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Can't you people read for crying out loud? How many minutes will it take you to read and understand the OP.
Her family said traditionally the child isn't his and the He wants to take the boy from the mom. He doesn't want to be recognized as the father of the boy, he wants custody.

Stillthebest:
Where is DNA, Court can claim his child for him. Even if hes never spent a dime on him before. So, long he's sane right now, responsible and have a tangible source of income. Worst that can happen is that they can share custody. Law will recognise him as the father because he's coming out so early. But i advise you have a good source of income because they would want to know if you can take care of the boy ... Get a good lawyer.

You're a very very big fool. Did you read the OP? Didn't you see where he said that what the lady's family said to him? Are you normal? Who raised a useless rat like you? You just come on the internet to insult because you have access. Come on get out from here you hopeless bastard.

VillagePipu:
Instead of you to shut up if you don't know what to say, you're typing nonsense. You think paternity is the same as custody?

He owns the child 100%. The court won't grant him custody but can compel the lady to grant him access based on mutually agreed terms which are judicially enforceable.

You didn't even read the OP before quoting me. He isn't after his rights as a father, he wants the boy to be given to him. No competent court/judge will grant his request as long as the boy is being well taken care of by his mother.

Kehl:
Our courts are not yet as corrupt and callous as to deny an innocent father rights over his son. There are laws that supersedes customary laws.

You're welcome. He's a very cute boy. Don't worry things will get better.

otobasin2323:
Thank you so much..I want to be part of his life that's why I struggle to make sure I send him money every month... Will definitely open the account in his name.. Thanks for the suggestion I appreciate

Did you read his post or you just rushed to quote me?

Kehl:
SO NOT TRUE!!! Don't mislead the young man

Traditionally the boy doesn't belong to you according to the family. Even if you go to court they would never ever ever grant you custody of that child except you can prove he's not being well taken care of by his mother.

My advice, open an account in his name, instead of giving cash to his mother pay the money into that account and send it to her through the account, document everything you spend on him and make sure you contribute to his upbringing as much as you can. Be there for every milestone in his life because if you take the "one day he will look for me approach" it may come back to hunt you.


Sorry.

otobasin2323:
To my greatest suprise they all decline to my request but gave her full support that she should go ahead quoting me that in their tradition "any man that marries a lady that is with a child the child automatically answers the man's name"

For the IDIOTS quoting me to insult themselves.

Yes I am serious too. Just pray for her.

bbyby01:
Seriously?
I'm serious here please

Women are polygamous in nature. At least she calls you and makes you happy. A woman can have sex with other guys without falling in love with them, but since she's remorseful please forgive her. You know they're more men then women don't be greedy.

Busola filed a police report before making her claims public. I know it hurts but Nigeria is NOT A CHRISTIAN STATE OR AN ISLAMIC state, we're a SECULAR STATE WE DON'T USE YOUR RELIGIOUS MUMBO JUMBO AS LAW. BIODUN WILL HAVE HIS DAY IN COURT BUT TILL THEN YOU LOT SHOULD KEEP SHUT.

It's just COZA members, rapists and rape apologists that believed all those lies in the first place. I watched the video and busola and her family left COZA after her rape was uncovered although pastor snake kept on begging.

You don't mean it? What other lie would fatoyinbo supporters use to get likes on nairaland? It's Thursday and Biodun is yet to sue for defamation, what does that say about him? Oh and Timi never said he married his wife a virgin.

Yeah! Because Nigerians buy albums.

donaldking10:
Even when there's an ulterior motive from the messenger of the message?
that nigga is only trying to milk this story to boost his sales when his songs get released.

Oga I have followed this case and nowhere have anyone COME OUT TO CLAIM BUSOLA WAS MORE THAN 17. SO WHY TYPE YOUR LIES IN CAPS? WHEN A CHILD BELOW 18 MARRIES KNOW THERE MUST BE PARENTAL CONSENT! READ ABOUT COURTNEY STODDEN AN AMERICAN GIRL THAT GOT MARRIED BELOW THE CONSENT AGE BECAUSE HER MOM GAVE CONSENT ON HER BEHALF.


JUST AGREE THAT YOU GOOFED BY YOUR INITIAL COMMENTS OK? YOU THINK THE WITNESSES OF THE INITIAL CONFESSION OF FATOYINBO ARE DEAD? THEY'RE QUIETLY BECAUSE A MASSIVE LAWSUIT IS ON THE WAY AND HE KNOWS HE CAN'T ESCAPE IT.


