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very interesting project, I won't mind evaluating the project afterwards in terms of aesthetics, overall feel etc

I suggest you create an invite-only facebook page, where everyone who has volunteered so far will be added. I feel it will be a better place to communicate or even skype or even a blog sef. To protect everyone's privacy, you could create a blog and have each person send a msg that contains their skype info and nairaland name, and once the list is complete, the blog could then be deleted.

With Skype u can have a live text convo or even a voice convo. I'm definitely looking forward to the end result of this project. Kudos to you all  

what up Rom section?!

r231:
your user name don land u d job

lmao!!

Hey,

Before u boot AmakaOne, do u guys know if she is ok? #justconcerned

OP, thats messed up. You need to sit her down and let her know that you have indeed left your mistress. You can tell her that as long as she continues to talk to her ex, u will continue ur screwation with d mistress

its kuku ur own biz sha

Wow!!! People on this NL are wicked sha! ha! Only God can forgive all of una. . . telling someone that she has passed her expiry date?! Ha!

Even if it is fake, we shouldnt say such things. . .

@OP, there is absolutely nothing new under heaven, take heart, my aunt just got married last year and guess what? She was also 40, I had the mindset that where would she find a (preferably nigerian) man over the age of 40 to marry. To my surprise she did and you should see how the man was smiling pass her sef on the wedding day.

Just pray and pray and pray. Lower your expectations but at the same time don't settle for less. You have to be open to hearing from God. Take a 2 month vacation to Nigeria and when you get there just keep praying to God to reveal to you the person he has for you (don't flash your British passport o). If it isn't meant to be, then just settle down and as someone said adopt. But dont give up like that, Pray and pray hard. Things usually work best when one lets go and lets God.

I will remember you in prayers tonite. You will testify in Jesus name. God bless

Listen to what MBJ is saying and be PATIENT, and pray consistently, at least if anything is not right it will be revealed to you. Seriously tho, if you are unable to handle this issue then maybe you guys aren't meant to be (but who am i to judge ur relationship). Just pray sha. Cheers!

It could be that he is not very comfortable living with his married sis and maybe he doesnt like the feeling of living off someone else and doesnt want you to see him as such a person. I guess that's why he is eager to move out. Im sure he will invite you over once he gets a place of his own. Just be patient and prayerful.

I don't mean to criticize you, just want to let you know that it is never advisable to put one's personal information up on the internet. With the info you have provided, one can easily locate them and perform some kind of evil act. All i'm saying is better safe than sorry.

@OP I think your wife has to deal with herself first. She has to personally come to the realization that she has a problem. Until this happens, she will continue to torment you. Maybe separation will work, maybe it won't. You need to find a way to get her to realize her problem. However you can also pray for her, pray against the spirit of anger; it is real and prayer does work, believe me. When things get better for the two of you (it will in Jesus name), esp. during those temporary moments of peace in your home, you should use that opportunity to talk to her and develop a solid line of communication. Tell her how the things she does makes you feel. She is your other half, she should know everything about you. Just like you poured out your heart here, you need to do that with her. Note i said tell her how YOU feel, not tell her what you think she does wrong. These are just some advice not me telling you what to do. however do take clues from it and use them to better your marriage. Remember 1+1=1!

p.s. what the heck is an internet nigerian?? mtchewww!

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Like some people have said, this defect is well-known and a simple wikipedia or even google search will lead you to NEURAL TUBE DEFECT.This specific disorder is known as Anencephaly Disorder.

Nigerian doctors need to use this as yet another medical lesson. They shouldn't look at it as something strange and ignore it.

Wikipedia even gives some ideas of preventative measures that can be taken before a woman conceives:

i.e. 0.4mg/day of folic acid or
the doctor may recommend 4mg/day for a woman who has given birth to a child with neural tube defect in the past.

I mean they even provided an image of what to look for in an ultrasound.

We really need to move forward and look for opportunities to learn and gain knowledge.

I mean even the health commissioner should be curious about it and look it up. Im sure he/she has access to the internet.

Sincerely, although i have heard of spina bifida (a form of neural tube defect) i have not heard of Anencephaly Disorders till today i.e. i learnt something new today and i think being a doctor means a lifetime of learning about the human body.

