Wow. Nice beads

I used the email and was given a new pin instead.

I just downloaded the BBM app on my samsung galaxy grand phone. How do I register on bbm with my previous bbm pin I used for my blackberry.

So this nice thread has been invaded by terrorists??
smh

Herzumpther:
Finallllllllllly. Thank you so much you all. Dad has finally given me the go ahead to follow the choice of my heart. Its was a tough time but then you all stood by me with encouraging words and advises. It can only get better from here on. I am so happy. Thank you all. I am so greatful to you all.

For those still on the battle field, don't give up very soon cause victory is near.

Am sooooo happy for you. You and lakes have used your love to change dad's mind. I will advice you stay calm nothing to be scared about . Just that feeling "what if I am wrong about lakes" this would pass.

cococandy:


Wow.ok. Goodluck.
Amen

Thanks coco

cococandy:


How are you doing banking and schooling?
Online school?

evening school oh ma sista. I close work and go to skool. 6pm to 10pm. With God's grace I will end in june.

Wow wow. After reading all these posts on husbands not helping out in house chores I think I will start appreciating the little hubby does. He dey try sha. But I can tell u guys there are times I feel like running away. Its not easy being a banker, a mother 3 under 5 years and a student. Women are strong. To think I was that fragile one our home while growing up. When my sisters visit eh they are sooo surprised at how I handle my home , work and skool.

Tashaamania:

your own better sef, I enter facebook see pictures he took with his wife and kid somewhere outside the country.. Naso I just laugh, because right from time, I've always had my doubts about him.. I didnt even ask him about it, I just avoided him and changed my number.. its been three years now.

Cheiiii we hav suffered. I am still seeking answers cincerning my cousin's situation. She dadated this guy, got pregnant and the guy came and did trado, paid her bride price. He came wit his people oh his sister broda an uncle and som5 friends. Some weeks later the guys wife found out about the relationship and trado. Brought all docs and pics to show he was maried for 10 years. My sistas we were shocked. And the guy kept on lying. Can u imagine we were trying to calm down his wife and make her understand her husband lied he was not married, the guy was bysy texting his wife saying he would explain everything that its not what she thinks and when my cousin called him he insisted the wife is lying that they are in the process of divorce.tdivorce.thank God the wife heard. I pitied both ladies, it was so hard on them.

thorpido:
Guilty as charged.I have to keep learning too.
Honestly you ladies need to understand our brains are not wired that way .The way ladies see is not the way we do.We think of providing for the family and ensuring security and well being.Other things that don't look like emergencies have to take an effort.

Lol
now dat you have learned start by surprising dat woman in ur life with a gift. Tell us the results tomorrow.

chaircover:


Mu hubby was/is like that
It took him time
He still buys inapprropriate gifts but he is gradually getting there
I had to drop my expectations
I had to understand that we are different, from different backgrounds & 2 different people. He is not so much into presents and just buys the first thing he sees, whereby I will buy a gift tailored to you.
I had to tell myself that he doesnt mean any harm . . thats just him
Ive received all sorts of things
My 1st wedding anniversary present was a picnic basket

I have received unsigned cards and Ive received cards with scrawly writing that I cant even read (He is not a doctor)
He doesnt read the inside of cards, he just picks the first one that says "wife" and goes to pay for it.
Ive received gifts with prices still on

Once he ordered a orange and purple birthday cake for me . .I dont know who to blame, him or the baker

The day I start on a diet is the day he will buy a huge box of chocolates

I have a laptop, a notebook and an Ipad, but he still bought me another laptop for my birthday.
He waits till Xmas eve to buy Xmas presents and so can only enter the first shop in the shopping centre before rushing back home due to crowd.

. . . . . .But I know that he loves me and that is the most important thing and when you have that a the back of your mind. Everything else doesnt seem so "bad"

Love is what keeps us together. I love him and he does too.That's why I refrain from envying other wives who receive gifts.

