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BeYourOwnBoss:
I really think Nigeria as a country don't want to move forward.

All other countries are growing above little things like tribes.

I have taken my time to watch many african president
and wat I have notice is that most of them put on Suit for their official duties and work..
Those countries have different ethinic groups, just like Nigeria. But just to make a multi ethinic country to work, you have to represent everyone and every tribe, i mean if our official language can be english, y can.t we have official dressing.

Look at Nigeria, every president that comes in , try every possible means to show that he is from his region first...

obasanjo
GEJ
PMB

Buhari have never represented any other region in terms of dressing than the Northern way of dressing,...

Before you start saying, it is nothing to worrry about, remember, tribe is just mostly dressing, food and language.


If Nigeria wants to conquer this foolishness that have been dragging us bacckward..hate

they should implement coporate dressing for every public holder in the federal level of government....the president inclusive...

Even mugabe wears suit all the time....to repesent all tribes in the country.....but our own...never....

once a child sees them, he will know , yes hes an hausa man, hes an igbo man, hes a yoruba man.....

The only way we can defect this hate going on in Nigeria, is through psychology, if not......


we will be going two step forward, ten step backward....


If you think nigeria should be were it is, just take a look at most independent industry....music, movies, etc

thry are all doing well, that is to show you nigerian have the spirit to excel but bad leaders and senior citizen keeps dragging us backwards....

I would have cherished this novel, if I had read it during GEJ days. But now I see it as a rhetorics of a Buhari hater.
Next try, but no no.. get your ridiculous behind outta here

Kennydoc:
What are Yorubas reaping? Abeg! Comot.
You guys aren't reaping anything. It's only that your condition is better than that of Igbos in this terrible administration.

That itself is a reward of good political calculations and martyrdom of the past. But in the other news, the Igbos cannot persevere just 2 years (Yorubas did for 6yrs of GEJ and 2yrs of Yar'Adua). Why don't you folks emulate the Yorubas and come up with a formidable political calculations, instead of this cry cry baby.

Nigeria jagajaga

Op amliftedhigher, It may be the mentality she got from nollywood movies or her experience with her siblings' in laws or just an evil woman with bad background. In any case, suspend all marriage plans asap. This will enable your beloved ones to aak questions and you can then table out your concerns. She, on the other hand, will know you are worried about her character.
Believe me, what you are concerned about now will be double after wedding. It may take 2-3 years of pretence, but her FULL true colours would glow then. And unfortunately you may be the only one to be dieing silently then.
Don't form a superman, discuss your concerns with one of your siblings and someone from her side too, so that either you can correct it now (by finding out why she is like that and accept to change) or you have people who will have solidarity with you when your marriage begins to weigh you down.

So, suspend all wedding plans for now (even if it is shakara) and intentionally bring up many family issues and study her reactions again. Use this period to iron out those issues confrontationally. If nothing changes, please don't go ahead with the wedding.

Student union should be disbanded. The idea of executive students is somehow, where some students are more important than others. Where a huge amount of money are disbursed to children, no no no. You don't get all that from private unis.

The only people supporting Atiku are ipobs who have been promised restructuring and who are hell-bent Buhari's haters.
They are about to make the same political miscalculation as they did in 2015. So sorry for their @sses.

No more no less.

lafflaff123:
SAMUEL UKPA

It is not as if i saw that name sef.

So one Ra.ped and killed an 8 Yr old in Port-Harcourt, and he was recently caught in Jos and his name is Ifeanyichukwu Maxwell Dike

I will just pretend as if UKPA and DIKE are from Ghana so i am not called a Tribalist.

I will not even act childish by saying "NA THEM" because that is so childish too.

God will make all men looking for "TIGHT" Punna to become impotent.

No nah, they are developing those places.

iyke926:
1. Guilty of number 1 but not always.

2. I have never used two phones. I'm a minimalist.

3. There is no security in Nigeria. To survive in Nigeria, one got to be watchful...conscious of things happening around.

4. Using "o" or "sha" when conversing, is strictly on some friends and close fam.

5. I can call people I know bros, boss, chairman, sweet sister, sugar, when I need their assistance or something from them. But to strangers I use sir, ma, dude, young lady, young man. It looks odd and weird calling a stranger boss or Oga mi.

There is something I still can't do calling a pastor "Daddy or Mummy"

Who asked you to defend yourself? Ok, continue sha

tossie101:
So there is no crisis among yorubas in southwest?