Infact, every human should have a lifetime filled with learning opportunities, make use of them!

Happy Birthday!

REALITY101:
*Jesus Wept Blood*

lmao!!

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I think it's up to each individual to contribute to the restructuring of Nigeria. But i can tell you it's no piece of cake.

We would have to change some of the mentalities and norms that currently exist. I think Nigerians abroad are better able to analyze the extent of the "damage" in Nigeria.) One would have to start from the bottom and work their way up. i mean, how would u eliminate the practice of bribery?? How would u eradicate armed robbery and kidnapping?? When you are in a top position it is harder to monitor and eliminate such acts.

I completely agree with those saying that the govt doesnt provide the resources needed for individuals and investors to take make a difference. The gov't could provide incentives such as paying a certain percent of the start-up costs accumulated by an investor who builds a big factory, employing several people.

The first step to changing Nigeria is understanding the extent of the problems we face as well as their causes.

Relationship <----->Friendship

In this regard, Relationship is being used as a general term. If the poster is referring to relationship as in romantic/intimate relationship then . . .

Relationship= friends with benefits (actually often times people rush into relationships are do not really know each other well enough to be categorized as friends. With all the hormones and chemicals fly all about, they turn a blind eye to each other's flaw i.e. love is blind)

Friendship=friends without benefits

i no b guy oo. . .

i dont see anything wrong with the responses u have received to the "what type of matrimonial. . ." question you've been asking. Maybe if you re-worded your question and asked "what type of family dynamics do you wish for". The term matrimonial has to do with marriage i.e. husband and wife not mother-in-laws and father-in-laws, brothers etc. . .

but who knos u may still receive the same response. Your parents and sibs should have absolutely no place in your marriage. In your family, most definitely. . . but not in your marriage.

Apparently women are more prone to forgive . . . and guys. . .pfft!

hun, u both need to sit down and have a serious conversation about what's happening. You aint gonna fix anything by accusing him while u urself have done the same thing. 1st of all you shuld sit down and have an in depth conversation:

-tell him about the fact that you cheated on him and if possible try to get him to admit his wrongdoings (to clear the air)

-then gradually work your way into talking about the things that you dont like about your marriage ( use 'I' and not 'You')

-Be specific and detailed, u cant expect him to kno what u need (he cant read your mind, except . . . nvm)

-Like some people say, Marriage is like school i.e. there is so much to learn

-Both you and your hubby should pray TOGETHER

COMMUNICATION is a key aspect of INTIMACY which is a vital phenomena in marriage

please leave divorce alone, she has had way too many customers, marriage is a life-long commitment

Good luck. . . 

P.S. Do not try to make it seem like it is his fault u cheated on him . . . When you try to tell him, start from the point where u didnt feel satisfied in the marriage (not he didnt satisfy you!!! i.e. dont place blame). Tell him about the fact you cheated, apologize (be truly genuine), tell him that you have cut it off and see what happens from there . . .

If you ever find urself unsatisfied again, talk to your husband about it. . . nothing is gonna change if he aint aware of it. PRAY now and even before you do anything . . . ask God to forgive you, then your hubby etc

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Please dont be trying to defend anybody . . . People will say what they want to say regardless. All I can say is if you are not 100% sure that he/they do what u accuse them of pls do not talk Oh!!. . . Especially if directed to a man of God (up to u to choose if you want to believe or not) but I can only advise that you not talk about him/others. . . Just read your bible and obey that which is written therein. . . A word is enough for the wise. . .

P.S. I kno there will be people who wuld want to bash me, pele, everyone has a rite to their own opinion and I have just stated mine. and u can't change it, so arguin with me wuld just be a complete waste of time.  

I recently read an article on this and I have one question for you: How long did they date for?? Are/Were you guys having issues b4 he started calling her?? What I got from the article is that most times guys find it easier to talk to their exs about problems they are facing cause they kno each other pretty well (depends on how long they dated tho). Esp. if its a problem in his current relationship.

Take a look at the article 4 urself, hope it helps:

http://www.bellanaija.com/2011/06/03/the-x-factor/

Happy Biday to u
Many happy returns,

P.S. Dont forget to send my cake and rice o. . . i prefer goat meat. . .

tnx  

Dem fit put dislike button for there too,