This issue of hubby not buying gifts eh... I don suffer no be small. My guy has only bought me something when he travelled abraod and dat was like 4 yrs after marriage. I go buy am gifts on his birthday even made him a surprised birthday party. he has never given me a birthday or valentine gift oh. But guess what. I keep on buying him the gifts on his birthday and valentine day hoping one day he would learn. At times I can see how uneasy he feels when I give him a gift. I am certain one day he would see how important it Is to me.
I remember the year I threw him a surprise birthday party he was soooo happy and kept on thanking, some months later it was my birthday and he said "baby ur birthday is on the 24 right,
I said no baby its on the 25th.
He said ok how are we going to celebrate it?
l did not answer. Na so my birthday come pass with just a happy birthday message on Facebook.

FOREXMARTS:


Some men don't like surprises, what if he doesn't like the new decor lol na there another palaver go start, the bedroom belongs to both of you abi so carry him along. One last thing most men like to locate things exactly where they kept them so when changing things in the room make sure his things are where he kept em, you don't want him loosing an appointment simply because he can't find a document since u arranged the room. Just giving u a heads up cos i know u mean well with ur intentions. Keep us posted.

I wish u all a pleasant new month. Aunty Osisi u suppose don enter march by now even tho u five hours behind lol, I salute you.

Thanks I got ur point.
By bedroom decor I meant changing the curtains and sheets. No bi to bulldoz the whole room oh.

babyosisi:



Hmm
Thanks for the compliments
Many men are that way,holding onto grudges longer and
Do you know there are some that won't even look at you and your fake or real illness ?
A man that will stop to take care of you in sickness has a good heart,I don't think you should be faking illnesses though
Reach within and see if there's anything you can do differently to decrease those squabbles and your reactions to them

I don't believe in begging anyone when they are in the wrong
Sometimes refusing to be offended may be the solution
You learn how not to allow some little things dictate the mood in the house
Pick your battles.Some arguments can be squashed by just one person refusing to be dragged in
Change your style in some things and I assure you the arguments will be less

For instance he says stages,this your soup has a lot of salt again and you feel it ain't so
Rather than get offended and interpret that to mean that you are a bad cook with salty foods,you say really?
I could have sworn I put very little salt in this, sorry o
Men unlike women don't have many vocabularies,they are often short and straight to the point in their way of discussion so can come off as insensitive.

Thanks so much sis. U hav this way of giving advice and I like too much. I hav been trying to do what u advice above and to tell you the truth it helps but once in a while we disagree and he shouts at me. This always get me angry and thus we stay for days no talking. My hubby actually travelled out of the country to be back in 2 weeks. the first time we would stay apart for dis long since we met. I really want to make some changes when he comes back especially our romance. Am starting by changing our bedroom decor. I need ideas oh please.

Babyosisi. You are just so sweet. Am learning alot from you girls and guys.
My husband is the type dat can stay for weeks without talking to me when we hav a quarel. Even when he is wrong oh. I would have to be the one to break the silence, sometimes sef I go fake sickness for nite then he would be taking care of me. For morning everything don arrange. The issue is that I hate when we can't gist and laff. I don't know how I can handle this.

Hey
why is everyone soooo quiet? Hope all is well in your homes.

let me share this with you guys; I have a new SIM card I bought but rarely use(can't even remember the number sef) So one day I wanted to send a text to hubby but had no airtime in my phone (my number) so I decided use the new number. This is what I sent: hi dear just checking on you. What's up. Lov u."

Since hubby did not have the new number he did not know who sent the number so he started calling the number. The guy insists oh I no pick na laff dey kill me. After 2 tries he gave up. For my mind I was like "so am not the only one who could possibly send a love text to this guy?

I later called him and we laughed over it. He said he was just doubting who would send such text to him. Lol

@ megamind
You have made a point. We are waiting for other men to talk.

Godmystrength:
My dear, i am jejely carrying my cross o with big ''osuka'' underneath for extra cushion ... so help me God...Amen

Lil He will see you through.
I remember a month i refuse to pay rents coz i had to start a monthly savings plan. It was hell oh. Thanks to my SIL who kept on giving me courage. We stayed 2 months without talking to each other i almost died of lonelyness, he started coming home late just to spite me but i knew he would pay the rents and he did.

