₦airaland Forum

hkidola00:
you feel lonely and its boring there right

I don't feel lonely.
It's not boring.
Back home in Nigeria,I didn't have many friends.
Had a small circle and my small circle have also all relocated.
We had a class party few weeks back.
It felt like we were in Nigeria.
Virtually,everyone in my university class was present.

Holycity:
I may leave mine soon

Me too.
I'm thoroughly tired of the whole arrangement

How can women walk away from marriage?
Marriage that's a trophy and the only clothe that covers the unclothedness of a woman?

I find this unbelievable.

Only men walk away from marriage,while the women go on their knees begging them to reconsider.

Op is cooking up stories

eepeepook:
This man is always in England while praising Nigeria. Ask him to come back, he’ll throw insults your way.

Don't mind the clown.
This is my 6th year in the UK,I have not missed anything back home in Nigeria.
I even regret not relocating much earlier.

My life has been more beautiful overseas.

Goodmarlian:
I am starting to get myself together financially after 5 years of struggle. I recently rented an apartment, its a single room in a three storey building but it's downstairs,very spacious and I have to share toilet and bathroom with the security.I initially wanted to get an apartment in ikorodu or mowe ibafo but considering the nature of my job it would be too stressful for me.

It's cost me 400k to get the room and I plan furnishing it,getting a flat screen television and at least a sofa. I already have a big bed. I believe i will be able to do the rest this year by God's grace.

Getting accommodation in Lagos is too hard and I think planning to get another bigger apartment would take another two years Or more I am tired of plotting and planning again as time is going, we dey age everyday so I just want to stick with this one get settle down here and rather plan building my own house from here instead.

I have not hinted my girlfriend about the plan yet so I would like to hear advise from the more experienced people here.


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Why are you planning on getting married as a man?
You are even struggling and want to squeeze and get married?
To what gain?
On social media,esp this platform,it has been hammered on several occasions that men have nothing to benefit from marriage.

And then age? Men can get married at anytime ..A 70 year old man is younger than a 30 year old woman ,as far as marriage and fertility is concerned..and can marry an 18 year old virgin whenever he is ready.

So why the desperation?

You people talk one thing online but do another in reality.

Single woman gets pregnant,men cry
2 women marry each other,men cry

Any story about women without men in their lives....Men cry

If it were to be a lady,they would have assumed and even concluded that she went for hook up ..And try to justify her murder

That's the disadvantage of trying to remarry when you have a daughter.

New man would want to take advantage of her..

Immediately I saw this thread,I knew there will be lots of hot male tears here...lol


"Men do not have anything to benefit from getting married".
"Just have children with baby mamas"

Women heard! And some are "helping" them by not getting married ,yet having babies outside wedlock

Now,men are wailing..

I don't have Bible App on my phone
I don't own any type of Bible

I don't attend church and I don't read the Bible

Woman born
Men dey cry

Na wa o

Foo.lish man
Why is he even going to marry in the first place?
Marriage that does not favour men.

Ladies that are sleeping with their (numerous) boyfriend(s) for nothing are now talking about morals.

Sex is sex.
As long as you are having sex with someone you are not married to,no difference between you and her.

Tomorrow,they will say the mother turned the child against his father

EmperorCaesar:
Feel sorry for your region instead

What kinda institute employ people into critical roles like this without thorough background check?

Shame

The reality is many private hospitals owners do not check or verify credentials or certificates ..
Some don't even want to sight them.
They employ doctors with words of mouth.
A lot of them don't go through standard employment processes.

I worked full time in at least 6 private hospitals in Nigeria before I joined govt and eventually relocated abroad.

Only 1 of them conducted interview and checked my licence.

The rest NEVER sighted any of my documents.

They are more interested in getting cheap labour

MaziObinnaokija:
that Madam always shouting men are SCUM beta find somebody to marry/ev3n just to get belle and born b4 she reach 45plus and starts going from one mountain to another

Is it 45 now?
Thought it was 30

UK say COS is free
But Nigerians choose to pay for it.
Serves them right.

I didn't pay a dime for COS.

