₦airaland Forum

Keepamsafe:
When I bumped into this thread and stumbled on her comment and how proud she was displaying she married a weak man. I shook my head in disappointment.



Women naturally are highly sexual beings. A woman in her pure state that loves a man, will Fvck the shit out of him. Only his presence makes her wet.

But here you can see this married woman as she said she is, weaponizing sex to a so called husband. Lol. I don’t pity the man. Shes lucky she married a pushover.

NO WIFE OF MINE WILL TRY SUCH WITH ME.

Imagine your wife coming out to say such trash and boldly for that matter.

Puke

Weak man= Peace of Mind.
I'm really lucky, you are right.
It's not easy to be married to a Nigerian man for years and be happy.
Keep shaking your head while I'm enjoying my weak husband whose weakness gives me peace.
We have 3 children.. I have fulfilled my obligation.
Sex is not food

marlow1962:
Let that man go, he doesn't deserve the suffering he's in all in the name of marriage.
You don't want to give it to him, when he's feed up and goes out, you begin to cry.

I'm not holding him, Oga.
He chose to marry me.
If he is suffering, he should be the one to let me go.
A woman cannot keep a man who doesn't want to be stay.

As long as he is going out to get it and not in my house, that's fine.
Good luck to him.

essentialone:
So long as you have no issues if he sleeps with your maid, your neighbour, his workplace colleague, etc. etc, then you are good to go.

Na him Sabi.
I have gotten the most important thing I ever wanted from marriage.

We don't live in Nigeria, between.
Here, sex is not easy to get like in Nigeria because people are not hungry like back home where a man can sleep with a girl because he bought her food.

essentialone:
Ladies choose who to sleep with, but it is men who choose who to marry. Wisdom!

And after the wedding, the lady chooses when to sleep with you.
This year, I haven't had sex.. I'm married, I live with my husband.
I can stay for the rest of my life without having sex.
Can he? Definitely not!

Nnakatsan:
I was talking to a friend recently and she opened up about something that shocked me.

She said her husband had changed… less attention, less affection, always on his phone.

At first, she thought it was just stress. But over time, the distance became obvious.

What struck me was this — nothing “big” had happened.
No fight. No major issue.
Just slow emotional and physical disconnection.

It made me realize something…
Most marriages don’t break suddenly — they fade quietly.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, especially how attraction and effort change after marriage.

For those who are married — what do you think causes this?

Over familiarity and over availability cause it.
Along the line, people become too used to each other and the spark just fizzles out.Its natural.
The partner that doesn't realise this on time and begins to detach suffers it .

If the woman had started paying more attention to herself and children, the husband will be the one to suffer it.

In marriage, there must be a victim.
In everything you do, don't be the victim.

KnowledgePower7:
Abortion is perfectly normal and okay

The problem is that women wait till the baby is 2,3,4 months to abort the baby.
That is too late to abort a baby
Very risky

The best time to abort a baby is as early as 6 weeks to 1 month.
That period the baby is still a tiny fetus
Which can be flushed out easily after taking abortion drugs.

Those that wait till the baby has developed to 3 months then they abort it is very risky.

Do abortion early
Don't wait till it's late to abort a fetus
Go and do ultrasound scan
If baby is from 6 week to 1 month
Then you abort it easily without complication

That is how a girl came to our clinic
We did scan and found out she is 12 weeks pregnant and she was crying asking me where she can abort the baby.

I told her madam, you should have done this scan early at least 1 month after not seeing your period.

But noooooo

They will wait till baby is 3 months and come and be asking stupid question if they should abort? Putting pressure on the doctor and if the doctor do any abortion procedure and it cast. His hospital will be closed down.

So I will say this for all young girls

DO ABORTION IN VERY EARLY STAGES OF PREGNANCY FROM 6 WEEKS

Anything from 3 to 4 month abortion
If you get complication. Its your problem

Abortion is illegal in Nigeria no matter the stage of the pregnancy.

kiddaz:
You can't be this mean in real life... I think you're probably just acting here. Na wah ooh . The thought of your personality off of here makes me cringe. No woman can be this heartless. Just set the poor man free please.

I'm not holding him captive.

