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Need them too,just finished the introductory part of java. my email: sparknecolas@yahoo.com

Hearing no and saying no is almost the same thing.if you have said no to a lady before, am sure you have then you know no big deal. just walk up to any lady you like tell her how you feel and if she say no,well it is expected just move on and remember there are many ladies in the world don't fall in love.

Joavid: Love, real?? Nah
I know of the love that exists and connects between families I.e mother and child
Also the love that exist between God and man.
Any other thing is fake.

There can be nothing like love between two strangers. What am aware of is a romantic relationship/friendship and being attracted to the qualities he/she possess(outward appearance and character).

Totally agree! In a sentence, love does not exist.

Seeing the way some people are commenting i begin to wonder if the said house of rep were appointed by a particular person, now i see what is wrong with Nigeria, when its time to vote we will still vote the wrong people in so that after a year or so we might have something to say.

CHARLYX9: You just gat me cracking up which good programmer r u insinuating on that are on nairaland if not only 'hello world' whch they managed to know whatelse.lol
How many have of them has their own made apps/websites if not all those wapkanians you see all over the net disturbing i have an app and a websites even the so called moderators of programming section:javanian,javadoctor has nothing to show off.
#useless country

For one you need life purpose, and why do you think they need to defend themselve by jumping at the post, i for one just started java about two weeks ago and i can tell you with what i now know i can try this out and why are so keen in proving there are no good programmer on nairaland? Just for the record i have seen what stuf these guys are made of and most of them have a different field of study. So please try using your head and hand when typing.

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Trust me being tall is not alway a good thing expectially when you are the tallest in both immediate and extended family. Gossh! Can't date anyone above 5.5, am kind of too tall, by too tall i mean way too tall for likeness.

Please i need the book too, my mail is sparknecolas@yahoo.com

egift: Yesterday I lost a grant application. Sadly, everything was due and certain disbursement will be done that yesterday - I had hoped my life and business would have turned around completely for good and it was significant enough to attend to my immediate needs.

Where it pained me is that a woman who was both my contact person and one who was acting to be "helping me" was actually the only one in the board who took it upon herself to criticize my application and insist that even if I should be granted, it should be next year. Myself and others were just look looking in amazement. She even when to the extent to be saying "He is into ICT services", "How many people need a website", "How many people are using Internet", "How many people even have a computer", etc. All my efforts to present facts and clarify fell on deaf ear - she even use an Internet-enabled Computer on her desk.

The point of this thread is that since that yesterday, I have been doing all I can do suppress the pain, disappointment and move pass it. But if I subdue the terrible feelings will it cause me any mental or psychological breakdown? Is it wrong to suppress pains and heartbreaks? How best can I handle the feeling?

Kindly share your opinion. I just don't want to run mad now or in future. This will be one of my most steep heartbreak so far.

If you think there will not be disappointment, then you are in for a big shocker. Just in case of future application, think of the worst case scenario along with best. And finally trust no one expectially ladies.

masonkz: I'm sure you know it's not today that the government started playing foolery to the detriment of the populace. Criminalizing the sexuality of people that have nothing to do with the term "criminal", and would rather send abroad, those criminals that have gained "amnesty", for "re-orientation" and education and whatever else they wanna fool themselves with.

Even going to the extent of negotiation with the main criminals in our land, who have caused thousands of death in various parts of the country. But they'll just sit and order 14 years imprisonment to people who have caused no harm to anyone, just because they can.




SMDH.

Well If this continue, terrorism will not be our only concern in the nearest future.

Hezron Lorraine: I don't Know what to make of Threads like this nowadays.

@OP,I could write you a long epistle to reply this thread,but I can tell you 70% of gay people didn't choose to be gay or let's put it more like this.
Let's use this format of how people are gay:



There's a line I'd like to draw.Almost all human being as homosexual tendecies,the level to which they can act on it differs in every human which I listed up there.

By reinforcing how people become we can say some automatically find themselves in a one way traffic with homosexuality-meaning they find themselves unable to control or withdraw their homosexual desires.

Another set of people would only after a while be disposed to it and find the same-sex attractive.