WHERE IS BILL COSBY NOW? DO YOU KNOW THE MILLIONS MICHAEL JACKSON PAID IN OUT OF COURT SETTLEMENT? VERY SOON RKELLY WILL BE JAILED ITS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME.

Sanchez01:
And you missed THE PART OF MY POST WHERE I MENTIONED THAT SEVERAL PERSONS WHO KNEW BUSOLA AT THE TIME CLAIMED SHE WAS MORE THAN 17?

What is the age of consent in Nigeria? It has always been disputable; 11 is but some quarters claim it is 18. Mind you, Northerners marry a girl child before 18.

What I am implying is that FATOYINBO'S LAWYERS WOULD HAVE A FIELD DAY ON COURT if statutory rape is the basis for the case. They would digress from whether or not he had sex with her to contesting her age and digging up details about her age.

If he is charged on grounds of sexual predatory assault, he won't scale through. Even though she consented, questions around her innocence would be the focus. Did you not follow Bill Cosby's, Surviving R Kelly and Michael Jackson's events

You said she was NEVER raped. So how is statutory rape different from rape?

Sanchez01:
If you have been following my post over this ish, you'd have realized I have mentioned 'statutory rape' from the outset. In her video, she made it seem like she was threatened when she wasn't. She prolly liked him like most church teens would crush on older people. I am very much behind Busola on this but her narrative isn't just about right. The picture she paints is that of brute force, which made many question why she still worshipped there years after the incident.

There are already several angles to the statutory rape ish. Some who claimed to have known Busola way back claim she was older than 17 when she and 'Pastor B' were gallivanting. It is contestable, that aspect and can easily be lost in any court, particularly if her age isn't what she claimed it was.

If rather Fatoyinbo be slapped with sexual predatory assault charges. That would nab him based on narratives by some ladies and what they experienced with him.

Youthful exuberance Exploited by an older person?read what you just wrote again and tell me how that's different from statutory rape

Sanchez01:
She was never raped. It was most likely a case of youthful exuberance which was clearly exploited by an older person.

As usual you absolved the "man" that cheated on his partner and has put his children into confusion, yes his kids will wonder who the new brother or sister is,and has opened his family to trolls. Forgetting that if Olamide didn't have unprotected sex with Maria this wouldn't have happened in the first place.

If men stop cheating on their partners all this won't happen but then again it's the woman's fault for attacking poor and defenceless olamide and stealing his sperm.

donbachi:
Some women just come dis world to steal,kill and to destroy...always collecting with right hands,but gives with left hands.

He said the first woman came from a man...... I guess since the Bible said so then it must be true. The only time fools like him refer to the Bible or culture is when they want to infringe on someone's right. After then the "bible" becomes just a book.

desvi:
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OP you need to grow up! Was it not on this same nairaland that a member open a thread saying how his fiancee got him a job? That thread was invaded by men calling the OP's fiancee a prostitute and all sorts of degrading names? If a woman brings to the table you will complain if she doesn't you will still complain, what's wrong with the men of this generation?

How many of you even know how to pamper a woman? Majority of the guys on romanceland think once I spend on a lady I must sleep with her. That's their definition of "pamper".


A woman is independent-she's a prostitute
A woman is dependent -she's a leech
A woman contributes her quota-be careful oh
A woman has her own house-she won't respect you oh

Women have done so much for civilization but you wouldn't know because they've always been relegated to the back ground. Read up on the way women helped during WW1 and 2, the moon landing, and inventions.

Stop women bashing!

Oga read and understand before showing the world how under educated you're. Simpleton.

Crownconsult:
What are you saying there, the fact remains that the Senator displayed and uncontrollably anger towards that young lady is a good evidence against him, no matter what must have been said to him. if the lady in question were to be your sister will you be saying all these trash. habba

Why aren't YOU protesting against RUGA? I've seen numerous people hold one man protest. So what's your excuse?