Wow..so men can write epistles on cheating like this.
Same cheating they run on women's faces .
Interesting

SAMBARRY:
All this girls with itchy legs wey their legs no gree stay for one place una no just dey Hear Word. With all the psychopathic men,r@p1st,kidnappers and werey alasho all justifying femicide,pedophilia and rape una still dey go visit online strangers.

If you want to see the level of hatred and disdain naija men have for naija women just enter social media .infact nairaland is enough and as for those meeting up with men on nairaland you do so at your own risk

Don't mind foo.lish ladies.
Despite the level of hate and disrespect Nigerian men spew about women on social media and various stories of men killing ladies ,they won't still listen.
Serves her right.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her contacts.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

It's amazing how people still have unprotected sex in 2025 with people they are not even married to.

I'm sorry for the future of Africa

A fool.ish 3rd wife loading.

realguyremzy:
I know a lady who said she wants to come to Nigeria for IVF treatment. Dunno if she is serious about it tho

Yes..she is serious.
The reasons are...
1. IVF is cheaper in Nigeria

2. Multiple embryo transfers that can result in having twins,triplets,etc can be done in Nigeria

3. Some facilities in Nigeria accept to do sex selection.
Unlike overseas where (2) and (3) are illegal.

4. If she is advanced in age,say 40+,some IVF centres will still try using her eggs for the procedure but overseas,many do not.
They insist on donor eggs.

FCmome:
Hello Nairanders , am in severe pain because my wedding was called off, because both Families are against the union, am devastated, i don't know what to do, how to start where to start... I've throw away everything that reminds me of her but i still couldn't get myself to move on.. 😰

Pls if anyone had similar experiences let me know how you deal with it

Why are you in pains?

You are a man.

And on social media, especially this platform,men have concluded that they have nothing to benefit from marriage....Marriage is for women.

So you should be happy that you have been stopped from entering into a union that clearly has nothing to offer you.

Wallade:
Oh I see, your mama too dey mad abi, no wonder she birthed a lunatic like you.

Idiot.

Cry baby Cry!
Use.less child of a mad mother.
Bas.tard!

Wallade:
E remain small wey your madness go enter street

As your mama dey roam for streets.
Shame!

"His chosen one" Annie in the mud.

When this lady got married to TuBaba,Nigerian men were hailing her for sticking by him despite his promiscuity.


The moment Nigerian men start hailing you,just know that you have done something very stupid.

Now,they have turned against her,calling her names..Typical .Serves her right!

How can you meet a man first,then he goes on to have 4 children with 2 women, you still go ahead to marry him such that your first child is his 5th and you think you are special.


Women will consciously make bad choices and blame everyone except themselves,for it.

Next to be embarrassed ...Chioma Davido.

Useless ladies with zero self esteem

Okoroawusa:
Wow! For a girl her age that's too bad. However there have been cases where obese women deliver babies safely. Her death is quite unfortunate.

Of course.
Very well.
Obesity is not a cause of maternal mortality but can be a predisposing factor .
It's quite unfortunate
May her soul rest in peace.

Okoroawusa:
So you are saying that this her size is normal?

That's her size.
Where did I say it was normal?
She was obesed.

A lot of people associate obesity with the state of affluence and wealth.

So it's not surprising that the daughter of a deputy governor was obesed.

Mercy Chinwo should just agree to conduct a DNA paternity test for that boy and kill all doubts.

I don't understand why my gender gets so uncomfortable and worried about this test,if they are innocent.

If anyone ever raises an eyebrow over the paternity of any of my children,I will be glad to have a test and "shame" such person,instead of plenty shalaye.

Okoroawusa:
She wasn't necessarily fat. She was pregnant while the wedding held.

She was not pregnant during the wedding.
She even doubled in size with the pregnancy which was only 4 months old.
She had a miscarriage and developed complications.
My cousin is a nurse in the facility where she was managed in Port Harcourt.

GeneralOjukwu:
Thank you for the correction.

But that fat girl looks more 40 than 29 ---- no offense meant to her

Because obesity makes people age more than their ages

tishbite43:
29 years and she looks like that?!
R.I.P Deputy Governor's daughter

Obesity makes people look older than their ages.