In all,It's not a choice to be gay.Accepting that you're gay is the Choice you make.
1.)There are those born with full homosexual
desires.they discover at a very tender age,though
they may have no idea what it means until later in
life.these types have mostly never known
heterosexual feelings and have always responded
to
same-sex attractions.


2.)There are those who find out after years of
already being straight,they've always liked the
opposite sex,later on they discover their desires
moving towards the same-sex,they respond so
well
to this new attraction and find themselves
incapable
of going back to the opposite sex.


3.)There are those even while having feelings for
the
opposite sex,when faced with homosexual
advances,they discover they can't withdraw or
find
any urge to withdraw.


4.)There are those who are bisexual,they are
capable of responding to attractions from both
sex.


5.)Some have to be abused s.exually.after this
intimate torture,they slowly get hooked in
homosexuality and end up enjoying it.


6,)There's any category,these ones are very
straight,they tend to enjoy homosexual
intimacy.they hardly and rarely feel any emotional
feelings to the same-sex like the opposite.

From the above its obvious its not by choice from you point of view, but the most important question is why is the government placing a ban or making it look like a crime by attaching 18 years imprisonment to it.

what is the difference between what the government is doing and what boko haram is agitating for?
This is what give birth to serial killers, when people cannot express their sexual feeling without being criticized, they will then Chanel the hatred toward a particular group of people.
Like someone once say, "how do we create a disturbed personality? its constant criticism".

The survey has just began!!

koastar: Dude, homo or bisexual is not genetic but by choice. You must have been watching a lot of homo Indecency which caused a hormone rush in you and got your mind wrapped up in it. At one point, you thought of practicing it to see how it feels and I'm sure that's how it started.
*Note: your mind is made up of what you watch and hear and your actions are from the abundance of your mind.

Another possibility, is the experience gotten in boarding schools, in prison or communities where you get to see and interact with same-sex fellow only, and the urge to be intimate resulted to the homosexual orientation. Environment matters a lot!

I know of lesbians who I have helped out of such orientation, and I can proudly say they are now fully heterosexual- the secret is a form of therapy. This is why I always disagree with people like the Op when they say the orientation is genetic and not a choice because if it is, the girls I'v helped out of homo wouldn't change.

you keep using this boarding school and prison as reference, i know of many who went to boarding school and they are not gay, and prison! seriously! Mandela spent 27 years or so in prison but his sexual orientation didn't change please think logically.

you said you helped a lady out with therapy hmm! and you think she is cured because she agreed or told you she is now heterosexual.
you do not think she only said or agreed to that because maybe she was ashamed or maybe you make her feel guilty of being a lesbian.

Adaeze003: Its called '$exual preference' right? That means they 'prefer' the same sex. I think everyone is heterosexual but different factors might influence our choice. Eg female bording schools. Yea, all the rumors you hear are true.

BUT that's my opinion which I'm struggling with because according to what I've heard there's a pattern. Girls liking male clothing and vice versa from childhood(when they know nothing about sex) then there's the very obvious one of men talking like women and all that. So I can't help but wonder if they really 'chose' this path.

One thing is certain, its not normal. If it is they wouldn't have to 'come out of the closet', they wouldn't be ashamed of it at some point. Some say its coz of Christianity but even our ansestors saw it as an abomination. This is still no excuse to ridicule them after all love is what we preach.

Talking about normal, what exactly is 'normal'? And being ashamed of doing something doesn't made bad. I for example am ashame to ask for help from a stranger, but it doesn't asking for help is bad.

ammyluv2002: Dude, is not normal for a guy to be attracted to a fellow guy. Judging by the bible principles, is just not normal sha.

here we go again "what the bible say", and what exactly is "normal", by normal you mean what you think has been from time right? Gay have history too.

ayili: mtchewwww..... okada wait make I piss *pisses on this tread* okada make we go I don finish.

is this suppose to be funny or what? pack well.

ammyluv2002: Well, I think is a choice or should I say spirit?

i respectfully disagree, just think about it, the attraction between a man and woman can also be felt in the other direction. i mean though i don't feel such attraction but what if their is and all we do render this attraction unproductive because of our believes.

sunny t: How wud it be genetical, If ur dad was gay wud he have given birth to you?