If it is in rejecting a priest based on his ethnicity, NO.
And even if it was that, it would be resolved with the most civilized calculation.

OkunrinMeta:
One would imagine that in five years that Jonathan was in Power, if these protests and loud requests for secession was brought forward and it was this loud, It might have been easier for the Igbo nation to get what they seem to want.

Of course there is also the question of whether the agitators actually speak the mind of the Igbo Nation. This is because in my corner of the country, the Igbo men I know do not seem to be very much in support of Master Nnamdi. Still, these issues should be addressed by way of logical two way discussion.

So my questions are:

why is the demand for Biafra more pronounced now?

Did the agitators forget what they wanted before?

Did they not want it at the time?

What exactly is the reasonable expectation currently?

Do you want the Hausa man to go and face his onions and cow while leaving the oil for only the east to enjoy because they are very selfless like Jesus?

Would it not have been easier to ask Jonathan to do that?

Are we willing to go back to 1967 to make it happen?

Because they are pathetic when it comes to political calculations. During the GEJ era, the SW was almost neglected in appointments and stuffs, but instead of leaping up and down like frogs, they calculated and saw to a regime change in the most civilised way. But these guys, when, after a few years, in the same position, are completely lost and would rather prefer we scatter everything. Shooo... Na so.
Personally, i wish they are allowed to go. And then we build a wall aound their tiny Republic with patrols to shoot down any moving objects near it.
I understand Niger state is 5 times bigger than the whole of SE in landmass.

Opportunity for Ambode to do something about that place.

I need a used tablet (10") with Windows OS touchscreen that can serve as laptop. Like Lenovo yoga,etc

Budget 20 - 30k
Thanks.

Brokenangel2:
I just came back to see if anyone took out time to drop a word or two for me. I really appreciate your inputs. Prayers? I'm ashamed to say I'm tired of praying. We don't even have our morning devotions again. I'm even afraid that this atmosphere is unhealthy for my kids. I don't even feel like going to church today, though my beautiful new dress was ironed yesterday. I'm just tired of smiling outside when I'm actually dying inside. I wish this is a dream or novel. That's my life ooo, last night I felt like ending it all, this morning I feel like holding on whether he shows me affection or not. Loneliness is my best friend. You know what? I'll appreciate it if you all share this story on every social platform you know, especially Facebook. He's active there, he will read it somehow. He will know I wrote this, he just knows how I can pen down my feelings. God bless you all.

Madam, what you wrote is commonplace, so forget about it getting to him or knowing it was you. You need to confront your marriage head on. Bring a respected third party, preferably older couples. Confront the genesis of the problem with the third-party.
If it all doesn't work, and you don't have anywhere to go and he is not beating you, then make yourself HAPPY.
Be happy by facing your work squarely, get really busy, face your kids, keep maintaining yourself, look beautiful all the time, wear good clothes and cosmetics, and find yourself a discreet sidekick, but use protection. Let the sidekick be far, and don't give him too much details about your home, address or personal details.
Just ignore your husband and be happy. Save money too. Trust me, the whole thing will be resolved later on. He will want his family again. You will end up with mental health problems the way you are going, and that's just the truth.

Chidonc:
sire I totally disagree with your ideology of life, it good to be peaceful and wise, but there comes a time in a man's life when he would stand up to face his challenges no matter How hard they are. there are sceneries where a man would look at his attacker and walks away, but there also comes a time when a man would look at his attacker turns his back to the wall and challenges him to a fight, great men are never born, they are made by their reation to every action taken against them

I agree, but not in this case. When you are dealing with deadly family members over properties, my brother, it's better to flee or deal from distance. I know so many examples to conclude so.
My advice is that every man (as emphasised by you) should hustle well and build his own house. Never go to live in your father's house with your wife and kids, if you have envious and fetish family. Not worth it. The property will remain, the person may be killed or turned mad. So what's the point?

That's why he has mouth cancer. Only God knows who he blasts in the past to have this. The rate at which he is blasting, it might be oesophagus cancer next.

