MamiTer: Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.
A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.
I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.
The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.
He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me. All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.
Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.
This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.
Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.
On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.
I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.
Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.
I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out. Please advice me.
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Ur body count just increasing and yet you're confused.
DavSagacity: When bad guys Like Idi Amin, Putin, Buhari are in government, u can expect things like this..where peaceful protesters are intimidated , brutalized , arrested, locked up in cells , and some killed.
Buhari with his plastic mind doesn't have 1/4 mind compared to the guy's u mentioned.... Na pple just dey push the mala.
thundafire: In developed countries such can't happen na to death. Because even if the run there are helicopters following them every where but here one can't see such instead the helicopter is used to carry governor and his cronies
Hamsongee07: Good day everyone, I am a biz owner,not doing bad in this country and I wanted Investing More in the country but am scared because of the insecurity in the country and the way they are killing people for rituals, that's why am considering also leaving the country, Another advantage here is that there is alot of opportunities here, I want to put my energy in one of the two, consider the fact election is coming we don't know who will be out next president and how is he going to tackle the insecurity we have in the country and going to revive the country, I need your Advice pls.
Same story of someone on nairaland that makes #1.5m monthly in business here in Nigeria but in doubt if to invest more or travel out...abi na YOU again?
nonxo007: Honestly speaking I'm tired, please aside the fact that NNPC imported bad fuel and never took blame what else has been causing this scarsity ? Because it has been over 2 to 3 weeks now, are you telling me they have not been able to resolve this challenge making over 200 million people suffer ? Funny thing is that nobody has been sacked or arrested for approving the importation of substandard PMS. NNPC on their own part has refused to take blame, rather they put the blame on independent oil marketers who still shift the blame to the government. These people are using us to catch cruise in this country o, and some people are still singing their praise. How long will this suffering continue ? Will anybody be punished for putting us through this hardship or will it just die down without any punishment ? Honestly speaking I look at this platform and see so many fellow Youths insulting themselves all in the name of siding their favorite political leader or tribe, forgetting that their actions affect us all, be you Hausa, Igbo, Yoruba, Igala whatever. Abi those who keep singing Buharis praise are getting fuel from somewhere at normal price and it is steady available? Abi una get ID card you show at fuel station as a supporter of Buhari and you get instant pass to buy fuel? Me I tire o.
NNPC... In the abundance of water the FOOL is thirsty
1 Corinthians 7 states that polygamy is unlawful & that one man is to have but one wife,and to keep to her and that one woman is to have but one husband, and to keep to him and the wife only has a power over the husband's body & a right to it, and may claim the use of it.
Collins9156: If Tinubu the drug Barron,the pampers wearer can run for president. Then everyone can as well run for president. Say no to drug, cannibalism and kpurumiri.
Hahahahahahahaha.....you really nailed it with the word PAMPERS WEARER.
He wan used naija money treat himself of Prostate Cancer just like bubu wey breeze been dey blow/rotate bfr..now he looks like a man in his 50's.
No, he wants to appoint an Igbo, but he discovered that they are still begging Atikuchukwu for VP position. You want to compare Tinubu's political sagacity to that of any human being or spirit on earth or in Heaven?
Not only political sagacity, That's how we end up with sai barber and I blv you're enjoying his tenure...
Lucasmuyiwaa: Please don't mind my grammars but I will try my best to make readers understand what I'm trying to say.
I met my girlfriend at the time I was being disturbed by my parents to bring a wife. But then I was not really ready for marriage and this girl I met during that time happens to be the girl I love most.
I showed her how much I love her and I know she really loves me too. I've tested her love for me many times and I can proof how much this girl loves me.
To cut the story short, we had a misunderstanding couple of months ago and it lasted for two weeks befre we settled it. What really caused the fight was a guy that I feel like they were having a relationship and I confronted my girlfriend. She said they've known each other befre she met me and they weren't dating anymore though the guy has been trying to come back to her but she just decided to keep him as friend according to what she told me.
So this particular guy again I saw him coming to ask of her in her house when I was there and I did not feel good seeing that guy. I had to leave and didn't pick the girl call for some time and she stopped calling me too. Though I know I'm gonna call her back when Im done angry and I was even expecting her to call me more and maybe I would eventually pick but I didn't see her call for a week.
