! Always know wen u deal,hold up, retreat n entreat

Thanks man, I get d point.

Promised 1 swt girl a date dat I didnt honour, ve ignored her for sometime now, chatted her recently perceived her response was not friendly. Called her

She: why is it dat when I dont respond properly to your chat that's only when you call

Me: This 1 u are blowing hot dis nyt did u take pepper soup or what.

She: Yes I took pepper soup. D outing/date u said u would take me out on, is it when I leave town u would take me out or what. (she would soon leave my locality)

Me: laughing, ve been too busy, and u know dat, but nothing stopped u from calling me to talk to me about it.

She: ok o I hear u


Me: I will call u within dis week as regards what I promised when am less busy.


Me: but ve not forgotten ur purnishment, just put dat at d back of ur mind. (I gave her various options of purnishment for what she did d last time and she has not yet fulfilled my requirement)

She: Nigeria Men!!

Me :Anyway, like ve told u b4 if u miss somebody, just pick up ur phone and communicate it not blowing hot like u re doing dis nyt.

She: .You re just feeling like a god.You re d 1 missing me. what re u feeling like self.

Me: laughing, d last time u said AUTHORITATIVE, now like a god, God will help me in ur hands, u re just firing shots dis nyt.......


This is like d second time she is using these kind of words like authoritative/ acting like a god to describe me.Guys hope I nor de over do d thing (boss ball)?


cc @Harddon, SerRento and all d senior men in d house help ease my ministration to dis girl. This babe de try resist all my INJECTIONS.

HARDDON:
Whoohoo!
Your quick wit is brisk!
What a read! Gee u r mostly on dah right track! Kudos!

Just a few pointers n pimping though:
1) a lady never scores an A in our score sheets. Infact, we rather not score them @ all! (Suspense) rather we put them on tentative mode.

2) when some1 wins smething, they r meant to call to claim their prizes @ a place u chose , not the otherd way round.

" i think u just won a date wit me, i'd have my sec send u d date n time n d number to call to claim ur prize."

3) if u r to go on a date with a lady n she lata on tells u she is making her hair, dont hang on that lettong her keep u on suspense whether she wud still make it or not! Avoid the anxiety and CANCEL there and then!

I told u that women have perfected d act of keeping us in suspense and this is one of them classic ways.

Immediately she tells u she is cooking, making her hair, washing or cleanin, CANCEL immediately if it is ur first date.

But im impressed wit d way u swung it n puunished her with options

Wow! All points noted especially d 1 dat requires cancelling d date on the spot. Boys turning 2 men here. You re 2 much bro

SerRento:
This was obviously a test. But what you should understand about women and eating is that it's their nature, the do it subconsciously to weed out the real contenders from those whose application go to the bin.

Her changing her mind from speaking means she's becoming cautious how she speaks around you, she doesn't want to offend you. This could mean she likes you as women don't care about offending guys they don't like, or she's a naturally NICE GIRL (which is really rare and could well be a keeper).
You should know which of this is true since you're the one in the movie

Nice girl! This babe is far from d word nice, infact within d first few days I met her, she was already giving me d 'MONEY' impression, telling me how she is broke. She is not even shy of stylishly telling me how broke her family is.I see dis 1 as d type dat can tell u anything,

[quote author=SerRento post=50498877]SolarPower1, your game is quite impressive. You've done very well so far, but you need to close the deal. And by close the deal, I mean you need to lay her quick. This greatly puts you in the position of power in the relationship, as sex is usually as investment for them. They have sex with you to secure your commitment to them.

*Point 1:- Women like men who have high status; rich, powerful, achievers, good-looking and solid. You have shown that you're solid, you won't take shiit from her, and you know your worth. In her mind, you must have some kind of worth/status to be this confident. Naturally, this has led to her being willing to cook for you.

*Point 2:- The longer it takes for sex to happen, the generally higher likelihood of it not happening as you're not the only one with game out there. The worst thing that can happen to this package of yours is someone with better game or more accessibility than you getting the cookie before you.

My suggestion is for you to call her about her offer to cook. Since, she doesn't have the money, she should come and collect it. She'll go to the market, get the stuff. You should arrange the dinner in such a way that she sleeps over. Let her know she better not waste your money if she doesn't know how to cook(teasingly, of course), be semi-serious about this. Of course, it's not your business whether she can boil water or not, the point is for her to know how important it is to impress you.
Another tip, be touchy while she's cooking. Go to the kitchen, just stand there and look at her, don't smile too frequently, don't start the chatting. As you're about to leave, kiss her on the back of her neck briefly, don't dwell on there like a vampire. Touch her just above the waist on my side that's accessible, do this fir a few seconds at a time. As you leave, say something like "this food better be delicious" with a smirk/half-smile.

When you done chop, if the food is tasty, tell her she tried and she can definitely do better, maybe more cooking for you and she would even own an international standard restaurant that cook make her famous. Women love washing, wash her well with bullshit.