OrdercityWeb:
I was having a discussion with a few friends yesterday. I told them emotions aside, intertribal marriages shouldn't be ENCOURAGED.
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Why? To preserve our culture, our identity is in our culture. I know alot of products of intertribal marriages that are torn between the question of identity.
I once read where a lady from an intertribal marriage said her mom insisted she married her own tribe as against her dad's.
In many intertribal homes there is this cultural neutrality, and many times there's a power play on the kids among the two in-laws.
Even the bible doesn't encourage intertribal marriage, remeber the instructions Abraham gave to his servant and the fact that Jesus was sent to the jews ONLY initially.
Have you wondered why the Chinese and Koreans do not marry outside their race, why do you think there is that cultural cohesion and reverence with them anywhere they go.
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My take is INTERTRIBAL MARRIAGES SHOULDN'T BE ENCOURAGED.
What's your take? Please be factual and intelligent DO NOT APPEAL TO EMOTIONS.

**modified**
Alot of people are saying "culture evolves". Yes cultures evolve. But fundamentals like identity remains same.
Culture evolves. Identity doesn't. The fact that the Yorubas believe they descended from Oduduwa is UNIQUE TO THEM ALONE AND CAN NEVER EVER EVOLVE.
THE MOMENT IT DOES WE HAVE LOST WHO WE ARE

The present tribes didn't fall from heaven. They are a result of intertribal marriages and other social contacts. No race or tribe is entirely pure. Even the Israelites after captivity never was the same again. Social contacts among diverse people makes culture to evolve. Culture can't be preserved, it's a fruitless effort. Cultures evolves.
The english language of KJV Bible and Shakespeare has evolved. (language is culture too). Many languages are evolving by borrowing one word from another. In this NASA internet age, many languages have to continually borrow from English their IT terms.
Many of our languages in West Central Africa is Bantu Congo language family. That is to suggest we had similar origin initially, but by social contacts, which include intertribal marriage, new tribes and cultures evolved.
The Yorubas in South America have intermarried and have become a new tribe/race, though their source can be sourced.
Intertribal marriage is the future. It solves a lot of genetical problems and gives a lot healthy worldview. It also gives such families to live a happier lives, because they easily don't entangle themselves with bigotry and banters. They are usually soulful and liberal

Hbaba:
If you have picture evidence of the havoc your sister caused. Kindly report to the nearest police post. Police will invite her and arrest her. From that point, insist to the police that they should file the issue to court. And never accept any plea she gives there. Engage a lawyer or human right activist to take up the challenge. Please never relent once this case starts. She will cry, beg, sweat and end up in detention. After 5 days, ensure she agrees to provide all documents taken away by her, she must also pay for all the cloths destroyed. Then after she fulfills all that. You can now meet a pastor for forgiveness. But you must have made your right proven

I like you

omron:
Good morning everyone

Remember I posted on this platform about my Elder sister who came to visit our mum where I was staying In the family house with my wife and my child.

It was a day I shall never forget in my life
whenever I remember that day I have a terrible feeling and it affected me so much

To those that don't know about the story


https://www.nairaland.com/3778429/how-blood-sister-treated-wife
That is the link

She beat my wife Blood was coming out of her nose she broke our private room that was padlocked gained entrance into the room and tore all my wife clothes and baby clothes in the wardrobe and also carried my wife certificates and up till now denying she never carries it



We were 4 members in the family I am the last born she was the second born and my sister was the eldest with one of my junior brother


To cut the long story short three month is gone and she still denied she didn't carry my wife certificates and my life photo album.

My eldest sister has called me again after visiting the pastor a prophet told her that she should call me and apologize for what he did if she really wants to move forward in her life but she refuse saying my number is switched off I know it's a lie she wanted me to call her first.... Tho she has realized the wrong she did the last time I saw her was on my mum Birthday Thanksgiving in the church she feel sober and could not even look me in the eye..... She believes so much in seniority and because she doesn't want to be the one to call first but i learnt that she always talk to my elder sister that she is remorseful for all thathappened but don'tknowhow to put it to me

Now the question is should I call her?
Tho I don't wish to becos I have vowed never to do that until she releases my property and also apologize tonn me but someone told me am the Aburo (junior) that I should call her first

That if I call her she might release the property She made away with
pls is this advisable I need a strong advice
though despite how she maltreated my wife ,my wife has called her and apologize despite that she did not release her certificates and our wedding photo album and other things..... Pls am confused advice me

You are stupid for living in your father's house with your wife and kids. Nonsense, why won't she do all that.
If you are broke, rent out your space and use it to rent a place somewhere.
I can't advice you further until you move out if that house. You also need to keep away from that kind of family. Only see your sister like once a year and do the remaining contacts by phone and online banking, in case of contributions.

supersystemsng:
They are young.. They need their life intact first... The first thing is they need a base the family doesn't know and plan on further moves...it depends on family...I kissed the lands of my father to hell...Same as my brother and sisters...properties kor..it depends on the value eahc family places on them...I won't say further, but life is priceless and they are coming with a war..with what i read the Op posted, they don't have the strength for the battle, the withdrawal is to go gather strength for what will come later on...But if he has properties, it will be pretty difficult, best advice is for them to get a lawyer who would advise on steps to take...if they fight legally, they will need to get ready for spiritual battle, so is it a battle they can fight?