So I started feeling somehow when she uploaded that particular guy pick on facebook and tagged it "my love." She uploaded it both on whatsapp and facebook so that I caN see it because I stopped checking her whatsapp status. When I couldn't feel okay anymore I decided to end the fight jokingly with her and it worked then I asked her after few days of settlement why she had to put that guy on her status but she said she did it because she saw where I also put some girls on my status and me putting love emoji so she retaliated with that because it hurt her.
We settled the fight and we agreed never to get mad at each other again. But just of recent I heard it from her sister that the guy I always see with my girlfriend has come to their house to see her parents and I shoudnt even waste my time with her or tell her. I was not okay when I heard that story and coudnt believe until I asked my girlfriend if she's hiding anything from me but she said No.
After asking her so many times she finally told me to ask her whatever I heard and I told her. She answered yes and I was shocked. I asked her why she had to do that and she explained how her dad had been insulting her at home to go and marry and even transferred the aggressiveness to her mother if she fails to bring a man befre this year though, she always tell me everything her father is doing with her at home and always cry when telling me but I keep telling her to please have patient that we will go to see him very soon.
So the second thing she said was that when we had a misunderstanding for some weeks and we didn't talk she believed I've done with her and she can't wait to loose both ways even though she loves me more than the guy. Now the guy had gone to see her parents but my girlfriend said its nothing that she can't get married to the guy and that meeting is nothing, so I fell relaxed and asked her what we are going to do. She told me to impregnate her and then she will go and tell her father that she is pregnant for another guy and not the guy that came to see him. We had sex but unfortunately she didn't get pregnant. So she decided to tell her mom what's going on and how much she want me and her to marry. So the mother took her to her father and told her everything my girlfriend said that it's not the guy that came to see them is her husband that the main husband is coming to see them but the father changed it and got upset with them that why and what's the meaning of that nonsense, if she doesn't love the guy that came to see them why did she introduced him to them.
She recorded all the insults the father said and played it for me. I was so shocked and this girl started crying to the extent that I had to take her out that day to feel happy. She said she doesn't want to marry that guy but that guy had come with his parents to see my girlfriend parents.
Now I don't know what to do because my girlfriend said she will kill herself if we don't get married which can't even happen. Whenever I tell her to please let peace reign that she should go ahead and marry the guy she will get mad and would never talk to me anymore until I beg her. And sometimes when I jokingly tell her that I will also go and see another girl parent so that I won't loose at both ends she kneel and start crying not to even do so. She always tell me to put mind at rest that we would get married but I don't see it working at all because those guys parents will be making preparations day by day. My girlfriend tells me most things the parents say and I always feel bad.
Plz ineed ur advice because i'm confused. The only thing that could help us was the pregnancy but when she did the test she was told she wasnt pregnant. Now she is regretting her actions because she never knew all these could happen. She's confused too because she cried everyday because of all these.
Ordinary belle you no fit pump yet you dey disturb us. If you can't impregnate her now, how're you sure it'll happen thereafter.
princepee: No I want to ask which work zubby dey do? Don't tell me it's acting cus no actor can spend the kind of money he spends, from his pay as an actor.
Nigerian man has been spotted using an expensive G-Wagon to display and sell plantain on the streets of Owerri, Imo State.
A video which was shared on on Facebook shows the moment an unidentified young man was seen marketing his plantain business using a G-Wagon. The young man could be seen ringing a bell as a business strategy to attract customers while the boot of his car was wide open with bunches of plantain displayed in it.
Many passersby went to patronize the trader while some who seems to be surprised and watched him display from a distance.
The young man didn’t relent on his business as he took some bunches of plantation and moved from one place to another in search of customers.
The guy is a comedian and for pple saying thrash...Na because una never see G-wagon swapped with Toyota Corolla engine ...
I'm telling you.. driving in naija is Luke driving blind. I stopped at a stop sign one day in ikoyi and ppl behind almost hit me. They were just cursing me out..
Your own soft ...me I stopped for pple to cross d zebra line...hmmm,no type of horn wey I no hear that day,even one was shouting at me say my I go learn driving...I just smiled
Politics / Re: Soludo Bans Touts From Collecting Revenue At Anambra Markets, Parks by Spain007(m): 1:04pm On Mar 17, 2022 