As far as I can tell, your greatest challenge is getting to close the deal. Getting her to come over and cook and sleep over should sort that out. If she sleeps over and doesn't sleep with you, it's time to go to MFM.

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Thanks bro for taking ur time to respond, all key points are noted. You too much.
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Guy ve got question for d house, what if as u use all these tips for a girl and she turns out and says u are to AUTHORITATIVE (feeling too much of d alpha male aura).One of my game told me today dat am too authouritative, then she said she wants to tell me something but suddenly told me to forget that she doesnt want to get into another trouble in my hand.

1) Whats should ve been d best response to her statement, I just told her that am not authouritative, am just somebody that says whats on my mind.

2)What is she really trying to communicate ,do u guys think I should soft pedal on my attitude so I dont over do it.She is the churchy type.
Thanks for ur anticipated response

SOLARPOWER1:
Decided to throw dis game on one recently: in the middle of our chat, I told her : "u just won a date with me in ur favourite food restaurant, call u on Saturday" .She said really, dats kul, what did I do and and I jokingly sent her this: " I just finished marking ur script, u scored A in my text...Mr lecturer" and bidded her gud nyt without waiting for her response. Called her d Saturday morning and gave her 4pm as time . Like 4:20pm I didn't show up, but sent her this text:Young lady, I know u re already missing me and can't wait to see me. I can even perceive the fragrance of d new hair u just made for this occasion. Unfortunately something came up.... Work. I received a call to respond to an issue at the office. Call u when am free. (THANKS TO HARDDON).
I didn't call her, till about 7:30pm I saw my phone ringing couldn't believe she was calling (considering her non challant attitude b4 now towards me). D phone ring tire I didn't pick, then like 30mins time I returned her call and told her to come online on WhatsApp. We chatted a bit and I gave her another date, didn't call her on dat day b4 d time, but like 30min to d time I called and she told me she was doing her hair dat she would call when she is tru, she didnt call until d next day I saw her WhatsApp msg dat she is sorry, didnt finish her hair on time dats why she didn't call.
I gave her this 3 options to appease me:

A)Prepare me nice pounded yam and vegetable soup with goat meat then pet me very well while I eat it with true remorse in ur eyes.

B)Take me out to 1 of d finest restaurant in town and give me a treat.

C)Do A/B or u wont see me again ✈

She chose option A but said I would provide the money(even if she wants to, from my observation I know she cant bc she is broke). I refused to give in and told her dat would defeat d whole purpose.I noticed I was over flogging the issue hence I said:
Though u know how to get me angry, I always catch myself going soft.
But am not changing my mind on this one o .

She pleaded further but I ended off with this: Hmm, lets see how I will feel when I wake up 2morow morning. Gud nyt.

I need d gurus here to correct my mistakes and advice me with d way forward. I like thus babe but ve learnt not to be despirate, I just collected her number some weeks back. Thanks guys, dis thread has been really helpful.

Guys I need response on this, help a bro☺

Decided to throw dis game on one recently: in the middle of our chat, I told her : "u just won a date with me in ur favourite food restaurant, call u on Saturday" .She said really, dats kul, what did I do and and I jokingly sent her this: " I just finished marking ur script, u scored A in my text...Mr lecturer" and bidded her gud nyt without waiting for her response. Called her d Saturday morning and gave her 4pm as time . Like 4:20pm I didn't show up, but sent her this text:Young lady, I know u re already missing me and can't wait to see me. I can even perceive the fragrance of d new hair u just made for this occasion. Unfortunately something came up.... Work. I received a call to respond to an issue at the office. Call u when am free. (THANKS TO HARDDON).
I didn't call her, till about 7:30pm I saw my phone ringing couldn't believe she was calling (considering her non challant attitude b4 now towards me). D phone ring tire I didn't pick, then like 30mins time I returned her call and told her to come online on WhatsApp. We chatted a bit and I gave her another date, didn't call her on dat day b4 d time, but like 30min to d time I called and she told me she was doing her hair dat she would call when she is tru, she didnt call until d next day I saw her WhatsApp msg dat she is sorry, didnt finish her hair on time dats why she didn't call.
I gave her this 3 options to appease me:

A)Prepare me nice pounded yam and vegetable soup with goat meat then pet me very well while I eat it with true remorse in ur eyes.

B)Take me out to 1 of d finest restaurant in town and give me a treat.

C)Do A/B or u wont see me again ✈

She chose option A but said I would provide the money(even if she wants to, from my observation I know she cant bc she is broke). I refused to give in and told her dat would defeat d whole purpose.I noticed I was over flogging the issue hence I said:
Though u know how to get me angry, I always catch myself going soft.
But am not changing my mind on this one o .

She pleaded further but I ended off with this: Hmm, lets see how I will feel when I wake up 2morow morning. Gud nyt.

I need d gurus here to correct my mistakes and advice me with d way forward. I like thus babe but ve learnt not to be despirate, I just collected her number some weeks back. Thanks guys, dis thread has been really helpful.