I've been reading your posts. You are my tweenie, though i do not come from the East. Life is more important. Better to flee. Most of those deaths of men with properties are usually spiritual attack. If families can kill one of their own, what is the children still waiting for? Fight? Secure property? Not wise. Go far and if possible, cut ties.
Staying alive is far wiser than fighting for properties. Best to go hustle and build yours.

sulexrio:
brother have learn something in life never turn your back on family but never rely on them they can change the gear of faith,I also faced something similar but am coping trust me! you will triumph over the challenges

Well, there are some families you just have to turn your back to. Don't let anyone lie to you. Once you know you have that kind of family that is wicked and can do you evil, my brother na to flee o. And then change your surname if possible.
2 of my uncles did it and were extremely successful. I am towing their path.
Some friends are better than family, they love you but place no demands or do not do you evil. They are our family friends. I can talk to them about anything, and i have their sincere advice. But family? Na that info dem go use finish you.
We do not have extended family problems in my home.
A good loving family is the best, but not everyone is that lucky. My generation has parents and grandparents who were polygamous and sometimes illiterate and fetish. Why would want to stick around such witches. Extended family mostly monitors your activities on social media, and if you are the type that displays much on FB, just know you are in soup, because your happiness and success make them unhappy.

NtoAkwaIbom:
Mmor ke do (datz how u say 'na dem' in ibibio) learn ibibio today

What of "Na dem dem"?

How can you work in another man's farm without a quick plan for yours?

Put all the 8hours effort on your own farm and you would be just ok. My small backyard farm produces about 50% of what i eat, talkless of a plot or acre. Land can't be problem. U can hire or lease land. If you go to villages, you can see farmland for as low as 10k for sale. You can be a middleman, take goods from farmers to sell.

People should only work in farms to understudy things, otherwise don't complain.

uzoclinton:
Wow... sHe was dark before and now she is white.... what A miracle.

Na the same thing happened to Black and White TV o. The same people we watched in our black and white TV suddenly became lit in our plasma TV, what a miracle.

Mumu101

nNEOo:
fayose is the only afonja with a ball.

Name at least 0NE flat-ino with a ball or forever remain silent.

Nma27:
Shey u don chop 1kobo from these people u mentioned

Oh, you are a beggar?

Nma27:
Are ijebu people really stingy

Which kain question be this? List all the Ijebus you know and judge by yourself.
Let me help a bit...
-owner of FCMB
-Mike Adenuga (Glo, Connoil)
- Olamide Badoo
-owner of Honeywell, Oba Otudeko
- Olu Onagoruwa
- probably your landlord
Etc

NOC1:
If the state flood all you will be shouting useless government, when they are trying to cleanup the mess that lead to the flood you guys are now critising Him. You can't please man.
Most of those shanties where build ontop of drainages there by blocking runoffs...

Na only you get sense pass in this thread. I so much enjoyed it.

×waiter, abeg bring 3 Malta Herbal for this guy/gal×

This op cracked me up real good.

I fall in the complaining and sometimes scared ones categories depending on how long ago I played football last.

Warehouse assistant

Please vote PDP in Kosofe LGA of Lagos for the chairmanship election.
The guy deserves that seat more than all the other guys, especially the godfather-imposed APC candidate

I dont understand you people, if it's oyinbo people, the Kardashians, or AA like Riri or Beyonce, it's cool.
But una go dey curse if it's one of your own.
Na wa for una heads o.

0b100100111:
False!

As long as the elites in the forefront of politics re still milking Nigeria. The electorates will keep complaining and agitation.

Nigeria still has an average life-span of 60years ahead

You are partially right.

If all the zones mentioned can form a movement with this, it will lead to a bigger thing.... say, a revolution or a natconfab or referendum. But the bigot morons on this thread has jeopardized my hope.