If you are too nice to a man,he will despise you and show you pepper.
That's what I know.
Men are not wired to appreciate women who are too good to them and vice versa.
The goal is not to be the victim.

kiddaz:
Haaaa! I remember you now. The one who doesn't even try to make her man feel happy, so you still deny him sex too? God abeg ooh.

If he is not happy, he knows what to do

kiddaz:
Are you trying to say you have

Yes.
I am done with childbirth.
Sex is not food

Quarterpast:
You're training a girlfriend in sch, while your kid sister doesn't have an SSCE result. And you think God will not punish you?

I have a friend who would cook, eat and reserve same food for his girlfriend who's only coming for sex and going back same day. I was broke and jobless, had nothing, was hungry, but he wouldn't give me that food cos of his girlfriend.
All his money went to that girl. Finally, the girl left his house, and the next week, my guy started seeing pre-wedding photos of his girlfriend on the social media 🤣🤣.
I will never forgive that guy. One day, I'll remind him. So many things he did against me because of some random girls

He was having sex with the girl.
Was he having sex with you?
A lot of men lack control over their sexual urges and can do anything for a woman they are sleeping with.

The man who is sponsoring a woman in school is doing so primarily because he is having sex with her.

I thought white men hate Nigerian women.
Travelled all the way from UK to Nigeria to meet a Nigerian woman.. wey no get big bress and yansh...

Congratulations girl.
Best wishes

Amarachieze:
When falsehood is repeated severally it becomes a tradition; please what has cheating to do with boyfriend -girlfriend. Someone you are not even entitled to sleep with, you are talking of cheating. It might even turn out that she actually cheated on her future husband with you.

The matter tire me o
Fornication partners accusing each other of cheating.. what will legally married couples do?

Which one is cheating girlfriend?
Woman wey no be your wife

ibedun:
Hmmm he said "MY WOMAN" In 2026?

Women don't do foolish things like that. you'll never find a wife who will donate her kidney to her husband. Her Mama will never ever allow it.

Best wishes to you Oga

It's actually the other way round.
OJB's wife did
Eedris Abdulkarim's wife did.

More women make sacrifices for their sick husband than men do for their sick wives.
And the reason is clear

I feel very sorry for women who don't have children but end up marrying single fathers.
Left for me, single fathers will marry single mothers

When I was single, one of the things I investigated thoroughly about a potential suitor was to find out if he already had a kid(s) .
Once that's the case, I just ghost without explanation.
My first child must be your first child.
I don't have strength to deal with other people's baggages

gracias124:
Its not an achievement, when you are 30 without a wife or girlfriend. You will always be Hot and staring at your cealing every night like you are cursed.
Some shameless and weak*** will resolve to watching porn and jerking off. What a shameless behaviour watching other men doing the things you want to do.
I am not financially ok to get married and knacking out of wedlock is prohibited to me. I just dey vex

And after you get married, just a matter of time, your wife starts to lose interest in sex.

Instead of a man to spend my money, I rather go to jail.
God forbid ooooh

But husbands still frown and are unhappy when wives refuse to have sex.. lol

It doesn't matter.. I can't remember the last time my husband told me that.
Marriage is not about love.
It's a contract . Purely transactional.

A man can be singing "I love you" to his wife while actively planning to get rid of her

DenreleDave:
EVEN AS A MAN, I CAN NEVER ENTER ANY BUS THAT IS JUST MEN ONLY, PRIVATE CAR IS NOW A NO - NO FOR ME.

NOW I UNDERSTAND WHY LADIES DONT WANT TO ENTER A CAR OR BUS FILLED WITH JUST MEN, I REALLY UNDERSTAND.

Even being on a lonely deserted road as a woman with a man (men) around, you know you are finished.
Serious fear must hold you.. Either you are robbed or raped or both. You may even get killed.

Story, story.
Nigerian men will still marry broke and jobless women over the well to do ones.
You cannot control someone that you don't feed.

WiseBizInvestor:
One thing many diaspora Nigerians are beginning to realize is that food security is becoming one of the most valuable sectors globally.

Assets like cocoa and oil palm plantations are long-term wealth structures because demand keeps increasing every year.