Hispin, snazzy, chair cover and others i hail you oh.
Godmystrength i know where u are coming from, i have been there before, even though hubby was working but earning little as compared to mine. I tell u all u have to be strong and brave if in a relationship where u the lady earns more. Your every action is read differently by your hubby and others. I thank God i handled mine wisely and today hubby earns far more than me and pays for most of needs
But it was not easy oh..... I cried buckets of water and almost left.

Coming soon with my own gist......

My My
I really don't know what to say.
You are a strong and determined woman
and God would see you through

i know the God mother list is too long but
plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz add my name
even if am number 200

I can see 2 pretty girls and a cute handsome boy in 9 months.

My sister your story will motivate many women and only God can
repay you for this step you've taken to share your experience.

Please help me buy a bottle of cold beer for ur hubby (i'll pay) lol, i admire his determination too.

please add more recipes on ur blog sasi

what can one replace the pina colada syrup with?
don't think i can find it here.
i have to make this smoothie asap
can't wait

Hi everyone

yeah it's been a while i know
but i've been following everythings das happening here
and praying to u all as well

My update

13 weeks pregnant ( too soon huh? my daughter is just 14 months old)
am always sick (why on earth do they call it morning sickness when i fel sick all day)
taking care of a 14 month old, a husband and work is not easy
But i thank God coz he has been seeing me thru.

To you all TTC your time would come, don't let anyone make you feel
bad, it's not your fault instead it's God plan

wish i could meet all your little ones when they arrive

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I feel for your friend
I really don't know how to console her
but i'll put her in my prayers
I can imagine what she is going thru now
Let her just trust in God

please her husband shoudn't leave her alone
so does not don something bad to herself

Hi everyone

I apologised for not posting for all this while
trust me, i have read every single post
and i've been praying for you all
welcome to all the new members
remember God will do it for you like He did for us

Baby was a year old on the 9th august
how time flies.

She sent me to tell you all she needs more siblings
from you. And you know God always honour a child's wish
so get ready for you bundles of joy

My dear Alington,

I can imagine how u feel. Don't be bothered coz no such thing
would happen to your baby. I for one hate prophecies coz they make me
worry over things i have no control over.
Dat boy has come to stay and NOTHING would happen to him.

Let me share a similar experience;
when i was pregnant, my aunt called me and told me she was just from
seeing a lady (herbalist/seeer) who said my baby would die during delivery
that i had some water in my womb and the baby would drink and die during delivery
she said i needed to come to her so she could "wash" me. I almost cried eyeballs that day
but i finally told myself i was going nowhere and that God who put this child in my womb
was not a fool. Thank God i did not even think of that incident during delivery and today she is 7 months old and
very active and happy.
So my dear sister, I beleive the devil is using those pastors. I will be praying with you. BE STRONG.

Hi ladies
please i need your help on dis. i dyed my hair i realised the texture has changed. It no longer has dat soft
and tender texture. It feels hard just like the mesh u will use to braid.

sorry wrong section

A BIG CONGRATS to Angee
May He see u through this pregnancy
I will advice u to try and take the folic acid oooo
i took ACFOL the tablets are small and has no smell
it's good for baby's developments

@all
u seeeeeeeeeeeeeee
more blessings coming
I said this is our year of Blessings

Hi all
don't mind my absence ooo i am here almost everyday but just like Arlington said
i restrain myself from writing most times so that i don't hurt those still TTC when i talk about
my baby.
Am soooooooooo happy God is putting smiles on our faces through our recent pregnancies
Congrats to all the new mothers to be
God will see u through and i'll keep on praying for u
Those still TTC, this year is your year
start preparing ur selves for the blessing is on the way

@ Arlington and new mothers

I know it is not possible to post our babies' pics here
and i badly want to see those babies that brought us so much
joy in our lives
please if u are on facebook send ur user name and email address to me
tessylove82@yahoo.com
so i can add u
don't forget to incude ur Nairaland user ID

Congrats to all luvly
and fanny.
Fanny yes u can take the folic acid it is good for the development of ur baby
to prevent birth defects. Stay healthy by eating well
and plz if u can then stay away from intimacy for some time
dat baby is more precious than the pleasure.
feel free to ask us any questions

@ all
happy new year
Baby Breyanna is doing very well. she is 5 months now and growing faster than her age.