You see the way that Useless Brute of a Senator reacted? With sucker slaps? You heard what he reacted to? The simple statement - Take It Easy Now. If there were no CCTV cameras in that store, some of you will tell us how the story doesn't add up. There is more to that story. Let her say the truth, what did she say to him? Nobody can react so violently to such a simple statement? She must have insulted him? I'm sure she was trying to seduce him and he said No, that's why she is making up this story. What is a decent girl doing working in a sex shop, Awon ashawo kobokobo girls. She is a prostitute jare. Do you know how these girls keep chasing after these senators? They will do anything to sleep with them. There are loopholes in her story. If you believe that girls story you must be stupid. How can someone beat you up mercilessly because you asked him to take it easy? And you expect us to believe that nonsense? Get out of hia!!! That girl should stop lying jor. Fear women, they can bring a man down for nothing. Women are liars. . Can you see yourselves.... !!! Can you just see yourselves....!!! The story doesn't add up to you doesn't mean that the story is not true. When you think you are being smart, you are actually being fooled by criminals who understand how to execute crime in a manner that is unbelievable to the average person.

COPIED

I love the way you lot throw the word ignorance around am sure you don't know the meaning of that word and How to use it because if you did you would know you're the ignorant and pathetic one here.

seyigiggle:
your level of ignorance is pathetic.

You're very very very stupîd and idiotic. How long should we continue doing this eh? How bloody long? I know a lot about life that's why I made my comment. Why would you get pregnant and bring a child into the world when you know you can't take care of it? Come on hospital bill they can't pay so what about baby food and other things. People like you disgust me. This country is already struggling with poverty on a large scale and you still see nothing wrong with bringing another innocent human into such life.

You're wicked , an illiterate, and I can never show any empathy because they made their bed. STOP HAVING KIDS YOU CAN'T TAKE CARE OF. Simple!

seyigiggle:
you are very stupi..d for this statement.
What do you know about life?
It doesn't matter if the op is lying, but at least show empathy.
by the way ignore if you have nothing meaningful to type.

OGA go and pay you wife's hospital bill. Pregnancy is nine good months, during that period both the husband and wife are advised to save to avoid this. I have no pity for you. you're not the first neither would you be the last. Stop being irresponsible. Sex doesn't always need to lead to pregnancy.

Ibbolaji:
May we not witness situations beyond our capabilities

Really a four year old being raped is wrong energy?since you know the election process was corrupt why don't you protest? Don't you've hand and legs to protest? You sit and your chair come on the internet to type this villager why don't you go and protest? This bastard that raped a toddler can be a politician tomorrow. Then he can continue his rape under immunity. Start thinking!

babapressy:
How I wish we can protest like this for corrupt election processes in this country.
wrong energy.....

I wonder what would make a full grown adult want to have sex with a child. This isn't a let him serve time in jail and be free issue. What measures will be put in place so he doesn't rape kids again? Do we've sex offenders register in Nigeria? Are there laws that stipulate that he cannot live close to a school and he's meant to tell his neighbors he's a sex offender?

Nigeria is a fertile ground for rapists since the government wouldn't put laws in place to curb this menace then be rest assured that we would keep seeing cases like this.
#SAYNOTORAPE

First of all please change the topic it looks somehow and many people would pick on that. Secondly the new help how long have you known her? With the stories about sexual abuse and violence against kids please try to know her very well before leaving your kids with her. Here is a method I would advise you try just leave her with your kids make sure the TV is on, tell her you're going out and you wouldn't be back for awhile, just leave the house after a couple of minutes comeback and just observe her through the window but this wouldn't be necessary if you've CCTV at home sha.

Treat her how you would want your child to be treated. Don't punish her with hunger or let her look tattered while your kids look better because she would transfer her aggression to your kids. her salary should be discussed with her parents and kept in an account for her please. I don't have a maid but when I travelled and I had someone helping me take care of my house for about 3 months she was 16, I opened an account for her and made sure I sent the bulk money there and after I came back she used the money to register for waec and join a tailoring school. Am sure she would want to do some else so find out and make sure she invests her money towards that.

Seriously? They don't have money for hospital bills so how do they plan on taking care of the baby? Pregnancy is NINE months and you've the opportunity to plan and save towards it. I've no pity for people like this. STOP BRINGING KIDS YOU CAN'T TAKE CARE OF INTO THE WORLD.

The Williams sister have really paved the way for many black female tennis players. Congratulations to Coco.

James 3:1.

anonimi:
Please where is the passage from?
Thanks.

