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Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

Stop sounding like a sissy

Let her go

You will a new wife.

Men are the prize

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Pls don't ever consider marriage.

You people don't listen.

On this platform especially,it's said over and over that marriage is not for men .
Marriage is for women
Men have nothing to benefit from getting married.

Valid!

Any right thinking person will do same

First time I'm agreeing with Pastor Ibiyeomie.

Ladies who wear leg chains are morally irresponsible.

Either les.bians or prostitutes OR Both!

HaneefahRN:
But they should marry single fathers? idiots

It's the women's choice.
Women like to marry anything even mad men.

It's the same thing with the men.

Anybody who has a child with another,given the opportunity,will have sex with that person again and again.


A woman who married a single father and a man who married a single mother should know this already.

KayCee92:
Many will question what the gal was doing visiting ex.
Mine came to see me, gave me the invite and wine. She is married today with children.
I don't know how people do relationship that it must be do or die. Kill someone for what exactly.

And you knack her.
Her first child may be yours.

Polygamous home and competition..

Olachase:
My girlfriend got another job and on the empowerment form

She wrote single 🥹🥹

Yes..She is single.
She is not married to any man so that makes her very single!

Imagine

He killed his brother who is his family because of his wife who they claim is not family.

Women are this,women are that.

A man has killed his own brother because of a woman..
Tufiakwa!!

It's the same thing they also do at home.

Nothing new.
Na mumu dey fall for such

Gerrard59:
It is biological - testosterone. The same hormone makes men what they are. It is a pity many men are derided for exercising their right to have sex, a basic biological phenomenon.

What happened to self control?

deavicky:
to leave the marriage don dey hungry u since. you now want to use this as an excuse. And i must tell you, that u married a weak man. somebody like me would have made the house uncomfortable for. nobody go tell u to pack, before u pack and run away for the sake of ur sanity.

He is the person who will pack out,if anybody should pack out.
I don't stop him from having his sex elsewhere since he came to this world to have sex.

Zocalite:
You haven't not allowed your husband to touch you this year. Hope you have son

When it's not that he's hiv positive.

God will reward you instantly

I have 3 children.
Male and female.
Let me be alive for my children.
Let a selfish man not use sex and kill me.
Everytime sex..is Sex food,water or oxygen?

Zocalite:
If a woman can not give her husband adequate sex, she doesn't need to marry

Cos she knows what's at stake before agreeing

The prostitutes that you men patronise,did you marry them?

Is marriage only for sex?

Funny!


I haven't allowed my husband to touch me this year.
Let him divorce me because of lack of sex ..
Everytime sex this,sex that
Mtcheeeeeeew

complet:
Am facing this same scenario, you just have to ensure, though not that easy, even in a day, when I tell my wife to pick the children from school, she conplained, it's by God grace, had sit her down, I beg for sex, noticing it's not mutual, bathe for the children, paid house bills, do most of chores, but I noticed am a good man, I just smile and let God have it's ways, this our generation is really in God's hands, by brother, endure and do the once you can do, thanks

Men and sex
Is sex food or oxygen?

Africonji:
@apprentist: I feel your pain bro. This phase of marriage is one that they hardly tell men about before they enter it. I hate to break it to you bro, but the truth is that it'll only probably get worse, so brace yourself. A lot of married men are also going through what you're experiencing -- sexual starvation in marriage. The truth is that most women begin to get comfortable in marriage and see sex as a tool that can be weaponized against their husbands.

The worst part is that when they're in that phase (for some women the phase sets in when they're hitting 40 or beyond while for other others it's earlier, but trust me they always hit that phase at some point), they can go without sex for as long as they want, not caring about the sexual needs of their spouse, leaving the man frustrated.

Unless you get lucky, it'll only get worse (she might revert back to her old ways temporarily but na lie). She'll only give you sex as a pacifier from now on, not because she necessarily enjoys it. And with it time and age the frequency will only get lesser and lesser.

Most married men that've been married for long can relate to your plight. With time you'll know how to sort yourself though 😜 -- No be me go tell you wetin to do.

I can't remember the last time I had sex.
I'm very sure it has not happened this year

After childbirth,I felt there was no reason to continue stressing myself in the name of sex.

I'm so sorry for men.
They can't stay without sex.
Pity

Men and sex.x tho.

Tiring sh*t.

Feels like an annoying chore.

I can live the rest of my life without having se.x and be completely fine.
For me,se.x is for procreation.
I'm done with child bearing.
Why should I be punishing myself again?

Men and se.x

Tueh!

PresidObi:
My own came to inform me, I didn't do her any harm. Maybe the girl thinks the guy is normal.

At least,you knack am!
Don't lie!!

The use.less lady went to collect preek from her ex as most of them do before they marry another man ,only to be murdered by the jealous ex who had not healed from the pain of being dumped.

Husband to be has dodged bullet.
He would have become the father of another man's child in 9 months' time.

The moment you break up with a man,treat him as your number 1 enemy.
Delete and block everything about him and move on.

G0odharddick:
Nigeria girls in Mali, Togo and Ghana are all there for prostitution

Seriously?

So my cousin,a medical doctor,who lives in Accra is in Ghana for prostitution?
Wow!

Them : We don't need marriage.We have nothing to benefit from marriage.
Still them: Agreeing to a shameful virtual wedding .

Stinking desperation.

So fast?

But man and woman will marry and be struggling with fertility issues..

Na wa oh

jaxxy:
Dey play. Ur parents married o

Lol..the joke is on you.
You guys be spilling alpha male vibes on social media but in reality,marriage dey hungry Una.
Clowns!

jaxxy:
So no Nigerian guy could bag this girl? jux all the way from Tanzania or where had to come snatch her? Nawa o

Bag her as how?
Nigerian men have nothing to benefit from marriage, especially to Nigerian women.

santaclaws:
Young girls and naivety. I don't know why she allowed someone record her while having s£x. Now she has not only ruined her own reputation, but her father's reputation... I just hope she won't become suicidal.

Young ladies, never allow a man record you or have access to your nudes, even your husband can become an ex tomorrow. As a guy, if a woman sends her nudes to you or allows you record her, please do not expose it, be a man and be kind. You will have daughters tomorrow, avoid bad karma for them!

Ironical how you use "man and kind" in the same sentence when you don't mean "mankind"

press9jatv:
Marriage is an investment and a contract, Don’t marry based on love - Nigeria Man explains

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLKchD08XO8

Sad as it may sound,he is right.

Love is not enough

Fiance is devastated.
Opportunity to japa gone.
Chai

I would have sworn that Zic's mother won't be in Nigeria, battling cancer ...and at LUTH for that matter.


Wonderful

Goodadvice01:
Exactly the kind of life I want to live. The day I'll leave Nigeria, I promise I'll never miss anything about the country

As long as you got a good job that pays your bills,introverted ,you gon be fine.

As for the food,I eat mainly British food and quite affordable.
Nigerians dishes are occasionally.