From your view the only reason for marriage/relationship is for procreation right, well that's a topic for another day.
just the the abstract maybe you will get what i mean.

What actually lead to this research is the fact that religion and different believes is actually rendering the black man useless, what i mean is nobody want to use his/her brain anymore all that is important is the fact of what the religion he believes in says.

now the Gay stuff, everybody condemns it, but is it really a choice or can it be change?
this is an Abstract from “why men don't listen & women can't read maps” by Barbara & Allan Pease take a look lets hear what you think.

Homosexuality, “GAY” Is it Genetic or a Choice? Can the 'Choice' Be Changed?
Research shows that the basic template for the body and brain of a human fetus is female in its structure. As a result men have some redundant female features such as nipples. Men also have mammary glands which do not function but retain the potential to produce milk. There are thousands of recorded cases of lactation in male prisoners of war where starvation led to a diseased liver failing to break down the hormones essential for breast-feeding.
As we now know, six to eight weeks after conception, a male fetus (XY) receives a massive dose of male hormones called androgens which first forms the testes, and then a second dose to alter the brain from a female format to a male configuration. If the male foetus does not receive enough male hormones at the appropriate time, one of two things may happen. Firstly, a baby boy may be born with a brain structure that is more feminine than masculine, in other words, a boy who will most likely be gay by puberty. Secondly, a genetic boy may be born with a fully functioning female brain and a set of male genitals. This person will be transgender.
This is a person who is biologically male but feeling as if he is a female. Sometimes a genetic male is born with a set of both male and female genitals.
Geneticist Anne Moir in her ground-breaking book Brainsex documents the many cases of genetic boys being born looking like girls and being raised as girls, only suddenly to find that they have penis and testicles that 'appear' at puberty.
This genetic oddity was discovered in the Dominican Republic and a study with the parents of these 'girls' shows that their parents typically raised them as girls and encouraged stereotypical behaviours such as feminine dress and playing with dolls. Many of these parents were then shocked to discover that they'd ended up with a fully fledged son at puberty when male hormones took over and their 'daughters' suddenly had a penis and reverted to male appearance and typical male behaviour patterns. This change occurred despite all the social conditioning and social pressures for female behaviour. The fact that most of these 'girls' successfully lived the rest of their lives as males highlights the point that their social environment and upbringing had a limited impact on their adult lives. Clearly, their biology was the key factor in creating their behavioural patterns.
Homosexuality is Part of History
Among the ancient Greeks, homosexuality was not only permitted, it was highly respected. The slim, boyish, youthful figure was their ideal of beauty, and paintings and statues were erected in its honour. Poems were written about the love that prominent older men had for young men. The Greeks believed that male homosexuality served a noble, higher purpose and it inspired youths to become worthy members of the community. They also found that young gay men proved to be some of their most courageous, successful warriors as they would fight 'side-by-side in love with each other'.
In Roman times, Julius Caesar was described as 'every woman's man and every man's woman.'
When Christianity frowned on same-sex relationships and God reportedly brought his vengeance down on the City of Sodom, homosexuality was banned, disappeared into the closet and wasn't seen in public again until recently. The Victorian era refused to acknowledge that homosexuality existed and, even if it did, it must be the Devil's work and would be severely punished. As we enter the 21st Century, older generations still believe that homosexuality is a recent phenomenon and an 'unnatural' act. The reality is that it has been around for as long as male foetuses missed out on their sufficient share of male hormones. Amongst primates, homosexual behaviour is used as a way of bonding members of a group or as a form of showing submission to a superior, as is also the case with cattle, cocks and dogs. Lesbianism gained its name from the Greek island of Lesbos. It has never been looked upon with the same contempt as male homosexuality, probably because it is associated more with intimacy, and not labelled so much a 'perversion'.
It's in their Genes
Based on the theory that gayness is created in the womb, you would expect that all identical gay twins would also be gay, so why is this not the case with the other 30%-40% of the gay twin brothers? Genes have a property called 'penetrance' which is a measure of the gene's power to become effective, and determines how likely that gene is to be switched on and become a dominant gene. For example, the variety of gene that causes Huntington's disease is 100% penetrant, whereas the gene that causes Type One diabetes is only 30% penetrant. This means that if identical twins each have both the Huntington's gene and the diabetes gene, each has a 100% chance of developing Huntington's disease but only a 30% chance of developing diabetes.
Those carrying the 'gay gene' as it is now called, have a 50%-70% chance of becoming gay and this theory explains why all the identical twins brothers were not gay. It is estimated that about 10% of all males carry the 'gay gene' and about half these males will become gay due to the 50%-70% penetrance factor of the gene.
Laboratory experiments with rats and monkeys have proved that this sequence of events also happens in other species. While performing these types of sex altering experiments on humans is illegal, and considered to be ethically wrong, we are aware that these have been successfully conducted in Russia with the same conclusive results.