Actually you're the one being emotional because if you're being objective and none bias you would not absolve your pastor of the blame as you did, you would not try to make it a religious issue but about humanity. You want to give Biodun the chance to clear his name in court fine why don't you also give Busola that same chance? You're a hypocrite, you want to poke holes in Busola's story and make her look like a liar and at the same time you're going on about me being prejudiced? Just go through your comments on this matter and see for yourself.

I see that you willfully omitted the part where a pastor is meant to be a moral guide and you yet again added Imams and an atheist forgetting that we (me an atheist and Imams) never claimed to hear from god and have the Holy Spirit. Why should a pastor, called by god be involved in sexual scandals not once or twice?

Don't try to trivialize sexual immorality to being just human OK? You can't claim to be born again and still claim to be "just human". YES I've taken a stand an unlike you am not hiding under the cloak of "let the court decide" because what you condone says a lot about you.

If you want the court to decide biodun's fate then you should also give busola the same chance instead of speculating and telling well packaged lies because it's obvious where you stand and by your earliest comments the only room for doubts you've given is making excuses for the pastor while castigating Busola. The attached is from your Bible.

Angelfrost:
Sigh... You see why emotions and rational discourse cannot go hand in glove?... Your objectivity and general comprehensive skills are being put to the sword over and over again...

I should probably tell you that I'm a church heathen... But, ironically I wasn't even being sentimental or biased... Your outburst clearly shows you up as highly prejudiced. So, you have become the judge and jury that determine and prove guilt? Interesting...

In cases of such sensitivity, people who have prematurely passed judgement often accuse those being tactfully neutral as speaking from both sides... Let me be a bit clearer: I'm not a fan nor supporter of Pastor Biodun, same way I could care less about your emirs, or politicians... Every man is subject to the laws of the land...

Dear Atheist, a spiritual designation doesn't automatically confer celibacy or decency... That's why most men of God, Imams, priests, even atheists get mired in such inappropriate conducts.

I sense you have taken a firm, though misguided, stand against the accused based on what you heard (mere speculations), and can't be bothered about law and judiciary... But, I choose to give room for doubts. Every one is innocent until truly proven guilty.

Please, bring forward better and more balanced arguments, not ones portraying you as judgemental and prejudiced. Thank you.

The hypocrisy of you Nigerian Christians never seize to amaze me. It wonderful how you can talk from both sides of your mouth without any problems.

1)You compared a pastor to a pastor to politicians and an emir and I made this comment......

spongeisback:
Really so you're now comparing a PASTOR to "UNBELIEVERS" just because you want to defend him? Pastor that is supposed to be a moral and spiritual guide to his flock? A pastor to an emir? What happened to do not be equally yoked together with an unbeliever


Choi! Christianity sha!

And you're telling me he's a moral and spiritual guide? If I didn't know I wouldn't have made my initial statement.
Actually a lot has been proven because you pastor defenders have no problems with him committing adultery but you just don't want it tagged rape. Which actually pokes a massive hole in your argument of him being a moral guide. I am an Atheist and I would NEVER EVER EVER cheat on my spouse so I guess am not bound by this so called "earthly and universal laws"

You say don't judge and yet you so happily judge the "former CBN governor, Politicians and Emir" but hey they are not pastors so you can lambast them even when you've no proof. Can you SEE the hypocrisy? Biodun is not being punished in a developed country by now he would've being massively investigated by the police and even IRS!


You don't care about church business but the church of Christ which is a very contradicting statement. Your Bible said "upon you Peter I would build my church" Peter is neither brick, mortar or roofing sheet but a human. Busola is the church. You openly calling her a liar without a court proving she's lying meanwhile you expect biodun not to be judged except the court proves he 's guilty just shows your hypocrisy.

Angelfrost:
Comparing pastor to unbelievers?... First off, he is still a moral and spiritual guide whether you like it or not.

I can compare them as men created by God and bound by the same earthly and universal laws.

On being yoked, that is mere speculation. Nothing has been proven yet... At this point, we need not be quick to pass judgement. I believe this has been stressed over and over again. Or is there something about him you know first hand? Did you catch him in flagrante delicto?

On defending, maybe the import of my 2nd paragraph about him being justly punished if proven guilty missed your comprehension. I care not about ecclesiastical titles, I'm not a sheep... I would make these same statements if an atheist were at the receiving end of this same situation.

Finally, if you are a child of God, you will know or should know there is a distinction between church business, and the Church of Christ... I couldn't care less if the former goes into flames, but I do know the latter will stand firm till the day of Judgement.

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