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Just take a break for your own sanity sake. The amount of bad energy here can turn a fun loving person to a sadist.

Op is an introvert but when it comes to the money she becomes an extrovert.

Watch out for his next lamentation thread.

Oga go and read through this man's comments before quoting me. He admitted it himself. Severally. I don't care about you or your story. All men are angels and women are devils.

otherway:
Sometimes I laugh when I see advise coming from those who have no clue of what the OP is passing through...

I have lived the experience 200% and I can tell you there was no verbal abuse at all but the OP is so confused at the moment that he is trying to attach a reason to why she left.

She left cos he lost his job and frustrations were setting in for her...

Ladies can play the victim card...

My wife left because I was down and out at a point and she told her family the exact thing the OP narrated...infact s i was reading the story it was as if I was reading my own story...but guess what...the lady walked back to me after 2years then I was the one who finally did the ditching.

Some ladies are impatient and this is why I tell men to make sure their wives have a very good source of income so that they can withstand pressure when the going gets tough for the husband.

Majority of nairalanders are pure idiots with low IQ. How can you support a man that is abusive towards his wife? He doesn't provide for his family and he's also abusive. I read one idiot's comment saying he has a right to abuse his wife, like seriously? When did a woman become an inanimate object?

OP you're a wicked man. I've no pity for you because it's obvious you have broken that woman. Both you and your useless pastor that asked you not to visit your family would get what's coming. GTFOH here. Age is just a number and maturity doesn't always come with age as you've displayed.

To all those supporting the OP I hope you can stand someone insulting you and your family, if you can't and you're using your dirty fingers to type shït, then like the OP you're a big hypocrite.

This Reno guy, for someone who claims to be intelligent he's obviously ethnic and religiously biased. Whef
n busola said she was raped by biodun he supported biodun saying busola was satan trying to fight the church even without giving her a listening ear he rubbished her claim. the Afenifere's leader's death he claimed it was herdsmen.

He's so quick to accuse and insult Muslims and Islam but when the shoe's on his foot he wants to play the "fighting against the church".

Majority of outspoken atheists were once Christians so we would criticise the religion we know and understand.

So beating a nursing mother is all he could do? Am sure the woman's story would be different from his. Why didn't you narrate hers?

Really? So a marriage counsellor doesn't provide solutions but nairaland that a hoard of juvenile delinquents run around does? OK oh!

farous:
Marriage counsellor do not necessarily provide solution, besides nairaland is not a facebook where identity is revealed and good advice/solution can be gotten as well even based on people's experience

OP here's an idea. Why don't you as a married man and an adult solve your problem or go to a marriage counsellor, instead of bringing your private problem to nairaland for other men to ridicule your wife.

So what's the problem here? She refused to have unprotected sex with you and she refused your money. So what exactly did she do wrong

Lol! Many Nigerian guys do this whole fraud (frodd) style. That's the only way they can get a girl. They cry and cajole you with their pathetic life stories, later when you unwillingly accept they would want to put "just the tip" if you refuse they will tell you how "blue balls" is hurting them. If you don't accept they will hate you and come on the internet and bítch about women.

Stop lying. I only rephrased what the OP said the family of the lady told him. Go and read his OP. Tired of explaining this to people that can't read.

Chimaokigwe:
Just yesterday, you were citing African culture as a ground for depriving a father paternity and access to his child. Now, you're saying African being African enables people deprive women of their rights.

Husband-did not complain
Priest-did not complain
Mother in law-did not complain
Father in law-did not complain

Everybody that mattered didn't complain meanwhile an unknown entity is on the internet bursting his nerves. Na WA oh!
The only time they remember they're Africans is when its time to subject and trample on women's right.

I know someone that did this in IMO state after her only son died.

Obviously you do. If you didn't you wouldn't quote me.

livelymatilda:
Who cares?

Ikwerres are not igbos.

Mandeyy:
Ikwerres are Igbos, even though they denied it. Igbo is Igbo. We practise the same culture in Anambra.

Says the broke bastard that can't take care of his family. Hahahabajahahahahhahaha. I see you're still pained. Stupid woman beater with irresponsible and poor parents.

tydi:
That she male spongeisback is really a useless fellow.
Ignore him!

I've been trying to watch big brother this season but mehn I can't. I don't like that Kimoprah(who even calls them self such), the girl annoys me like mad. I tuned in yesterday to watch, next thing she appears talking about how she doesn't eat any other part of chicken except the lap. I just had to change the channel I will start watching properly when she's evicted.

No you didn't, I actually feel sorry for you and who ever thought you comprehension. Too many educated illiterates running around on nairaland.

sacx:
Oops, struck a nerve? Goodnight

I would've ignored you because I find people that use memes juvenile but the fact that you're not intellectually sound doesn't mean I should ignore your baseless write up.