Is it Genetic or a Choice?
When Body Language author Allan Pease and geneticist Anne Moir appeared together on British television in 1991 for the launch of their books Brainsex (Mandarin Books) and Talk Language (HarperCollins), Moir revealed the results of her research which highlighted what scientists have known for years – homosexuality is inborn, not a choice.
Not only is homosexuality mostly inborn, but the environment in which we are raised plays a lesser role in our behaviour than was previously thought. Scientists have found that as an adolescent or adult, parents' efforts to suppress homosexual tendencies in their off-spring has practically no effect. And because the impact of male hormone (or lack of it) on the brain is the main culprit, most homosexuals are males.
There is no solid evidence that upbringing affects the likelihood of a child becoming homosexual.
For every lesbian (female body with a masculinised brain) there are about eight to ten gay men. If the gay and lesbian movement was to embrace this research and, if the education system taught these findings, homosexual and transsexual people would not encounter as much prejudice. Most people are more tolerant and accepting of a person who has inborn differences than they are of a person who, in their opinion, makes an unacceptable choice. Take, for example, Thalidomide babies, Parkinson's sufferers, autism or people who have cerebral palsy. The public is more accepting of these people because they are usually born with these conditions, as opposed to homosexuals who supposedly choose their lifestyle. Can we be critical of a person who is born left handed or dyslexic? Or with blue eyes and red hair? Or with a female brain in a male body? Most homosexual people believe that their homosexuality is a choice and, like many minority groups, often use public forums to display their 'choice', which generates negative attitudes from many members of the public..
Sadly, statistics show that over 30% of teenage suicides are committed by gays and lesbians, and that one out of every three transgenders commits suicide. It seems that the realisation of being stuck in the 'wrong body' for the rest of their lives is too much for them. A study into the upbringing of these homosexual teenagers has shown that most were raised in families or communities that taught hatred and rejection towards homosexuals, or in religions that had tried to save some of the 'victims' with prayer or therapy.
Can the 'Choice' Be Changed?
Gays and lesbians do not choose their sexual orientation any more than heterosexuals do. Scientists and most human sexuality experts agree that homosexuality is an orientation that is unchangeable. Researchers believe that most homosexual orientation develops in the womb, that homosexual patterns are firmly fixed by around age five and that it is outside the control of the person. For centuries, techniques have been used to suppress homosexual feelings in 'sufferers' which have included breast amputation, castration, drug therapy, uterus removal, frontal lobotomy, psychotherapy, electric shock therapy, prayer meetings, spiritual counseling and exorcism. No therapies have ever succeeded.
The best they have been able to achieve is to make some bisexuals confine their sexual activities to members of the opposite sex or force some homosexuals to become celibate through guilt or fear, and to push many others to suicide.
Scientists have shown that homosexuality is an orientation that is unalterable. It's not a choice.
There is a greater than 90% chance that you, the reader, are heterosexual. Think about how difficult it would be to feel sexually attracted to someone of your own sex and you will begin to understand how it is virtually impossible to create feelings that do not already exist. If it was a choice, as many proclaim, why would any intelligent person choose a way of life that exposes them to so much hostility, prejudice and discrimination? Hormones are responsible, not human choices.
Are we Slaves to our Biology?
Scientists know how to change the sexuality of rats and monkeys in the womb. Some groups claim that we can control our likes and dislikes by will or choice and they insist that we can all reverse park or read street directories with the same ease. But scientists know this is unrealistic. You don't need to be a scientist to see that rabbits can't fly, ducks are lousy runners, most women have difficulty reading maps and men reading newspapers are temporarily deaf. Understanding brain structure differences makes us more tolerant of each other and allows us to have greater control over our destiny and to feel positive about our inclinations and choices.
Human intelligence has evolved to a point where we are more in control of our emotions than other animals and can think through our choices. Other animals don't think: they react to circumstances and this makes them slaves to their biology. Our biology is the motivations behind many of the choices we make that sometimes don't seem to make sense to us. So while we are more in control of ourselves than most other animals, we still can't completely buck the system. The biggest obstacle facing most people is their rejection of the idea that we are just another animal with a smart brain. This refusal makes these people victims of their biology.