God would do more dis year
watch out

I had a miscarraige in june 2008 which traumatised me alot even though it was not a planned pregnancy but we accepted it and were ready to have the baby but unfortunately it came out at 12 weeks. I cried and was worried i might not be able to give birth in my life. Soon after that my then fiancé began pressurizing me to take in but i didnot want to coz my doctor adviced me to stay for some months. One year later we did our traditional wedding and my husband continued asking me to take in(u know it depends on the lady coz if she dos not want, then NO WAY) I wanted to get pregnant just before or after the civil and church wedding so i tried to talk to him. In september 2009 we decided to start trying to conceive. That month i cried my life when my menses came, i started googling everything concerning trying to conceive and even join the TTC thread on the health section. October we tried and still nothing. When i complained to my doctor he said not to worry and refused to give me any medication. November we tried but i knew nothing would happen but to my greatest surprise i missed my period (at dat time my guy was the one doing the counting.) Few weeks later the symptoms started. My God it was awful. I went for a pregnancy test and it was positive. days later i started spotting blood. I rushed to the hospital and forced the doctor to do a scan. he did and placed me on progestan. My December was a mess; i got sick, hospitalised and could not work for a whole month. no appetite, sensitive to smell, i could not even cook coz i would end up vomiting, my husband could not even used his perfume when i am around. Our civil and church wedding was scheduled for march. I went through all the stress of marraige preparations with this pregnancy and all the time i was scared somthing would happen to my baby. Thanx to God nothing happened to my baby, the wedding went on well and i started looking forward to my delivery date.
At 39 weeks and some days i started having irregular contractions but not too strong for me to go to the hospital. I later on went to see my doctor at 40 weeks and he ruptured my mucus plug,( it hurts) Contrations continued but they were barable. after 2 days when nothing happened my doctor asked me to come to the hospital so i could be induced. Dat monday monday we went to the hospital, my mother and my hubby. I was insserted a tablet and asked to lie down for about 4 hours, still no strong contractions,then the doctor asked the midwife to give me drips and that was when the real show started. I WAS DISCUSSING AND LAIFFING WITH MY DOCTOR? MIDWIFE AND MY HUBBY AND SUDDENLY MY COUNTENANCE CHANGED the pains had started. God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! see painnnnnnnn. I shouted ooo breathed in and out oooo but no releif. I prayed ooooooooooo. I had the doctor , midewife and hubby to massage my waist and back. About three hours later i had to pushhhhhhhhhhh. I pusheddddddddddddddddddd and pushedddddddddddddddddddd and pusheddddddddddddddddd then i felt the doctor give me a tear and when i pusheddddddddddddddddd again she came out. she wwas placed on my tummy and opened her eyes looked and me and cried. OOOOOOOOOO i had done it, i felt so happy. She was 3.9kg. But guess wht!! dat was not all ooo.
I started bleeding heavily so much dat i started feeling dizzy, my doc was confused as he did not know where all the blood was coming from. not from the womb he said. When he saw dat i was loosing to much blood, he asked for blood from the blood bank. my blood was matched and ii was the same with what they had. but before they could bring the blood, he had already found out that the blood was coming from my torn cervix. my baby gave me terrible tears; from my vaginaa to my anus. all the pains i felt durin labour and delivery was nothing compared to what i felt during the stitching. i had more than 25 stitches and gues wht! :my cervix had to be brought out so it could stitch it. i cried, shouted and until i had no more strength left. I stayed 3 more hours in the labour room after delivery. I could not eat solid food for days and to sit well was a nitmare.
After all that when i look at my baby girl today I give praise to God. and no matter all what i went through, i still want more kids. she would be 4 months on thursday and she is so lovable, pretty and jovial.



too long huh