You're such a slooowwwwwww learner. how did I support the family using their tradition to deny him of his son? I only rephrased his comment.

Are you so silly to understand that or you just feel like typing and muddling rubbish together? Can you point out where in my comments I supported or tried to impose traditions?


You're very very very MAD. VERY MAD.

sacx:
I wouldn't have had issues with anything you've typed so far if you were drawing your hinge from the law. But it's the same 'traditionally' all over. Again, our society is run by laws, not traditions.

His desire to get full custody of his child is based on the threat to transfer ownership of his child to another man by way of traditions. This is unacceptable in the eyes of the law and could help his case. Remember, he never made this move until he started getting the threats.

Though securing full custody of the child would be extremely difficult if not impossible since he is a toddler, but he would get rights of claim to him and reasonable access, which is something his baby mama and her family are trying to deny him citing their tradition.

Now if this doesn't make sense to you, oya take am

You're not even clever at all. Are you normal? Did you see this part of the OP?

otobasin2323:
To my greatest suprise they all decline to my request but gave her full support that she should go ahead quoting me that in their tradition "any man that marries a lady that is with a child the child automatically answers the man's name"

I never said he shouldn't fight for his place in his son's life. The OP wants to take the child from his mom and I am trying to let him know that no court will give him 100% custody of a two year old. You and your likes are just so stupid. You just come on here to insult without even understanding.

sacx:
You're trying to be clever by half. Our society is run by laws and not traditions. This is why the decrees of the state can override any traditional injunction. Going by the laws, he has a right to be present in his son's life and participate in his development. The attempt to alienate him in the name of traditions will not stand.

Now shift closer let me warn you. Never you litter the public space with verbose arguments and unsubstantiated claims! That's all

If you read the OP you would know that he's not fighting for joint custody but he wants the boy to be given to him, no court will rule in his favor as long as the child isn't neglected.

axglide:
What is wrong with this quote?

No the lady is an ikwerre and not Igbo. Read the OP.I just repeated what the family of the lady told him. Just READ! He's not going to court to fight for recognition as the father of the boy but he wants to take the child away from the mother. Please read the OP.

wirinet:
That's only according to igbo tradition. In other traditions, a child belongs to the father marriage or not.

Federal and state laws supercedes customary laws, and if the matter is taken to court, traditional law will be relegated to the background. Remember, an igbo lady went to court to claim part of her fathers inheritance her brothers denied her, against igbo traditional law.

No you didn't read because if you did you wouldn't make your initial comments.

axglide:
I took my quotes from the page below, i also read the post. Thanks.

https://asknigeria.com.ng/topic/278/child-custody-in-nigeria

You're just a child. Go back to doing your drugs and internet porn.

VillagePipu:
Hopeless blackhead.

I'll ignore your frustrated rants. Afterall, you don't know anything and just advertising your inbred retardation online.

You don't know that the child belongs to the man, why should I expect your empty head to produce anything productive?

Idiotic monkey

OGA please read the OP before quoting me. The family of the lady told him so. I just repeated what he wrote. Why don't you read?
The mother also has absolute custody right and he can't take the boy away from her. He's not looking for joint custody, he wanto to take the child away from the mom.

axglide:
Bros you're wrong.

Generally under customary Law in Nigeria,the father has an absolute right to the custody of his legitimate or legitimated children.

Yes I am. Are you?

Olarewaju89:
are you okay?

Are you kidding me right now? Read the OP for crissake! He isn't looking for recognition as the father of the child but he wants to take the boy away from his mother!

Stillthebest:
Why he has to use the court. Except the choses to live on that traditionalism

See mumu. That's the way you come online to insult your parents. Hopeless dog.
Read no you won't only to do drugs that you know how to. Too bad I don't believe in any version of God so I guess no punishment for me.
Hahahahahahahahaha

VillagePipu:
Your father is a bastard and you come from a long lineage of bastards.

That boy belongs to the guy. The girl's parents can argue tradition all they want but the law is what it is.

You like your idiotic father are a monkey that can't climb a tree. Useless on the ground, hopeless on the trees and God would punish you. Worthless mongrel.

No court will award that child to the father OK? The boy isn't even up to two years old. He wants to take the child from her and he's not fighting for shared custody.

linearity:
Not totally true, as there are no clear cut victories going into court.

If he gets a good lawyer, the child can even be taken from the mother, if they stress attempted and actual parental alienation on the part of the mother.

The courts favors the kids to have access to both parents...from his story, it appear that the mother in collusion with the step-father and her people have engaged in alienating him from the life of the child and to give the child to the step-father in the name of their tradition.

Obviously the child’s continual stay with the mother under those conditions, will not foster a good relationship with father, which law requires.

I understand fully well that, this is Nigeria and that, the highest bidder can sometimes buy the most favorable outcome in courts.