source.
Barbara & Allan Pease [url]Abstract from “why men don't listen & women can't read maps[/url]

Well long story short, there are two important question here;
1. Is it Genetic or a Choice?
If it is genetic, why do we have to criticize, force other on their sexual orientation? Isn’t that why we as humans have the right to make choice for ourselves

2. Can the 'Choice' Be Changed?
If it can’t be changed why pretend it can be changed by placing a ban on it, when in reality it can’t, instead of allowing these people live happily like every other person.

Over to you doctors and concerned persons, please let’s avoid polemics statement.

Is it in Access or MySql?

Not just short ladies, but generally short people. Well from my experience little things set them off. And they can keep grudge for a long time.

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I may not be hot or whatever, i love me just the way i am. Great advice for the day.

And 18 means what exactly? I love my nails, they have their uses and beside if i follow or obey all these, i will get some kind of female compliment huh?

Wow! I mean that's one good write-up man! Love it!

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AB$I:
Y was i born a yoruba boy sef?y not a chink instead. God help me,i need to accept my fate.but i've vowed not to DIE a Yoruba man but to DIE a CHRISTIAN

Man its not too late you can renounce your tribe as far as you are of age. Lol

SIGNED.

SLIDE waxie: dude, dnt try to contradict urself. U already said it, it doesn't exist.

Aside God's love, none other exists.

The closeness and feeling of oneness between families and members is just a simple fact of blood!

And between u and ur parents, and ur siblings is because technically, and genetically, u and ur sinblings are just a little fractions of ur parents combines.

So,

You + siblings = parents

And you = your siblings.

Everyone is the same.
U can't hate u. They can't hate themselves. That attraction is more clearer.

Now, the ones betwwen lovers are nothing but homorne surge. A homorne called oxytocin releases what te scientist termed a 'love hormone'. This causes attraction in all animals. And the brain chooses the time of it's release.

1. It might be at the first sight of the person: love at first sight.

2. After touching the person: infatuation

3. After kissing/sex: lust

4. After being close/talking with the person: fondness.

And once the brain releases the hormone, it releases it everytime u think of, or see the person. Or evertime the first action that triggers the release is done.

This explains why some are only interested in sex, just friendship, just being around the person, or all of the above!

And some people are so foolish that they allow this to take over them that is becomes an obsession. This obsession is what we decided to call 'love'!

There comes a time wen an hormone that suppresses this is released. Most times during anger. This is just a fact that it is might be temporal or premanent, due to the actors involved.

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This is just an excerpt from a whole book still under research by the author- KINGwax™.

The research itself is duly protected.

Any unauthorised usage is an infringement of the copyright law of the FGN.

Thank you.

Would love to read the complete book when its available,like you said Love does not exist, live your life, be happy with whoever you are with now, because one day you wake up and you won't have to be told you need to move on.

big-t:
Phone calls..
Boy to Boy= 0:00:59
Boy to Mum= 0:10:30
Boy to Dad= 0:02:36
Girl to Girl= 0:29:59
Boy to Girl= 1:15:01
Girl to Boy= 0:00:05( please call me back)

Why do girls always have the lion share And why do they call less

Well loin share of talking time, for me if anyone want to talk to me they do the calling and if i want to talk to anyone just text message. Well i hate talking anyway!