Let them realise whatever..
As for me and my family, we will not realise anything in Nigeria.
We are not investing and we are not coming back.

If you don't like someone enough to be romantically involved with them, tell them upfront and do well to avoid them.

But because you still nurse the intentions of sleeping with her without any commitment, you can't be bold to say NO.

I worked harder in Nigeria with nothing to show for it than here in Europe.

I am not building anything in Nigeria.

I have no intentions of returning to Nigeria

I send money home.

I am building and investing in Europe

eepeepook:
For some reason, you won’t see Nairaland children coming to clam that he’s 50 years old. If it was a female singer though….

Only women grow old
Men remain young forever.

nairalanda1:
It's not a spiritual anything

The guy was planning to enter the country on false pretences, and he got caught. That's lying. He paid the price for his sin. What you are calling obstacle na man wey dey lie. Comes into a country on toruist visa...and no details of which hotel he dey stay for or which hotspot tourist he wan visit? He lied, and he got into trobule for lying. Make we no dey decieve ourselves.

Plus you want to go to a foreign man country and start hustling for job? The only jobs available are probably worse than what he was getting in nigeria.


For anyone reading this, the best way to jakpa is

1.HAVE A JOB WAITING FOR YOU THERE
2.GO THE STUDENT ROUTE
3.Read a course like medicine or nursing, take the certification exam for the country you want to go to, and you are ok
4.Be the child of someone who is legally jakpa.

Don't do what chukuwdi did. Immigration officers are very suspicious of people who come in on tourisim visa...infact they go even ask una for details of your hotel stay and where you are going to exactly....plus he wan tour a whole asian country in 2 days? Na carribean island he dey enter?

I used number 3 route.
No regrets

Na HK girls dey do BBL.
A lot of men actually marry ladies with medium to small buttocks and breasts.
Ladies that do BBL are not looking forward to decent relationships that can lead to marriage, they are enhancing their body parts in order to attract clients that can pay them good millions .

Myself and many other ladies have gotten married (with kids) despite not being physically endowed.

Sonnobax15:
You're lucky bro . Nigerian bannies will think it's Ai but in reality, they're the one's who are lagging behind in everything that has to do with sanity

Some years back, a talking stage visited me at my work place... And I invited him for lunch at a restaurant close by.
We had been talking for a while and that was the first time we were seeing each other.
I paid the bills ..He was my guest and I only felt it was natural to do so.

After that, he started acting all cold and withdrawn. When I asked why the sudden change in behaviour, he said he felt uncomfortable that I paid for our lunch... That it was "unwomanly" ,that I embarrassed him.

That was where it ended.

Lastmessenger2:
stop lying sister. The uk don cast

Okay oh.
Nigeria is better.
Suit yourself

damble:
Please, be praying for his success. He's a good man. I have a biological sister that has travelled to a top A country, working as civil servants with the husband for more than 20 years now. The only thing they know how to do best is to discourage us from travelling abroad. No family member has benefited anything from them

Because they are stingy, that's why.
They are enjoying premium life.. And don't want others to enjoy it as well.

I am in the UK with my husband and children... I will advise anybody who wants to leave Nigeria to leave.
Hell fire is better than Nigeria

SpreshMan:
I recently got conditional offers from most schools in the Uk, one is starting in May and I have also deferred one to the September but my mind wants to go for the one in May.

However the kinds of arguments I read online about whether or not Japa is worth has got me confused.

I know about minimum wage being about 12-15 pounds and maximum of 20 hours per week, I know work visa after graduation has been reduced to 18 months and even the condition for ILR being extended last year.

So I’m seeking advise from people would be Honest whether it would be worth it to spend around 21 million to embark on this journey and still have a debt of close to 10 million naira since I’m paying half of the school fees. Will it be worth it ?

Are the people preaching against japa being honest ?

Please japa.
I'm in the UK and leaving Nigeria is the best thing that I have done for myself and future generation

Xboss1:
Because you have lost value in the dating market thats why you can spend on a guy now😁😁

Exactly.. as a woman, once you are generous and spend on a man, he interprets it as you being desperate and takes you for granted.
Reason why a lot of ladies are stingy.